Resilience is such an important topic, yet it gets far too little attention. It's often included in expensive leadership courses, but what about everyone else? What about our need to understand, develop and use this key tool in our ever-changing lives? Resilience is important enough to deserve two episodes. Episode 1 provides the crucial foundation, offering a clear, detailed description of resilience and how to start weaving it into your life. Part 2, soon to follow, will demonstrate specific s...
Mar 29, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 21
I think the concept of fear has been misrepresented in recent years. After all, if we don't feel fear we'll take unnecessary or even foolish chances. We'll ignore the instincts that tell us to get away from something or someone dangerous. This series has never tried to dampen all fear. We've honed those instincts, sharpened them with specific knowledge of tactics, and applied this key knowledge to gain more effective ways to shield from harm. In this Episode, we take the same concepts we apply s...
Feb 24, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Sex is an important part of adult relationships. In this Episode, we look at sexuality and Abusers: what sex means to them, how they treat their partners sexually, the sexual weapons they'll use if the relationship ends. Sex definitely doesn't mean intimacy. It involves manipulation, coercion, humiliation and pain. Sex can also be used as an enticement in the beginning, another important tool offered as a reward or a punishment. This can make it difficult for the unwary to recognize the huge red...
Feb 06, 2021•41 min•Season 1Ep. 19
This Episode covers some crucial information about how secrets can make you vulnerable to manipulation and the way secrets always grow into bigger and more harmful lies. We also chat about ways to get back into the romance game after you've been hurt - some simple but powerful tips to keep you from repeating your past mistakes, or jumping into love with someone who will quickly make you regret your haste. Included in this Episode is talk about the importance of help and sharing, and some key ins...
Jan 15, 2021•29 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Are you interested in finding out some simple ways to get to know a new potential romantic partner? Ever wondered what you should ask, or wish you had a a few tips of what to do? That's what this Episode is all about. We start with some insights from Robert Greene's book, "The Art of Seduction", exposing some ploys to be aware of when you're out and about. Then, stepping a little away from issues and problems, this Episode reveals some quick and easy tips to establish whether you and a new perso...
Jan 08, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Have you ever thought about your relationships and wondered how much you really care for the people in your life - or worried about how much they truly care about you? The Circles of Intimacy is a simple set of 2 small tests with a few questions that can help you know. Test 1 helps you establish how you feel about each person in your life. Test 2 gives you important insight into how much the people in your life care about you. There's no judgment, no blame, no harshness. Just a few simple questi...
Dec 18, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 16
I believe it's incredibly valuable to expose the specific tactics used by Abusers to manipulate their targets into relationships. But this knowledge cannot work alone. Potential targets must also recognize where they're vulnerable. They have to explore where their beliefs, values, even fantasies will unwittingly encourage them to ignore the wisdom that can keep them safe. This Episode is crucial for anyone who wants to make sure they're not subtly walking themselves into a trap. As always, it's ...
Nov 08, 2020•38 min•Season 1Ep. 15
This episode continues our important discussion on troublesome relationships that aren't romantic. They can be family, old friends, and even work relationships. Some are simply challenging others would qualify as toxic. How do you know for certain? I'll show you in this Episode. We go through a short number of questions you can ask yourself about your relationship with anyone. Each type of question is worth a certain number of points on the toxicity scale. Then you add up the points at the end. ...
Oct 11, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 14
We've talked a lot about abusive relationships and how to avoid choosing an abusive partner. But what about Abusers you don't choose - your family member, a neighbor, a work colleague, a boss? What about an old friend or a new friend who seems great at first? Episodes 13 and 14 will explore the dynamics and the key warning signs of abusive relationships that aren't romantic. These toxic pairings can still destroy your life - or that of a loved one - if you're not careful. We look at how they're ...
Sep 04, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 13
In this Episode, I fulfill a promise I made to my male listeners and discuss the means and methods used by female abusers when pursuing male targets. Most of their ploys and maneuvers are identical to those used by abusive males - so listening to previous Episodes is a must. But there are some differences due to gender roles and cultural norms that are highlighted here. In the second part of this Episode, we define both positive and toxic masculinity, and confirm the reasons toxic masculinity is...
Aug 20, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 12
It wouldn't be fair to teach you all about the tactics used by Abusers and not also discuss some of the beliefs and behaviors that make women vulnerable. This Episode touches on some of the most common dreams and ideals held by women that can lead them straight into the arms of an Abuser. We also touch on a topic that's painful but necessary - what to do if you're already in a relationship with an Abuser. We discuss what needs to happen at the very beginning, in the mind of the Victim, that can ...
Aug 14, 2020•31 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In this important Episode, I show you easy ways to remember Abusers' tactics. Simple rhymes are used as mnemonic cues (memory triggers) to help listeners learn the short list of tactics they need to know to stay safe. We also look at ways to recognize the signs of someone else - someone you know and care about - being manipulated into a relationship with an Abuser. Your superpower gets stronger with each Episode! Cape On! This is the podcast series that does so much more than entertain. It's des...
Jun 12, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Learning the tactics of manipulation used by Abusers to entice new partners is fantastic! But is that enough to keep you safe in Real Life if (or when) you're targeted by one? In this Episode we discuss strategies you can use to both accurately identify a potential Abuser and get away as quickly as possible. We even discuss how to keep from mislabeling someone as an Abuser because you defined them with too little information. This Episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to successfully use...
May 30, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 9
This is an exciting episode where we finish the List of Tactics used by Abusers to lure in new romantic partners. We describe what happens and explain why these moves are so successful in trapping teen girls and women in these highly toxic relationships. These is crucial knowledge if you want to be fully informed about abuse and Abusers, and be able to quickly identify the ploys when they're used. The List isn't long, the explanations are simple, and the knowledge is critical for an effective Sa...
May 26, 2020•25 min•Season 1Ep. 8
In this Episode we explore more frighteningly alluring moves used by Abusers to build strong emotional bonds and gain premature commitment from their target. We discuss how they encourage targets to turn off their awareness and put those rose-colored glasses firmly in place. Also included is a tactic that's rarely acknowledged or discussed that fosters the growth of destructive behaviors and attitudes in victims that can persist even after they leave the abusive relationship behind. Both of the ...
May 22, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 7
In this Episode we show how Abusers use a dynamic group of cunning manipulation tactics to strengthen the emotional bond and further dominate their partner. This Episode demonstrates how an ongoing patter of hurtful comments combined with showy, positive gestures and focused attention from the Abuser can distract a target from realizing how much trouble she's in. The Abuser uses intensity and magician's tricks to deceive his new partner and hide his grim personality and his destructive plans for...
May 17, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this episode, we look at two tactics that are actually sets, they're behaviors that are like two sides of the coin. One side is all compliments, charm, promises and gifts. The other side consists of comments to make you doubt yourself, your abilities and your ability to realize your goals unless you agree to a relationship with the Abuser. These tactics are clever, effective and incredibly devious. Learn how to recognize when compliments are designed to manipulate and promises are tossed out ...
May 11, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this important episode, the cunning tactics used by Abusers begin to be described in detail. In this first of the Tactics podcasts, we describe Testing, Training and Domination as moves to gain control over a new romantic target. We also look at a key group of tactics that aren't quite as common in a set called 'Honorable Mentions'. These include Finding Allies, a Tactic called 'Flying Monkeys', Gaslighting, DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) and Scapegoating. This is crucial i...
May 05, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 4
This episode begins the exploration the grooming process that can be so alluring and how Abusers act to increase their likelihood of success. We also examine a few realistic scenarios that help Abusers gain control over their target, and expose some personal factors that can make even smart, savvy women vulnerable to manipulation. This is the podcast series that does so much more than entertain. It's designed to help you develop your manipulation superpower. Simply and effectively, you'll learn ...
Apr 30, 2020•24 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this Episode, we give a detailed description of what is meant by the term 'Abuser', including the estimated proportion of Abusers in the general population. Then we discuss the key methods Abusers use to select and lure their targets into a toxic relationship. This is the podcast series that does so much more than entertain. It's designed to help you develop your manipulation superpower. Simply and effectively, you'll learn how to spot any attempts to unfairly persuade, influence or indoctrin...
Apr 25, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Have you ever wondered about the men who abuse their romantic partners? Are they aware of what they're doing? Can they change to become loving husbands and fathers? This episode explores the minds and hearts of Abusers, based upon nearly 700 in-depth interviews and 20 years of experience by Dr. Dina McMillan. Find out what's really happening in Abusers' heads and hearts, and learn why you cannot identify an Abuser except by watching his behavior - which will be detailed in this series of podcast...
Apr 18, 2020•24 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Have you ever wondered why so many women experience abuse in their relationships? Want to know how to keep yourself and your loved ones safe? This trailer outlines the new podcast series, Unmasking the Abuser, that finally exposes the secrets and manipulative strategies used so successfully by Abusers. The series can help you identity - accurately and early - the maneuvers and tricks used by Abusers to lure in new romantic partners and trap them in toxic relationships. It will also offer tips to...
Apr 18, 2020•2 min
