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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches

Episodes

Should I Respond To A Random Text From An Ex?

J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing text...

Jul 01, 20201 hr 29 minEp. 154

How Do I Get My Partner To Improve Without Insulting Them?

The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about t...

Jun 24, 20201 hr 40 minEp. 153

Why Was My Ex Able To Move On So Fast And I Can’t?

J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serio...

Jun 17, 20201 hr 36 minEp. 152

Is It A Huge Mistake To Tell A Guy That You’re Open To Something Casual?

The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quic...

Jun 10, 20201 hr 49 minEp. 151

Is It Okay To Ask Your Quarantine Fling Not To Hook Up With Others?

J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain...

Jun 03, 20201 hr 40 minEp. 150

Is This Relationship Real Or Just A Quarantine Distraction?

The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer w...

May 27, 20201 hr 35 minEp. 149

Is It Okay To Like Photos Of Your Friend’s Ex?

Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask ...

May 20, 20201 hr 29 minEp. 148

Should Couples Stop Moving In Together Before Getting Engaged?

The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at ...

May 13, 20201 hr 32 minEp. 147

Who Gets To Decide Where You Quarantine As A Couple? Ft. Mark Manson

J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving...

May 06, 20201 hr 34 minEp. 146

How To Tell If You’re Bored In Your Relationship Or Just Bored Of Quarantine

The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quar...

Apr 29, 20201 hr 34 minEp. 145

What Do You Do When You’re Fed Up With Quarantine Dating?

J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Ano...

Apr 22, 20201 hr 37 minEp. 144

This Is What It’s Like To Quarantine In A New Relationship Ft. Sam Morril & Taylor Tomlinson

The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Mor...

Apr 15, 20201 hr 22 minEp. 143

Are You Willing To Go On A FaceTime First Date? Ft. Nicole Byer

The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your sig...

Apr 08, 20201 hr 24 minEp. 142

How Do I Know If My Partner Is Ready To Move In With Me?

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend ...

Apr 01, 20201 hr 14 minEp. 141

How To Admit That Your Toxic Hookup Is Never Going To Change

The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direc...

Mar 25, 20201 hr 32 minEp. 140

Love In The Time Of Corona

J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up...

Mar 18, 20201 hr 26 minEp. 139

How Many Times Should I Let Him Reschedule?

The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re te...

Mar 11, 20201 hr 7 minEp. 138

U Update: He Wouldn't Call Me His Girlfriend

On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice. Learn more about your ad choices. ...

Mar 06, 202028 minEp. 137

The One Where We Talk About Love is Blind

The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensue...

Mar 04, 20201 hr 33 minEp. 136

How Do I Turn My Work Hookup Into A Real Relationship?

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a rela...

Feb 26, 20201 hr 10 minEp. 135

Am I Allowed To Be Upset With My Partner About What They Did Before We Were Exclusive?

The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. ...

Feb 19, 20201 hr 26 minEp. 134

Should You Expect A Valentine’s Day Date After A Month Of Dating?

J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group ...

Feb 12, 20201 hr 18 minEp. 133

When Is It Time To Admit Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working?

The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite se...

Feb 05, 20201 hr 15 minEp. 132

Should I Come Clean About My Past On A First Date? Ft. Jordana’s Sister

J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpe...

Jan 29, 20201 hr 40 minEp. 131

Is It A Bad Sign If My Partner Still Talks About Their Ex? Ft. Luann de Lesseps

The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to t...

Jan 22, 20201 hr 24 minEp. 130

Why Do So Many Daters End Things At The Three Month Mark?

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someo...

Jan 15, 20201 hr 11 minEp. 129

What Should You Do If You Find Out Your Partner Cheated On Their Ex?

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your b...

Jan 08, 20201 hr 14 minEp. 128

How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me?

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener ...

Jan 01, 20201 hr 23 minEp. 127

How Do I Handle A Guy Who Tries to Make It Too Sexual Too Fast?

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual convers...

Dec 25, 20191 hr 14 minEp. 126

Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media?

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend re...

Dec 18, 20191 hr 17 minEp. 125
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