Reshaping New Year Goals Through the Lens of Trust

I am hoping that you had a wonderful holiday with your family , and I had a great day with all of my grown babies and enjoyed watching my grand shine's excitement for the day . I was able to lay holiday flowers on my mother's resting site and we felt her absence .

But having each other enjoy great food and laughter made the season bright , and I hope yours was too . As we enter into the last week of December , can you believe that Our minds well , some of us begin to take note or are bringing our receipts to see how well this year went ?

We were asking ourselves did we live up to our own expectations that we set last year ? Did we keep up with them ? Did we set things aside or say we would pick them up again next year ? All these things are swirling through our minds .

Well , they're swirling through mine and we're trying to figure out what we are going to do , differently , in the New Year , to make sure we keep our promises , because , in my opinion , that's what a resolution is .

It's an annual promise to ourselves of what we will or will not do in the New Year , and by making this promise we transform ourselves whether it be mentally , spiritually , physically , financially or all around healthier Everything that pertains to wellness , right .

But sometimes we overwhelm ourselves when we make these promises that are very cumbersome and eventually we choose not to continue . Sometimes we may pause and try again later in the year . Then we realize that it's the end of the year and it is time to try again . Does this sound familiar ? If not , then you're doing great .

But this is true for me , because I used to get overwhelmed and tell myself I'll pause and try again , or just say I will do better next year , or sometimes I don't try at all , but this year I'm going to try something different . I have more intentions , but will not make a resolution . I just decided to live my best life .

Don't live the same year over and over again . Make a change this time . Anonymous . What I mean by this is that I've had the same resolution for about five years now . No kidding .

I have said I want to get healthier , I want to eat better , I want to have my own business and create my own income so that I can help prepare for retirement with hubby and I wanted to create better relationships , whether it is with God or creating better friendships , but my illnesses sometimes got in the away and set me back , or I set myself back .

I had a lot of responsibilities that I just couldn't walk away from and I sank deeper into depression , but I had hope . So I just refreshed the dreams and goals I had the year before . Why ? Because I hadn't achieved any of them , so let's try again .

Right then , I tried refreshing them with a new look , new photos and wording , or AKA synonyms , thinking that would motivate me more . Wrong I got the same results . Nothing changed . I even tried the good old vision boards .

I have a massive cork board in my office with my 2023 vision and as I'm looking at it , as I speak , it is the same as the years before , just bigger and prettier . What I decided to do this year is that I'm going to use my one word , which is the word you decide . That kind of sets the tone for your year .

I will use my word to guide me through this year . I know there are so many articles and resources to tell you how to make this a great year . All that . I've tried a lot of them and I just decided to do things differently . What could it hurt ? Right ? My word this year is TRUST .

I will TRUST in the path God has for me , I will TRUST in my abilities that have been given to me and I will TRUST this process . I will have a vision board , but I will work on it in a reverse yet creative way . See , I have the same goals for years and I still have them . In a sense , they changed a bit because I've changed .

I still want to be healthy emotionally , spiritually , financially and physically . That will be a constant in my life , not only for my mental well-being but also as I get older . But I need to Live , and that's my resolution for the new year Trust to Thrive . My mission in life is not merely to survive , but to thrive .

To do so is so with some passion , some compassion , some humor and some style . Maya Angelou . My plan is to take pictures that represent the areas that are constant in my life as I achieve them , and I will add photos of myself living out my resolution of thriving .

I have chipped away at a couple and I have begun to nurture relationships with my friends and with God . I have begun to travel a bit more . I'm trying new recipes that feel healthier for me and hubby and I'm moving a lot more . This year I will take it up a notch and prove it to myself . I want to show myself that I did these things .

I don't want to wait to see it on my Facebook timeline . I want to see it on my big old cork board in its new place with my journal , to support the facts and details that I lived , had fun and dealt with all the trials and tribulations that came with being a work in progress , mindful moment . New Year's resolutions have never been my jam .

If they work for you and you have an amazing formula and you fulfill your promises , continue on your path . My path of following others just isn't working for me , so I am deviating from others plans and creating my own path . I am truly a work in progress .

I will always be working on ways to improve my emotional , spiritual and physical health in order to thrive .

I will more than likely always make promises to myself so that I can slowly get away from medications and ease back into my lifestyle , but I also know that too many promises at a time can overwhelm me and cause me to pause for extended periods of time .

This year , I have learned that I needed to take time to develop a habit , time to nurture it and time to decide if it's for me or not . If so , I should make the necessary changes and continue it or not . This was why I wasn't completing my promises . I didn't dig deep within to see what I really wanted to accomplish .

They were superficial goals with the intent of becoming long-term habits or fulfilling goals that I thought would actually become a part of my daily routine . They sounded and looked great on paper , but they were the newest , hottest trends that just weren't for me .

Before you make promises to yourself that you may not keep , and before you create this cycle of disappointment that can lead to low self-esteem and depression , really think about what you want to do differently in the new year . Just one thing and let it blossom from there .

I know I said I would have those sections on my board , but to be honest , I would probably do one thing from each section to build upon each month , each quarter , taking notes in my journals to see how I am doing , making sure I'm not overwhelmed but that I am moving and grooving , and giving myself some compassion , a little bit of grace and doing life with

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I hope you have enjoyed this week's conversation . I am your host , Shannon Martin . Join us in the new year y'all . We have lots of amazing things planned . We hope you tune in and continue this wellness journey with us . Until then , have a joyous new year Celebration with your friends and family , be safe and I will talk to you soon .

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If you need help , please consult a qualified mental health professional .