#103: How Long Should I Wait For My Partner's Recovery?

Caller Question: "My question is about intimacy avoidance. My husband and I have been separated for 16 months now and 12 months of that has been in separate countries with the inability to see each other due to Covid. We have a now 2-year-old. He has been sober for 5 months now. He is still unable to say if he wants the marriage or not. I have been accepting, patient, and hopeful but I feel in the last week I have reached apathy. He is due to come over to Australia in 2 weeks and I don't know how I feel anymore. I have been so excited and hopeful but he is so resistant and avoidant I am starting to feel frustrated and angry that he can’t make a decision. Is this normal and acceptable and a part of the process, or is it him just waiting to see if he wants to fall back to his addiction and that he hasn’t truly accepted recovery? I feel miles ahead in my recovery and scared to be pulled back by him I want to let go but I don’t want to be unreasonable with time frames and regret it." We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call! Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events  Radiant Dawn Women's Conference: https://radiantdawnconference.com  Rising Son Men's Conference: https://risingsonconference.com Couple's Conference TBA