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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches

Episodes

It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ...

Jul 20, 20221 hr 12 minEp. 363

Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii. Learn m...

Jul 17, 202238 minEp. 362

What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the thir...

Jul 13, 20221 hr 34 minEp. 361

How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode. Learn more a...

Jul 10, 202238 minEp. 360

Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turne...

Jul 06, 20221 hr 23 minEp. 359

“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing

J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some t...

Jul 03, 202229 minEp. 358

Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties....

Jun 29, 20221 hr 11 minEp. 357

How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she w...

Jun 26, 202228 minEp. 356

How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Be...

Jun 22, 20221 hr 19 minEp. 355

Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?

It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 19, 202244 minEp. 354

Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-o...

Jun 15, 20221 hr 30 minEp. 353

Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...

Jun 12, 202235 minEp. 352

What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or ...

Jun 08, 20221 hr 29 minEp. 351

Vague Questions Get Vague Answers

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook ...

Jun 05, 202236 minEp. 350

How To Do A Mini Reveal

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not havin...

Jun 01, 20221 hr 18 minEp. 349

How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back ...

May 29, 202229 minEp. 348

What’s The Right Answer To “How Are You Still Single?”

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jared’s upcoming Ted Talk and our new segment for the live tour called “Set U Up?”. The first emailer asks how she’s supposed to respond when dates ask “how are you still single?” Jared explains why guys ask this question, and Jordana shares her past anxiety about it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very confused sister. Later, a listener writes in about how her TikTok following is ruining her dating life. Is there a w...

May 25, 20221 hr 32 minEp. 347

How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To My Boyfriend’s Ex?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener whose boyfriend drunkenly told his friends he was relieved that she wasn’t as hot as his ex. After looking up his ex on Instagram, she started feeling insecure, and her boyfriend didn’t help by overcompensating. Can their relationship move past this? Is he ready to be in a new relationship in the first place? Plus, Jared gives a definitive ranking of the Kardashian family. Learn more ...

May 22, 202246 minEp. 346

Is The Saying “When You Know You Know” Actually True?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of the best day of the year for a birthday and how the internet can be a fickle friend. They read a follow up from the listener who wrote in on May 8th, 2022 about Tony the contractor which leads to a discussion about women making the first move. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a wet pair of trousers. Later, an emailer asks if she did herself a disservice by throwing out her old pros and cons lists about her current rela...

May 18, 20221 hr 18 minEp. 345

Is This A Red Flag Or Am I The As*hole?

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they start out with a chat about the summer dating season. Next they listen to two new listener jingles which leads to a conversation on how “Les Miserables” is a f*ckboy story. Later they introduce a new segment called The People’s Courtship where Judge J&J will decide who is wrong in a dating situation. This week a listener called the hotline to ask if it was weird for a guy to bring her “grocery store flowers” on a first date. Plus, they talk about how ...

May 15, 202234 minEp. 344

When Does A White Lie Become A Regular Lie? Ft. Rebel Wilson

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about how to keep dating momentum going while you're traveling for work. The first emailer asks about the difference between taking things slow and getting strung along. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a condom balloon. Another emailer asks how much white lies matter after her boyfriend lied to her about going to a strip club. Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by U Up? With Benefits subscriber Rebel Wilson to talk ab...

May 11, 20221 hr 33 minEp. 343

How To Take The Hint After Shooting Your Shot

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and her almost contractor to decide whether or not he’s interested in her. Should she shoot her shot one more time or is a "k" text the kiss of death? Later, J&J introduce a new segment called Rate My Date where they review creative date ideas submitted by listeners. This week’s submission is a triple date straight out of a fever dream. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 08, 202232 minEp. 342

Dating Before & After College

Jared and Jordana are back with a very special episode recorded from the Pizza Hut struggle bus in Athens, GA. The first emailer asks how to deal with her boyfriend’s controlling mother. Should she take out her nose ring to please her? Is the nose ring really the issue here to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a pet octopus. In the next segment presented by Pizza Hut, J&J answer a listener voicemail from the Hut-Line to solve some college dating struggles. The caller asks how she...

May 04, 20221 hr 26 minEp. 341

“The Ultimatum” Review

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reviewing Netflix’s newest dating show “The Ultimatum.” They break down why they think each person is actually on the show and how fear of commitment and fear of loneliness come into play. Later, Jared and Jordana explore why marriage isn’t as enticing for men as it is for women and whether or not any of these people are old enough to get married anyway. Plus, they play two new U Up? Jingles submitted by listeners. U Up? Live Ticket...

May 01, 202250 minEp. 340

How To Weed People Out On The First Date

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Dallas and a discussion about how Jared’s feeling now that he’s a year out from his breakup. The first emailer writes in about how she always has a good time on first dates, and it leaves her (and her dates) feeling confused about whether or not they have a connection. Can you be too good at first dates? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a steamy bar bathroom encounter. Later, a listener asks if she should finall...

Apr 27, 20221 hr 27 minEp. 339

You Can’t Hack The Dating Apps

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they answer an email from a guy who has been disappointed by his recent dating experiences. He says he’s looking for a relationship, so where are all the women supposedly looking for commitment? Is he just coming in too hot with what he’s looking for? J&J show him how he’s going about this the wrong way. Plus, they explain how to show you’re looking for a relationship instead of telling. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uu...

Apr 24, 202236 minEp. 338

The Key To A Better Dating Life Is Your Life Outside Of Dating

IRL Spring is officially here, and Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s move and a very exciting U Up? Live announcement. Jordana does a dramatic reading of a text a listener sent to our hotline instead of sending to their ex, and Jared helps to analyze it. The first emailer asks how to not get too excited about every dating prospect when she feels like she doesn’t have many options. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a “wrong hole” situation. Later, a listener asks...

Apr 20, 20221 hr 33 minEp. 337

Does Being "Adventurous" Mean Putting Up With No Effort?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special, but first they listen to a couple jingles created by listeners. Then, the emailer writes in about a “bizzaro” story of being stood up for a first date, and J&J break down the texts in completely accurate accents. Should she believe his unlikely story? And how can she avoid situations like this in the future? Plus they discuss why you have to embrace being a pain in the ass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ...

Apr 17, 202248 minEp. 336

Is It A Good Sign If A First Date Lasts a Long Time?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a very exciting Betches announcement plus discussions about Jordana’s love of moving and Jared’s Deux Moi fame. Then, they break down some of Jared’s recent dating app dilemmas and talk about how dating apps are like being at a party where half the guests are on shrooms. A massage goes terribly wrong in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they think of marathon first dates. If her date had a good enough time to st...

Apr 13, 20221 hr 30 minEp. 335

Are Men Intimidated By Women’s Success?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week the emailer asks if she’s too independent to be in a relationship. She explains that things often fizzle after guys see her house and make comments about how much money she makes. Are men really intimidated by women’s success? Plus, they discuss how to convey that you’re willing to change your priorities for a relationship without sounding despy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 10, 202242 minEp. 334
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