Today we’re talking shop. As two women who thought they found their dream jobs to up-and-quit to go freelance—and loving it— we each get asked about our professional journeys a lot. Today, we chat a bit about thoughts on what learning to be your own boss/coworker/agents look like, finding professional validation in the right and wrong places, and learning how to brag, professionally speaking, in a truthful and self confident way. We’re joined by Meredith Fineman, the author of “Brag Better: Mast...
Sep 06, 2022•45 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Kim Egel has been a licensed Marriage Family Therapist for over 13 years, working within mental health for 20 years. She also just so happens to be our cohost Meadow’s first therapist! Through her education, clinical experience and personal endeavors Kim has created her unique and intuitive approach to therapy, which benefits and guides her clients personal growth. Clients seek her out to gain higher self insight + awareness by connecting to their truth(s) and moving through blocks. Our thoughts...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 34
We’re back from vacation! Well, truthfully this was recorded prior to vacation. But we’re back to our regularly scheduled programming! Please enjoy today’s Thoughts which include: Abusive relationship’s impact over time + how that is contributing to Meadow justifying shopping more How we’ll take crying in therapy in person > on Zoom any day Where shadow work + self worth meet An appeal for more body hair (and/or removal of) in Hollywood To Gaby’s friendship wounds of past + healthy friendship...
Aug 22, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Today’s Thought is an extra special one. TMV is honored to welcome Dana Dang, a dear friend and absolute digital media genius, to the pod. Dana is a dear friend of our silly cohosts whose openness and graciousness in this episode signifies how she moves through life as a whole. But first, her genius— Dana Dang is the Founder of Digital Media Architects, a new approach on digital brand marketing that aligns more with the greater good of humanity, organic community building and making social media...
Aug 08, 2022•1 hr 29 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Happy Monday, here is a hilarious solo for you. Thoughts today range from: Getting yelled at on TikTok Butt plugs and poppers Learning to feel our feelings the hard way Trauma dumping in the DMs Boundary tips n tricks Why we can’t accept nuance on social media Boy bosses Mentioned Well+Good ‘Boundary Hunter’ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundary-hunter/id1557769801?i=1000523157229 Minaa B on Local Optimist: https://www.localoptimist.com/blog/interviews/yqo2rhaaai1makvp Find Us ...
Aug 01, 2022•52 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Olivia Perez is an interviewer, journalist, and entrepreneur. She is the founder and host of the podcast Friend of a Friend, a contributing writer to Forbes.com, and co-founder of System of Service, a community that provides accessible and engaging service opportunities for all that strives to create impactful service experiences beyond the dollar. From unpacking trying new things as an adult, compartmentalizing work-life identities and how community is the root of everything to reframing reject...
Jul 25, 2022•59 min•Season 2Ep. 30
This week, the girl’s are back with a solo Thought to discuss the dynamics of having people in your life who are uninterested in personal development when you’re on your self growth game. Spoiler alert: it’s all about nuance, grace, + empath with boundaries. Thoughts range from: watching people you love make shitty decisions + how to know if you’re being helpful or a burden what to do when you don’t like your friend’s partner how to help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves the balance be...
Jul 18, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 29
Sam Abrahart is a founder (& CEO of The Mayfair Group), an activist, a podcast host, and a dear friend of TMV. Her brand is ubiquitous amongst cool girls (Bella Hadid, Hailey Bieber, Sydney Sweeny, Sophie Turner + more) and is known for their advocacy for mental wellness. This Thought, Sam shares truth bombs and vulnerable ancedotes about how her personal development journey coincides with her leadership journey (including what mistakes she’s made along the way). MORE SAM: Instagram: https:/...
Jul 11, 2022•56 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Content Warning: Disordered eating & abortions This episode is not what we thought it would be. Shortly after the overturn of Roe v Wade, this conversation is very much us unpacking and processing in real time - which is basically the mission statement of the pod so despite how chaotic and inconclusive this episode feels to us, we stand by it. If this isn’t the conversation you want to hear today, we’ll see you next week with an incredible guest episode. Abortion Access Resources abortionfin...
Jul 04, 2022•40 min•Ep. 27
This episode was recorded before the overturn of Roe v. Wade. We hope it brings some healthy distraction and laughter. Please take care of yourself because we need you. How can we show up for a revolution without chaos? By going higher. Taking accountability, thoughtfully owning our energy, emotions, and actions. We have to heal ourselves to heal the world. Resources: National Network of Abortion Funds https://abortionfunds.org/ United State of Women, Reproductive Justice Hub https://usow.org/re...
Jun 27, 2022•56 min•Season 2Ep. 26
Chris Klemens is a comedian, podcast host, and “world renowned hot mess”. His podcast, which is aptly described as a love child of The Daily Show and Tosh.0, shows off Chris’ ability to be hilariously chaotic and thoughtfully poignant all at once (our kinda energy). This Thought, Chris unpacks transition periods and shifts in identity that come with ten years of comedy on the internet and a cross-country move. You're going to want to watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/5wzj4OsVNz8 An...
Jun 21, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 25
This week, the girl’s debunk TikTok’s spiritual bypassing, vision board preaching, law of attraction manifestation bullshit and break down manifesting from a psychological standpoint. Watch this thought on Youtube: https://youtu.be/LxGD6gEG-KY Join our patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary Follow Us https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypod https://www.tiktok.com/@thoughtsmayvarypod Meadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlark Gaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_ Reference...
Jun 13, 2022•51 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Thank you to today’s sponsor: DedCool! Shop DedCool: https://dedcool.com/ Welcome back to Season 02 of TMV!!!!! We’re starting off this season with none other than friend of the pod, Mr. Nick Viall! Nick is an entrepreneur, TV personality, podcast host, and now author (!) who is widely known for his starring role on The Bachelor & The Bachelorette. His podcast, The Viall Files, goes deep on all things love, sex, and relationships and if you’re a fan of the pod, just wait for his new book. Ni...
Jun 06, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Season 2Ep. 23
CONTENT WARNING: This episode was recorded the day after the Uvalde elementary shooting and subsequently spends some time processing this. If that feels activating to you, please take note of the timestamps below or skip this one - we can’t wait to see you next week for the start of Season 2. Take care of yourself. Disclaimer Timestamps: Austin unpacking ends around 10:36 Passing references around 30:53 & 48:35 Well, well, well finally a new episode. To send us out of hiatus, m+g wanted to p...
May 31, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Welcome to Vicious Cycle! Where we rehash old Thoughts during our hiatus until Season 2. We're starting you off with one of the girls' favs. Enjoy! This week, the girls get personal and discuss how trauma impacts healthy sex (even years later). From positions that bring up triggers to hating giving blow jobs, this Thought is a no-holds-barred account of working through sexual abuse and trauma. If this feels activating to you in any way, please reach out to the resources below and/or come back an...
May 23, 2022•44 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Welcome to Vicious Cycle! Where we rehash old Thoughts during our hiatus until Season 2. We're starting you off with one of the girls' favs. Enjoy! In this Thought, Gaby unpacks the interplay between masculine and feminine energies while Meadow unpacks various aspects of identity formation. Also follow us (don’t let Gaby’s asana calendar live in vain) https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypod DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental he...
May 16, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Welcome to Vicious Cycle! Where we rehash old Thoughts during our hiatus until Season 2. We're starting you off with one of the girls' favs. Enjoy! Well, well, well if it isn’t Gaby’s long lost hermana. Please give a warm welcome to Tefi Pessoa, the content creator and media personality the world needs. The TikTok legend, TEDx speaker, and certified Miami mami not only solves Meadow’s identity issues and Gaby’s q’s about masculine and feminine energies, but also gives Meadow an intro into what b...
May 10, 2022•1 hr 19 min
Welcome to Vicious Cycle! Where we rehash old Thoughts during our hiatus until Season 2. We're starting you off with one of the girls' favs. Enjoy! For Thought 04, the girls are joined by their friend and gifted author, Cole Brown. The three discuss thoughts on: being Black in white spaces, how to move through identity formation when people project narratives onto you, separating Cole the person from Cole the character, and the dichotomy between caring so much about your words and art. Cole also...
May 02, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Welcome to Vicious Cycle! Where we rehash old Thoughts during our hiatus until Season 2. We're starting you off with one of the girls' favs. Enjoy! This Thought is a tried-and-true stream of consciousness between the two girls as they unpack the complexities of having trauma as a part of their ~brand~ Thoughts run from: triggers as our responsibilities feelings of shame that come with growing and healing redefining “vulnerability” when trauma is your brand how siblings raised within the same hou...
Apr 25, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 1
For the Season 01 finale, the girls speak to you directly. The girls share their thoughts on your questions, like: Why do men say they have a good time or say you two had good sex and then not text you? Why do men unmatch you on dating apps? Best/worst part of being freelance? How did you two meet? What kind of qualities do you look for in friends and partners? Is there overlap? Do you think you guys would’ve been friends in high school? What sign is Gaby's horrible ex? Experiences with shrooms?...
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 22
For the last guest episode of Season 01, the girls were joined by friend and creative activist, Dom Roberts. This girl-time packed Thought covers all thoughts from: Dating (the hair test, sexual boundaries, etc) Why Dom ended her ‘The Uncomfortable Podcast’ How having “digital activist” as part of your public identity, mixed with people-pleasing tendencies, leads to being robbed of your Black joy Unlearning people pleasing tendencies to realize that setting boundaries + taking care of ourselves ...
Mar 21, 2022•50 min•Season 1Ep. 21
This week, the girls discuss mental health stigma’s reputation as a cultural flaw (when it should be viewed through a lens of racism) and how coping is valid whether you’re smoking a cigarette or making compassionate space for your feelings in a therapy setting. And other thoughts on sex, blue zones, and (as per usual) their periods. Also follow us (don’t let Gaby’s asana calendar live in vain) https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypod DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are...
Mar 14, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 20
You may recognize Maryah Greene, Plant Stylist & Consultant, otherwise known as “that plant girl”, from such places like AD, Vogue, NYT, and Headspace, saving your snake plants and reminding you of mindfulness effortlessly along the way. Or, maybe Maryah and her sock drawer popped up on your FYP this past month "solving racism". Either way, you’re welcome for the presence of this hilarious, thoughtful, and grounded woman. Maryah came in hot, ready to unpack growing and processing being a hum...
Mar 07, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 19
The most grounding and validating pod we deserve to start our Mondays with - please give a warm, TMV welcome to Jesse Israel. Jesse is a social entrepreneur, meditation leader, and former record label executive who is a master of community. You might have heard of him - his meditation movement, The Big Quiet, has led mass meditations in iconic places like Madison Square Garden, featured musical performances from artists like Miguel, and even went on tour with Oprah from 2019-2020. Today, Jesse r...
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr 27 min•Season 1Ep. 18
This week, the girls get personal and discuss how trauma impacts healthy sex (even years later). From positions that bring up triggers to hating giving blow jobs, this Thought is a no-holds-barred account of working through sexual abuse and trauma. If this feels activating to you in any way, please reach out to the resources below and/or come back and listen to us next week instead. Also follow us (don’t let Gaby’s asana calendar live in vain) https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypod DISCLAI...
Feb 21, 2022•41 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Well, well, well if it isn’t Gaby’s long lost hermana. Please give a warm welcome to Tefi Pessoa, the content creator and media personality the world needs. The TikTok legend, TEDx speaker, and certified Miami mami not only solves Meadow’s identity issues and Gaby’s q’s about masculine and feminine energies, but also gives Meadow an intro into what being from Miami means while reminding Gaby who tf she is. Put it this way, within the first 5 minutes of the episode, Meadow heard Gaby’s voice hit ...
Feb 14, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 16
In this Thought, Gaby unpacks the interplay between masculine and feminine energies while Meadow unpacks various aspects of identity formation. Also follow us (don’t let Gaby’s asana calendar live in vain) https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypod DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or any of the resources listed below. Ad...
Feb 07, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 15
People tend to act like life begins at the age of fame for those thrown into the spotlight. It’s an ironic story for someone who is the living embodiment of ‘leading your own charge’. Natalie Joy, certified surgical technologist and model, was thrown into said spotlight primarily through the lens of her partner, entrepreneur and former Bachelor, Nick Viall. Little does that following know how resilient, tenacious, and grounded this woman truly is. Which is why our cohosts were beyond honored to ...
Jan 31, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 14
This week, TMV welcomes icon and role model Chrissy Rutherford to the pod! Chrissy is a living embodiment of everything the girls love: an editorial and social media legend with over 12 years in the industry who also champions mental health and cofounded 2BG Consulting with fellow editor Danielle Prescod to consult for fashion and beauty brands (along with influencers) on how to implement anti-racist communication strategies. Her career is so impressive that naturally the girl’s spent little-to-...
Jan 24, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 13
This week, Gaby vulnerably and generously shares her thoughts on her experience at the Hoffman Process (a week-long healing retreat of transformation and development for people who feel stuck in their life). As a Hoffman legacy, she knew this therapy bootcamp would as expected as going to college in her family, but she always stood firm on going on her own terms. And thankfully so, for this very life-changing time spent at Hoffman became what she decided to publicly share about (despite the stig...
Jan 17, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 12
