Success isn’t linear. What I wish I knew at 29.

Hi everyone, My name is Michelle. I'm currently at TikTok. I work on special projects, started my career actually mostly in investing. I did private equity and then growth equity investing for about over a decade. I'm 29 years old now. What advice would you give to your 29 year old self? We see a lot of people around you doing interesting things and I was always like, how do I be part of all of that? It was very good for having strong drive, but it really

wasn't good for mental health. You know, there's a lot of anxiety right now, especially with, you know, just graduate thinking and a lot of people are still job searching. Life is very nonlinear. Good things happen to different people at different time, different different stage in their life. What is a failure that you are most grateful for and what did you learn from it? I felt like my life was shattering in front of me.

Today we interviewed Michelle Huang, who's head of special projects at TikTok. Used to be an investor at Blackstone and also worked in the office of the CEO at Lauro Piano. Really just a Renaissance woman, truly. She gets very personal with us in this conversation and shares some of her life philosophies that apply both to her personal and also professional. Career. Yeah, this one really got me thinking and reflecting. I'm Cherie and I'm Jean and

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We have sweatshirts and T-shirts that we designed ourselves. Go check it out and please US Five stars on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. These ratings are so important for the distribution and survival of Tiger Sisters podcast. Thank you for your support. So could you please introduce yourself for our audience? Of course, so happy to be here. Hi, everyone. My name is Michelle. I'm currently at TikTok working

on special projects. And Prior to joining TikTok about four years ago, I started my career actually mostly in investing. I did private equity and then growth equity investing for about over a decade.

Sure, I'm 29 years old now. What advice would you give to your 29 year old self? Well first of all, I'm very obvious. I wish I were 29. The one advice I'll give my 29 year old self would be just to be more patient. I think when I was your age. I also recently just graduated from Stanford Business School then and I think I was just very anxious. I think professionally, personally, just doing the next thing, joining the next big thing, being part of the next

thing. It was and I it was very anxious. I don't think I was grounded at the time at all. And I, you see a lot of people around you, you know, doing interesting things. And I was always like, how do I be part of all of that? And, and honestly just wasn't very good. It was very good for having strong drive, but it really wasn't good for mental health. And, and, and I think just over time I realized, I think life is very non linear and just be patient. Good things happen to good

people. If you keep doing whatever it is that you like and it fits you like things, good things will come. So and good things happen to different people at different time, different different stage in their life. And you'll have your own moment. And who knows when it is, but you'll have it. Thank you for saying that. That resonates very deeply.

I think me and then also my classmates, you know, there's a lot of anxiety right now, especially with, you know, just graduating and a lot of people are still job searching, especially given the macro environment, macro economy. And so yeah, definitely that anxiety and also like looking around at peers is very much a thing when you're comparing

yourself to your class. I yeah, I think a few, the first few years coming out of Business School, especially for me was tough because I think that was when anxiety was at its highest. And also 29 is also a year where everyone's turning 30, so. So it's almost worse than being 30 exactly, but. Once you realize, so that's why giving advice to 29 is very interesting because once you pass that is that that anxiety, that anticipation, that's actually the most painful.

But once you cross that, you're like, life is life goes on and life is great. So and you just fully embrace it. Actually, it's only the beginning. Exactly, it really is. And I really think life is so, so long. And I, and I'm also saying this to myself because I am way more than 29 now. So but I do think, you know, people reinvent themselves all the time. Like, I think really you see a lot of people who who really hit their strides at just different times in life.

Yeah. So so be patient.

I love that. So the next question is kind of a 180. It's about failure moments, yes, but I do really like this framing. So what is a failure that you are most grateful for, and what did you learn from it? OK, I'm going to, I'm going to say something that sounds really that is very personal, but also sounds very, very cheesy. And I really sounds like first world problem, but I will share it anyway. So, so this is when I was 20. This is when I was 2625 years

old. So at the I'll, I'll just give you, I just met you, but I'll give you the full background. So I was dating my college boyfriend for a very long time. He my, I had grew up in Boston at that point and he was going to Harvard Medical School. The, my dream at the time when I was 26 was I was going to go to Harvard Business School and we're going to, you know, get married and live in white, pick a fence house. So, so a couple things happened that fall. One is we actually broke up.

So I felt like my life was life was shattering in front of me. And two, I also didn't get into HBS. So, so I think again, all of this really sounds like first world problems at this point, but I think for 26 year old it was a very thing too. It just meant like I, I thought my life, the course of my life had to change at least. But I think just learning a lot about resilience, right? Just so you know, you, how do you bounce back from it?

How do you, you know, then change a course of life? I think there was a lot that they just really believing and, you know, like what's meant to be. And I used to think, you know, there's a will, there's a way. I think, I now think just embrace what's in front of you and just keep going on the path that you're on. Yeah, I really appreciate you sharing that. I think probably just like the hardest part is having like a vision of what things might be like and trying your hardest to

make that work. But then the universe might have different plans at the end of the day. And and just embracing the universe. Yeah, yeah. That's really beautiful. And I think, I mean, I'm taking a lot of way, a lot away from that, more than you realize. And I know a lot of people watching this will as well. Yeah, well, thank. You so thank you for sharing that. The next question is around hot takes.

So what is a hot take that you have or belief that you have that you know might be a little bit more contrarian either about your work, your industry or any hot take you out? I really do believe in like good things happen to good people. I think. I think also just kind of tying a lot of things together, right. But you really have to look at

it in the long run. I think maybe in the short run, you know, cutting a few corners here and there or you know, saying things, doing some things in a certain way can be really beneficial. But if you really look at it in the long run, like you just really good things happen to the people. So like just really keeping that longer term mentality. A few more questions.

This one's more fun, so this one's about travel. What is a travel recommendation that you have? Either a city or a place that you like to go to when you're taking a break from work. So I'll give you my most recent travel tip. So I was in, I was in Sandinavia for the first time this summer. So it was also. Because it was so. Hot in New York, so I need to go

somewhere cooler. Plus people always say Scandinavians are the happiest people in the world, so I need to check it out for myself why they're so happy. So it was lovely. I spent two weeks across Stockholm and Copenhagen, and I also discovered the the secret happiness. And which is? Can't share, which is I guess hot take there is the reason why the the Scandis are so happy apparently after talking to a bunch of them, is they have low expectations.

So when it's because the winters are so long and when there's first sight of spring, they get so happy when the and because they're so the summer days are so they're so few of them. So when it's a sunny day, people are so happy. So they really treasure a lot of these things and, and plus it's a very, very peaceful society and just very happy people. Also, Scandinavia during the summer is just so gorgeous. The vibes are. Great. Yeah, the vibes are it's Midsummer.

The vibes are top notch. So the next question is around

your first job. So what was your first? What was your first job and how did it shape your work ethic? And this could be, you know, your first job as a kid or your first job out of school. Yeah, so my first job. So I did, maybe I'll give you my, my first two jobs. So I did consulting right after college for about a little bit under a year. And then I did private equity. So I was in New York 1st and then I moved to Hong Kong. In terms of how it shaped my you said.

Work ethic. Yeah, I think a lot of it was actually just like working really hard. Yeah, I, I think one of the thing was, I think 1 is in consulting because everything was new. So it felt like, for me, it really felt like I got paid to just learn a lot. So I did have that intellectual curiosity. So it felt like, yes, it was a lot of work, but also just felt like playground because

everything was new. So I had a lot of drive to just learn new things and then and then in my next job in private equity, it was a brand, brand, brand new industry and I really didn't have any prior experience in it. A lot of my cohort who came in actually had more finance background. So again, a lot of how it shaped me really just thrown into a new environment and really learning new things and just giving yourself the confidence that you

can't pick up things. Growth mindset and and very much like a willingness and a desire to learn and grow and do that over again. Yes, yes, yes. You can always like pick up new skills reinventing your results so. I love that. So the last question for you is around Conference 2024. So what do you hope to get out of conference or what are you looking forward to? And what is the most valuable

part of Conference 2024? I think what conference, at least for me is it does a really good job bringing together people from really different walks of lights because there's a certain conferences, conference with AC that you know, focus on whether you know, a subgroup like whether there is a certain investors or entrepreneurs or healthcare.

Yeah, so the industry. But I think this one almost feels like there's no particular agenda in terms of what they're trying to do, but just really bring together a a group of very interesting people and you let you let people form these connections organically and like a lot of good things happen. That's well said, very well put. I feel like the the talks that we've had and the conversations you just have over dinner, very organic and people that I normally wouldn't talk to.

It's different when it's like industry focused. This is 1 purely on tech or AI, but so many different people are coming and I think there's the most learning there. Yeah, yeah, Very cool. Awesome. So that's it. Oh well, thank you. Yeah, what a great conversation with Michelle.

Yeah, I loved watching you do the conversation while you were filming it. It was really, it was really fun to, like, listen to it back too, yeah. Before we get to the main takeaways, Please remember to like, comment, and subscribe. And if you could rate US on Apple Podcast and Spotify, it would mean the world to us. And it only takes a few seconds to do 5 stars. Awesome. We'll be right back with the takeaways right after this break. Hey everyone, quick break to share something special.

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So the first thing that I noticed in the conversation with Michelle is how in tune she is with herself. And I think of the guest that we've had on the season of Tiger Sisters. She's like very emotionally aware of how she feels in each and every situation, whether

it's personal or professional. I think one of the main conversation topics that really stood out to me was when she shared a really personal anecdote of when she and her boyfriend at the time broke up. And it really changed the trajectory of where she thought she wanted to go because she had a grand plan for her career, and this was kind of part of that grand plan. Yeah, she thought she was going to be an HBS girly, so then she ended up being a Stanford GSB

girly instead. Which is also OK. Which is, it's good too, you know. It's a good. School too. It's also a good. School, I mean, I didn't really expect her to go that deep and she's honestly like, we just met a few minutes ago, but I will go there and I really appreciated that because it shows like a little bit more about like what she cared about and honestly a very vulnerable moment.

Yeah, I think it's also, I don't know, I thought it was very noticeable to me that she was one of the few people that actually brought in her personal life into the conversation in a way that wasn't related to like, her career directly at all. But she was like, this is something that had a major effect on me and my life and therefore my career. Like, it's, you know, because life is not that cut and dry. You can't just separate your life life from your career life,

your work life. It's all intertwined, actually. That's kind of what our podcast is all about, yeah. Like hey. It's like your work life and your personal life, especially if you're someone who is, you know, a go getter and like your work life and your personal life are kind of mixed. Like it's on your mind as much as you try to separate it. And Michelle and I think we are those people who kind of have it intertwined. And if you are too, it's just it goes to show how they're kind of

related. And there's always trade-offs. And I so relate to her plan because even when she said it out loud to us, I was like, wow, that's a perfect plan. Because she was saying how her boyfriend at the time was going to Harvard Medical School or was accepted Harvard Medical School. And so she was like, oh, it would be perfect for me to then at the same time go to Harvard Business School.

So then we can move to Boston together and then we can have this like, you know, beautiful, like student life together. And like, well, I was like, wow, that does sound too great. I saw I saw that life for her as well. But then she was like, yeah, then I didn't get into Harvard Business School and I broke up with my boyfriend. And so I could just, I, I relate to like the younger version of her so much because that's just very, very unmooring.

And I feel like that's also kind of what happened to me recently. You know, it's like two huge things happened to me in 2024, which is that one, I left my corporate job of seven years at Snapchat and left corporate life overall, which is the only thing I've ever known really aside from student life. And then two, I ended my engagement of a relationship of eight years. So like both of those are I wouldn't even say equally. I think the personal one is even bigger. I don't know but it.

Is bigger I think. Yeah, but like it's just very unmooring because then you're like, who am I? You know, because so much of your identity is tied up in like 1 your career. If you're like a very career oriented, ambitious person. And then also so much of your identity is built up with your partner, like so many of your like friend groups and the way that people, a lot of people over the last eight years, like when they met me, they only ever knew me as a partnered person. Right, like.

In context with this one other person. So you're just like, who am I? Like I'm not head of product. It's not but anymore I'm not, you know, Gene an ex person anymore. It's just. Who watches my stories? Sometimes I think that's why. I don't know why. Like I see this person, I read my IG stories and I was like, what are you do? I'm like, Ariana, what are you doing here? Like you shouldn't be watching my stories anymore. But yeah, I'm like, who am I? Yeah.

I mean, I think it's real. It's like, so it's a untethering, untethered feeling. You know, as Michelle was saying, it's like when you have a vision for career or personal life, or like the way that it's tied, like not having that anymore is a strange feeling. Yeah, and I also really like the

other thing she said, which is that different things happen for different people at different times. Different good things, different bad things, just different things happen in different periods of your life. Just because it didn't happen for you at a certain point in your life the same time as your friends, doesn't mean it's not going to happen, and it doesn't mean that you know the timeline that you're on is not what is best for you.

Sorry for all the double negatives, but I think you get my meaning. I got it. No, it's clicking for me. Yeah, and, and can I just, I want to quote her specifically, she said. I really think life is so, so long. People reinvent themselves all the time now. You see a lot of people who hit their strides at different times

in life, and I really love that. And it made me think about my own past where, you know, we're doing Sisters worldwide now, we're doing Sisters Macho, we're doing Tiger Sisters. We have our own startup. And what I don't talk about a lot is that this is not my first startup. This is actually my second startup. This ain't her first rodeo. This ain't my first rodeo. I've fallen off the horse before, but yeah, I actually had my own startup back in 20, 16 that I ran for a year.

We had customers, I worked on it full time, I had an entire team and it failed. I shut it down after about a year because I was like, this is not on the path that I want it to be and it's not what I'm going to do after Business School. So like I had set up parameters to try to make the experiment or to try to make it as safe as possible for me to fail, but regardless I failed. So this is actually my like second go at having a startup and. Things are different this time.

Yeah, you got me. I got my bud right here. And it is. Things are different though. That actually is the main difference, but. Wait, that things are different or me? Well, you. Duh. Well, also things are different that you also have like 7 years of operating experience in a different product role, a much

more like highly visible. Product role, totally And like in that period between then and now, like I've done like $100 million deals like I've done I've run major teams like I've built up entire business units and I had never done that when I started my first company. It kind of is like what Vu was saying. Yeah, Vu was saying that he he did Y Combinator twice. The first time he he was 18 and 19, and the second time he was 2223.

And he was like, those two times were a world of difference because we were like, oh, what happened with your first company? He was like, I was 18. It failed. We'll link the conversation with you. It was an earlier podcast. Great conversation. We'll link it here if you guys are interested in listening to that. Yeah. But yeah, I think it just goes to show, just because you fail at something one time doesn't mean that you're not destined to do it.

Yeah. And it also, I think it's really powerful too, because then you have to have a perspective of like, wanting to get back on the horse. Like going with this analogy, not your first rodeo, you fell off the horse. You want to get back on the horse and like, try it again. It's like a persistence, great resilience mindset. Yeah, also, I love horses.

I don't know if it was because it was me talking to Michelle and like we were just like bouncing off one another. Like the vibes were totally there. And like how we talk to one another and like it seems like we both like subscribe to kind of what you were saying, like what will happen happens and timing. And like, I think I don't even know if she said it or I said it, but I was just like, oh, it's like what the universe has

planned for you. So like, if the conversation like went there and I'm like really glad that it did because often like I really believe in like what will happen will happen, like karma and all this stuff. And I've talked to a few leaders about this, but like, people don't publicly really talk about it, you know? Well, there's the idea of like a higher power, yeah. Or Destiny. Yeah, one of the associations that I had was like, what is the formula for happiness?

And like I like somewhere like where people like happiness equals like expectations minus reality and how big that delta is. And so I thought that was, it was just like a really interesting, like a another association that I have. Yeah, well, so she actually brought that up when we asked her about her favorite travel recommendation, and she said it was like Scandinavia, right? And they were happy because they had lower expectations or like something. With like the weather or like

weather like, you know. What I'm saying that it's like dark there most of the year and so when they do have a sunny day, they're so happy for it, but because they expect a gloomy day or like a day without sun most of the time that they like so much more appreciate the sunny days. Yeah, which is really powerful. I like that a lot. It's like an analogy of itself in and of itself. Yes, yes. And so, yeah, happiness equals reality minus expectation. And how big that or small that

delta? Is yeah. So if you have. Expectations are lower and reality is there. You're very happy. I think it's also back to what she was saying earlier. It's also an element of letting go of certain dreams or paths that you had seen yourself on when they are not your path.

Or doesn't pan out. Yeah, when it doesn't pan out, like if not some, if something isn't meant for you, then being able to like let go of that so that you can receive, so that you can receive like the future blessings and the future opportunities and like have your eyes open to that as opposed to still being fixated on like what didn't happen for you. Well, you know, there's a Helen Keller quote that that talks to the. No dude, she's just. I got, I got quotes up here, Quotes.

No, it's perfect. Is it Archduke Ferdinand? No, it's not Archduke Ferdinand. It's a Helen Keller quote where she goes when one door closes, another window of opportunity opens, but you have to be searching for the other window of opportunity rather than looking at the closed door. Yeah, I'm paraphrasing, but that's basically, yeah, the Helen color. Did she really say that or is it one of those things that are like attributed to Mark Twain, the Dalai Lama, The Dalai Lama said Mark.

Twain said. Keller said Albert. Einstein said no, I think she, I think she said it. Did you do a report on Helen Keller once or was that me? I learned about Helen Keller. We watched the movie in like third grade. She was a big part of our curriculum on Long Island. I don't know. Why she was? She was. She was. We were heavy on Helen Keller. She's inspiring. And also the three O3 song. Move your hips. Shush girl, shut your lips to the Helen Kellen and talk with your hips.

That said, girls, no. Anyone I know? That's all. What is the hand signal? I'm not. I'm not even going to try for 3:03, but that was also my 7th grade. OK, no, So yeah, it's it's in you, it's relative, yes.

The other thing that Michelle talked about that I loved is that she said how her first job, what it ultimately gave her is the confidence that you can pick things up or her first couple

jobs. Because she said first she did consulting and after that she moved into PE where she was kind of like a peg below everyone because she hadn't done finance before getting into PE. So she was like everyone else was really practiced and making all these models and then basically done the job before or a version of the job. And she was like automatically behind on 1st day she started.

But she was like, what that did was it gave me the confidence to know that I can do, I can learn anything. I think that's like such a powerful mindset for I don't know, like any like any young person is that you can pick things up, you can learn them. And like, if you stop learning and like growing, then like that's kind of like the death to like, I don't know your curiosity, the death. Knell, what's that? It's like the the blow, the death, the blow of death. Oh, final pass.

I don't know. I mean, also something that we didn't really mention in the interview is that like how many experiences Michelle has had that like shape who she is? She is so accomplished. Yeah, and and. Humble and humble. Because, like, she doesn't even talk about it. So, like, you wouldn't even know. But like, I just kind of want to read off, like, all the varied experiences that she's had.

Like, Jean says she used to work in consulting private equity at Blackstone. She worked in the office, so the CEO of Lauro Piana, which I feel like we need another conversation with her because like. You know, I want to know about that. We didn't. Even get to talk about it like that's so sick. Yeah. And does she still get discounts? Just kidding, I don't know if they do discounts, but yeah. She also most recently works at TikTok in the special projects

office, which is just so cool. And you can see from these, like, different experiences, like how she grows and learns on the job. Yeah. So she's head of special projects, which from what I know is an extremely important and highly influential role. That's like shaping the strategy and. Direction. Yeah, the direction of TikTok. She's so cool. Michelle is also a GSP grad, so

like off screen. And then also the after the interview, like a bunch of us went out to dinner together and you can't really see town screen. But like, we were talking to her and also other people who are GSP grads. And it's just like a really. It reminded me like the network of GSP is far larger than I had thought because like, I have my classmates, but then it's like, so fun connecting with alums too. Yeah. Especially like at these conferences where like, we don't, I don't know anyone.

I don't have anything in common with them, but then like this thing just comes up that I'm like, oh, I recently graduated GSP. They're like, oh, I went to GSP. It's just like so topical, especially because I just since graduated. And we also have another interview coming up with John Redgrave, who is another Stanford GSP graduate. The familiarity and the like. Inside jokes like are. Totally a thing.

We have that at Harvard, but we have that at Stanford, and so I do. Think it's really cool they have like these like classes that everyone like everyone takes about and like it is very, it is very cute. It's giving, it's giving Dartmouth vibes. OK, she has another reference to an Ivy League that she has to bring up. Oh my. God, bro, but that's what it reminds me of. It does like everyone has like really strong associate really strong positive associations with it.

So like it's like if you meet another Dartmouth person, then you have to like talk about the fact that you're from Dartmouth together and like you just have like word vomit. You can't stop yourself. It's like a compulsion so that I feel like you guys are the same at the Stanford. It's like a compulsion. You have to. I. Think I mean it it it does speak to the power of the culture that we've built with the strength so. Small. Yeah, that like it. It feels very familial.

Yeah, yeah, you're just like naturally. Obsessed. Yeah, naturally obsessed.

And then the one thing I wanted to close on was just a quote that Michelle said that I really liked. And I just want to leave it there for everyone to kind of sit with at the end. And she said, how do you change the course of your life? Embrace what's in front of you. I love that I will be journaling that and they love that for the next days. Thank you. Yeah, she just had like. Wisdom. She had wisdom, she had bangers, and she was just saying them casually. I was like, wow, she's really

thoughtful. She's really something, yes.

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