#335: I Realize That I Struggle With Dishonesty For Self-Protection: Help

Caller Olivia's Question: "I have been in and out of trauma therapy the past couple of years. I stop because my husband believes that a few sessions of talking will help me to get over "whatever it is I need to get over". I have trauma from my childhood and trauma in our marriage. my husband has been a monster, he is an addict to prescription paid meds for pain and porn. There has been physical, mental, emotional abuse, gas lighting and sexual assault. We have started work on a lot of this now that he is in recovery, however it seems that we are dealing with his problems and getting him better, but as always I am forgotten. one of his boundaries is lying. I have told lies as what I feel is self preservation, this started when I was very young to keep my safe. I am not sure how to stop and be truthful and authentic. I feel like I am stuck in my pattern of self preservation to keep me protected that I don't know how to stop. I am ready to be venerable. Your podcast has helped me more than any of my therapy sessions?....…" // SUBMIT A QUESTION + CALL IN // We'd love to answer questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, relationships, and healing. Ask Here: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/⁠⁠⁠ // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // Free Consultation Call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love Strong | Experience Therapy: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Brannon's Website: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com⁠⁠⁠ Therapy Utah: ⁠⁠⁠https://therapyutah.org/⁠⁠⁠ // COURSES // The Healing Journey: ⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/⁠ Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp⁠⁠⁠ Tyler's Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: ⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/⁠⁠⁠ // EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: ⁠https://radiantdawn.org⁠ Rising Son | Men's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠https://risingson.org⁠⁠⁠ Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠https://vibrantlove.org⁠⁠ // Reclaim Your Heart // Join our new community for quality exclusive content, incredible courses, and real connection: ⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/