Welcome to the final episode of my five-part podcast series, Why Did No One Warn Us About This Midlife Sh t?* If you’ve been feeling like the life you built doesn’t quite fit anymore, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Today's episode? This Isn’t the Life I Ordered. Now What? The episode is all about the gut-punch realization many of us face in midlife: you can create a life that looks “perfect” on paper and still feel deeply disconnected from it. Maybe the house, the career, the relationsh...
Jun 04, 2025•35 min
In Episode 4 of my five-part series, I’m talking about something that hits all of us in midlife: the rage. That low-key, high-voltage, "I swear to God if the dishwasher beeps one more time..." kind of rage. Here’s the thing: You’re not broken. You’re not crazy. You’re just awake — and your nervous system is officially done putting up with the bullshit. 🧠 In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why the rage isn’t random — and why it’s not a flaw What’s really going on in your body (hello perimenopau...
Jun 03, 2025•33 min
EPISODE 3: Why We Don't Like Ourselves Very Much (Gen X Women Edition) 💥 In Episode 3 of my five-part series, I’m getting real about the deep, invisible ways women—especially Gen X women—were taught from day fucking one not to actually like ourselves. 🧠 I’m breaking down why so many of us struggle with self-worth, how it’s completely different from self-esteem or confidence, and why no amount of gold stars, trophies, or people-pleasing will fill the damn gap. 🙋♀️ In this episode, I’m calling...
May 30, 2025•47 min
Fuck Being the Strong One! 💥 Episode 2 of our 5-part podcast series is here — and we’re coming for the “strong one” identity Gen X women were handed without consent. 🧠 In this powerful, hilarious, and painfully honest episode, Kira breaks down the emotional toll of always being the capable, dependable, fix-it-all one — and why it’s not strength, it’s survival mode. 🙋♀️ If you’ve ever: Been the unofficial family therapist, tech support, and event planner — all before noon Managed everyone els...
May 29, 2025•28 min
Welcome to Part 1 of my brand-new series, Why Did Nobody Warn Us About This Shit?! – five no-holds-barred episodes exploring the real, raw, hilarious, and sometimes heartbreaking truths about midlife. Spoiler alert: It’s way more than hot flashes. In this episode, I’m talking about the physical, emotional, and psychological curveballs no one prepared us for— The 3:00 AM brain TED Talks The unpredictable emotional rollercoaster The friendships that fade or fall apart The crippling nostalgia and w...
May 28, 2025•35 min
Hello there, sugar pants. I'm back—and whew, life has been a lot lately. But today, I’m diving into something that’s been messing with way too many of us for way too long: perfection . We’ve been taught that if we can just get it right —be good enough, successful enough, lovable enough—then life will finally feel better. But here’s the truth: you can’t love perfect . You can’t be perfect. And trying to is killing your joy, your creativity, your connection—and your relationships. In this episode,...
May 23, 2025•42 min
Welcome back, Thrive fam! I'm back with a laugh-out-loud, no-BS episode about why midlife women are just too damn old for over-giving, over-thinking, and pretending everything’s “fine.” If you’re ready to ditch people-pleasing and finally build self-worth, this episode is your must-listen. In This Episode: Where the heck have I been? (Spoiler: Thrive Midlife Group wins, real-life curveballs, and yes, Danny’s hip replacement) How Gen X women were conditioned to over-give (and why it’s time to sto...
Apr 26, 2025•50 min
TWO SPOTS LEFT for THRIVE Midlife Program! My brand new positive psychology program with optional retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to Stop Overthinking, Realize Your Worth, & Have the BEST YEAR OF YOUR LIFE! ✨ Ditch the stuff that’s making you feel stuck. ✨ Discover what lights you up (and keeps you glowing). ✨ Build tools to deal with life’s chaos without burning out. No more rinse-and-repeat. Let’s get you back to feeling alive, vibrant, and (dare I s...
Dec 29, 2024•38 min
Not all advice is created equal. Some of it is gold, but a lot of it? Straight-up garbage. This episode is about shaking off the bad advice that keeps us stuck and stepping into 2025 ready to own it. If you’re tired of the same old stuck, it’s time to shake things up. Your next chapter isn’t going to write itself—so let’s make it the best one yet. Ready to Make 2025 the best year of Your Life? Check out Thrive!...
Dec 08, 2024•32 min
After a good convo on my Rom-Com Rescue podcast where we talked about 2006 Classic rom-com, The Holiday , it made me think about crushes and unrequited love. My own experience and what I have learned (good and not-so-good) about crushes over the years. I share some personal stories and try to answer the question, if crushes and unrequited love feels so bad, why do we keep having them? Don't forget there is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out that is on sale through 11/24/24. New prices start ...
Nov 22, 2024•35 min
Well, it's been a week. This week on the podcast I talk about... How the election results have had me reeling. The stages I went through the last week. What is the most important thigns we can do right now. There is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out today that is on sale through the weekend. New prices start at $499 a month. Check it out at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com
Nov 14, 2024•31 min
I think one of the roughest parts of being in midlife is realizing that most of the things you were taught about being a girl/woman growing were complete and total BS. I feel like I have been spending YEARS gut-checking my beliefs and realizing a bunch of the ideas I was sold were based in old school misogyny and were keeping me in a fear/scarcity place. Today I go through 10 Beliefs I was raised with that were complete BS! Maybe you learned them too. If you are ready to examine your beliefs and...
Nov 02, 2024•43 min
To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the J oy Journey Substack Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same. After a break for the flu, I'm on day 10 of my Joy Journey and I talk about something that I have noticed coming up...the curse of overthinking. Today I breakdown: a great quote on overthinking that inspired this episode what overthinking is and why we do it the three types of ov...
Sep 10, 2024•26 min
To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the J oy Journey Substack Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same. I'm on day 8 of my Joy Journey. I check in on how it's going and some of the surprises so far. But more importantly, today I breakdown the difference between the fixed vs growth mindset and why it matters. I share: what a mindset is how you got your mindset the difference between...
Aug 29, 2024•48 min
Join me on the Joy Journey at my J oy Journey Substack. Watch the video version here. Here is the truth. Things have gotten really rough for me. Between midlife/aging perimenopause, and just THE 🌎 in general, I feel like I am just pushing through and getting by…and it’s not working anymore. I’m not sure that has ever worked. But man that’s what I was taught. Suck it up buttercup and deal. Nope. I know better, so I’m doing something about it. Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find m...
Aug 18, 2024•40 min
I'm talking about one of my favorite topics today that personally kicked off my self-help journey. Love vs Fear. Today is a bit fancy because I break the episode down to 3 parts. The basics behind the concept and the quote that changed my life. A personal story of how I have made decisions out of fear but thought it was love. Four places to spot fear in your life showing up. And a boatload more of sweary genius. Grab sessions for 50% off through 8/7/24. $99 for 30 minutes and $199 for 60 minutes...
Aug 03, 2024•1 hr 10 min
You know all those things you were taught were going to make you happy? Perfect job, relationship, house, body, etc...that once you had them, you were THEN going to be happy? Turns out, all BS. Today on the pod I go to my Happiness Basics and talk about the super interesting theory called the happiness set point. I talk about: What it is and why it matters Why all the things you are doing ARE NOT going to raise your happiness set point What actually does. Where to get started. Have you checked o...
Jul 27, 2024•41 min
BIG NEWS! The THRIVE in midlife program has moved to January! Check out all the new details here. Second big news...I have a guest! Author, Happiness Expert and Good Friend, Rob Mack joined me on and we are talking about why our society is so unhappy now. It goes deep, but it is GOOD!
Jul 19, 2024•57 min
Ready to jump on a no-pressure call with me to check out Thrive? My new happiness program for women in midlife. Grab a call here. PERIMENOPAUSE!!! I mean, what is this fresh hell that is perimenopause? I didn't even know it was a thing until I was smack dab feeling the bullshit symptoms of it. AND IT CAN LAST UP TO 12 YEARS! So, I decided to kick off a whole mini series in our midlife conversations episodes to talk about the mindfuck that is perimenopause & to see if some of the weird shit t...
Jul 14, 2024•53 min
Have you checked out Thrive yet? Apply now. This is a part 2. Listen to part 1 first to get the most of this episode. Everybody has stress. It's part of the human experience. But sometimes, that stress seems to NEVER go away and we become chronically stressed or go into "survival mode". Which can bring on a bunch of bullshit that can affect our lives, jobs, relationships, friendships, and even health. Worst part? It makes midlife just that much harder...and midlife is already rough. BUT! You can...
Jul 09, 2024•54 min
"Trauma makes assholes out of all of us." - Dr. Stephanie Attwater Everybody has stress. It's part of the human experience. But sometimes, that stress seems to NEVER go away and we become chronically stressed or go into "survival mode". Which can bring on a bunch of bullshit that can affect our lives, jobs, relationships, friendships, and even health. Worst part? It makes midlife just that much harder...and midlife is already rough. BUT! You can get out of it! Today on the episode I talk about: ...
Jul 07, 2024•52 min
Cause you and I both know it is rough. I know not everyone learns best from reading. I don't. So I did a short podcast to tell you all about my brand new program called Thrive that I launched on Friday. A brand new positive psychology program w/retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to thrive in midlife. Unlearn the beliefs that don’t work anymore, get more joy on a daily basis, regulate your emotions, build deep self-worth, and learn how to feed & move the b...
Jun 30, 2024•33 min
I'm back with part 2 with Can we actually change? New Thrive Program Maybe we are at midlife and not too proud of the person we have become, can we actually change it? Can you teach an old dog new tricks? Yup. If you know how to change and as it turns out...we never learned it! In this 2 part episode about changing in midlife (when we are a bit grumpier and stuck in our ways) I'm going to breakdown why we DON'T change. Today I talk about: The mindsets we need for change The different learning ga...
Jun 28, 2024•57 min
Maybe we are at midlife and not too proud of the person we have become, can we actually change it? Can you teach an old dog new tricks? Yup. If you know how to change and as it turns out...we never learned it! In this 2 part episode about changing in midlife (when we are a bit grumpier and stuck in our ways) I'm going to breakdown why we DON'T change. I talk about: My own personal story of how I grew up naive and how I created deep change in my adulthood that I am proud of. The six reasons we do...
Jun 27, 2024•35 min
I think the toughest thing about midlife is that at one point we are forced to look at where we are at, what we have created, and think...is this it? Is this life? Is this all there fucking is? Part 2 of my midlife conversation digs into when we wake up and realize we aren't happy: What we can focus on that isn't helpful in our lives How our "strong work ethic" can become a word or success addiction Really smart facts that you probably didn't know about thriving in life. Listen up! Articles refe...
Jun 22, 2024•53 min
I'm doing a new series over the next few days because I want to talk the absolute mindfuck that is midlife. Today I talk about: The generational trauma that most of us over 40 are now dealing with with personal examples and stories How it is showing up and effecting our lives, happiness, and relationships now and why it matters And a lot of other stuff. 😂 I'll be back tomorrow or Saturday with part 2. LIsten up!
Jun 20, 2024•54 min
We all know about red flags, but what about green flags? What we should be looking for while dating. That's what I'm sharing today! SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, do an intensive, & change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: Questions? Email the show at [email protected] Instagram: @kirasabin Facebook: @reinventingdating TikTok: reinventingdatingpod...
Jun 02, 2024•32 min
But it's not NOT about the carriage scene. 😂 Listen to the Bridgerton episodes breakdown on Rom-Com Rescue. SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, do an intensive, & change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: Questions? Email the show at [email protected] Instagram: @kirasabin Facebook: @reinventingdating TikTok: reinventingdatingpod...
May 25, 2024•30 min
Check out my "Date Like You F*cking Mean It" Group Workshop for $99! GO here. Today I talking about the social media conversation around "would you rather be stranded in a forest with a man or a bear?" and what that means for dating. Date Rape Stats Resources End the Backlog site. Tiktoker I reference. SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, do an intensive, & change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: Questions? Email the show at kira@rei...
May 11, 2024•44 min
New podcast is up and it is so juicy with good info that this a two parter! If you missed part one go listen first. Self-sabotaging in relationships involves engaging in behaviors, either consciously or unconsciously, that lead to the end of a relationship. This might involve pushing the other person away or finding reasons to get out of the relationship. Such behavior often stems from trust issues, past experiences, and poor relationship skills. Every single day I see singles sabotaging their d...
Apr 20, 2024•36 min•Season 4Ep. 2
