No One Can Make You Feel the Way You Feel

I cannot make you angry. A politician cannot make you angry. A friend, partner, or your dog cannot make you happy.

Only you can choose your feelings based on your behaviours and beliefs.

Your feelings are your own, and they are based on your unconscious patterns and beliefs.

Seeing the truth of this requires self-compassion and mindfulness.

Self-compassion allows you to feel kindness towards yourself to gently consider why you are feeling the way you are, in response or reaction to a situation in life.

Mindfulness is the practice of witnessing what is happening in the moment of your feelings and to question your patterns of behaviour before choosing how to respond.

When you clearly see and accept the truth and fragility of one’s ego for its identification with external things, like possessions, you will see this only serves to create separation from others.

The ego expresses me, my, and mine; my rightness versus your wrongness.

Compassion, on the other hand, expresses acceptance, connection, and care.

Ask yourself, “What was most helpful from today’s episode and how can I apply it in my life?” Perhaps journal about it right now, or make a note to come back to it later.

I’d love to hear how this went for you. Drop me a line at https://darrenstehle.com/contact

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