UnYoked Podcast, hosted by Todd Turner, explores divorce, recovery, and rebuilding for Christians.
đď¸ Buckle up, Believers! UnYoked isn't your typical podcast about God's view on marriage or when God allows divorce. We're diving into the complexities of divorce and post-divorce life, providing a safe space to discuss the milestones and challenges we face as Christians navigating this journey.
đ God's grace extends beyond the statement "I hate divorce." On UnYoked, we explore the standards, restoration, and renewal God graciously offers, even when His standards aren't met. Whether you're two months into a divorce, just out of it, or two years into singleness, find advice to help stabilize yourself, discover your single identity, and become the 2.0 version of YOU.
đ Christian marriage and divorce advice often clash with the harsh realities of pain, abuse, and loneliness. UnYoked is here for those of us navigating the life-changing event of unYoking from a spouse or uprooting a family. It's a safe space to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps through divorce, singleness, and the future.
đ More than a Divorce Recovery Podcast, UnYoked is a journey into self-discovery and self-help, blending faith, practical advice, and community. Remove the mask, let's get real about the ripple effects of divorce, and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as Christians.
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âSex as currencyâ might grab your attention⌠but thatâs not really where this conversation stays. In this episode, Todd Turner sits down with Dr. Brooke Jones of Stronger Women and quickly moves beyond surface-level dating talk into something deeperâtrauma, abuse, identity, and the patterns that quietly shape relationships. What starts as a conversation about sex in modern dating turns into a powerful look at how peopleâespecially those coming out of abuse or broken homesâlearn to use what they ...
In a previous episode, I spoke honestly about how the church can fail people after divorce. And I stand by much of that. But I also need to correct something. Pain is a good diagnostic tool, but itâs a terrible navigator. In this episode, I share a personal story about how God challenged my assumptions, removed my excuses, and led me back into a healthy church community. This isnât a walk-back. Itâs a course correction. If youâve been hurt by the church⌠if youâve stepped away⌠or if youâve conv...
Most of us think anger just happens to us. But Jesus says anger starts in the heart. In this honest episode of UnYoked Living , Todd Turner unpacks where anger really comes from â our worldview, our idols, our expectations â and how it exposes what we value most. Weâll explore: â What makes you angry vs. what makes God angry â Why men pretend instead of healing â The false script of âChristian manhoodâ â How to process anger without sinning â The path from cultural manhood to authentic disciples...
We live in a culture that measures Godâs blessing by comfortâbigger paychecks, promotions, vacations, health, and smooth sailing. But what if thatâs not how God keeps score? What if our obsession with success is blinding us to true faith? In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast , Todd Turner pulls from the book of Habakkuk to expose how American Christianity has drifted into shallow, cultural faith âand why men recovering from divorce are at a crossroads. Too often, weâve become fans of Jesus rat...
What does the ancient church in Sardis have to do with divorced Christian men in America today? A lot more than you might think. In Revelation 3, Jesus warned Sardis that they had âa reputation of being alive, but were dead.â They looked good on the outside, but inside they were complacent, careless, and spiritually asleep. In this raw and direct Season 4 opener, Todd Turner speaks to divorced Christian men about the same danger we face todayâliving off reputation instead of reality. Being singl...
Seven years after my divorce, I thought I was doing everything right. I rebuilt my career. I got healthy. I dated. I âput in the work.â I thought I was healed. But God showed me I had been building my new life on sand. In this episode, Iâm speaking directly to divorced Christian menâmen who are still carrying invisible wounds, hiding behind success, and chasing money, relationships, and validation instead of Christ. Weâll talk about: The âarrow in the back of the headâ every wounded man carries ...
In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast , Todd Turner and Jessica Kastner dive deep into the challenges of dating as a Christian after divorce, focusing on how to vet someoneâs faith. In the digital age, where claiming "Christian" on dating apps is as easy as checking a box, how do you truly discern if someone's faith is genuine? Through personal stories, practical advice, and Biblical insights, Todd and Jessica share how to recognize red flags, ask the right questions, and ensure that you're ali...
After divorce, many women become strong because they had toâbut that strength can harden into armor. In this powerful conversation, Todd Turner sits down with author Jessica Kastner to unpack why so many divorced Christian women struggle to shift from independence to intimacy. They talk about masculine and feminine energy, Christian ideas of submission, the fear of losing yourself again, and the unspoken belief behind âI donât need a man.â This episode isnât just about dating. Itâs about healing...
What do we really lose when love ends? Itâs not just the person. Itâs your identity. Your purpose. Your future. Even your grocery list. In this brutally honest episode of UnYoked , Todd Turner and author Marcus Ferris unpack the hidden grief that hits after a breakup or divorce. From shared memories and meaning, to purpose and neededness, this is the conversation most people wish they had years ago. In this episode: Why grieving a breakup is more than emotional pain The lost virtue domainâand wh...
You deleted the apps. Then downloaded them again. You say youâre waiting on God⌠but also hoping He sends someone cute. đ If dating after divorce feels like a tug-of-war between loneliness and hopeâyouâre not alone. In this bold, honest, and hilariously relatable episode, Todd Turner is joined by Texas realtor Denise Milliken to unpack: Why âgetting back out thereâ might not mean youâre ready The actual difference between being lonely and being open Mistakes we make when dating too soon And why...
You canât build something healthy on top of something broken. But after divorce, thatâs exactly what most of us try to do. We date before weâve healed. We force peace before weâve processed pain. And we expect a fresh startâwithout doing the hard work of letting go. In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner sits down with Don to talk about what it really takes to get emotionally, spiritually, and relationally healthy after the divorce papers are signed. Together they unpack: Why emotio...
One of the hardest parts of divorce isnât signing papersâitâs the silence that follows. The empty evenings. The awkward solo weekends. The crushing sense that you're suddenly invisible. In this episode of UnYoked , Todd Turner gets real about the loneliness that follows divorce âand how to break that cycle before it breaks you. This isn't a pity party. It's a lifeline. Youâll Hear: Why loneliness after divorce feels so intense How isolation tricks you into staying stuck First steps to reconnect ...
Online dating after divorce can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute you're connecting, the nextâghosted. In this impromptu episode, Todd Turner shares a paradigm-shifting perspective: what if ghosting isn't about rejection, but about emotional readiness? Drawing from a recent conversation and his own dating journey post-divorce, Todd introduces the powerful metaphor of the telescope and the microscope . When weâre hopeful, we look through a telescopeâdreaming big. But when trauma resurfaces...
What happens when the roles you built your life around suddenly disappear? In this raw and real episode, Todd Turner sits down with longtime friend and Texas real estate agent Denise Milliken to talk about life after divorceâfrom empty nesting to learning how to change toilets solo. Denise opens up about the quiet loneliness, the awkward holiday moments, and the hard work of building a life that feels like you . If youâve ever wondered who you are without a partner, this episode will resonate. ďż˝...
In this episode of the Unyoked Podcast, Todd Turner discusses the journey of recovering from divorce, emphasizing the emotional, spiritual, and practical aspects of healing. He outlines seven key struggles faced by individuals post-divorce, including the loss of friendships, navigating emotional chaos, readiness for dating, co-parenting challenges, rebuilding trust, empowering children, and embracing a new identity. Todd provides insights and tools to help listeners find their footing again and ...
Divorce can leave your life feeling like a hollow shell of what it once wasâbut what if this next season could be even better? In this episode, we talk about how to stop surviving and start building a life you actually want to wake up to. If you're a divorced Christian wondering how to create meaning, joy, and spiritual peace in your daily routineâ without waiting for someone else to complete you âthis is for you. Weâll explore: Why âaloneâ doesnât mean âlonelyâ How to create a life-giving rhyth...
Life has a way of rowing us in unexpected directions, especially after divorce. When my lighthouse suddenly disappearedâa significant relationship ending abruptly after I'd already downsized my home and podcast studioâI found myself adrift, questioning everything. What followed was a journey of rediscovery that took me across seven states on a three-week road trip, connecting with friends who opened their homes and hearts when I needed it most. Between driving with a windshield shattered by an 1...
Join Dawn Wiggins and Todd Turner on the UnYoked Podcast as they tackle the intricate and often misunderstood realms of marriage, personal growth, and divorce from a Christian perspective. In this compelling episode, they delve deep into why quick fixes and surface-level counseling may not be enough for marital issues. They explore the importance of root work in personal and spiritual contexts, discussing unconventional healing practices and the significance of both partners being fully engaged ...
Join us in "Building a New You After a Divorce" of the UnYoked Podcast with Todd Turner and special guest Carrie Korem Vitt, as they dive deep into the journey of personal and spiritual growth, particularly in the context of navigating life changes such as divorce. From tackling the stigma of taking breaks from church activities for mental health ([00:01:35]), to the holistic approach Carrie took to reverse her chronic migraines without medication ([00:09:24]). They discuss the vital roles of di...
Todd Turner and Carrie Korem Vitt discuss the nuances of dating post-divorce, emphasizing personal readiness, clear communication on dating apps, and fostering genuine social interactions. They delve into biblical femininity, encouraging women to embrace supportive roles while men pursue, and critically examine the timing of spiritual leadership in early relationships. The conversation concludes by highlighting the value of pre-marital counseling and discernment for finding a healthy, lasting partnership.
Todd Turner and Victory Lyric discuss navigating the profound disappointment and theological challenges Christians face post-divorce. Victory shares her personal journey of overcoming a devastating marriage, highlighting the struggle to maintain faith when life crumbles. The conversation delves into distinguishing between being a victim and adopting a victim mindset, advocating for processing grief authentically rather than rushing to "toxic positivity." They explore redefining God's "good" and the importance of personal restoration and growth in singleness.
Hosts Todd Turner and Carrie Vitt candidly discuss the complex social dynamics following divorce, including the unique pain of losing a spouse as a best friend and the subsequent abandonment by couple and church friends. They delve into the stigma within religious communities, the challenge of handling rumors, and the "silver lining" of discovering true, empathetic friends. The conversation also highlights the contrasting ways men and women form social support, the inadequacy of some church programs for single individuals, and the critical need for authenticity and wisdom in cultivating new relationships.
Todd Turner and Carrie Korem Vitt delve into the often-misunderstood journey of life after divorce, unpacking the initial chaos, unexpected emotional triggers, and the profound, generational trauma it can inflict. They discuss the importance of finding wise counsel, taking ample time for personal healing before rushing into new relationships, and the nuanced role of faith and forgiveness. The conversation also addresses the challenges many divorcees face within church communities and offers practical advice on mindful co-parenting and creating a supportive new environment for oneself and children.
Todd Turner and Carrie Korem Vitt delve into the challenging and often taboo subject of divorce in Christian marriages, discussing the extremes of enduring unhappy relationships versus quick separations. They address the silent struggles of abuse, the importance of seeking wise counsel beyond traditional church teachings, and the profound ripple effects of divorce on individuals, children, and community. The conversation emphasizes finding a deeper joy amidst brokenness, the necessity of strong communication, and the critical path of healing and reinvention to live a purposeful "unyoked" life.
In this premiere episode of UnYoked Season 2, Todd Turner introduces Carrie Vitt, a functional nutritionist, who courageously opens up about her divorce from a Christian perspective. Carrie recounts her 21-year abusive marriage, the profound emotional toll, and her difficult decision to separate, driven by a desire for healing and a renewed sense of self. She shares how her personal recovery now informs her work, and her motivation to join the podcast is to offer hope and encouragement to others navigating similar journeys, fostering open discussion where it's often silenced.
Welcome to Episode 17 of the UnYoked Podcast: 'The Secrets to Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce' with your compassionate and insightful host, Todd Turner. This episode dives deep into the personal and spiritual rebirth that can emerge from the ashes of a Christian divorce. Todd takes us on a journey of empathy and healing, filled with thought-provoking insights and practical advice for anyone navigating the aftermath of a marriageâs end. From redefining 'good' in God's eyes (22:14) to embracing...
What happens when your theology and your biology are at odds? In this episode, Todd Turner opens up a raw and real conversation about intimacy, temptation, and the silence that often surrounds single and divorced Christians when it comes to sexuality. From what Scripture says (and doesnât say) to what it feels like to be celibate at 40+, this episode pulls no punches. Whether youâre struggling with loneliness, navigating purity after divorce, or just wondering whatâs âokayâ now that your life lo...
Join Todd Turner in Episode 15 of the UnYoked Podcast, titled "Keeping Secrets after your Divorce," as he navigates the delicate terrains of grace, transparency, and redemption in the aftermath of a relationship. Timestamped discussions take you through an enlightening conversation that explores personal anecdotes and biblical parallels, leaving no stone unturned in the quest for honest post-divorce connections. Use the tips provided by Todd to approach your dating life with openness, bringing f...
Join host Todd Turner on the UnYoked Podcast in Episode 14: "The Dark Truths Behind Happily Ever After," where he delves deep into the soul-stirring journey of post-divorce recovery. This episode is an unfiltered examination of life after the crumbling of matrimonial dreams, assessing if societal norms have truly given us a realistic understanding of marriage (00:02:15 - 00:06:40). Capturing insights from his own life altering changes, from a secular career to a purpose-driven life in ministry (...
Join Todd Turner on the UnYoked Podcast as we dive deep into the timeless quest for love and connection in Episode 13, "Finding Your Next Forever Partner." Whether you're starting anew after a Christian divorce or looking to refine your approach to dating, this episode is packed with provocative insights and advice tailored for the modern Christian single. Let's explore the timestamps: - [00:07:30] The surprising truth about men's pursuit and women's independence in relationships. - [00:13:45] A...
