The One Where I Talk To Writer, Author, Editor & Model, Tola Doll Fisher

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In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to writer, author, editor and model, Tola Doll Fisher.

Tola is creative director and editor of the Premier Woman Alive brand, and writes as an opinion columnist on topics including sex and relationships, baby loss, wellbeing and success. She is also author of ‘Still Standing: 100 Lessons From An Unsuccessful Life’ and writes a weekly newsletter on life lessons based on the themes in her book.

In this conversation, Tola and I discuss the baby girl she lost 10 years ago and her subsequent divorce from her husband; her zest for life and how she always looks for the joy in everything; and her motivation for writing a book called ‘Still Standing: 100 Lessons From An Unsuccessful Life.’

We also talk about Tola’s experience of dating as a black woman, and how she, along with some of her black friends, have received fewer ‘matches’ online dating than their white counterparts; how growing up she never saw a black woman with a white man whereas she did see white women with black men; and how she dislikes internet dating in general as the majority of her experiences have been negative.   

Tola also talks about her move from London to Cheltenham a year ago and how much she loves her new life away from the city; her diagnosis in March 2021 and what it was like to go through cancer as a single woman; and her thoughts on the word ’spinster’.  

Finally, we talk about Tola’s love of champagne, plus she introduces me to a drink I’d never heard of before - orange wine!  

Tola’s website: https://www.christcouture.co.uk/

Link to Tola’s book on Amazon UK:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Still-Standing-Lessons-Unsuccessful-Life/dp/0281083258

Link to Tola’s book on Amazon US:

https://www.amazon.com/Still-Standing-Lessons-Unsuccessful-Life/dp/0281083258/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665948825&sr=8-1

Tola’s Substack for her newsletter: 

https://stillstanding.substack.com/ 

Tola’s TEDx Talk: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&feature=youtu.be&v=Dpooz9SgKXM 

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