Before J&J can solve dating, Jared explains how he ended up in a Turkey Trot and on “Celebrity Row” in MSG. Then, the first emailer has her eye on a cute guy she’s sharing a ski house with, but the friend group already has plans to set him up with someone else. Should she still make a move or back off? The Awkward Encounter is a take home tale about a bad date. The second emailer doesn’t care to be engaged right now, but she really wants the ring. J&J extract the big issue behind the ring reques...
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 507
It’s our first Sunday Special of December, and Jordana gifted Jared a tarot reading to kick it off. Kelley Knight, owner of Modern Mystic Shop and recommended tarot reader of the Girls Gotta Eat hosts, joins J&J to read what’s happening with Jared. Guided by questions from Jordana, Kelley pulls cards that predict Jared’s love life. Plus, Kelley pulls an interesting set of cards regarding someone from Jared’s past. @kelley__knight, @modernmystic_shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...
Dec 03, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 506
Now that we’re heading into December, J&J are ushering in F*ck It Season with this week’s episode. The first emailer likes the guy she’s seeing, but after posting him in a Facebook group, she’s a little freaked out. How much weight should she give to strangers in the “Are We Dating The Same Guy” space? The Awkward Encounter is a reminder to up your standards ahead of a first date. Then, the second emailer is stuck in an addictive situationship. J&J give her advice on breaking the cycle before en...
Nov 29, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 505
We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. He walks J&J through his background from India to Nigeria to the US, and how he ended up in comedy. Then, Vir shares the relationship obstacles he overcame, why meeting his wife pre-fame was a key to their bond, and his thoughts on arranged marriages. @virdas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 26, 2023•41 min•Ep. 504
It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are ready for the holidays to hit full swing. They kick off with a flashback to high school days. The first emailer asks if he’s a f*ckboy, causing Jared to do some self-reflection. Then, the Awkward Encounter goes from a funny story to an off-the-rails comment that leaves Jordana choked up. Next, an emailer needs to know if she’s got a real shot with her best...
Nov 22, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 503
J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the pod to talk out their issue. This Sunday, Rianna joins J&J to explain how hard dating has been since she returned to the apps for the first time since college. Is it because she’s gained weight? Is it her new city? J&J help her identify non-issues, address a bigger problem they’re foreseeing, and give a homework assignment to get over her dating slu...
Nov 19, 2023•31 min•Ep. 502
It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer wonders if she and her BF are really on the same page about their future, or if his jokes are meant for more than a laugh. Next, J&J take on a mini-lightning round about how to prepare for your first Thanksgiving with your SO or handle the tough questions from your family post-breakup. Then, the second emailer doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with her...
Nov 15, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 501
It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the studio celebrating the latest milestone and reflecting on the last 6 years of solving dating on this podcast. They reflect on how they got here, the best and worst guests, and their most personal episodes. Plus, they play back “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” segments from years past and guess where they stood. The episode ends with J&J sharing what they...
Nov 12, 2023•57 min•Ep. 500
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonders what experiences are needed to get her to an engagement. Jordana shares how she and her husband made it past that point, and what hesitations she sensed from the email. The Awkward Encounter is more unhinged than hazardous. Then, another listener is unsure if she should compromise plans with her besties for an important night to her boyfriend. T...
Nov 08, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 499
It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to find out if men think differently when they’re in a committed relationship versus holding single status. Jared and Jorge face off for a series of questions as Jordana puts them to the test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 05, 2023•55 min•Ep. 498
It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop quiz on spooky season dating terms. Then, a listener asks how he can get his long-distance girlfriend to communicate more. J&J discuss what this could mean for his relationship. The Awkward Encounter involves coworkers too close for comfort and reminds Jared of an awkward encounter of his own. Next, a newly single listener wonders how and when she should ...
Nov 01, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 497
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, J&J are joined by comedian Sam Morril. He talks unhinged exes and shares a recent text exchange with someone from his past. Then, the trio play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about appetizers on a dinner date. The episode ends with an email asking for validation on a breakup. A listener thought she did her due diligence in breaking up with her ex, but after time had passed and she ran into him, he accused her of not being honest enough because sh...
Oct 29, 2023•57 min•Ep. 496
Something major happened and J&J are kicking off this week by announcing the news! After Jordana spills what’s new, a listener writes in asking about how much having a “type” hurts her chances of finding a true match. Then, J&J switch things up from an ordinary episode and make an awkward request. The episode ends with a visit from Jaz Zepatos, a member of the Betches team. She talks to Jared and Jordana about her open relationship, from how it came to be to how she continues to maintain a stron...
Oct 25, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 495
Today’s Sunday Special fits double the podcasts into a bite-sized episode as Jared and Jordana reunite with Girls Gotta Eat podcast hosts, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine. With one host single and the other in a relationship, they discuss their experiences dating in NYC and LA, and the DM slide that led to Ashley’s relationship. Then, J&J ask how not wanting kids has affected dating including when and how this decision is addressed and the stigmas surrounding women that don’t want kids. @g...
Oct 22, 2023•46 min•Ep. 494
In this week’s episode, J&J settle a few doggy debates among our listeners. Is it worth telling a SO that you hate their dog? Would sharing joint custody with an ex hurt your dating life? Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter turns out to be pretty wholesome. Jared and Jordana also hear from a listener dealing with ghosting regret, but they think she’s ignoring part of the picture. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about asking your ex for a post-mortem favor, stealing gr...
Oct 18, 2023•59 min•Ep. 493
J&J are back for a Sunday Special and, while the weather is shifting, some things never change. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about what happens to sex toys after a breakup. Then, we hear from a listener about a classic issue: dating app fatigue. She’s stuck in an up-and-down cycle of being on and off the apps and, while she’s self-aware that this might be affecting her dating success, she feels like this is an individual problem. Jared and Jordana share a reality check,...
Oct 15, 2023•27 min•Ep. 492
A lot has changed since J&J were in the studio a week ago: Jared and Jordana had a first in their friendship, someone wasn’t happy about Jared’s Benefits episode, and Bumble added a new approach to dating on the apps. The first email is about backing out of a talking stage after Jared’s voice gets in her head. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes in hot. Then, the second emailer questions how she can get her boyfriend to spend quality time with her outside of dates. The episode ends with a round o...
Oct 11, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 491
This week, J&J are joined by comedian, Emma Willmann! They start with talking about the stereotypes between straight and gay relationships, how she and Jared became friends, and what her new podcast, Ask Men Anything, is all about. Then, a listener wonders whether it’s why people keep asking, “How are you still single?” As a 30-something, gay man, is this meant to be a compliment or a red herring? Jared, Jordana, and Emma discuss. @emmawillmann Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...
Oct 08, 2023•46 min•Ep. 490
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared feels garbage about a post-show interaction with fans in Atlanta and Jordana recalls humbling experiences from the early days of Betches and U Up? Live. The first email is a commitment conundrum that one listener is having with her boyfriend. Why does he keep agreeing to plans only to back out last minute? The Awkward Sexual Encounter blows in more ways than one. Then, the second email questions how logical it would be to continue pursuing a ...
Oct 04, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 489
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Nimesh Patel stops by the pod. J&J engage Nimesh in a “Petty or Prudent?” debate about answering your SO’s ex on their behalf. Then, Nimesh shares his experience with interracial relationships before they dive into a lightning round about interracial dating questions sent in from Instagram. @findingnimesh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 01, 2023•47 min•Ep. 488
There’s one question that has stumped our universe for centuries: Why do men? Emma Willmann is on a quest to find out the answer in this podcast from Betches Media. Each week, Emma is inviting some of the funniest and most interesting men she knows into the studio and pulling from the Ask Men Anything inbox to ask your biggest, weirdest, and most pressing questions of earth’s most mysterious beings. Check out a preview from Jared's episode here, and then go over to the Ask Men Anything feed to h...
Sep 28, 2023•28 min
J&J have the honor of sitting down with Gerry Turner, the Golden Bachelor, himself! But first, Jordana is catching us up on married life in the ‘burbs and Jared is excited to see Huntington firsthand. The first email asks whether wanting to be “virtually courted” is holding her back on the apps. Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of firsts. The second email is from a listener who just heard from her cheating ex after almost a decade. Is she right to feel upset? J&J wrap up with an interv...
Sep 27, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 487
Seasons are changing, and so are dating norms! This Sunday Special, J&J kick off with excitement about what’s to come–cool weather, new reality dating shows, and Halloween. What Jared feels for football is what Jordana feels for Bravo shows, but with the latest Summer House drama, she’s noticing a new pattern amongst love stories playing out on reality TV. Then, they discuss an email about catching feelings ahead of a 3-week international trip. How soon is too soon to suggest a European getaway?...
Sep 24, 2023•40 min•Ep. 486
Fall is officially days away, and J&J are predicting a shady season ahead. They take a trip to Plug City before reminding single listeners what the goal for meeting IRL should be. The first email retells a bad date, wondering when and how she could’ve left early. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of sweat. Then, a listener needs tips on how to tell her husband he’s a bad kisser after 7 years of marriage. Is it too late for her, or can she teach him how to improve? The episode ends with a new ...
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 485
J&J are ready for another Sunday Special, and we’re starting off with a “Petty or Prudent?” about an invoice being sent after the breakup. A listener scratched her ex’s car while they were together, and offered to pay for it then, but her ex didn’t ask for the cash until they were over. Who is in the wrong? Then, an email comes in asking how to handle a big family trip after a breakup. J&J give tips on how to get around grandma’s persistent questions and the stress of being single again when you...
Sep 17, 2023•30 min•Ep. 484
J&J are back in the studio and it’s Jordana’s birthday eve! Before they jump right in, Jared shares a recent text exchange between him and a woman he dated years ago so Jordana can give her impartial opinion. Next, they read an email questioning why a neighbor gave his info and expressed interest if he never intended for anything to happen. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets messy. Then, the second emailer is trying to get out of the “family zone” with her best friend’s brother. The episode ends ...
Sep 13, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 483
This Sunday Special has Jared heated! The episode starts with a “Petty or Prudent?” submission about an ex’s mom asking for her gift back. Then, a listener reaches out about a difficult choice: should she marry her boyfriend who could give her the life she wants, or should she give life a second go with her ex-husband? Jared and Jordana talk through the messy situation, including a message directly to one of the people involved–and it’s not the listener. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit m...
Sep 10, 2023•33 min•Ep. 482
Before solving dating again, J&J are catching up after a short break. Jordana gives the rundown of her week in Italia, and Jared talks about the big star he got to meet after his Netflix debut. The first emailer is debating whether they should use dating business cards to market themselves to potential singles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets too hot to handle. Then, the second emailer wonders what say she has in her boyfriend’s lack of involvement in his toddler’s life. The episode ends with ...
Sep 06, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 481
We’re ushering in September with a Sunday Special, and J&J are dubbing fall as the better season to be in the dating game. We know all too well that communication is a core element in dating successfully, and this episode focus on getting lost in translation. They play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a misplaced passport. Then, a listener questions if she’s been doing dating all wrong after she called out a fizzled dating prospect, and he fired back. If it seems like they both ghosted, who'...
Sep 03, 2023•32 min•Ep. 480
Jared and Jordana are celebrating summer’s end with a Lightning Round episode, but first, Jordana has a surprise for Jared. Still reeling from his special’s Netflix debut, Jared shares his appreciation for the outpouring of support he’s received from all of you. Then, J&J get back to saving dating with a range of topics from sex talks and whether you should be dating at all to long-distance relationships and how to keep cultural differences from impacting your parents’ first impression. Learn mo...
Aug 30, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 479
