Unshaming AuDHD

Welcome to UnShaming AuDHD - a podcast for autistic ADHDers who want to remove shame, blame, and guilt from their lives and replace them with curiosity, compassion, and joy. I'm your host, Jes Diverges, and I'm here to help you reconnect to the authentic and unapologetic version of yourself that's been hidden away by systemic, interpersonal, and intergenerational shame. My goal with each episode is that you walk away feeling at least 1% more seen, heard, valued, and loved, because you belong here. You have *always* belonged here. Let's get into it.

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Episodes

011: Deconstructing Your Lens for Disability

In this solo episode of UnShaming auDHD, host Jes Diverges unpacks the complex world of disability models, offering a nuanced exploration of how society understands neurodivergence. Critically examining the medical, social, and holistic models, Jes challenges deficit-based thinking and shares her preferred holistic approach that recognizes disability as an intersectional experience shaped by biological, psychological, and societal factors. Drawing from personal insights and scholarly research, s...

Jun 02, 2025•30 min

010: Masking, Misdiagnosis, and More w/ Javelin Laurence

In this episode, Jes sits down with Javelin Laurence to explore the complexities of psychology through a neurodivergent lens. They discuss Javelin's journey of self-discovery, from early fascinations with personality tests to understanding their ADHD and autistic identity. The conversation delves into the limitations of Western psychology, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the importance of recognizing individual experiences in mental health. Javelin shares insights from their coaching work an...

Apr 30, 2025•49 min

009: Juggling Life's Balls and Befriending Inner Demons w/ Emme Kay Kennedy

Hello hello everyone, I have another amazing guest for you all this week. I sat down with my good friend Emme who is a performer, podcaster, writer, artist, comedienne, clown, transwoman, and lesbian - although not necessarily in that order - for a conversation all about clowning, and what it means to make fun of yourself. We also talked about holding the paradox of existing as a queer human in an increasingly scary world, and took a deep dive into IFS therapy and parts work. Basically, it was t...

Mar 06, 2025•1 hr 57 min

008: Interview With My Partner: A Personal Account On Navigating Our Queer Neurodivergent Relationship

In this deeply personal and insightful episode, Jes sits down with their partner of five years to have an open and honest conversation about what it's like to build a strong, healthy relationship as two neurodivergent and traumatized individuals. As an autistic ADHDer herself, and with her partner also being autistic and dyspraxic, they've navigated their fair share of unique challenges and triumphs in their relationship. From the unconventional beginnings of their love story, to learning to nav...

Feb 11, 2025•1 hr 3 min

007: Neuroqueering Your Home With Art: Beyond Dopamine Decorating with Elinor Trier

In this insightful conversation, host Jes Diverges sits down with artist Elinor Trier to explore the transformative power of art, especially for neurodivergent and queer individuals. Eli shares her personal journey as a visual artist, writer, and podcaster, describing how her work aims to help people who feel different to feel connected, seen, and celebrated. Delving into the science behind colorful artwork, Eli explains how engaging with vibrant art can alter brain chemistry, releasing feel-goo...

Oct 18, 2024•49 min

Bonus Episode: AuDHD Summer Camp Orientation Sampler

In this special bonus episode of UnShaming AuDHD, I'm sharing the full welcome and orientation module for my upcoming AuDHD Summer Camp Program. Think of this as a little sampler of what you can expect if you join AuDHD Summer Camp. And, even if you don't wind up joining, I fully believe that you'll still benefit from listening to some of the philosophies that I encourage campers to try out. Summer Camp starts on July 5th, and doors are open until August 30th. I hope to see you there! Links: AuD...

Jul 02, 2024•29 min

006: The Tribulation of Transitions

This episode of UnShaming AuDHD discusses the challenges of transitions for those with ADHD and autism. Jes explains how attention tunnels, autistic inertia, and hyperconnectivity in the brain can make any type of change difficult. They also share a personal experience of struggling after a major life transition of moving into a new house. Advice is provided on how to make transitions easier, such as keeping routines consistent, preparing ahead of time, and showing self-compassion during difficu...

Jun 14, 2024•20 min

005: AuDHD Explained

Have you ever felt like you don't quite fit the mold of a "typical" ADHD or autistic person? In this episode, Jes takes an in-depth look at what it means to be an auDHDer - aka, someone with the ADHD/autistic “combo meal”. Jes breaks down the key differences between ADHD and autism, and how having both can create a truly unique neurotype. Learn about common auDHD experiences like misdiagnosis, emotional regulation challenges, and feeling "not autistic/ADHD enough." Packed with real-life examples...

May 16, 2024•48 min

004: Tarot & Astrology w/ Christian Palmer

In this episode of UnShaming AuDHD, Jes talks with Christian Palmer about embracing their magical sides. Christian shares how tarot cards helped her process big emotions during difficult times, and Jes reflects on overcoming past shame around spirituality. They discuss using Tarot spreads to clarify thoughts and feelings when internal reflection proves challenging. Christian also details her Harry Styles birth chart deep-dive and D&D campaigns featuring astrological clues. Listeners learn ab...

May 07, 2024•52 min

002: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria - What It Is, and Three Rules To Manage It

In this episode, host Jes Diverges discusses rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) and how it impacts autistic and ADHD individuals. Jes shares their personal experience with RSD in college and strategies they've developed to manage intense feelings of rejection. Listeners learn about the distinction between rejection sensitivity and RSD, and how frequency, intensity and duration are key factors. Jes also offers reminders on shifting perspectives to cope with anxiety around perceived criticism fro...

Apr 17, 2024•23 min

001: Allow Me To Introduce Myself

In this first episode, host Jes Diverges shares their story from high school through grad school as they navigated life as an undiagnosed autistic ADHDer. Listeners learn about Jes' struggles in college and relationships, including facing bullying from chefs and an emotionally abusive partner. Jes also discusses experiencing burnout in various jobs and their social work program before realizing their calling as a life coach. This personal account provides insight into Jes' journey of self-discov...

Apr 04, 2024•40 min

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