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Because everybody loves attacking a young woman, right, a young woman who has authentically lived her life on the Internet.
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In this brand new season that we're calling Present Future, we're looking to what's next, the future of tech, the future of discourse, the future of platforms, and the future of us. But we're starting in kind of a familiar place.
We've already spent a lot of time talking about disinformation, and I usually ask experts one question, So when you think about the direction of our media ecosystem and disinformation, are you hopeful, Like when you look on the horizon, are you hopeful about what's next when it comes to the future of combating disinformation. More and more we're seeing some targets of particularly heinous disinformation campaigns using the judicial
system to fight back. Egene Carrol successfully sued former Present sident Trump for defamation after he claimed that her allegation
that he sexually abused her was a lie. It wasn't, and a jury ruled against him, and Carol has said that she may even sue Trump again because Trump doubled down on that defamatory lie in a disastrous CNN town hall the very next day after that ruling, and after Dominion Voting Systems sued Fox News for falsely claiming that its voting machines through the twenty twenty election, Fox settled for seven hundred and eighty seven million dollars, pretty much
acknowledging that the network promoting lies about the election in twenty twenty was defamatory, and now a new defamation lawsuit against Fox News may provide a signal about the future of telling lies for profit. Last year, one of the nation's leading disinformation experts, Nina Jenkowitz, was appointed by Biden to head up the Disinformation Governance Board within the Department
of Homeland Security to learn about and counter disinformation. And immediately afterward, Nina and her family were targetd with lies, threats, and harassment Paul while she was pregnant. Days ago, Nina filed a defamation lawsuit against Fox News. Could this be the blueprint of how we curbed disinformation in the future. Shortly after Nina was named to the Governance Board, I was scheduled to interview her about her book, How to
Be a Woman Online, which chronicles online harassment. But we couldn't because Nina had to retreat from public life after the harassment campaign against her got so bad. And strangely enough, Nina isn't even the first person that I've had to navigate interviewing while they were basically off the grid because of threats, and the continued sting of being silenced and not getting to do her work because of lies and threats was looming large when I finally did get to
speak to Nina. So the first time that you and I were supposed to talk, it'd were not able to do the interview because you were at the target of some pretty nasty, heinous harassment. So I have to start by just asking how are you.
I am doing.
Okay now, Bridget, thanks for asking.
I mean, it is difficult to recover from something like what happened to me, which kind of upended.
My entire life and the career plan I had.
And just kind of the short version the TLDR of what happened to me is I was appointed to a position in the Biden administration to work on a working group that was meant to kind of bring together bodies within the Department of Homeland Security that were working on counter disinformation. That working group was misconstrued in the press and mostly the right wing press, as a ministry of truth that was going to have the power to censor Americans.
Of course, we had no such power. Operationally.
We had no power, we had no full time staff except for me, and no budget. So I don't know where they thought we were going to do all.
This, but at any rate, it was totally misconstrued.
My personal life and like my online presence and all sorts of things got dragged through the mud. I was eight and a half months pregnant at the time, and I ended up leaving the department, and not because of the harassment, really, but because the department wasn't sticking up for me or for the work, and they ended up disbanding the working group and saying there was no need
for it, which I think is laughable at best. And so since then, I obviously have my baby, I've been kind of taking some maternity leave, taking time with my family, and have kind of been recalibrating what it is I want to do and how I want to show up and like make an impact in the world. And after my unfortunate experience with public service, it's kind of bringing me to the conclusion that, like, really the work that I want to do has to happen from outside of government, at.
Least right now, at least with this administration.
Wow, you know, I where do I even start.
I'll say, it's something interesting to me that you wrote a book about how you survive online harassment as a woman and found yourself and a really weird time in your life like at the target of that, And it reminds me a lot of like what I know about things like reputational smear campaigns, where it's interesting to me
that like the administration did not support you. It would have been I would have expected they obviously respected your leadership enough to give you this position and then to turn around and so quickly distance themselves from you is really telling to me. And I think that's one of the ways that reputational smears work. They want the target to feel isolated, and they want to make it seem that if somebody sticks up for them that will be
a bad look for them. So rather than supporting you, they just are like, oh, that's just distance.
Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent.
I do have to say, I'll give credit where credit is due, you know. Secretary Mayorcus went on the Sunday shows and called me like an eminent expert, and Jen SACKI had some talking points to say at the White House podium about me.
But when you're confronting.
The entire gop lie and rage machine just not enough. Like I was on every I think seventy percent of Fox News hourly segments for like an entire week, and it continued for two weeks after that too. Like everyone was like, Oh, it'll go away, don't worry about it.
It didn't.
Because everybody loves attacking a young woman, right, a young woman who has authentically lived her life on the Internet.
It's easy to think of people who work on issues like disinformation as uptight skulds. It's actually a misconception that I've encountered a lot in my work. But Nina's vibe is really lively and full of energy, and it lends itself perfectly to a platform like TikTok, where she made a cute video of her singing in a Mary Poppin' style about disinformation. Nina loves musical theater. Now, this is the kind of thing that anybody might try to do
to connect on their issues with a new audience. But if you were watching Fox News, you would think this was criminal. They played Nina's TikTok over and over again and turned it into an attack, not just an attack on Nina's work, but on Nina as a person.
Part and grief feminist part. Frustrated karaoke singer Jankoitz is the last.
Person who should be trusted with distinguishing between fact and fiction.
Like there are videos of me performing musical theater people like to make fun of that. I had a TikTok video where I was like trying to connect with a different audience by doing a parody of a Mary Poppins song. It was very tongue in cheek and very deliberately silly and campy, and everyone was.
Like, oh my god, this is so cringe. It's not fucking cringe. I'm sorry, it's not cringe.
It's exactly what I wanted it be, and I'm I'm not embarrassed of it at all. Frankly, Like Tucker Carlson kept playing it over and over on his show, and it's like, thanks Tucker, Like now more people have heard me sing than I could ever.
Have hoped for in my entire life. But but what.
You say is true, Like I think like I wasn't close enough for the administration for them to want to stick their neck out for me, and the work clearly wasn't important enough for them.
To like risk everything for it.
And that's disappointing because what is more the core of our democracy right now than how our body politic deals with information, right or disinformation, frankly, And so that was
really disappointing. And it was also disappointing because the Biden administration made such a big deal about hiring women and people of color to political appointments and to the cabinet, and it's like, Okay, if you're above a certain level, they're gonna they're gonna go to bat for you, but not if you're you know, at the level that I am, which, frankly, you know, for the amount of attention that people paid
to me, you'd think I was like God. But I was just a GS fifteen, which is like a high ranking but not Senate confirmed appointee in Washington, with very little decision making power.
I wasn't.
I wasn't like, you know, all powerful in DHS. I had a lot of layers above me, which you know, is illustrated by the way that the whole thing was rolled out. If it had been rolled out more transparently the way that I had kind of asked for within the department, I wouldn't have been in as bad a situation as I read.
Let's take a quick break at her back.
Long ago and what seems like a distant, bygone era. We used to say that you should ignore bullies and they'll just go away, but it doesn't really work like that when it comes to disinformation. Nina was facing an onslaught of lies and attacks during her time at the Biden administration, and she wasn't even allowed to speak up for herself and correct the record, so the only messages about her that were out there were smears, lies and attacks.
They wouldn't let me, you know, speak up for myself, which again, if I were above a certain level, I would.
Have been able to do that.
So the whole thing was frustrating, and it also just kind of goes to show that, like there's a lot of work left to do in our institutions, not just government, but you know, in journalistic institutions, et cetera, for sticking up for people who are on like the public facing side of things, especially women and people of color who receive such outside harassment online and in real life as well.
Yeah, I mean, I to prepare for this interview, I watched some of the clips, like interviews that you gave on shows, and I'm not going to say any names, there was one I was like, this guy is basically being like I heard this lie about you thoughts, and it was like, yeah, it's not true.
You know, Like, I definitely think.
That It kind of bumps me out that media, the people that we ostensibly should be able to count on to help people discern the truth, really don't feel any obligation to do that. They and in some cases they inflame the tensions and lies and give them more oxygen and allow them to spread when they should be in
the business of truth spreading and debunking. You know, I've seen people say things like, oh, this board was going to have the ability to like control what regular people say, And I've also seen you in interviews be very clear that if that were the case, you wouldn't be on that board because you deeply opposed that, Like, yeah, we're
not trafficking in truth and honest statements. We're trafficking and lies and smears, and it's we're not going to get anywhere if that's how we continue to do discourse.
Yeah, yeah, I mean it was so one of the worst days was when I woke up, and.
I mean, it was just like three weeks of hell.
But I woke up one morning when I was still at the department and Bill Maher had on his show the night before just spread an absolute, complete piece of bass about me.
The tizarre a Nina Jenkowitz says, she's like some committee there within this governing board with the power to quote, edit Twitter and add context. Oh you mean, like what Twitter is?
That's what Twitter is.
When SRI says something you own content.
Yeah, these are not people in our.
Government, Okay.
An anonymous account online that had been for weeks going through like all the videos of me ever posted to the Internet. They had taken a clip from a conversation that I had with a bunch of librarians in the state of Georgia, and it was back from January twenty
twenty one. They had taken it completely out of context and made it seem like I had had kind of floated this idea of editing people's tweets, but what I had actually done, and if you watch the entire kind of conversation, it is clear someone asks me, Hey, Nina, I just heard about this thing on Twitter called bird Watch. Can you tell us about it? And for your listeners that might not know. Birdwatch is a program that allows people to add context to things that are trending on Twitter.
So like, let's use Ukraine as an example in the UK war.
If people are claiming something that's trending like Russia was responsible for this attack or Ukraine was responsible for this attack, people who are you know, trusted individuals can get access to this Birdwatch platform, which is now since then open to everybody, and just add some context and say, okay, here's a link to a news article, here are the facts in this scenario. It's kind of like a built in fact checking platform.
I was not.
Super familiar with it at the time, but I was like, I don't like this because I don't want users to be kind of the ones that are doing Twitter's work for it. And I had this long, involved, nuanced answer that I went on for five minutes. He chopped one minute of it up, and I assume it's a man, because let's see honest. Yeah, so I don't know because
he is anonymous, but I think it's a man. He chopped one one part of it up and just put in his tweet Nina wants to edit your tweets, and this one absolutely viral.
Reputable reporters were being like, what if this is true?
Blah blah blah, and then Bill Maher, without any to fact checking whatever, it, goes to his huge audience on his late night show and says Nina Jenkwitz and the.
Disinformation Governance Board want to.
Be able to edit your tweets, and it's just like, first of all, it's a stupid idea, like no, I would never ask for that, and second of all, like it's not no one tried to do any bit of.
Fact checking at all. If you follow the video.
Back to where it came from, you can find out that actually, that's not what I said at all. And it was not just Bill Maher, but other journalists who who frankly, were just recycling this disinformation and not doing their due diligence at all.
And it is disinformation, right.
Disinformation just isn't about cut and dry fakes or falsehoods. It's about misleading information. And there was a lot of misleading information presented about me. In fact, I just got some more abuse and threats this week because somebody on Fox mentioned me, and I was like, huh, what's this uptick?
About and I found that Greg Gutfield had talked about me in a segment recently, and so one person wrote to me on Facebook and said that I should be thrown in jail for spreading lies about President Trump.
It's like, it's.
Interesting how they want to censor me, right, but they're not okay with other people censoring them. And that's never what I wanted to do in the first place. It's just so cecuitous and crazy. Anyway, I'll stop digging now, Yeah, I.
Mean, does it do you find that it comes in waves like that where it the harassment sort of stops and then somebody will mention you and then you're like, oh, an uptick and then down tick?
Is that is that kind of how it trends?
Oh, one hundred percent?
And it's always interesting to find out what the kernel is. So like, for the first probably seven weeks or so, it was just pretty constant, especially the first three weeks. It was just constant messages, constant dms, constant tweets, people trying to friend me on Facebook and Instagram and whatever.
I had to lock my Instagram and Twitter accounts because there was personal stuff on there that, like I was comfortable with like the level of public figure miss that I had before people seeing that, but now with people doxing me and calling my mother and sending me letters.
To my home, like not as comfortable.
So there was that, But then, you know, the craziest thing was the culpability that I think.
Some members of Congress have.
And I actually wrote a letter to Josh Holly and Chuck Grassley because they continued this kind of or like, continued perpetrating this harassment of me, and I felt like calling them out for it because as members of Congress, particularly as senators, they're supposed to be like.
The more serious, deliberative body.
Right here's Josh Holly, and your priority is setting up a board and hiring someone who has gone to TikTok to talk about stopping speech she doesn't like, who has mocked voters supporters of the last president. That has been your priority. To say that your priorities are misplaced, I think is a dramatic understatement. And the time has come, I think, mister secretary, for you to resign.
And Josh Holly on July eighteenth, so two full months after I had resigned to the day from DHS, he brought me up in a hearing on drones. For some reason, there was an acting assistant secretary from DHS who I used to work with, who was there, and he spent half of his time, half of his allotted time, questioning her about my hiring two months after I had resigned, rather than talking about you know, unmanned aerial vehicles.
Right. And so I was just.
Incensed by this because it matched with an uptick and harassment I got. So I sent them a letter, I posted it publicly, and both of them just doubled down on it. Rather than saying, you know, we're sorry for the harassment that you and your family are getting at this like, you know, special time in your life. I had a six week old at the time, right, We're sorry for this harassment. We're going to condemn the people
who have been sending you threats. We're going to continue our oversight duty as senators, but we're going to pull back from like our focus on you. Instead, they both doubled down. And so I think this is a really sad kind of situation that we find ourselves in America, where there are people who are again supposed to be setting the tone and example for the way our discourse works who are tacitly, if not overtly and deliberately engaging
in harassment campaigns against people on the other side. These things have life or death consequences. And I'm not the only one to have gone through this stuff.
Right.
We see senators in the GOP endorsing like libs of TikTok or whatever, and those people are literally like engaging in stochastic terrorism campaigns that are about.
To bubble over into real life.
Right, They're going to have real life consequences for trans people and in some cases already have. We're just in this really precarious situation and I feel like we need some accountability and it's just not happening.
I don't know what it's going to take.
We've gone through a pandemic that's had public safety consequences for the nation. We've gone through, you know, in an surrection, we've gone through protests that have been based on to some degree disinformation where that have bubble up into clashes that have killed people.
And thinking of Kenosha, right.
And like, what's it going to take before we come to our senses and either elect people who care about the truth or like start to have some laws governing what you say online the same.
Way that we do on the street.
I think people forget that free speech in America is not absolute, right, Like, if people were saying these things to me or to anybody who gets harassed online on the street, you'd be able to get out of a restraining order out on them, you'd be able to call the cops. But the Internet is like this ungoverned and ungovernable place, and I think that's that's kind of scary, given how much we live our lives on the internet these days.
Yeah, I mean I think about this all the time of like what is it going to take? What do you think is the answer to that question, Like do you think that anything would rise to the level where people will be like, gee, we need to do something.
You know.
I thought that maybe we were having that call to action moment last fall when Francis Hogan released her whistleblower documents and there were these, you know, series of hearings on the Hill and people were so shocked about everything that she was saying that it was confirmed. You know, this is what was happening to children, This is what was happening to different populations around the world.
This was what was.
Happening to women, and then you know that just kind of fizzled out, like maybe it moved the needle. Maybe maybe senators now and members of the House are a little bit.
More wise to what was being said.
And she did come from a non partisan perspective, which I think was important to kind of diffuse the polarization of this debate, which shouldn't be polarized at all. Right, this is not a polarization issue. This affects human beings, that affects our democracy, no matter what political party are from. But there doesn't seem to have been kind of that
momentum filled there. And I hope that we can pick that back up, But after my experience, I'm pretty pessimistic, right, Like, it is really depressing to me that millions, literally millions of my fellow Americans have come into contact with me and been told to hate me because I'm young, female and had the goal to take a job in my area of expertise trying to help my country.
Right, I was not motivated.
By politics and taking that job, And in fact, prior to everything that happened to me, I used to say I would take a job working for a reasonable Republican who wanted to work on the issues that I wanted to work on, whether they were, you know, Russia or something about disinformation online.
I don't think I could say.
That anymore with a straight face, right, because of the lengths they went to ruin my life, and that was deliberate, right. You said something about smear campaigns before it was explicit that people were saying, we want to make her toxic to the bidenmane, and I just think that's that's really it's un American, frankly. So I don't know what the answer is to your question, bridget I think I think we're in a really bad situation, and I don't know what it's going to take, and I.
Fear what it's going to take to wake everybody up.
Do you think that you would have gotten the same level of hate and targeted violence like online violence against you had you been a man?
No, I think not at all. I have to imagine no.
No, right, because like, first of all, even I think Tucker Carlson even said something point blank like it's it's like Taylor Lorenz and the Nina Jankwitz is of the world that I hate the most, like educated white women who think that they educated young white women who think that they can tell us what to do or something like that, And it's like, I'm not telling you what to do, but the fact that I exist and that I'm like putting myself into a sphere that you existed is what bothers you, right.
So no, there's that part to it.
And then the fact that I'm I was young and also pregnant, Like people talked about my my family.
Status constantly on Fox.
They said things very famously about like how could Biden hire her when she's about to go on maternity leave? And it's like, because it's against the law to discriminate against some money because of their their their parental status, not to mention that.
Like there was the opposite.
Side of the coin, with people saying like how could anyone impregnate her? Or like I bet she's infertile after this one, Like it was just like why.
Is this even something that anybody's talking about?
And men absolutely never get that stuff, and in fact, if they're found to be cheating or philandering, like they're celebrated for that. And plus you know, there was the stuff about my looks and weight gain during pregnancy. Men were like enlarging pictures of my chin, which had some pregnancy acneonic.
God forbid, it's not something you can really control.
They were talking about my weight gain, like then after I gave birth and the New York Times took a picture of me for an article they did. The first thing a couple of guys said was that I had big boobs, and it was.
Like, well, yeah, I'm breastfeeding right now. One guy actually was.
Like, imagine if what she did with those boobs was I think they used a different word obviously, was feed children instead of spread lies.
And it's like, oh, funny, you should mention that. But it's just like a man would never write.
And they say all the time, oh, we get the same sort of stuff, and it's like, no, like the worst sort of sexualized something that somebody could call you as a dick, right, and that's not so bad. It's certainly not calling you Joe Biden's cum dumpster, which is one of the many things that people have said to me.
Yeah, it's so upsetting.
And I also feel like when it comes to women, when women are harassed, it's not just them, it's their partner, it's their mom, it's their kids. It's it's her family and the people around her, And so what.
Adds this extra layer of.
I don't know if that's something you have to think about where it's like, well, do I really want to engage in like this public line up work because I don't want my partner to be harassed, don't want my kids to be targeted.
Yeah, one hundred percent.
And a lot of the women that I've interviewed in the course of my research for my book, as well as the research I've done on women in politics, they bring that up a lot, especially women of color. So for women of color, often what will happen is they'll get docks more frequently than white women, or their families will be threatened. So one woman in a focus group that I did was, I mean, this just really stuck with me.
She said, you know, we don't.
We will often get messages that say, oh, we don't. We hope your son doesn't end up like Trayvon Martin or.
Things like that.
And it's just like, I mean, especially as a mom, but I hope that that resonates with anybody, Like it's clearly a threat.
Number one and two, Like, what a horrible thing to say.
It's just like layers of on layers of intersectional abuse, and that's where the platforms I think really fall short. They'll see something like that and AI certainly won't understand the intent behind that.
And even if you write a little note.
To Twitter or to Facebook and say like, look at this, this is racist, violent threat, they're not gonna take it down because it's not. It doesn't say like explicitly I want to come kill your son, or I hope someone comes to kill your son.
And.
I don't know.
I mean, I think we have a long way to go there, and certainly as women, as you say, it's not just us, it's our families. It's like I had to call up, you know, my brother who shares a last name with me, and hope and say, you know, I hope that the boys, your sons have their social media profiles locked down. Like what a heartbreaking conversation to have to have with a bunch of teenageers who probably want to do the exact exact opposite. You know.
More, after a quick break, let's get right back into it.
I keep reading these articles about how historic numbers of women and women of color and black women are running for office, which is great but I know the reality is that they have to have this extra layer of consideration, not to mention extra expense of thinking about you know, online and digital security in these ways and in real life security in these ways.
And it really do you feel like we're in a situation where that is just the cost of wanting to.
Be in public service for these folks, Like we're just like, oh yeah, like you have to factor that in when you if you want to run for office or be a pub but you're really dingaged in civic life and civic discourse.
Unfortunately, it is the cost, but it absolutely should not be the cost.
That should not be normal.
We shouldn't just roll over and say if you're a woman or a woman of color, or disabled woman or a trans woman in politics that were in public life written large, that you have to spend all this extra money. I mean, let me just list a couple of the things that I pay for. I have an anti dooxing service that scrubs my personal information from the Internet and that of my family.
That's a couple hundred dollars a year.
I have When we had to upgrade our home security after everything happened, because again we were doxed. If we ever decide to move from the house that got doxed, we'll have to probably pay a lawyer to put our home in.
A trust so that that doesn't happen again. Let's see.
I also pay for block Party, which if your listeners haven't it is a really good tool for basically anybody dealing with online abuse. It will auto mute people interacting with you, and you can have kind of different levels of sensitivity for the replies that you want to get through. On Twitter, you can also block people if they've liked or retweeted in abusive or threatening tweets.
So as a result of using.
Block party, I've I've blocked cool White a few people because I don't want to. I don't frankly want to interact with anybody who thinks it's funny to like delight in one of the worst things ever happening to me. So, I mean, already, that's like a couple hundred dollars a year, and for freelance journalists or for people who you know are working in nonprofit jobs or things like that. Even government jobs, like the government certainly did not compensate me enough for what I went through.
Let's just say.
Oh, and you know, I am lucky that I was able to have enough savings to cover that stuff. But there was a time not so long ago, a couple of years ago, before my first book came out, where like I wasn't paying taxes because I wasn't making enough profit to be paying taxes, you know.
So it's it's real.
Uh, the cost is real, and it is not fair, and we need to make sure that, especially in journalism, that when freelancers are being hired, that they're being compensated adequately, and that they're covered legally by the publishers that they're working for. That you know, any institution, be a academic, government, nonprofit, et cetera, they're covering their employees as well.
Because the way that you.
Feel safe to speak up is knowing that people have got your back, and they've got your back in a material way.
Not just like you know, a philosophical way, like.
Of course we of course we should uh support your right to a free speech, but when push comes to shove, they're not gonna you know, pay for you to relocate if you need to, or pay for a lawyer.
All that stuff is super super important.
Yeah, that's something I see a lot of like particularly in newsrooms where you know, if a young woman journalist is being targeted or threatened.
I don't know.
I think that we're just starting to have a conversation about how newsrooms can be supportive. But I think for a long time it was just like good luck. And also don't talk about it publicly because it will make us look bad. So just suffer in silence and be isolated and get no support and turn that shame inward and we will continue.
To function business as usual.
Like I think that, like what you said about cost material cost is such a good point. And I think back to like when I was a freelance journalist. I made no money, right, I was like really barely getting by, like scraping by, and to be expected to shoulder this burden that my male white colleagues will never have to shoulder. It's just not fair. It's not equitable.
No, no, not at all.
And like then on the government side too, going back to the whole thing about like Biden, you know, making it a commendable effort to hire people of color and women into his administration. I think, and I've said this to people in the administration since this happened to me, like, not only do you need to be prepared to stick up for those people, but you.
There's probably some conversation that you need.
To have with some people a certain level or above saying like, Okay, here's the types of things that might happen to you, Like let's make sure that you are protected. Let's make sure that you can put in a registration or a like deregistration request to the county to get your name off of the documents for your house because you're a public official. Now, like yes, in my mind, did that think? Did that cross my mind as like something that might happen? Sort of, I hoped that it wouldn't.
I didn't think it was going to be as bad that as it was. But like probably everybody in our polarized environment who's going into government should get at that kind of council, anybody going into public service, not just at the federal level. I mean, look what's happening to election workers, right. It's the sad truth of the time that we live in and the tactics that people are
using to try to get their way. But it takes a toll, and like without loved ones, without friends who have been helping me go through my replies and like helping me keep track of the mentions of me on alternative news streams and things like that. I mean, I don't know what I would have done, probably just like completely retreated from the online space. And that's exactly what it's meant to do, right, It's meant to push us out, to silence us, and I'm not going.
To let that happen. I'm glad there are people around me who don't want that to happen to me. But not everybody has that. Not everybody has.
That monetary psychological support that is so critical to getting through these difficult times, and they're happening to more and more people.
It's great to want to elect women, support women, hire women, but you also need to be honest about what those women will face and have an understanding of what you're going to do to create the conditions for that woman to thrive, because it can't just be like, yeah, support black women, yes, like more women this and that, but then like, once they get to the place that you champion them to get to, they are on their own for this highly charged attacks that they will face because
they got to this position that you said that you wanted them to be in, Like it has to be a fuller conversation about what it looks like.
Yeah, yeah, and you know, I I don't know what I.
Say this a lot like in future positions, whether they're in public service or not, Like when I'm being interviewed, what.
Will I say? Like will I be like?
And if X, Y, and Z happens, what are you guys going to do? Like I feel like I'm going to run this trust deficit for the rest of my life. And I don't know that a lot of organizations are
going to have a good answer. But like in good conscience, go into that sort of environment if I don't feel either like I've got somebody supporting me or a group of people supporting me, or am I going to have the authority to be able to make the decisions that will create those like support systems for other people?
I don't know.
And it's hard for me also to encourage young women to go into public service after what happened to me. I've been giving them the advice like, if you want to do it, you should do it, but just recognize what's in the realm of possibility.
Unfortunately, so speaking of that, you know, the book How to Be a Woman Online. What advice do you have for women who are just trying to exist on the internet. You know, you mentioned earlier in our interview that you were really attacked for being a woman who has lived your life and had social media the way that we all have, and they created a cost for that. They dinged you for doing something that in twenty twenty two
we all do. And so I guess my question is, like, what kind of advice do you give for women listening who want to participate in civic and public life are also on women online?
You know?
What do you say?
Yeah, it's a really delicate balance.
So I've interviewed people who run the gamut of like they've kind of kept a lot of their personal stuff off the internet, to like people like me who are super super online. Right, And I still have no regrets, Like I again that TikTok video, still not embarrassed of it to this day. The things that people were making fun of it.
Did numbers like You're like kind of prolific on TikTok.
I had to log it down.
Now I don't even do it anymore, But I'm trying to get into Instagram reels.
It's hard. It's hard for a millennial like me. I'm like, what is this? But you know, like.
I don't regret any of it, but I also recognize that it's not for everybody, and so I think there's a delicate balance.
You have to draw that line for yourself.
The thing that I encourage everybody to do is, no matter how you're gonna interact online, to understand what's going to keep you safe tech wise and opsec wise. So like, don't post pictures of you in front of your house or like at the bar you frequent, right Like, it is so easy for bad actors to geolocate you. Look what happened to Keffle's where she was docks a second time, just based on the pattern of the hotel sheets to the hotel she had fled to with her cat, Right Like,
we have to be extraordinarily careful. But if you're posting things not in real time, like have a little bit of a lag, If you're not posting from the same location and giving away like clues to your pattern of life, that's that's much better online practice for pictures and videos and things like that. When it comes to it, security just a couple of easy fixes that are kind of set it and forget it for everybody. Make sure you know you're using two factor authentication, complex passwords, and a
password manager. If you're traveling to dangerous countries like authoritarian countries, basically you'll probably want to have like a burner phone or a burner laptop to make sure that your comms are secure.
Using a VPN is a good idea.
When you're on you know, more open Wi Fi and on your home network. Things like that I think are just really important for people who might be targets of hacking or other kind of cyber harassment issues from doxing to cyber stocking. All of that's super important for you to keep in mind. And that knowing that I have that extra layer of security like makes me feel more
empowered to speak out. And then beyond that, cultivating a network of people who get what you do and who you can go to when the going gets tough, and that's harder than it seems. The first time I dealt with online harassment, which admittedly was nothing compared to what I went through this spring, a lot of my friends and family didn't get it right, Like they were like, ah, just ignore the trolls, don't feed the trolls, don't go
on Twitter. And I'm like, but my life and my work is on Twitter, right, You're basically asking.
Me to not work and not put myself out there.
And I think once they understood that, then I had a little bit more support. But frankly, the people that I rely on most when this stuff is going on are the super online writers and folks who are kind of in my sphere that understand how this stuff works and so cultivate that.
Community for yourself. I think that's.
Paramount, frankly, and I hope that everybody's able to do it. And if you ever need anything, you know, shout out, reach out. I'm happy to help listeners. And of course you bridget however, And I know you had written me a note when the shit was going down, and I appreciated that.
That stuff goes a long way.
So if you see everybody else going through stuff, be an active online bystander, you know, report stuff, send them a note of solidarity.
All of it matters.
Yeah, I think that's such good advice because I think these kinds of attacks, they are meant to make the person feel isolated, and so just knowing that, like I'm not isolated. People see what's happening to me and they support me is so key and it's interesting. I was at this gathering for people who work in the conspiracy theory space, and one of the questions that they asked early on was, you know, what are some of the particulars of doing this work?
And almost everybody.
Said some version of my partner, my friends don't really get what I do, and so I am carrying around a lot of like very specific baggage that the people around me can't even necessarily really unpack, understand or even really see. And I really felt that it was like, yeah, you are dealing with some particular stuff that is so specific and can be so heavy and ugly and hard, and you're sometimes just dealing with it in a way that feels like you're alone.
Yeah, and even when people do reach out, you know, and this is not their fault at all, but like still to this day, people will say to me, you know, I'm so sorry for what you're what you went through, or like back when it was all happening, they'd be like, is there anything I can do, And like the answer is no. For the most part, Like with the exception of your close friends just like coming by with food and like trying to take you out of it watching
some trashy TV or something like that. Like there's not much that people can really do besides listen, and even then you're talking to them about it, and all they can do is like not and pat you on the back unless they've gone through it too. And so again that's why those very specific networks of super online people were really important to me when the when it was all kind of happening. But that also brings me to
another important point, which is therapy is so important. Without my therapist, I definitely would be kind of lost, and she has done the really important kind of reminding me that, like what you went through is not normal, and it's okay to still feel kind of shitty about it, and no one's expecting you to have recovered from it already, Like you're still allowed to have feelings about it and be mad about it and be sad about it and frustrated.
And that's been really important. And I have a whole section in my book about like the role that that has played. Again even before the worst harassment that I've dealt with, and some resources for folks who maybe can't afford therapy because it is the way our insurance system works here is totally stupid and like paying out of pocket is ridiculous and difficult. But if your insurance doesn't
cover it, there are options for you. If you're on a campus, A lot of universities have good mental health services. A lot of states also have either groups that you can go to or like low cost therapists you can access, and then a lot of therapists have sliding scale fees as well, so that folks who are on lower income
can can can access those services. And it's I think it's really important, and there's this stigma around accessing mental health services, but push yourself to to get over that that hurdle because it's a great resource.
To have, absolutely And I guess that brings me to one of my last questions of like you deal You've dealt with.
A lot, You deal with a lot. What keeps you like?
What brings you joy? What makes you happy? How do you how do you reconnect with Nina and recharge?
Like what what? What does that cups for you?
That's a hard one because my life has changed so substantively since all This happened like literally for weeks, three weeks before I gave birth, as like when I resigned from the government. So I'm a totally different person, not just because of like my entire life outlook changing, but because I'm a mom now, so like hanging out with my kid, love that and it truly is a life changing experience to like be the sole.
Source of food and.
Like protector of another human being. I'm really lucky to have, you know, a great husband who is an amazing dad and has been an amazing partner through like something he definitely did not sign up for when we got married ten years ago, that is for sure.
So spending time with them has been great.
Connecting with nature so I love hiking, and I've just started getting back to hiking post pregnancy, so getting back outdoors has been great. Travel really kind of fills my
cup and like experiencing different perspectives. I'm also a huge music fan and theater fan, and that has been somewhat dampened during the pandemic because of large gatherings, and I haven't been able to do a show since since pre pandemic and probably won't happen for a while now that I have a young kid, but you know, enjoying the arts, experiencing that connecting with other people that way, I think
is something that's so special. And that's also you know, not to bring it back to the abuse and make it sad, but that's one of the things that's most peculiar about like the abuse against me, people saying like, ah, she's a theater kid, as if like I'm sorry, is that a crime? Like Also, musical theater is one of our like uniquely American exports, right, like it's it's a way that America contributes to.
Culture around the world.
And I don't know, how are these people seriously telling me they've never enjoyed a musical in their life if so, like whatever, like.
Oh, musical theater kids like like theater kids, the world go around. If we didn't have theater kids, it wouldn't be joy in the world. Thank God for like enthusiastic like young people who enthusiastically enjoy things and make things.
And you know what, like.
It's it's I'm tired of this like narrative that it's uncool to be happy or enthusiastic about something like yeah, I'm a nerd and I'm like totally okay with that.
We should all wear that proudly. Some people nerd out about cars. I nerd out about lyrics from musicals and and music, and like, you know, every to each their own. That's the beautiful thing about America, right And so anyway, I've gone off on a tangent now.
But those are the things that that keep me, keep me happy.
Also, like I do identify with what Hillary Clinton said in about the worst times of her life, where she
just she focused on the work. And so I have been absolutely wholeheartedly, probably too much, throwing myself into the world since I've been back from maternity leave, and I'm really committed to building a better Internet, whether that's an Internet free from disinformation coming from Russia or an Internet that's free from nasty abuse coming from right and frankly some far left wing men on the internet.
Well, I'm so grateful that we have you in this work. I'm glad that you seem.
Like you're doing that.
You've got that, You've got your people, you've got your community, because the Lord knows we need you especially right now.
Well, thank you, Bridget.
You know, I think you got me on a slightly more optimistic sunny day.
There are definitely days where I'm.
Dropping f bombs left and right and hate everyone, but no, I'm here. And my message to everybody who's going through this or might go through this at some point is like, don't give one inch.
Back, and I'm not giving an inch. I'm going to go a mile ahead.
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