How to Unlock Your Life Code for Personal Success w/Babs Faseesin

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In this week , as we talk about the help you need to remove the mystery from podcasting so you can become a successful podcaster that can reach your audience where they are . Today , I have the pleasure of speaking with Babs Faseesin . Thank you for being on Tools of the Podcast Trade . I really appreciate you .

We help them essentially achieve that simple goal of becoming better versions of themselves . So , the Chief Strategy Officer of Roads Consulting and that's what I would call essentially my day job I am the author of Crackin' the Life Code , a recent book that I released earlier this year . So this three essentially summarizes who I am as of today .

When a child arrives on planet Earth , by the circumstances surrounding the child's birth , the people in the child's life , the adults primarily , which might include immediate family members , friends , maybe teachers , educational teachers , spiritual leaders and everybody around the circles that the child is born in begin to determine what the child is programmed with .

And at that point , as they speak and they act and behave in the presence of the child , they essentially send stimulus into the child's mind . And the child has been programmed . Now , these codes by which the child is programmed then becomes habits , mindsets and behaviors by which the child navigates life further down as the child begins to grow .

So when we come to a point in life because we don't get to choose those signals at birth , so we can't really tell if they are helpful signals , the words that have been said , the mindset that we are adopting , the behaviors as kids , we can't really differentiate between the good ones and the bad ones , so we just take on whatever comes our way .

But then , when we become adults and we are beginning to navigate the different areas of our life , it becomes necessary for us to take a break and say , hey , how are these codes helping me ? How are these codes hindering me ? Are they in any way helping me achieve success in these areas of my life ? If yes , great .

If no , it's about time to crack those codes and replace them with new , positive and empowering codes . So that's primarily , in a nutshell , what cracking a life code is about . Really .

It broke my heart to see my mom cry , but even more so to understand why she was crying , and so I made a determination as a young boy that I would do everything within my power to ensure that I build a life that enables me to provide help to the people that I love at every point that they might need to help .

And so this whole journey of wanting to understand what exactly is life about and that's when the entire curiosity and the desire for change , for something better , that's where it started for me , and so , as I continued in my early teenage life , I just continued on that path .

I understood that , while other kids were out in the field playing and having a good time , for me I had something within me , and it was just that fact that I wanted to understand what else life had to offer than the experiences that surrounded my childhood . I knew there had to be more to life than the ones that I experienced .

I did experience devastation , poverty and lack in all of those . You know , that was the situation I was being raised in . But I knew there had to be more to life than all that I experienced , and I just needed to research and needed to find that out . That's where the entire journey began , and so I began to read books .

I began to attend conferences , listen to speakers , people who had very interesting lessons to share , and I continued through that , through college and all the way through my career .

So , as it came , as COVID hit two years ago , I decided , after over 20 years of this , you know , intensive journey of personal growth and personal development , I should probably put all of these lessons together into a book and maybe pass that on to someone else who might want to travel the same path as I did and maybe just help them shorten , you know , the

learning curve and maybe they might find some value in the book . That's really why I got on it .

You started to ponder why is it like this ? You couldn't help your mom , but you knew there was some way , there was a reason , there was something that you could do . You just didn't know what it was . You went searching for it , right .

I'm tongue-tied because this is very interesting to me , that you know , a young man such as yourself would take it upon himself to find out for lack of a better term the meaning of life and the meaning of your life as it pertains to you and your family . Yeah , what's . Sorry , go ahead .

So I did carry that responsibility very seriously as a young kid to ensure that I provided direction for my younger siblings At the time .

. And was your mom a solo mom ? Did she raise you guys alone ?

She was the first to wake up every day and the last to go to bed . She had multiple other businesses . Both my parents even though we're professionals they still had side businesses that they had to get into . So mom had all these other businesses and then had a nine to five and I saw that she put everybody first and she was the last on the list .

And every time I looked at her and how much she carried on her shoulders , wanting to be the best wife , wanting to be the best mother , wanting to be the best sister , the best cousin there is , and carrying the shoulder , you know , the responsibility of the entire family and without necessarily paying attention to herself .

And sadly I have to say that that came back around years later where she's health began to take a negative turn . And there's only so much we can do with our human body . There's only so much stress we can subject the body to .

So mom went through a lot of these stress just trying to show up in the best way possible for her family , for her friends and the people in her life .

So it's it's about a year past and it's been a really difficult time for and my family , especially just some . You know , thinking through all that she went through and you know her journey having to be caught .

You're pretty short in life , but I believe very strongly that a lot of the lessons that I've picked from her life have been , have been with me and have continued to shape the man that I've become and the same man that my younger ones have become .

So , although she's not with us and I would really wish that she was so she could literally just see the beauty that she created and enjoy , you know , the that wonderful results of the hard work .

So we want to focus on the things that money cannot buy versus the things that money can buy . And I understand that , just being caretakers , there's an unending desire , an unending need to meet everybody's need . It's just the way I perceive that mothers are wired .

But it's usually encouraging to find that , to know that sometimes mothers can also just sit back and put themselves first .

So you're truly blessed to have had her as a mother All right now that you've given those words of wisdom to moms and solo moms who may be listening , in order for us to live a life on purpose , so that we remember to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first . Right , how can one design a life plan , a life plan that encompasses taking care of ourselves ?

Realistic self-assessment essentially takes a look at the different areas of our lives , from finance to relationship , business to career , to every area of life that's important to the individual .

Using what I call the tool called the wheel of life , we can explore and just have a look at each one area of life and ask ourselves simple questions like how satisfied am I with this area of my life ? What are the opportunities for growth in this area of my life ?

And the last question is are there any opportunities for me to contribute to the world beyond me or the world outside of me or society in general in this area of my life ? As we begin to think through this , what I find very often is a lot of people have time for everything else but don't quite make time for themselves .

So what we wanna do is just have some time out for ourselves as we take care of everything else . And now , during this time , we wanna reflect on our lives and these key areas of our lives and ask ourselves those realistic questions . I did an extensive workbook area or workbook part of my book cracking the life code . That can be very , very helpful .

Just walking through that workbook can help you reflect and think through what actions you need to take to put yourself first or what actions you need to take to ensure that you're constantly maintaining balance . I did talk about how to maintain balance in life , in career , in business , in relationship , in every area of life .

It's very important constantly to ensure that we're maintaining balance . So , yeah , I think the primary thing is to pay attention to ourselves is the first thing .

Let's pay attention to ourselves , let's do some self reflection , let's do what I call the realistic self assessment and as we do this , we can begin to see what might be off from our lives and then we can begin to figure out how we might pull these back together to maintain balance . It's an ongoing process .

We would always have to constantly walk to ensure that we're trying to maintain balance and put ourselves in the center .

I believe that these areas of life are fundamental to personal success , and so I did a deep dive into every one of these areas , talking about what mindsets , what behaviors and what habits might limit us from achieving great success in each one of these areas of our lives .

And so , when I got into health and wellness , I did talk about mom briefly in the health and wellness part , because I know that very often we can prioritize career but then not prioritize our health and wellness , which in this case was the case for my mom , and so I talked about that very briefly , how we need to ensure that what we pay attention to our

health and our wellness . I did talk about career , I did talk about finances and all of those . So the book is I believe it's just a manual that helps to navigate the different areas of life , and I ended the book with the walkbook section , which again helps the reader to reflect and then commit to action .

In all of the books that I've read , I found that the most impactful books are the ones that actually led me to take action .

I've read so many books , some of them , yeah , great lessons but then the ones that really led me to taking action were my most favorite books , and so , ever since I thought about writing a book , I've always wanted to write a book that helps the reader to commit to action , because I do believe that the only way we can change our lives , our situation , is to

take massive action , and so the walkbook element enables the reader to take action , to commit to action and just basic little steps that can help us get there . Essentially , the primary premise is that I am really looking that readers would commit to becoming 1% better each day . That's all I really ask for .

It's 1% better each day versus looking at the holistic and massive vision that becomes overwhelming .

Essentially , if we crack the life code , what we are doing is we're stopping certain behaviors , habits and mindsets and we're adopting new , positive ones . Now it's not enough to just adopt those . What we do essentially , after adopting new , positive and empowering mindsets and behaviors and habits , is to transport them to the next generation .

So if there's any reason we want to crack the life code at all , it's just so we could have the next generation enjoy the benefits of a better code , of a better mindset , of better behavior , so they could lead a better life than ours .

Ideally , every generation is expected to be an improvement over the former , so it's our responsibility to ensure that the next generation is better than ours , and to do so , we need to crack the life code now , so we can transfer better codes to the generations yet unborn .

Any might seem as though they are not recognized , they are not seen , but truly I believe that you are the strongest and the biggest heroes we could ever ask for , because you're the uncelebrated , you're the unrecognized , but then you do far more than the ones that we see .

I think it's important that , as we close , that we pay attention to ourselves as solar moms . This is essentially my one ask for today . If you , if there's anything you want to do after this episode , I want you to just take a moment and ask yourself what's the one thing that I can do today that really just puts me first ?

What is that one thing that is really about me ? Because you cannot pour out of an empty glass , so you need to pour fill yourself first before you can pour onto others . And as much as you want to do all these for everyone else , please pay attention to yourself . Think about my mom , please .

The fact that you're still here is victory . So gratitude , and gratitude , and gratitude . Always remember to be grateful for something specific every day .