#253: When We Talk About Feelings, Things Blow Up. How Do We Start Building Trust?

Caller Heidi's Question: "I wish I had a single specific question. I suppose I’m needing some guidance on how to navigate this whole experience. This is probably wayyy too much information but I’m going for it Some background, my husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 9. I was previously married and have 3 children from that marriage..." // SUBMIT A QUESTION + CALL IN // We'd love to answer questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, relationships, and healing. Ask Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // Free Consultation Call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love Strong | Experience Therapy: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Brannon's Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Therapy Utah: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://therapyutah.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // COURSES // The Healing Journey: ⁠⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/⁠⁠ Brannon's Boundary Bootcamp: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp⁠⁠⁠⁠ Tyler's Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/⁠⁠⁠⁠ // EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: ⁠⁠https://radiantdawn.org⁠⁠ Rising Son | Men's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://risingson.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vibrantlove.org⁠⁠⁠ // Reclaim Your Heart // Join our new community for quality exclusive content, incredible courses, and real connection: ⁠⁠https://join.reclaimyourheart.com/⁠ 00:00 - Introduction 04:56 - Heidi's Trust Issues 08:32 - Wesley's Struggles 14:18 - Relationship Problems 17:42 - Previous Counseling Attempts 20:44 - Importance of Individual Work 27:40 - Disclosure Process 31:02 - Real Work Begins 34:18 - Wesley's Approach to Change 38:45 - Facing Triggers and Demons 43:25 - Understanding Self-Worth 45:55 - Journey of Self-Discovery 49:30 - Patience in Healing 55:20 - Closing Remarks and Hope