You’re listening to We Digress and we’re your hosts, Dave and Deb Beddoe. Although our conversations are often about addiction, recovery, and faith, we do wander off-topic and into areas of broader interest – hence the name of our podcast, “We Digress” Before we dive into feelings… Our audiobook launches TODAY! December 10, 2019. We are celebrating by giving away an audiobook to a lucky winner SPOTIFY – listening to us there? If we’re in your top podcasts on Spotify, you could win a book! Here’s...
Dec 11, 2019•23 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In this episode of We Digress, we continue our conversation about the role of community in crisis, particularly addiction recovery. Two major barriers to relationships within our community are independence and isolation. Independence In American culture, we value our independence. The United States was basically founded on "I have a better idea, why don't I just leave and do what I want?" Well, sort of. Pilgrims and pioneers brought their community with them. They tended to fare better when they...
Nov 27, 2019•17 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode of We Digress, Dave and Deb talk about community and briefly wax nostalgic over small-town life in autumn. Ah, the joys of small-town living… On the one hand, everyone knows everyone else. On the other hand, everyone knows everyone else. Or, as Dave says, we get “all up in each other’s business.” Is there value in built-in accountability from living around people who know you? What happens when you open up your business to everybody? A supportive community is one of the greatest ...
Nov 27, 2019•22 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Compassion is a hot topic these days. Who deserves it, should it affect our politics, and what's in it for me... In this episode, Dave and Deb dig into compassion and digress to the Great British Baking Show and Survivor -- the longest running American reality TV show, hosted by "America's Camp Director" Jeff Probst. Sometimes, we unwittingly view compassion as a means to an end. Whether that end is reward or response. But is compassion merely currency to get me what I want? God addressed compas...
Oct 15, 2019•23 min•Season 2Ep. 1
In this episode of We Digress, we talk about the power of listening well. In this episode, we're talking about listening. From marriage, to recovery groups, to living with teenagers, listening well can be the key to improving relationships-- and even healing.
Jun 28, 2019•29 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In this episode of We Digress, Dave and Deb address the role of personality in addiction. Is there such a thing as an addictive personality? Can your personality change? How can personality assessments like the Enneagram help with addiction recovery? Oh, and what the heck is the Enneagram? Here are some additional links for the topics covered in this episode: Enneagram UCCB statement on the Enneagram Neuroplasticity Enneagram and addiction These are just starting points. For more about addiction...
May 24, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this episode, recorded mid-April, we're talking about generalizations. How labeling people, passages and problems can be both helpful and harmful. We're talking about generations, seasons of life, and of course, addiction and recovery.
May 10, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In this episode of We Digress, Dave and Deb banter about a big birthday, aging, and pop culture. Not a whole lot of seriousness, but a lot of fun. Some fun articles are referenced in this episode, including a fantastic list compiled by Emma Nichols for the Huffington Post, this AARP ad campaign, and this Pew Research study (which is actually a decade old...hmmmmm...) We'll rate this one M for Mature, but only because -- as our college Shakespeare prof so famously said about King Lear -- You'll u...
Apr 10, 2019•27 min
In this episode Dave and Deb tackle the garden and simple truths about being patient with growth. Growth takes time-- even more so when you're talking about recovery from addiction or any other disruptive behavior that wrecks you.
Apr 03, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Dave and Deb continue their conversation about renovations. HGTV began broadcasting the year our oldest child was born, and I (Deb) confess, I've been a sucker for it ever since. Chances are, though, you are too. We talk a bit about our favorite shows, our own recent renovation experiences, and "flip culture" and how even fixing up houses has become an insta-fix. What happened to process? Is there a place for and value in process anymore? Listen in.
Mar 28, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Everybody loves a renovation. This month, we're talking about our favorites. In this episode, Dave digresses about all the cars he's loved before...the Chevy Luv, the Hondas, the Plymouth...and we bring it back around to relationships. There are problems, issues people have that we won't touch. We feel like we don't have the time, the energy... But have we ever considered we might just lack the vision for their potential?
Mar 13, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode, Dave and Deb talk about some of their favorite movie portrayals of addiction and recovery and how even the best stories can't show reality. Change takes time. And when someone we love is in the process of change, our response matters. Our patience is a reflection of God's love. Note: This episode was previously accidentally uploaded in the raw...this is the edited episode.
Mar 07, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 3
We've said "I promise" since we were small children trying to get out of trouble. When we were teens adding emphasis to a story. We made a promise when we got married. And we promised a kid we'd get him a dog...which we finally did -- years after our first promise. And then there are the promises we make when we've lost someone's trust... What's the value of a promise? And what good does it do to extract promises from someone who is unable to make good on that promise? Maybe there's a better way...
Mar 06, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Dave and Deb talk about compatibility and how we tend to limit our relationships by personal comfort.
Feb 14, 2019•30 min
Welcome to We Digress: the podcast. Meet Dave and Deb, your hosts.
Feb 05, 2019•27 min
