Ready to Break Free From Diets Through Using the UN-diet Approach? Let's Do It!

That's one of the best things , and I'm so glad that I get a chance to work with Sheila Kelty . She is absolutely amazing . If you're looking for something really different when it comes to your weight loss journey , you definitely want to consider Sheila Kelty's program .

In fact , they call her the undiet coach , because that's one of the first things you're going to learn about . Her is that she's out with the diet thing .

She's an elite class master health and wellness coach , and her passion is partnering with clients just like you listeners , who are looking for a breakthrough , for a change in their old health barriers and basically having a lifelong optimized wellness program that's going to empower them to build an effortless relationship with food and their bodies and boy is that

important when we are going through this midlife journey . So , Sheila , thank you so much for being on the Vibe Living podcast . It's wonderful to have you here today .

I tell people I was one meatball sub away from that morbidly obese BMI level and I just surrendered . I just said I'm going to die early . My doctors had said you can't move , you can't exercise , so you're probably going to die in the next few years .

I was severely diabetic , my lupus was out of control and a couple other autoimmune things going on and there was no hope of me ever getting up and walking or doing anything again . They actually sent me to a therapist to help me adjust to how I was going to be dying soon , because they felt I was being the fly in the ointment , the squeaky wheel .

You know , just stop making it hard for everybody else . Just accept . You know , make the most of the time you have left . My therapist said I'm not talking you into dying young . Why don't you use that brain of yours and go figure it out .

In my previous life I run an IT firm , a technology firm and 75 employees and you know power woman out doing everything and I had to walk away from all of that when my spine fell apart and he's like , this guy knew me well . He said you just , you're not the kind of person who gives up what's going on .

So my doctors walked away , they shrugged , they walked away . My now ex-husband walked out . He said I'm not doing this anymore .

So there was me in an electric wheelchair waiting to die and I got on my laptop one night and in the middle of the night , as these things come to us in the middle of the night , when we're up looking through the whole world , I came across a way that really spoke to me .

Now I had tried 35 different diets over the last previous 10 , 15 years of my life , trying to get a hold of this out of control weight gain that I'd had . I tried being a vegan for a while , but the VEG part of vegan had been lost . The veg part had been lost on me . I was a carbotarian . I you know rice , bread , pasta .

They're all vegan , I think we all have been through that .

I didn't know where that was coming from . I'd gone through early menopause , with a full hysterectomy and ooverectomy at the age of 40 . So I was very early having menopause . So there was that weight . That happened at age 40 .

And now I was around 52 , 53 years old , around 52 , 53 years old , and I was up and I was listening to this man talking about stopping dieting , that diets don't work , and I was like , wait a minute , this guy's speaking . I went back to that video . I'm like what's he talking about ?

And he was saying that he jumps out of bed like a sixth grader and can eat whatever he wants . And I'm just like , tell me more . Because it spoke to me , because diets do not work . Diets are white , knuckling it through however long you are until you can get to the other side and get back to your foods , and that doesn't work .

We all know that doesn't work and it was about using food as medicine and using mindset .

Shifts had nothing to do with all the working out that my doctors wanted me to do , that I couldn't do from a wheelchair an electric wheelchair at that and it was all about changing your body chemistry and educating yourself about how this thing works , getting the user's manual for this .

Well , I jumped on and I said I've got nothing to lose but the weight , everything to gain . I maybe get a few more years of my life back . That was my only goal at the time . My diabetes went away within six months completely . I went from five different diabetes medications and A1C the number that tells you historically what your blood sugar levels are .

Normal is around 5.5 and below Prediabetic is around 6 . Diabetes officially starts anywhere from 6 to 6.2 . I was at 9.8 . I was super diabetic and I had all kinds of vision problems already . Neuropathy , all kinds of hitting in my pancreas , and I lost part of my liver to . My lupus was out of control . All of that started clearing up .

I no medications , didn't need anything went from 23 medications down to two . The weight was just flying off of my body . Pretty soon I wasn't even obese anymore and I was up out of my wheelchair . I now walk around just fine . I can't walk for a long time . I do have a manual wheelchair .

I have had 18 spinal surgeries and sometimes my spine doesn't want to cooperate , but I got my life back and I look like my own granddaughter compared to what I look . You know my before pictures . I mean insert whatever pictures you want at any point . People can't believe I'm the same person .

They have to like see my ID and and see my before and after pictures and the transformation . I thought would be about getting back to my jeans , having revenge on my ex-husband who walked out looking really good . You know , the best revenge is looking good in your jeans . You know . And my dream outfit was a white crisp button-up shirt .

You know the collar shirt tucked in with a belt , jeans and little kitten heel boots . This is like my dream outfit and I wear that . Now that that's like the clothing that I wear . It's a cold day here in Portland . I've got my turtleneck on , but I can wear whatever I want to wear .

Even my cellulite went away All of it was like grapes hanging off the back of me and they're gone . And it all has to do with getting healthy first , and then the weight comes off , naturally . Your body doesn't want to be overweight . Your body doesn't want to be obese . That's a disease . Obesity , ladies , it's a disease .

And at some point the disease takes over and you're gaining weight out of nowhere and you don't know what's going on and nothing you're going to do in the traditional , conventional dieting realm is ever going to work . That is a $72.5 billion a year industry .

It's gone up by about $10 billion a year because of Ozempic and all of the shots and the GLP-1 inhibitors . And they only succeed when their bottom line goes up . And their bottom line goes up when you need to go back and be a repeat customer . They need you to fail so they can keep making money for their bottom line and their investors .

This is true , this is absolutely true .

Now I know you talk a lot about you know food is medicine and kind of rebooting , basically our overall wellness when it comes to the process of releasing unwanted pounds . But talk a little bit about how the mindset enters into that .

Right , we all know that doesn't work , because unless you work on what's going on up here , how you feel about yourself , your self compassion levels , where they feel like you deserve to be healthy , whether or not your sugar addiction is under control , it's a highly addictive substance . It's not a joke .

It is as addictive as heroin and cocaine combined and it's got a hold on you .

And then one of the first things we do is to break that hold , that addictive hold , and then all the food noise stops and all the needing to snack stops and all of the scrounging for snacks at night , and it all goes away and you sleep well and you feel healthy and you feel calm and your cortisol goes down .

All of those things happen when you get healthy and get off all the sugar . So the mindset part of it is what allows you to make those choices on those food lists and in those meal plans , to take those lessons that we learn in the Reboot program that I have about teaching you how your body works and all of that so that you understand it .

And I watch my clients do the most amazing thing and you've heard me say this before but it's when it goes from them on session saying I miss my let's see it like popcorn at the movies , or I miss my chocolate . After every dinner we used to sit around and have chocolate . Is it chocolate good for you ?

And you're trying to have the sweets and the treats and the everything and I miss and I can't have and I can't have and , oh , I miss my pizza . They go from that and there's real grief to having to give up a lot of the things that we know are not good for us . All right , but it is the grieving process because that's our comfort zone and everything .

But we make the shift from I can't have that to I won't put that in my body anymore . When you learn why it's bad for you and you work on your self-compassion to raise your standards of what you're willing to put in your body , what you're not , the decisions are a snap .

It's not even a decision , it's like well , yeah , I can stand in line in the morning at the coffee shop . I walk my little dog and we go out , we get coffee . It's Portland , you can throw a rock in at a coffee shop and and , but they line you up in front of the pastry case , right Cause they want you .

And you said that you drool and you see people just like , oh , like looking at the pastries . But I don't . I'm like checking out my emails and I get up there and then I get it and I leave and I don't even , it doesn't even call my name anymore .

So I could see how that could be a good thing to be able to master . But sometimes people have problems with getting to that point . You know they got the information and now you know how . They say information is powerful , but acting on the information is what makes the difference .

So how do you help women get to that point where they're ready to actually act on the information instead of just gathering it all and still not quite doing it ?

We don't start with the foods , we start with the education and the mindset portion and the very first thing I ask people to do is simply stop snacking . Just stop snacking . Just have your three meals . You know a nice amount of time in between each to let your body rest and digest . And people say , well , how much can I eat and what ?

How many ounces and how many carbs and how many this and how many calories . It's like eat until you're full . I'm like really One lady said , but I like having two steaks . I'm like I have two steaks , you know . Just have , you know , from acceptable foods , not from sugary foods and everything . You know .

We give some basic standards of what to choose from , but eat until you're full and I teach them how to get back to what full and hungry are . But we've lost that . In this country especially , we are the most fed people in history and we eat by the clock Eight . I need breakfast it's 11 . I need second breakfast it's one . I need lunch it's three .

I need my afternoon cookie it's five , I need this . It's bedtime , I need that . And it screws up our hormones because most of weight has to do with mind and hormones what your mind's telling you to do and your mind actually tells your hunger and satiety hormones a lot of what they end up doing .

That's why food network is so dangerous for some of my very obese clients who watch it like food porn , and one guy who's like bite that burger , bobby Flay . You know he's like watching his . He's . I'm watching my food porn . He wasn't losing weight and it really is that .

Eat with your eyes , your body , and he was staying addicted to all the foods from watching it . It was feeding him , he was feeding his addiction complex . When he walked away from that the weight just fell off of him and he lost weight very , very quickly . So a lot , it's so much goes on in your brain . You can inform yourself whether you're hungry or not .

You can inform yourself of what you're willing and not willing to eat . The sensation of thirst is the same as sensation , as hunger , that same growling in your tummy . Sometimes you just need a glass of water .

I did the mindfulness exercise and preparation and when I got there , people like , wow , you look great and I knew what to do and I felt confident . And every time you do that I'll share something . Really that's in depth . That's really a cool thing that I've been doing lately . It's very powerful . Have you heard of your self-trust bank ?

No , tell us about it . Your self-trust bank is how you've heard trust banks Like when you want to trust someone . Every time they do something that's trustworthy , they're making a deposit in your ability . They're raising their balance of trust in you . So if you meet a guy and he does trustworthy things , every time he does , you trust him more Well .

It works really well on ourselves as

well . So if you're going to that party or you're going to that event or on a date or whatever it is a family gathering and you make good , healthy , supportive choices , you stick with the I won't put that in my body and you're truly okay with what it is you're choosing to have and you enjoy yourself and you enjoy your company .

When you're leaving the event or the date or whatever you can say , I'm so proud . You see how you kind of say I'm so proud of myself , I did a good job . That's a deposit in your trust bank . Then the next time you go to an event , you trust yourself that you are going to be able to support yourself and be there for yourself in those moments .

So then you do even better and easier and by the third , fourth , fifth time it's a snap . It's that effortlessness Because I eat whatever I want , I go wherever I want , you can drop me in the middle of any kind of Italian restaurant , pizza place , whatever , any country , any time of day or night . I'm fine .

I don't think about food all day long , I just eat when I'm hungry and I eat what I want . I can eat up to 4,000 calories a day and I can't gain weight . It's hard for me to gain weight .

The average age is between 45 and 55 women . That's the majority of my listeners . Where does menopause come in with all of this ? When it comes to the hormones going up and down the weight gain ? How do you manage all that when you're working with women ?

There's signs and symptoms you can look at , but there's a lot of things having to do , for instance , with your gut and how your hormones are balanced , especially estrogens . They've discovered something called an estrobolome .

So the micro bolome is your microbes in your body , these different kinds of bacteria and viruses and all the different good guys and bad guys and germies that run our bodies , our second brain , and they each have a different one for different things that they do , that control different things . And there's one for estrogen called the estrofolome .

Now we think of menopause being our ovaries shut down and that lake of estrogen we used to have that lived down in our lower abdomen suddenly gone , like it all comes from our ovaries . There's a lake of hormone , hormone's gone or it's just a drip . It's kind of how we're taught in school about how all that works . Right , that's pretty , pretty standard .

We think that's where it happens .

Well , estrogen is really produced in dozens of parts of your body , primarily from your adipose tissue , from your fat and certain kinds of fat , which is one of the reasons why we gain weight around our bellies during that time , because belly fat in general we were talking about this yesterday , that the kind of fat that builds up around our hips , thighs and belly

is part of our fertility cycle and it's the easiest to access fat for energy when we're having babies right . So there's that energy on board to create ketones for long-term energy for us . And when your body's building that up , the other thing it produces is estrogen . All that , the jiggly fat that we hate so much , it's around our bellies .

It's producing estrogen . That's one of the reasons why that comes up during menopause . That's one of the reasons why that comes up during menopause . One of them and that in our estro bolon .

The estro bolon goes out and grabs the , the fat , the fat , the estrogen that's being produced by our adipose tissue , all and different parts of our body , producing estrogen everywhere , and organizes it and gets the estrogen out to where it's needed in different parts of our body .

Things like homeostasis with our , our temperature , why we get the hot flashes , things like that . Maybe you need some help there . So let's grab some estrogen and progesterone and it organizes all of that . So if your gut's not healthy , your estrobolome's not going to be happy and you're going to have disorganized estrogen and have a whole bunch of symptoms .

Remember , I told you I had an oobrectomy and hysterectomy at 40 . I had . I woke up in menopause out of that surgery . It was just like hot flashes galore . I mean , it's a horrible thing when that happens to a woman . It if it happened the same thing that happened to me today , I wouldn't have had to gone through that . It's just so long ago .

I'm 62 now , so that was 22 years ago , 62 . My only saving grace is I know I don't look 62 , absolutely do not absolutely do not , well , I used to look 72 , so anyway . so I don't . I don't take hormone replacement therapy and I haven't had a hot flash or a night sweat or any of those things in about five years since I started .

I'm a gut microbiome specialist . I have certification in that as well , and that's one of the things that we learned during all of that . And lo and behold , when you do take care of your gut , you can it can help control all of that homeostasis that we require in keeping from having the night sweats and the .

It's mostly temperature things , metabolic things which also affect how we process and how we burn fat and what we burn . When one hormone is off , it's whackable , you know , one's down , one's up , one's up , one's down .

So when that happens , we put on weight very , very easily because your body's distressed , so it stops removing fat from your body because you're in stress . Uh-oh , we better hold on to the energy . There's something going on and that's why you put on weight out of thin air . You say you woke up . It's like whose body ?

They're like fine , but there was a change that I made recently about that that people needed more long-term care and something that lasted longer than the 16 weeks that we provide them . But this is not a diet .

This is not get to the end of the 16 weeks and then go back to what you were doing before , because you're just going to put the weight back on that whole . I won't put that in my body philosophy how you look at food , how you think about sleep and how it affects your weight . If you're not getting sleep , you're not losing weight .

All of that when we educate you about the big holistic picture , there's 360 degree set of holistic solutions that come together to make this permanent , to make this something that is an effortless , permanent weight loss . I've kept my weight loss .

My weight has been the same within five pounds up and down for five years and sometimes I think I maybe should jump on the scale .

There's no such thing as cheating on your health If you're in a stopping smoking program . There's not a day when everybody smokes .

The Vibe Wellness Network is a community of women over 40 who want to vibe , to be more vibrant , more intuitive , more beautiful and empowered , and Sheila is one of the 12 contributors that I started out with . That share their expertise with the community , and Sheila's going to be doing workshops there on the community .

But , more specifically , for those people who really want to get more into your programs and find out more what's happening in the world of Sheila County , what's the best way for them to reach out to you ?

And we have a super discount through the Vibe Wellness Woman Network for people who join in our members . I get them 40% off that six-week program and people can lose up to 15 pounds on that six-week program .

I want to have a little bit of reserve , you know , in there , for if I get sick and I , you know people are concerned about frailing and getting too thin and losing muscle mass . That does not happen . I want everybody to hear this . When you use food as medicine , when you use the health of your body to naturally drop weight , your body pulls in .

Where it needs to pull in , it does so naturally . You don't set a number , get to that number and you push and push and push your body and starve yourself to get there . That's diet mentality . We're undieting you . We're getting you back to when you are healthy . Your body doesn't want to be overweight either . It wants to get rid of it .

The trick is to give it what it wants and then it's like well , what does it want ? And that's what .

It's been wonderful working with you and you really want to reach out to Sheila because she is truly an expert and when we say master health coach , we're not just saying that she has that designation as a truly master in what it is that she does . Sheila , it has been wonderful having you here . Finally on the podcast . Yes , thank you so much .

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