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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches

Episodes

What’s Worse, Looking Jealous or Crazy?

J and J start the show with a recap of their weekends and give tips on how to make the best wedding speech possible. They talk about what to do when your significant other is suspicious of something on your clothes or body. Does every bruise deserve an explanation? At 23:34 they respond to an email about what to do when the person you’re dating never wants to travel to your neighborhood. Is it okay to expect your significant other to travel to you even if you live in a worse area? At 34:55 a lis...

Jul 03, 20191 hr 20 minEp. 94

What Percent Of The Time Should You Expect To Be Happy In A Relationship?

The J’s start the show with a listener DM about a friend who constantly responds to her boyfriend’s Instagram stories. Does she have a right to be upset with her boyfriend for not shutting it down? At 24:10 they respond to an email about what to do when you don’t like a close friend’s significant other. Is it ever okay to tell them that the person they’re dating sucks? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a broken window and an unpaid bill. At 42:50 a listener asks why guys on datin...

Jun 26, 20191 hr 16 minEp. 93

Should I Put My Instagram Handle In My Dating App Profile?

J and J kick off the show with the latest details on the U Up? LIVE national tour, including how you can get your chance to be part of the show. At 10:40 they answer a question about whether or not it’s okay to put your IG handle in a dating app profile. At 23:00 they talk about the iMessage double tap and what it means if a person you’re dating uses it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a tray of vegetables, ranch dressing, and a bop on the nose. At 40:30 a listener asks what it...

Jun 19, 20191 hr 27 minEp. 92

Am I Being Ghosted Or Did The Conversation Just End?

J and J start the show with an exciting announcement... UUp? LIVE is going on a national tour! They share the list of all 20 cities the show is coming to this year. At 15:10 they dive into a conversation about texting in a relationship, including how to tell if you’re really being ghosted. A listener writes in to ask how to avoid coming on too strong over text after just three dates. At 35:35 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features shower sex that went so bad it resulted in circumcisio...

Jun 12, 20191 hr 25 minEp. 91

When Is The Right Time To Ask If Someone Is Looking For A Relationship?

J and J start the show with an impromptu conversation about outside pressure to get engaged. Why is the default conversation for so many women to ask each other when the proposal is coming? At 17:20 a listener writes in wondering when it’s okay to ask someone if they’re open to being in a relationship. Is there ever really a good time to ask, or is this the wrong approach altogether? At 40:00 they answer an email from a guy who blew it on the first date and immediately got put in the friend zone...

Jun 05, 20191 hr 15 minEp. 90

Are You Obligated To Reveal Your Phone Passcode In A Relationship? Ft. Dr. Helen Fisher

J and J are back and start the show with a conversation about girls taking on the role of vacation planner in a relationship. Why does it seem like it’s always on women to keep things exciting? At 17:30 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a latex glove and a lot of confusion. At 34:35 a listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that her boyfriend refuses to share his phone passcode. Does this guy have something to hide, or is he just protecting his own privacy? At 49:45 they play a r...

May 29, 20191 hr 44 minEp. 89

What’s The Difference Between Sexual Preference And Sexual Racism? Ft. Ronny Chieng

The J’s kick off with news about the Red Flag or Dealbreaker card game, and Jared reveals where he’s headed for the long holiday weekend. At 16:30, the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a guy who came over for dinner and just wouldn’t leave. Is the second date too soon to cook dinner for someone? At 24:55 a listener writes in to ask how to pass a guy she's no longer interested in dating off to a friend. Does any guy really want to be set up by someone they’re hooking up with? At 35:2...

May 22, 20191 hr 39 minEp. 88

Can A Relationship Survive A Huge Body Transformation?

J and J are back to talk about Jordana’s trip to Mexico and Jared shares a family rule for weekend beach trips. They tell us what you should and shouldn’t put on the bachelorette party itinerary. At 15:00 they ask whether or not you need to tell the person you’re with about past hookups. This leads to a story about Jared’s ex having a weirdly close friendship with a guy friend. At 47:05 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week starts with a guy carrying home street furniture and ends with him cu...

May 15, 20191 hr 31 minEp. 87

When Is The Right Time To Ask Someone To Move In Together?

J and J are back to talk about moving in together with your boyfriend. Is the end of your lease a good enough reason to talk about getting a place together? At 25:10 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a ‘Hey Arnold’ DVD, bad kissing skills, and a guy who can’t get it up. When is it time to just admit that a hook-up isn’t going well? At 40:50 a listener writes in to ask if she is being too picky with guys on dating apps. At 53:20 another listener asks if she says “I love you” too o...

May 08, 20191 hr 19 minEp. 86

How Do I Show Guys On Dating Apps That I'm Not Only Interested In Hooking Up?

The J’s return to declare cuffing season officially over. They start by talking about the new phenomenon of guys making their location status on dating apps their office in the city when they actually live in the suburbs. At 27:50 they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week which features a passionate make-out, a peanut allergy, and an emergency trip to the pharmacy. At 39:10 a listener writes in wondering how to reintroduce condoms into a sexual relationship with a guy who she’s n...

May 01, 20191 hr 16 minEp. 85

Is Jealousy In A Relationship Flattering Or Annoying? Ft. Vinny Guadagnino

Double J is back asking the tough hypothetical questions. Is some amount of jealousy in a relationship actually healthy? At 20:40 they breakdown their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a new relationship, a hometown trip, and a 3AM switcheroo. At 34:00 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend is sexually distant because he’s nervous about their impending move in together. At 46:40 they’re joined by Vinny Guadagnino of MTV’s “Jersey Shore” and “Double Shot At Love” to talk ...

Apr 24, 20191 hr 36 minEp. 84

How Do We Ask Our Partners For More Sex?

J and J are back asking the tricky question, how do we ask for more sex in relationships? At 14:45 an undersexed listener writes in wondering what to do about his girlfriend’s sex drive not matching up with his. At 32:25 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a lack of protection, a blowjob, and an inconvenient nap. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s doing something to repel men from dating her more seriously. At 50:50 a newly single listener writes ...

Apr 17, 20191 hr 15 minEp. 83

Is It Tacky To Talk About Money With The Person You’re Dating?

Double J are back to defend all the basic bitches in the world. Obviously people are going to Iceland because it’s fun, what’s there to be embarrassed about? At 22:20 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to see her BF in one of his female friend’s profile pictures. At 37:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a wearable vibrator, an uncooperative Alexa, and fumbled attempt at ass play. At 48:10 a listener writes in wondering what is the proper way to br...

Apr 10, 20191 hr 29 minEp. 82

How To Stop Sleeping With Someone Who Doesn't Want To Date You

Double J return to give you their latest opinions on Netflix’s hit show “Dating Around”. At 25:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a hot bowl of ramen and a blow job. At 31:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after discovering that a guy she’s dating has some very well documented legal troubles. At 40:25 a listener writes in wondering if she should keep a potential relationship option open because a guy still follows her on Instagram. At 48:30 a lis...

Apr 03, 20191 hr 7 minEp. 81

Is Refusing to Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker? Ft Nev Schulman & Laura Perlongo

J and J return and they both need a little “me” time. Jordana tries to anticipate some issues she might run into once she moves in with her boyfriend. At 13:00 they discuss how to handle having a friend tell you they saw your significant other on a dating app. At 28:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a mysterious floating turd and a very unsexy naked cleanup. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering how long she should have to wait for a guy that’s dragging his f...

Mar 27, 20191 hr 38 minEp. 80

What To Do When He Can't Get It Up

Jordana and Jared are back to talk about erectile dysfunction. They discuss Jordana’s bachelorette trip to Colombia and her upcoming move-in plans with her boyfriend. At 27:45 a listener asks how to deal with dating a guy who can’t get it up. Is there any right way to react when this happens? At 41:00 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves vomiting during oral and a questionable ‘courtesy tap.’ At 59:35 they answer a listener’s email asking why she can’t find a relationship that stick...

Mar 20, 20191 hr 26 minEp. 79

How Do I Say "I Love You" First?

The Js are back and they’re talking about Netflix’s classy dating show “Dating Around.” Jared has a full breakdown of the dating adventures of Luke, the basic bitch of NYC men. At 37:35 they dissect their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a series of very loud queefs, and absolutely no bodily control. At 53:27 a listener writes in wondering when, how and where is the best time to say “I Love You” for the first time. At 1:07:20 a listener writes in wondering how to date while livi...

Mar 13, 20191 hr 28 minEp. 78

How Do I Hit On A Guy At The Gym?

The Js are back and they’re asking a question that has been tough for women for a long time, “how do you hit on a guy at the gym?” Jared insists that a single man is never bothered by a female approaching him. At 22:19 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week that includes a long trail of hints around an apartment that leads to intercourse. At 39:55 a listener writes in wondering how to decipher a coded text from her BF to his ex that hints at a secret hookup. At 54:20 a divorced ...

Mar 06, 20191 hr 27 minEp. 77

How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Sleeping With Someone?

J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a trail of red flags, several apologies and some dentures. At 47:20 a listener writes in wondering what guys will think of a woman in her 30s who lives with her parents. At 1:03:20 a listener writes in wondering how to avoid feeling jealous about her BF taking a boys trip to Greece. At ...

Feb 27, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 76

What Do We Owe An Ex After a Breakup?

J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about instinct. At 27:20 they break down their weird sexual encounter of the week which involves fingers, a vagina, and a caliente jalapeño pepper. At 33:00 a listener writes in wondering what she did to get ghosted after dating a guy for 3 months. At 49:10 a listener wonders if she’s wrong to ask an ex if he’s with someone new after seeing a new girl in his ...

Feb 20, 20191 hr 25 minEp. 75

Bonus UUP?: Live At Murmrr Theatre

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Murmrr Theatre in Brooklyn. At 5:20 they ask the question “how honest should we be during a softcore breakup?” At 21:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 36:15 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Yamaneika Saunders. At 57:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at ht...

Feb 15, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 74

How Do I Wear Lingerie Without Looking Stupid?

J and J are back just in time for Valentine’s Day. While Jordana has planned a romantic magic show/dinner for her BF, Jared hasn’t made plans and is riding the excuse train into the station. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering if there’s a non-cliché way to be sexy in lingerie after buying a teddy to turn on her BF. At 26:25 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features dirty tampons and a period fetish. At 41:40 a listener writes in wondering if she was out of lin...

Feb 13, 20191 hr 18 minEp. 73

Bonus U UP?: Live At Underground Arts

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Underground Arts in Philadelphia. At 4:40 they ask the question “how do I deal with an office hookup gone awry?” At 15:30 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 30:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Ghee Funny. At 48:10 they tell some hard truths when deciphering text messages in a “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you t...

Feb 08, 20191 hr 44 minEp. 72

How Long Into Dating Someone Should You Expect To Have Valentine's Day Plans?

Jordana and Jared return to talk about Valentine’s Day anxiety. Is Valentine’s day the most romantic day of the year, or is it really a deadline for deciding whether you’re in or out in a new relationship? At 17:00 they debate if it’s better to send V-day flowers to a girl’s office or her apartment. At 25:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a forced dental flossing. At 38:50 a listener writes in wondering how to transition out of drinking-only dates to ones ...

Feb 06, 20191 hr 28 minEp. 71

Bonus U Up?: Live At Sixth & I

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Sixth And I in Washington, DC. At 7:40 they ask the question”why do women keep getting stuck dating guys who aren’t ready for a relationship?” At 24:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:25 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker." At 57:10 they dissect their enigmatic “Deal Reveal”. A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship ...

Feb 01, 20191 hr 47 minEp. 70

Were Jim and Pam Assholes or the Best Couple Ever?

J and J have returned from their live tour! They start by talking about what a low-key blessing it is to be a third wheel in social scenarios when you’re a single person looking to meet someone. At 20:20 they talk about why a guy would un-match a girl on a dating app. At 28:10 they do a Rom Com breakdown focusing on whether or not Jim and Pam have a healthy relationship on “The Office.” At 42:33 a listener writes in wondering if guys will think she’s a loser because she only has 3 friends. At 59...

Jan 30, 20191 hr 22 minEp. 69

What To Do When You're Blindsided By A Breakup

Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launched their new dating app, Ship! It’s the latest avenue for you to meet your awkward sexual encounter with the help of your friends. This week a woman writes in who created a website to market herself in lieu of using the dating apps. At 25:30 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which includes so much blood (from some dude’s nose...

Jan 23, 20191 hr 17 minEp. 68

How to Date as A Single Parent Ft. Chris Distefano

Jordana and Jared return with a Jared undergoing a personal dating dilemma. What should you expect when you ‘come out’ as a couple on Instagram? At 21:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a fresh pubic shave and an ungraceful assisted masturbation. At 39:30 they are joined by comedian Chris Distefano who helps them understand the world of dating as a single parent. At 1:15:20 Chris sits in on some “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” games. Thanks to our sponsors! Daily Har...

Jan 16, 20191 hr 35 minEp. 67

How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues

The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a listener writes in wondering how to get better oral from a selfish lover. At 31:20 they dig into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes clown makeup, some rope, and tickling. At 40:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after ...

Jan 09, 20191 hr 16 minEp. 66

Does The Person I’m Dating Care About My Instagram Brand?

The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are turned off if you have too many thirst traps on your Instagram. At 17:00 a listener writes in wondering how important of a role religion should play when you’re considering dating someone. At 28:15 they take on their awkward sexual experience of the week in which a woman finds out her hookup has a fetish for diaper play. At 39:20 a listener writes in w...

Jan 02, 20191 hr 15 minEp. 65
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