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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches
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Episodes

How Do I Say "I Love You" First?

The Js are back and they’re talking about Netflix’s classy dating show “Dating Around.” Jared has a full breakdown of the dating adventures of Luke, the basic bitch of NYC men. At 37:35 they dissect their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a series of very loud queefs, and absolutely no bodily control. At 53:27 a listener writes in wondering when, how and where is the best time to say “I Love You” for the first time. At 1:07:20 a listener writes in wondering how to date while livi...

Mar 13, 20191 hr 28 minEp. 78

How Do I Hit On A Guy At The Gym?

The Js are back and they’re asking a question that has been tough for women for a long time, “how do you hit on a guy at the gym?” Jared insists that a single man is never bothered by a female approaching him. At 22:19 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week that includes a long trail of hints around an apartment that leads to intercourse. At 39:55 a listener writes in wondering how to decipher a coded text from her BF to his ex that hints at a secret hookup. At 54:20 a divorced ...

Mar 06, 20191 hr 27 minEp. 77

How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Sleeping With Someone?

J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a trail of red flags, several apologies and some dentures. At 47:20 a listener writes in wondering what guys will think of a woman in her 30s who lives with her parents. At 1:03:20 a listener writes in wondering how to avoid feeling jealous about her BF taking a boys trip to Greece. At ...

Feb 27, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 76

What Do We Owe An Ex After a Breakup?

J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about instinct. At 27:20 they break down their weird sexual encounter of the week which involves fingers, a vagina, and a caliente jalapeño pepper. At 33:00 a listener writes in wondering what she did to get ghosted after dating a guy for 3 months. At 49:10 a listener wonders if she’s wrong to ask an ex if he’s with someone new after seeing a new girl in his ...

Feb 20, 20191 hr 25 minEp. 75

Bonus UUP?: Live At Murmrr Theatre

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Murmrr Theatre in Brooklyn. At 5:20 they ask the question “how honest should we be during a softcore breakup?” At 21:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 36:15 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Yamaneika Saunders. At 57:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at ht...

Feb 15, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 74

How Do I Wear Lingerie Without Looking Stupid?

J and J are back just in time for Valentine’s Day. While Jordana has planned a romantic magic show/dinner for her BF, Jared hasn’t made plans and is riding the excuse train into the station. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering if there’s a non-cliché way to be sexy in lingerie after buying a teddy to turn on her BF. At 26:25 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features dirty tampons and a period fetish. At 41:40 a listener writes in wondering if she was out of lin...

Feb 13, 20191 hr 18 minEp. 73

Bonus U UP?: Live At Underground Arts

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Underground Arts in Philadelphia. At 4:40 they ask the question “how do I deal with an office hookup gone awry?” At 15:30 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 30:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Ghee Funny. At 48:10 they tell some hard truths when deciphering text messages in a “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you t...

Feb 08, 20191 hr 44 minEp. 72

How Long Into Dating Someone Should You Expect To Have Valentine's Day Plans?

Jordana and Jared return to talk about Valentine’s Day anxiety. Is Valentine’s day the most romantic day of the year, or is it really a deadline for deciding whether you’re in or out in a new relationship? At 17:00 they debate if it’s better to send V-day flowers to a girl’s office or her apartment. At 25:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a forced dental flossing. At 38:50 a listener writes in wondering how to transition out of drinking-only dates to ones ...

Feb 06, 20191 hr 28 minEp. 71

Bonus U Up?: Live At Sixth & I

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Sixth And I in Washington, DC. At 7:40 they ask the question”why do women keep getting stuck dating guys who aren’t ready for a relationship?” At 24:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:25 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker." At 57:10 they dissect their enigmatic “Deal Reveal”. A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship ...

Feb 01, 20191 hr 47 minEp. 70

Were Jim and Pam Assholes or the Best Couple Ever?

J and J have returned from their live tour! They start by talking about what a low-key blessing it is to be a third wheel in social scenarios when you’re a single person looking to meet someone. At 20:20 they talk about why a guy would un-match a girl on a dating app. At 28:10 they do a Rom Com breakdown focusing on whether or not Jim and Pam have a healthy relationship on “The Office.” At 42:33 a listener writes in wondering if guys will think she’s a loser because she only has 3 friends. At 59...

Jan 30, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 69

What To Do When You're Blindsided By A Breakup

Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launched their new dating app, Ship! It’s the latest avenue for you to meet your awkward sexual encounter with the help of your friends. This week a woman writes in who created a website to market herself in lieu of using the dating apps. At 25:30 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which includes so much blood (from some dude’s nose...

Jan 23, 20191 hr 17 minEp. 68

How to Date as A Single Parent Ft. Chris Distefano

Jordana and Jared return with a Jared undergoing a personal dating dilemma. What should you expect when you ‘come out’ as a couple on Instagram? At 21:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a fresh pubic shave and an ungraceful assisted masturbation. At 39:30 they are joined by comedian Chris Distefano who helps them understand the world of dating as a single parent. At 1:15:20 Chris sits in on some “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” games. Thanks to our sponsors! Daily Har...

Jan 16, 20191 hr 35 minEp. 67

How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues

The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a listener writes in wondering how to get better oral from a selfish lover. At 31:20 they dig into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes clown makeup, some rope, and tickling. At 40:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after ...

Jan 09, 20191 hr 16 minEp. 66

Does The Person I’m Dating Care About My Instagram Brand?

The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are turned off if you have too many thirst traps on your Instagram. At 17:00 a listener writes in wondering how important of a role religion should play when you’re considering dating someone. At 28:15 they take on their awkward sexual experience of the week in which a woman finds out her hookup has a fetish for diaper play. At 39:20 a listener writes in w...

Jan 02, 20191 hr 15 minEp. 65

Should You Be Mad If Someone You're Seeing Is Still Updating Their Dating App Bio?

The J’s are back and the Christmas break isn’t slowing them down. At 7:20 a listener writes in asking if lying about your age on dating apps is acceptable. At 22:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week in which a listener breaks her nose on black ice but continues hooking up anyway. At 30:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to update a dating app profile picture while casually dating someone. At 53:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s mean to give a guy her ph...

Dec 26, 20181 hr 22 minEp. 64

Did Carrie And Big Have An Abusive Relationship?

The J’s are back just in time for Christmas. At 6:50 they discuss the best way for a single person to approach the dreaded New Year’s Eve kiss. At 14:50 a listener writes in wondering if she should give her bf permission to get a happy ending massage while they’re on vacation…together. At 33:50 they analyze whether or not the Carrie/Big relationship from Sex & The City is a healthy one? Is it a great love story or is Big just a douchebag? At 48:15 a listener writes in wondering how to tell h...

Dec 19, 20181 hr 15 minEp. 63

Why are Millennials Having Less Sex than Our Parents' Generation? Ft. Kate Julian

J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s research led her to the conclusion that millennials are having less sex than older generations. At 3:20 they talk about the Japanese phenomenon of sex through artificial intelligence and whether or not the trend will spread across the planet. At 11:55 they dissect whether or not sex is also down amongst married couples. At 16:20 they discuss whether the Me Too mo...

Dec 12, 20181 hr 25 minEp. 62

What's The Best Way to Tell My Significant Other That They’re Getting Fat?

J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jared thinks that someone who quits social media usually does it because they’re going through something. At 31:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a soft core hookup and an R. Kelly smash hit. At 46:40 a listener writes in wondering how to bring up weight gain to a significant other in a relationship. At 1:03:00 a l...

Dec 05, 20181 hr 23 minEp. 61

Were Ross and Rachel On A Break?

J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss their first classic rom-com scenario breaking down the iconic Ross/Rachel break argument from “Friends.” At 29:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a blowjob, weed infused honey, and a slice of buffalo chicken pizza. At 42:50 a listener writes in wondering if she’s giving off a vibe to married men that she’s mistre...

Nov 28, 20181 hr 26 minEp. 60

Is It Too Soon To Take A Trip With My BF?

J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:30 a listener writes in wondering if it’s too soon to bring her new BF to UUp Live. At 25:05 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week which features the story of a hookup that ended with the man taking his soiled condom with him after sex. At 40:20 a listener writes in wondering why a guy who seemed into her the night before would dis...

Nov 21, 20181 hr 10 minEp. 59

Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?

The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations seem to have settled and gotten married younger leading to a ton of cheating whereas millenials live a lot more life and date tons of people before they settle down. At 37:00 their weird sexual encounter comes from a listener who had a sleepover with...

Nov 14, 20181 hr 21 minEp. 58

Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo Sales

J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for better or for worse. They discuss the morality of the apps from their invention to their execution and the culture built around it. At 1:00:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a new relationship that may become long distance very soon. At 1...

Nov 07, 20181 hr 21 minEp. 57

Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?

Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming that dating without texting is the absolute best. At 32:35 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which could be either a bad joke or a Freudian disaster. At 38:30 a listener writes in to ask if she can bring her boyfriend home for the...

Oct 31, 20181 hr 16 minEp. 56

What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny Bananas

J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether or not people will have fun at them. At 18:00 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week as a listener writes in wondering if it’s hot or gross when a guy licks and swallows his own bodily fluids. At 27:30 a listener writes in wondering ...

Oct 24, 20181 hr 32 minEp. 50

How Do I Make the First Move Without Coming Off Desperate?

J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had chemistry with. At 35:50 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener who is wondering if he was gaslighted by a girl who tricked him into thinking he finished sexually without knowing it. At 47:00 a listener writes in won...

Oct 17, 20181 hr 20 minEp. 54

Bonus U Up?: Live At Canton Hall Ft. Raven Gates

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:00 they are joined by Raven Gates of “The Bachelor” to play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker. At 55:40 they dissect their “Deal Reveal” wondering why guys get off the hook for playing dumb after things get intimate....

Oct 12, 20181 hr 53 minEp. 53

What’s The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being “In Love?”

The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter ...

Oct 10, 20181 hr 16 minEp. 52

How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Acting Like a Drunk Asshole? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat

The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another...

Oct 03, 20181 hr 26 minEp. 51

What’s The Best Way to Get Someone to Stop Texting You?

The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit m...

Sep 26, 20181 hr 12 minEp. 50

Did Instagram Ruin My Relationship? Ft. Corinne Fisher

The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lo...

Sep 19, 20181 hr 27 minEp. 49
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