Send us a text Conflict is inevitable in relationships. There is no way to avoid disagreements, different perspectives, or misunderstandings. However, when it comes to conflict in a relationship knowing how to Fight Fair is essential. Despite the rules of engagement, we have all been guilty of doing and saying things that we later regret or that were unproductive to the overall health of the relationship. This episode goes beneath the surface of basic “rules” and explores why we do certain thing...
Jun 30, 2025•32 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Send us a text Vulnerability is often talked about in relationships, especially among men. However, with so many voices about what it means to be vulnerable, why it’s important and what it actually looks like – this important topic can become blurred at best. Still, being vulnerable is an essential component of connection and bridge the gap in communication. Not only does it help establish trust in a relationship, but it allows our spouse to see who we are in totality. It’s more than a word, but...
May 20, 2025•29 min•Season 3Ep. 9
Send us a text When it comes to having a child, the experience and journey is different for everyone. For some, this experience is exciting, and the process is met with little to no difficulty. However, for many others, their reality is different. In this podcast episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist, Dr. Tamika Cross as she shares insight and provides sound guidance on the challenges that many couples experience in their pregnancy journey. If you or anyo...
Apr 22, 2025•36 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Send us a text When couples reach out for counseling, difficulty communicating is usually one of the first problems they mention. When there is a breakdown in relationships, communication is one of the first areas impacted. Is communicating in relationships that difficult or are we missing what the real problem is altogether. Whether you find yourself not communicating at all or simply wanting to enhance the quality of your communication, this podcast will help you address some of the biggest pr...
Feb 14, 2025•42 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Send us a text Getting over an ex can be difficult, even when we know it’s time to move on. If you have ever found yourself “going back” when you said you wouldn’t, calling after you committed to cutting them off, or blocking someone to only unblock them weeks later, this episode is for you. Dr. Holly Cotton provides practical insight on how to successfully get over an ex. She answers questions that everyone has asked at some point in their dating life. · Why can’t we move past a relationship th...
Jan 19, 2025•35 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Send us a text We all have a need to feel appreciated in our relationships. It makes us feel valued, seen, and encourages us to be there for our spouse. However, despite its importance, so many people exist in relationships where they don’t feel appreciated. The consequence of this reality is damaging and will prevent any relationship from reaching its full potential. It’s a simple act that carries tremendous value, and can have profound affects, either positive or negative. In this episode of t...
Dec 02, 2024•34 min•Season 3Ep. 5
Send us a text Have you ever wondered why you can’t sleep at night? Is it because of stress, issues on the job, problems in your relationship, health reasons… There are so many reasons why our sleep may be impacted, but what should consider most. When it comes to our mental health, and the quality of our relationships, are we underestimating just how important a good night’s rest is? If you have ever struggled with sleep at night, and have questions about what you can do, when you should seek pr...
Oct 25, 2024•30 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Send us a text The excitement of a new child can also bring about a lot of unexpected emotions. Emotions that can be hard to understand, and process during the countless changes that occurring in the world around you. In this episode of the Untherapeutic Podcast, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Shaenor Ishmael, dedicated Maternal Mental Health Therapist. Regardless of whether you are expecting a new child, or simply looking to support someone who is or plans to, we can all benefit from understand...
Oct 08, 2024•35 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Send us a text A topic that has been taboo, A Passion for More gives us a first-hand account on the extramarital affairs of women. Author Susan Shapiro Barash has interviewed thousands of women and explored the behind the scenes events that led to affairs, the aftermath, and everything in-between. Listen to this episode and learn some of reasons "why" these women explored relationships outside of their marriage, what we can learn from their experiences, and the many ways others were impacted. In...
Aug 09, 2024•33 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Send us a text How to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship What does it take to actually rebuild trust in a relationship once it is lost? Is it possible to recapture what existed before? How much time does it take? What should we do when one partner still questions your every move? In this episode of Untherapeutic , Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Angela Jones as they delve into the subject of trust. Trust is foundational in any successful relationship, but when that foundation is broken, it can ma...
Jul 19, 2024•30 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Send us a text Daddy Issues We have all heard the term, “Daddy Issues”, but how does the relationship with your father really affect you? Is it possible to not be affected by an unhealthy relationship with your father? How do you separate “daddy issues” from a problematic relationship? What should you do, if you find yourself repeating the same problems relationally? These are the type of questions explored on this podcast episode, and have plagued the lives of countless women. We don’t decide t...
Nov 27, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 12
Send us a text Talking about your spouse’s health can be a sensitive topic. This is an ongoing battle that most of us deal with personally; therefore, understanding the ins and outs, and challenging outdated beliefs is essential. If you want to learn how to address this topic without creating an unsafe environment, tune in to this episode on the Untherapeutic Podcast. In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist, Dr. Ebony Butler. Dr. Ebony provides t...
Nov 07, 2023•47 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Send us a text When we are active, not only do we lead healthier lives, but our energy level increases, mood improves, and we are able to grow our self-esteem and confidence. Although, getting the motivation to exercise can be difficult. Work. Busy schedule. Competing priorities. Fear and Embarrassment. Exhaustion. The list goes on…. It’s not always easy, but now more than ever, is it critical to invest in your health. Furthermore, when we feel good about ourselves, how we interact with others i...
Sep 28, 2023•39 min•Season 2Ep. 10
Send us a text Dating can be difficult. Dating when you have a career that is public facing can be extremely difficult. When our professional lives are also public, how do we maintain privacy? How do you determine if someone is in to you, or who they believe you are? How do you create boundaries, and determine what to share and what not to share? In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Tessa Barrera cohost of Houston Life and cohost of the @rodryanshow. Tune in to this episode as Tessa ...
Sep 07, 2023•33 min•Season 2Ep. 9
Send us a text If you are in a relationship or have considered being in a relationship, social media has played a role in some way. With access to “ex’s”, past relationships, and endless exposure to the lives of our peers, it makes sense why social media is the reason a lot of relationship fail. Since social media is a part of our lives, , it’s best to learn how to manage it in a healthy way. In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Karen De Amat , CEO of Social Behavior – a full-service...
Aug 07, 2023•34 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Send us a text Discrimination at work is stressful. It’s sometimes subtle, and the signs are not always obvious. Even when discrimination is not the case, if you have experienced it in the past, it’s impossible to exclude that possibility. However, when dealing with problems at work, most of us don’t have someone that can coach us through the process. If we do, is this someone you can trust and be truly honest with? In these situations, it’s easy to feel isolated, alone, and question our own abi...
Jun 23, 2023•37 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Send us a text Is your job destroying your sex life? Do you give so much to growing professionally, that you overlook the potential consequence on our sex drive? Does your partner get the leftovers? Is it your fault or are you the victim of an oppressive system that forces us to exhaust ourselves? Is it just how things are in a capitalistic society, or do we put more pressure on ourselves then necessary? We hear a lot about sex and a lot of advancing our careers, but rarely, do we get the chance...
May 23, 2023•40 min
Send us a text How to Wait Well What does it mean to Wait Well? When you have done everything you know to do, and still, nothing has happened – there is a tendency to question. Did I hear God correctly? Am I doing something wrong? Why others and not me? Is this even the Will of God for my life? In the book Wait and See, author Wendy Pope shares timeless biblical wisdom on how to prepare for the future, when you experience discouragement and weariness about your present circumstance. Instead of g...
Apr 25, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 5
Send us a text What you believe is important, but what role does faith really have in our relationships. Is it a deal breaker if two people don't share the same faith? What does it actually mean, when someone says, "equally yoked". What should people look for when they say their Faith is important to them? Can it be used to restore relationships and overcome many of the challenges we experience on a daily basis. In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Licensed Therapist, Rashad Skinner (LCSW...
Mar 22, 2023•47 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Send us a text If you knew this 20 years ago, what would you do different in marriage? For anyone who is married, considering marriage, or interested in a long-term relationship, learning from those who have been in the trenches can sometimes be the best form of counseling. However, what does it really take to be married for over 20 years… Sometimes we want to be "happily married after" but how many of know what it takes to go the distance in relationships. In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. ...
Mar 09, 2023•37 min
Send us a text If you have ever wondered whether or not you should go to therapy, or if the problems you are experiencing warrant talking to someone, then this episode is for you. Join Dr. Nic Hardy, and Arron Muller, LCSW as they discuss the subtle signs if you are okay or not. Although we can “push through”, or maintain a “business as usual attitude”, the impact of what we experience in life can create problems in future relationships if we don’t get help. If you are in a relationship with som...
Feb 21, 2023•34 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Send us a text The secret to happiness in our relationships is not always what we think. More money, less arguments, more time together, better vacations, the list goes on of what we think will make us happy. However, all too often, we focus on the wrong things and find ourselves consistently dissatisfied, both in life and in our relationships. We all want to be happy, but what does it really take? In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Robert Mack, Positive Psychology Expe...
Feb 07, 2023•29 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Send us a text If you haven’t already, now is the time to binge on Season 1 and review the many great episodes from the Untherapeutic Podcast. The first season is filled with timeless insights to help you relationally and in life. In the meantime, don’t forget to subscribe to our new Youtube channel @drnichardy and follow us on social media. Instagram: nichardy_ Facebook: nichardycounseling Twitter: nichardycs Interested in a particular topic or interested in being a guest, feel free to send an ...
Feb 07, 2023•4 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Send us a text Despite how much you love someone, it takes discipline to make a relationship successful. One of the most important disciplines, is the discipline to establish healthy boundaries with those outside of your relationship. In this episode, I am joined by Anthony Flynn, CEO and Founder of Amazing CEO and execution expert. In addition to growing multiple successful businesses, and coaching some of the worlds most renowned executives, Anthony’s greatest accomplishment is centered around...
Dec 30, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Send us a text In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by best selling author, Jayne Allen . In her bestselling book, " Black Girls Must Die Exhausted ", this novel takes readers on a true journey of what it means to live life, experience set backs and overcome obstacles along the way. This book is a true must read. This podcast episode of Untherapeutic is a behind the scenes discussion about the parallels of this novel, and the real-life journey of many professional, black wom...
Nov 09, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Send us a text The older we get, the harder it is to remain optimistic about our relationship future, especially if we have experienced our fair share of failed attempts. However, despite what’s occurring relationally, the importance of self-care, and maintaining a healthy perspective is vitally important. In this episode, I am joined by Bre Mitchell, founder of Brown Girl Self-Care, as we dive into the topic of how to avoid being cynical and not happy for others, through the practice of self-ca...
Oct 17, 2022•41 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Send us a text Has your spouse ever done everything right, but you still found yourself unsatisfied? Believe it or not, being unsatisfied in a relationship is not always because our spouse did something wrong. Is it them, or is it me? This dilemma can lead us to misplace blame, or go in circles from one relationship to the next. In this episode of Untherapeutic , Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Psychotherapist, Kamilah Thomas as she discusses our need to have “projects”, warning signs we shouldn’t ig...
Sep 26, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Send us a text What does self-doubt look like in a relationship? How does you questioning yourself, affect the person you are with? Can you really be supportive when you are questioning your own abilities? When we think about imposter syndrome, we frequently overlook how it impacts us relationally. However, the truth is, questioning yourself does more that interfere with your own path to success. It also creates challenges for the person you are with, and their confidence in the relationship. We...
Sep 13, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Send us a text When there are problems in a relationship, who doesn't want their partner to change? In an ideal world, they would just "get it" and everything would be okay. However, this is rarely the case, especially when two people believe the other person is at fault (which almost all the time). In her Amazon #1 Bestselling book, Dr. Abby Medcalf shares how we can change our relationship, even when our partner won't do a thing. No longer do we have to wait for the other person to change in o...
Aug 30, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Send us a text When you don't feel heard, it's hard to explain. In fact, it can seem confusing and ambigous for those who are trying to understand and make sense of this problem. The truth is, this is one of the most common problems when it comes to communication in relationships. But what does it really mean to "not feel heard". In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by relationship therapist Eboni Harris as they explore the subject of communication and how to hear your spouse in a way that i...
Aug 22, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 7
