¶ Self-Growth and Healing in the New Year
Hello , beautiful , how have you been ? Can you believe that it is 2024 ? We are in the second week of January . Can y'all believe that ? And how has it been treating you so far ? It feels the same to me , but it is January 2024 . I cannot believe that .
And I know , like the rest of you , I have been sitting back , scrolling through social media , you know , checking my emails and all the things , and I have been looking at the posts and all the emails about the new year .
New you , of course , the famous thing that's going around this year is choosing your word and , to be honest with you guys , I have not been feeling any of that this year and it's really kind of weird .
You know , I've been kind in kind of a funk and after having a wonderful holiday with my family you know , I even attended a holiday party , which my husband and I rarely do , but we really had a great holiday season and to come out and be in such a bit of a funk , I just , you know , wasn't understanding why I was feeling that way .
I began to not know which direction I wanted to take my podcast in . I was feeling creatively drained . To be honest with you , I was feeling emotionally drained and I was feeling a little bit lost , you know , and I just decided that I was going to pause . I was going to take my own advice and I was going to pause .
And I remembered in my pause moments what a friend of mine said . She said that when you're in a moment of not understanding or challenged or being stuck which is what I felt , like I was stuck she said talk yourself through it . Talk to yourself like you're talking to a friend and talk yourself through it . Ask yourself questions like you would ask your friend .
Ask yourself , you know , why am I feeling this way ? And when you get that answer , okay , how can I fix that ? Is this really the reason why ? And you know , so on and so on . And as I began to do that , the light bulb began to come on and I began to realize why I was feeling the way I was . I enjoy all the newsletters .
I enjoy some of the emails . I enjoy seeing the posts laughing and all the sort . So it was really getting to me as to why I was not enjoying it , and so it hit me that there was nothing wrong with me .
I was beginning to see things in a new way as I began this journey of healing and really tuning into myself and really tuning into my emotions and my feelings . I'm really looking at myself through a new lens for the first time and it hit me . I'm growing and this is new to me . It's totally new to me .
I remember being a person that was a people pleaser who always asked for people's opinions . I ask for opinions , but not like I did then . I depended on opinions of others . Now I'm not in that space where I really need that and I'm excited about that . When you hear the term you have to show up for yourself , I understand what that phrase means .
Now I'm beginning to show up for myself and in doing so , I'm realizing that I don't need to read all that . I don't have to be in on the next trend . I don't have to buy that next planner that's supposed to be the go-to planner to help me get my life back and get it on track and all the great things like that . I don't have to do that .
And that is what I was doing and I didn't realize that . So now I'm not concerned with the shiny things anymore . I really had the shiny syndrome bad . Now I don't have to have those things . I'm making myself interesting . I'm in this new space where I'm really choosing what I absorb . I'm paying for what I want to pay for .
I'm choosing who delivers my information . I'm choosing how I receive my information . I'm choosing if I want to be here on social media or when I don't .
I always felt like I had to be something , or everywhere , or all the things , and now I don't , and it feels great , but I still wasn't understanding why I wasn't happy , why I wasn't , you know , excited for the new year . So , unbeknownst to me . My word came to me , so I do my words every year . And the word came to me TRUST .
And the reason why it came to me is because I was praying and meditating and really thinking and really looking into my emotions and I just said I'm going to trust . I'm going to trust the place God has for me , I'm going to trust the plan that he has for me , I'm going to trust the abilities that he has given me and I'm going to trust this process .
I know that it's going to be grueling , I know that it's going to be way out of my comfort zone , but by my showing up for myself , I'm scared , out of my mind , but I am choosing me now , and that is so new to me that I thought that there was something wrong . But it wasn't anything wrong .
You know , they say all the pieces are shaking , breaking apart and then they begin to politely put themselves back together . That's what's going on with me . My pieces are coming back together and I'm not recognizing them and I was stuck for a moment . I was stuck for a moment and I needed that pause . I'll always be driving to be better than I was yesterday .
I'll always try to be healthier , make healthier choices in my life . I'll always try to live better . Life is always going to be life-ing . I'm always gonna have bills . I'm still gonna not like grocery shopping , you know , but I believe that that's what this funk was all about .
It was letting me know that I'm on the right path , that I need to keep walking it , keep feeling and healing and keep asking myself those tough questions , remembering to pause when I need to , and always give myself some grace and talk myself through all these challenges . And if I do so , the answer is gonna come on the other side .
And this was such a hard time to do it , but I guess it is a new year , new you , haha , type of thing . So I have experienced something for the first time that I've never experienced and I'm enjoying it and I'm gonna keep going and I'm gonna keep moving .
I'm gonna keep going down this road and I am going to enjoy what all I have to do , all that I have to be , all that I'm going to become all the things and the dreams that I want to do in 2024 , as long as I'm healthy , as long as I'm trying , as long as I'm dreaming , I'm gonna keep on Mindful Moment . The new year is a trying time for us all .
We may get into a bit of a funk . We don't know what direction we may go in . Sometimes we may feel lost . We may want to jump all in with new ideas and new trends and gadgets so that we start the new year off fresh , or to begin again . Then we realize all those things won't make a bit of a difference . The difference is in you .
How are you healing or how are you growing , and how are you showing up for yourself ? I never truly understood that statement until now . I finally realized that I'm beginning to show up for me , slowly but surely , and she's seen everything in a new light . When you feel stuck or challenged .
Remember to pause , talk your way through the situation , understand how you're feeling , process your emotions and get back to doing you . Happy new year .
¶ Upcoming Episode Announcement
I hope you have enjoyed this week's conversation . I'm your host , Shannon Martin . Join me on Wednesday , January 31st for our very first episode . This was kind of first episode , but our first episode of the year will be a fresh new topic that will be discussed . So join me then , Wednesday January 31st , and there will be a brand new topic .
I'm sure you're so surprised . I've been looking forward on our social media pages and I will make a new topic then . If you have enjoyed this conversation , please share , like or leave a review on Apple . Disclaimer I am not a licensed mental health professional . The information provided here is for general informational purposes only .
It should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health advice , diagnosis or treatment . If you need help , please consult a qualified mental health professional .