Tamra and Eddie: Together Forever

Two Teas in a Pod which Teddy Mellencamp and Camera Judge.

Welcome to a new episode of Two Teas and a Pod with my self, Tamra Judge and my other half Eddie Judge.

Welcome, Welcome.

Now we are live from the iHeart Verbo Podcast House in Bottle Rock.

And how beautiful is this house?

This house is awesome and they don't get any ideas, like you want to buy a house here?

Now?

Now I know everywhere we go and I love it. I want to buy a house there. It's a problem.

Now.

I've posted some pictures online. I have had people reach out to me on DMS and saying, oh my god, my sister got.

Married there, or we've been there before. It is the coolest house. So we're here today.

Obviously we're going to Bottle Rock later on today, but Dolores and Polly are here, and Emily and Chane are here, and we're doing some podcasts and we're having a lot of fun. But one thing that we have never done on Two Tea's is just me and you, Like, I have some fan questions and we're just going to go over them.

You know, this is a first for us.

It really is I think we did a podcast together in San Francisco.

Live with It was fed one and Teddy.

It was four of us, and I was introducing your Ed's podcast, which is doing very well.

And you you filmed one last night.

Right I did. It was a lot of fun.

And you had Polly and Shane.

Yeah, we had a great conversation, talked about Father's Day, being a dad. It was awesome.

Yeah, and that's coming out around Father's Day. I assume, Okay, well, everybody needs to tune into that. So let's get into some of these fan questions.

Fan question, So.

What was your first impression of each other?

My first impression of you was, holy cow, who is this beautiful girl? I mean at my front door. That's the first time I've ever met you saw you And I tell the story to everybody. I saw birds fly, I saw stars.

It's take one of those weird things where you absolutely true for both of us. Now, I was married, you were, and it was at the tail end of my marriage and were we knew we were going to separate, and I was looking for houses. You were, and we were looking at your house, which happens to be the house that we now live in.

Like just think about that for a minute.

Yeah, full circle.

We were thinking you were thinking about running it out, and we're like, okay. So anyways, So I when I saw you, obviously there's cameras behind me, and I was with Marcos as our mutual friend.

And I thought that you had no shirt on.

You thought that.

I thought that I saw you without a shirt when you answered the door and you had a shirt on.

I had a shirt on.

So I thought, oh my god, this guy is so hot. What did you guys fall for in each other?

I think the thing I fall fell for and I still am falling for, is your ability to be glamorous when it's time, but just able to throw baseball cap on and go to dinner and just be chill, just be you know, down to earth and fun to hang out with, have normal conversations. You're not about the expensive everything glamour.

It never happened.

Yeah, So I definitely saw the real person in you.

And I mean, don't get me wrong, I like nice things, but I don't do a lot of value on materialistic stuff.

Right, That's my point. Yeah, Like I don't, you know, have to buy you an expensive Tiffany ring or something like that.

Or I was never that girl that was like looking for the rich guy.

And I mean, don't get me wrong, I have buy you some really expensive things that you really appreciate, because you do and that's why I do it. But it's not like I have to go out and try to overdo something I did last year, you know.

No, not at all. And we're not actually very big gift givers.

Like we'll have birthdays where we just don't Yeah, we don't buy each other.

Anything, or we just go out and buy ourselves what we want.

Oh you're notorious at that. Oh it's my birthday, babe. I just bought myself a Harley, like you.

Know what I mean.

Like, oh, okay, all right, I'm glad that you could do that.

Okay, it's a good system. We have a good system.

Yeah for me. I just you were just such an honest, loyal, down to earth good looking but doesn't necessarily know you're good looking, you know what I mean? You know that guy that's like not douchey and all those things, so and smart and caring and you were good with my kids and all those things.

So you are a full package in my eyes.

Thank you.

I mean, you bug me sometimes but yourself.

It's just wanting to know, right, love languages, what is our So for me, I'm going to say I an act of service. I get so turned on when you were laying the turf in the backyard at Big Bear.

Oh I figured that out. Yeah. Anytime I'm in pain and agony and busting my ass trying to do something, it makes you happy?

It does?

It does?

I like?

I like that, like, you know, doing things for me, you know, like you'll go put gas in my car and you'll wash my car, you know all those things.

I like that, And I like taking care of you that way.

Yeah.

And I'm not like a super touchy lovey Yeah, I know you know that.

And what's your love language?

What's that when you give people praise, words of affirmation? Formation? Yeah, when when you always tell me when I'm doing good, and you always you know, bring me up, and you know you you don't have to buy me stuff, you just tell me you love me, and yeah, that that kind of stuff.

So how do we handle conflict? That's totally different.

Yeah, Yeah, I don't think that's something we have mastered, and I don't know that we ever will because it's an ongoing learning process, you know, because one time we might handle the conflict really easy, talk it through and it's over. Other times, you know, we'll yell at each other and get in a fight and then walk away because you know me, I can't deal with that. I have to calm down.

It took me a long time to realize that you need to not be around me when you're mad at something like I just have to go okay, and I'm not like that.

I'm like, in your face, give me.

An answer now, right, right, So I've.

Learned like, oh, if he's mad, I am just going to walk away.

It's a learning process for sure.

Who's more intense in the gym?

Me?

Yeah, right now, it's you.

I've this year's been super rough for me, and it's I'm back at the gym as of this week. But during filming and with you know, everything that want, with Teddy and the stress level, I just couldn't.

My body just I couldn't. I couldn't do it.

So now back at it and loving it. It was as long as I've went without working out three months. Yeah, and I'm seeing it. What is the biggest misconception people have about our relationship?

I don't know honestly, because I don't care what people think about our relationships. I don't really pay attention. And the only source I would have any information of that is the media. You know, the stupid Well there's somebody stupid.

We'll get to that.

But there's a lot of stupid articles out there, always saying more breaking up.

I don't know. I mean, I get the impression that all our real friends love our relationship. I get that from our friends all the time, like they always comment, I love your love for each other. So I don't know what misconception they might have.

I don't think there's a lot now.

I think in the very beginning, it was oh, it's fake, everything's fake. He wants to be on TV, and they quickly learned you didn't want to be on TV. There was stories back in the day that you were my ex's best friend.

Well he put that up, he put that out there, but.

There was a picture that he met you once or twice, and that's what he put out there.

But over I mean, I would say not so many.

Now, yeah, people more people if I post something about us, they're like, oh my god, I love you guys together, I love your relationship. I'm sure people have some shitty opinions, but I don't really care. Like you said, Okay, this is kind of a new trend and something we don't do.

But do you ever sleep in separate bedrooms?

Never? I hate sleeping away from you when you travel or when I travel and we're away. I don't like it.

Yeah, I put never, Yeah, never.

I don't like sleeping away from you.

Yeah. What's your go to date night when the cameras are off? Okay, so.

This is I mean, we're not fancy like that, but we literally in sweats and baseball hats, will go to the local Thai restaurant or have or fa.

Fah, we go have fa that's it.

And I can like almost read your mind. We're like, we're you want to go eat? Yeah, And I'm like, I know what he's going to say. Yeah, I know it's gonna say.

I know where we're going to go. Yeah what I mean. Don't get me wrong. We do go do some nice things.

Too, we do, but we'll find a fancy.

We're not that couple that's like, oh, let's go walk a red carpet, Let's go to La, let's go out to you know, Newport beach to be seen, like let's go let's.

Go to La to the fanciest restaurant and have the paparazzi take pictures of us.

Yeah, I know, it's just not our personality at all. I'd rather just be in sweats and a baseball hat and very little makeup and doing our thing. What traditions do you have as a couple. This is a tough one for me. I don't think we have like a ton of traditions. I know that going camping once a year was always something that we did together. When the kids were younger, they would go with us. Now they're like, I am not camping. I never want to camp again.

I think the traditions that we have together have to do more with doing new things together like this, like this podcast we're doing. This is a new thing for us. Yea. The hard part is is that we've done so many things together, Like what do we do next together? That's a tradition. And I think if you define the tradition as we just like to experience things together for the first time, that's a tradition.

What hobbies do you guys do together besides working out? And we do we work out, We don't necessarily always work out do the same workout we're at the gym, but we go together usually when we go.

And housework, yard work.

Well, you know, motorcycle riding.

So we did dirt bike together, dirt bike, electric bike together. We ride our Murf bikes to the beach. Oh yeah, we do that around Big Bear.

Yeah.

Well, that's one of the fun things about Big Bear is being able to We have electric bikes there and some in Orange County, and we ride our murf bikes around the lake and go look at houses.

We love looking at houses.

Yeah, yeah. And I try to get you to ride more Harley with me, but I I understand you're you're afraid to be on the shoe.

Older I get, the more fearful I get about Oh god if I fall, Yeah, you know, I.

Love doing it.

But then I'm getting to be a little bit of a scaredy cat as I get older.

Yeah, I get it.

If I break a hip, it's all over. It's all over for me.

I might have to put you out, i know, like a horse, take you out in the field and.

Make glue out of me. Do you guys get sick of all the crazy headlines about you?

Too, like you two are breaking up or I broke Rugby's leg recently.

This is hilarious.

So guys, there's this whole thing going on on Facebook and it's AI generated. And all I know is if the link you click on the comments, there's all these headlines and there's just clickbait. But if you click on the comments, it's a story that comes from something that's is c a R the word c ar in it. When I see that, I go, oh, this is AI generated. They're all fake stories. The people that are posting are getting paid every time somebody clicks on this fake story.

It's annoying.

We talked to our attorneys about it, and they're not just doing it about us. They're doing it about a bunch of people, a bunch of people. And when I knew it wasn't you know, like this was bullshit? Is they ran the same stories with Emily and Shane saying Emily had a gambling addiction, and then you know, then they changed it to oh.

Eddie has a gambling addiction.

So I'm like, oh god, But just remember just because it's AI doesn't mean AI took it upon themselves to write the story. There is some scumbag behind, a scumbag behind it that puts these marketing stories out there to get clicks. And if you know, you know anybody in the marketing business that's a scumbag, that's them they're putting out.

Well I heard if somebody overseas or something that's studs.

I don't know.

I don't really know like that. Even when we talk to our attorney about it, he's.

Like, there's not a lot you could eat.

You don't even know who to go after because it's all on Facebook.

So they do the same thing to try to get people to go buy their CBD gummies and CVD market arts. Yeah, trask gummies and then it's a link to a different website. So we've sent letters, legal letters to those companies, you know, to stop them from doing that because that's obviously illegal. But from the beginning, remember when we first met, I want to say, it was the first year we were together. You had died in a CD jet ski accident in Saint Trepez. I'm like, hell, I wish we were in St. Trepez.

But I literally had to like because my parents are on Facebook, so I literally had to like call my mom and dad and say.

By the way I didn't die.

I'm still here, still here.

That was like another thing that was going around that was quite a while ago, let's see. And then also like reading the comments, because I do go on Facebook more now than I ever have, because Instagram is so nasty, dirty and mean and vile and just such lies, like it makes me really sad to go on there because.

Well there's a lot of bots on there too.

That are Germany, and I don't quite understand all.

I mean, I had bought to tack melast year, but don't understand how that works, Like somebody buys them and says say this about her.

Yeah, it's it's another marketing scam that people have been using to put to either deflect a story that's been posted on social media or to drive more eyes and ears and you know, and views to the story.

They're just mean.

So there's a lot of comments like I can't believe Tarma would break her dog's leg, and then somebody wrote I had to laugh about this one. They're like, I really think Tarma's going through menopause right now because the way she's acting is just not normal. And she's acting like this on TV too, And I'm like Oh my god, that ship has sailed. Yeah, I am well into my fifties. Yes, well, so lots about Rugby. Do you guys sleep with Rugby in your bed?

We tried it once the first time at home. It was not comfortable. He moves, he snorts, he farts, he he just kind of like you. Yeah, but there's only room for one on our bed for that. Okay. Yeah, we did have to have him sleep with this when we went to go see your mom. Yeah, and he was perfect. He's slept the good, he didn't move. It was the only time that he's ever slept with us, and it was okay. But I can't sleep with the dogs.

When you are out of town, which doesn't very often, I'll let him sleep in bed with me. Oh really, and he just puts his head on your pillow and just lays there.

Oh, he's really good.

He likes to climb on top of me.

Well, that's because you have a weird relationship with your dog, Like you're hugging him all the time. He's on top of you and you wrastle around in the grass with him, and he loves me. He's like the child you never had.

He is my little boy.

Yeah, and somebody asked you ever get jealous of how much Eddie loves Rugby. No, It's made my job so much easier.

Let me just tell you.

So, I'm an early riser, so I get up usually before you. I'll go downstairs. He still sleeps in his crate. He loves sleeping in his crate, so he's I get him out. He goes to the bathroom. I make my coffee, and then I go back upstairs. He follows me up, and he jumps in bed with you and lays next to you, on top of you and just and I'm like, okay, and it'll be fine for a while because I love my peace and quiet in the morning and nobody talking to me.

So it's like your ploy.

Yeah, so you can go hang out with your dog. I'm on my computer shopping Amazon.

You know. If you don't want me to see you in the morning, just say so. I won't talk to you, I won't acknowledge you. I'll go my way. I can talk after you have your coffee.

Would we ever consider moving to Big bear full time.

Well, we did consider it the first time we bought the house up there, and we spent so much time up there. I loved it so much. I remember I wanted to sell the house in Orange County and buy a bigger house up there. But I don't think I'm ready to live up there full time. I love getting away and just enjoying the time.

I think like maybe in ten years or so, maybe maybe maybe even maybe.

Even like the peace and quiet, I like the environment, like lowness of it nice. It's a great place to be, you know, but we'll see. I mean ten years is a long time from now. We might decide to go live in Europe.

Yeah, yeah, you never know.

It's nice to have as a second house, and we do spend a lot of time there, yeah, but probably not full time. And if we did move there full time, I would want a bigger house, Yeah, I not necessarily.

I don't need it that much bigger.

I just want one on more of a because there's residential straits we're very much on like Airbnb straight right right where there's not hardly anybody there. You don't have any neighbors, but there are areas where people live there full time, and the neighborhood's kept up better, you know, the yards are kept up better. How do we deal with conflict in making up after each other? I think

But the problem is the Housewive show.

Yes, I know.

The problem is is that when you get in an argument every six months, then you fight about everything that happened for six months.

You know, all the things that you did this and you did that.

But now I just six month period when you're filming the House five show.

Outside of that, because I get super stressed up, I.

Get along great. We talk about any potential issues we you know, and.

Also like you let me do my thing and I let you do your thing, and so there's not like a lot of jealousy. There's a lot of respect between us. So neither one of us Like I don't worried about you. I'm not worried about you going and hooking up with some girl. If you're out with your friends and I would hope. You don't think, you know, worry about that with me.

No, yeah, I know you love me and I have that connection with you and I don't have that insecurity, and that's not an issue. But it's okay to be away from each other once. Like I went on that motorcycle trip while.

You were in Amsterdam asterdam.

Yeah, you know, it just happened to work out at the same time. But I've gone to trips in Mexico without you with my guys. Yeah, dirt bikes, Yeah, dirt bike trip. I'm not there to go meet a girl or look at girls. And the guys I hang out with are so self respected they don't want to go to strip clubs or stuff like that. We're there to ride dirt bikes together.

You're growing, Yeah, you're doing. If you can relive one day of your marriage, what would it be? And I think we both agree on this one.

The wedding day was so amazing and magical and beautiful, and I think that it was so special because we were expecting it not to be special because it was televised.

Well yeah, and put in other words, I was for the bomb to drop because because it's reality to you it's reality TV, but it was so real, so special and did a great job. And I'm standing there on the altar literally taking it all in and realized, holy shit, this is for.

Real because, like little backstory, we were actually thinking of doing the wedding on TV and then going away and just getting married with the family, like something very casual, beach bare barefoot. Yeah, and then the wedding was so beautiful that we're like, no, we're good.

We're good good. It was a beautiful, beautiful moment.

What is the most ridiculous couple nicknames we have?

I don't have a ridiculous.

Name, Like, I don't refer to you hardly ever, as like if I'm going to yell for you in the house, I'm like.

Babe, babe.

Like I if I hear you go Tamra, I'm like, oh shit, which you don't do.

It's always babe.

Well, I only resort to Tamora when you don't answer.

Sometimes I don't hear very well.

Right, And it's because you're old, right, yeah.

Yeah, and you're old too.

We're the same age now that you're in your fifties, so we're five years apart. For people that are wondering, yes, I'm five years older. Back in the day when we first met, they're like, oh my god, people were thinking like I was fifteen years older than you or something.

Crazy.

What's one weird habit I have that secretly makes you question my sanity.

I'll answer that one. First. You're chewing.

It's not a habit. It's a normal thing.

No, it's not.

It is.

It's not normal.

The habit is having the habit of always getting annoyed because people around you chew. It's a normal thing. It's like you're going to get to the point where you can't breathe around me.

Oh so it's a my issue.

It's a U issue. Okay, you know people chew all the time.

Well, I have like weird sensory issues with chewing. Any kind of noise, Sitting at a restaurant with people behind me, somebody talking in my ear, all those make me want to punch somebody.

In the throat.

I know.

I can't even stick my tongue in your ear.

Oh oh for me, I think it drives me crazy that you can't do two things at once.

It's not a problem. It's called focus.

But this is it.

You'll be in your office on your computer, and I'll just come in and ask you, like a super simple question, like you want to go to lunch. You're like, literally, I'll have to ask you three times. Then you literally like turn your computer off, look at me, and go what I go? Do you want to You don't have to turn You.

Don't understand this because you've never been in the zone. When you're in the zone, No, I'm a woman.

I can do multiple things.

You can't know. It's proved, scientifically proven that multitasking is not a thing. It's stupid.

God, would you get that on GPT chat GPT.

Chat GPT right now and it'll tell me the same thing. No, but I'm focused. When i'll focus, you have to say, hey, get my attention, then ask the question. Otherwise I don't know what the hell you just said. I'm in the zone.

Okay. If you had to describe your love life with a movie title. With the movie title, what.

Would it be.

For me?

Silence of the lamb minds, one flew.

Over the Cucka's nest. Oh god, you're going one day? No, I mean, I'll joking aside, that's just we usually go for the humor.

Yeah, I don't know. Under the Tuscan Son your favorite movie. That's kind of a fantasy for us to move to Tuscany one day and ye have a house like that. That's beautiful.

I don't know where was this the last one? Where was the most random place you ever? Well, this is made out but ever gotten.

Freaky and it was the one and last time because you are so damn conservative. When we first met, we were in Panama and I invited you on that trip, flew you out. We were on an island and so you.

Were already in Panama doing something, and then I flew out, flew out because I had the kids. I had to wait till it was his turn. Yep, so flew out by myself, which I had never done anything like that.

You got your passport for the first time. That was your first.

I had a passport because I went to Mexico and so basically, first it was in the bathroom at the restaurant in Panama, and.

Then it was in the jungle.

In the jungle.

Now I just the most random place the bedroom.

Yeah, not even our bathroom anymore.

That I just yeah, you know, you get older, you get tired, and it's like you're like, hey, I'll get you tomorrow, yeah, the next day, whatever it is.

But yeah, that was it awesome.

But thank you for being on the podcast for the very first time.

You. I feel privileged to be podcast, a successful podcast, and I'm very proud of you.

Yeah, thank you.

Thanks guys for tuning in to another episode of to Teas and a Pod Twarts, You're a twat.