The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his child...
Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 189
To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him. Learn more abo...
Nov 15, 2020•30 min•Ep. 188
Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spyi...
Nov 11, 2020•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 187
On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch...
Nov 08, 2020•20 min•Ep. 186
Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she ...
Nov 04, 2020•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 185
On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if they were “on the same page” as one another. They read the last text exchange between the couple and try to decipher what it all means. Do guys stop texting because they’re afraid of commitment, or is it something else? Finally, they discuss whether or not this girl should have played things differently, drawing comparisons to the situation in How to Lose...
Nov 01, 2020•27 min•Ep. 184
Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on his roommate, and whether or not it’s weird that he and the roommate are doing a couples costume for Halloween. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween costume, a circus theme, and some spontaneous role play. Then another emailer asks if she should hold off on dating again after a difficult breakup. At what point do you admit that...
Oct 28, 2020•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 183
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too long. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing called things off after four dates (despite great chemistry), and whether or not it really boils down to the fact that she said she wanted to wait longer before having sex. Plus, they discuss the proper etiquette for calling things off and why people try to soften the blow. Learn more about ...
Oct 25, 2020•20 min•Ep. 182
The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if she should just pick up and move to a new city to improve her odds of finding someone. Is the city ever really the cause of your dating woes? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a mid-sex pause to return a text. Another emailer asks whether or not she should confront her boyfriend after snooping on his phone and finding unanswered late-night...
Oct 21, 2020•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 181
On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silent with no explanation. Should he have given her excuses in order to fade out slowly instead of abruptly ghosting her? J&J read the texts and tell us exactly what happened here, along with insight into what this guy was actually thinking when he ghosted. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Vis...
Oct 18, 2020•24 min•Ep. 180
The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a normal dating life if you’re not a drinker. Will people judge you on a first date if you don’t order alcohol? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a secret work hookup. Then another emailer asks how to react when the guy she’s been living with declares that they aren’t officially dating. Why do some guys go out of their way to avoid putting...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 179
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the bedroom. They start out by settling a debate from a recent Awkward Sexual Encounter regarding peeing during an erection. Then they read an email from a listener whose boyfriend experiences erectile dysfunction and is afraid to seek treatment. When a guy can’t get it up, is the problem more likely to be mental or physical? They also discuss guys who ...
Oct 11, 2020•34 min•Ep. 178
Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ask how she should react to her partner crying over the stress of work, especially now that they are stuck working from home in the same space. How do you help a partner who won't help themself? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who doesn’t think girls fart and a ruined hookup. Then another emailer asks if it’s fair to expect his pa...
Oct 07, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 177
On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out by reading both sides of the text exchange, and weigh in on whether or not the guy’s explanation was sufficient. Does it feel better or worse to get the “I’m actually dating someone else” excuse or nothing at all? Plus, they discuss whether or not you should ever give someone another chance if they come back around and try to go on another date. Lea...
Oct 04, 2020•25 min•Ep. 176
J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was dating selected the “don’t know” option in the “what are you looking for” menu of a dating app. How honest should your dating profile be about what you’re actually looking for? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and a piece of mint gum. Then another emailer asks why the girl he was seeing brok...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr 34 min•Ep. 175
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 27, 2020•19 min•Ep. 174
The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner ...
Sep 23, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 173
On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 20, 2020•23 min•Ep. 172
J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener e...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 171
On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Fi...
Sep 13, 2020•58 min•Ep. 170
The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been ta...
Sep 09, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 169
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should...
Sep 06, 2020•54 min•Ep. 168
J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at th...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 167
On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad cho...
Aug 30, 2020•50 min•Ep. 166
The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 165
On this Sunday Special episode of the U Up? podcast, the J’s receive an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s ex and wants to know more about their relationship. Why can’t she get over it, and will her insecurity inevitably damage their relationship? Plus, they talk about how hard it can be to join their friend group when the ex was so entwined in their crew. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 23, 2020•23 min•Ep. 164
J&J start the week with a conversation about the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and a conversation about getting to know your future spouse. Then a listener writes in to ask why her ex suddenly stopped watching her IG story even though they recently hooked up. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a tampon, marathon sex, and an overly talkative doctor. Another emailer writes in with a scenario about a guy blowing off a date and getting spotted in public that night with another girl. Should you ...
Aug 19, 2020•1 hr 36 min•Ep. 163
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are back with a deal reveal. A listener writes in to ask about a guy who called things off out of the blue after the third date, leaving her wondering whether or not he’s being genuine. J&J read both sides of the text exchange and reveal the truth behind his messages, leading to a conversation about following up for an explanation after things end. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 16, 2020•32 min•Ep. 162
The J’s get this week’s episode started with a conversation about turning your sexting penpal into a real relationship. A listener writes in to ask how to move the conversation from sexting back to serious. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a pack of discarded birth control placebos and an uncomfortable conversation. Another listener asks how to react if the person you matched with on a dating app shows up to the first date with a beard they didn’t have in their profile. How much...
Aug 12, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 161
J&J return for a Sunday Special episode with some big news… Jordana just got engaged! They tell us how it went down, when exactly the engagement conversation got started, and how it feels to go from dating to engaged. Jordana shares how she went about helping to pick a ring and passed the information along to her fiancé. Plus, they talk about the pitfalls of telling your friends the engagement is coming soon, and close the show with all the details on how he popped the question. Learn more about...
Aug 09, 2020•43 min•Ep. 160
