What is this? This is the ungod. Sweet! Before we begin, let's take a deep breath to center ourselves in this moment. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Let's begin. God gang, welcome. This time last year, I dropped sexual intelligence part one. It was a legendary drop. The episode was unexpected, ballsy, honest and... Sexy as fuck. Everybody tuned in. The world wanted to know the young god's point of view on sex and pleasure. And I delivered.
The young god was on demon time. That was the episode where I first referred to myself as a sex god. Nobody experienced it. It was supposed to be a one and done episode though. I didn't intend to do a second part. I had said all I needed to say. At least I thought so. Until about six months later, I stumbled upon a viral Twitter thread where Nigerians were going back and forth about sex and its spiritual slash religious implications.
So I'm scrolling and scrolling, reading the different takes, not really trying to get involved. I didn't want to cast my pearls before swine, as Jesus would say. Until I came across a tweet that said, Fornication is not a sin. God won't look at you less. You think Esther went to the kings to dance? Huh? At that point, I couldn't resist. I tought back. Fornication is a sin. Having sex isn't. But y'all are not ready for the nuance in this conversation.
Ladies and gentlemen, today is that day. Because shortly after I sent that tweet, one of you replied with the speed of light saying, Podcast episode? And you know me, I aim to please. So I decided that this fornication conversation would be the perfect theme for part two. Part one was about the nuances of bad, good and great sex. Part two is about the sinful nature of sex. Sex beyond pleasure. Fam, sex is nothing to play with and yet We play with fire all the time.
I mean, sex is connected to everything. Money, power, family, children, physical and mental health, emotions, spirituality, creativity, art and religion. Sex is the answer to life itself, yet we know so little about it beyond touching genitals. Speaking of fire, there's a general rule that says don't play with fire, right? But that rule doesn't apply to firemen, pyrotechnicians, chefs,
others who are trained to utilize fire responsibly and skillfully. Apply this idea to sex. Sex is like fire. It is advisable to abstain because it is a powerful force that affects everything in your life. But if you are sexually intelligent, you become the exception to the rule. You can play with fire without getting burned. You will get all the pleasure without the pain. Wouldn't that be nice? To recap, sexual intelligence is...
It's knowing how to give and receive pleasure, knowing the right conditions for great sex and being able to engineer them for yourself, being mentally, physically and emotionally cognizant of how sex affects everything else. And it is about being the best version of yourself sexually. My thing is, if you have a sex life, it should positively affect other aspects of your life.
Long story short, intelligence isn't just academic or emotional. Even sex requires sense. What's my brain? My name is Rodney. I'm all catcher. And you're welcome to The Young God, a podcast for sex gods. This episode begins with the religious side of things. Sex is generally seen as a sin. But that's only half the story. First, you have to understand what the word sin means.
Sin in Greek literally means to fall short of an ideal, as in what is good. Good for you, good for others, and good for the greater good, right? If something is good for you, what harms the next person, it is a sin. If something benefits others but harms you, it is a sin if it's good for you but harms the greater good It is a sin. So when we talk about sex, in and of itself, it is a good thing. God intended for it to be enjoyed in wholesome ways.
But fornication is any sexual act that falls short of this ideal. That's where I'm coming from when I said, fornication is a sin, having sex isn't. Gluttony is a sin, but eating food isn't. Promiscuity is a sin. Having sex isn't. You see where I'm going with this? Sex that is meaningless and degrading is fornication. Sex that involves extreme fetishes is fornication. Rape, underage sex, child pornography, prostitution, paying for sex, sex work in all its forms, that's fornication.
sex that is had out of desperation loneliness or under the influence sex with someone you don't like or respect a one-night stand with a stranger someone you don't know or don't want to know that's fornication that's why the bible uses phrases like he knew her to describe the ideal sexual situation because sex at its best
is between two consenting individuals who know and respect and like each other, who are attracted to each other regardless of the nature of the relationship. Anything less is a sin. sexual intelligence is discerning whether a potential partner is someone you should invite into your life your home your bed
Are they mentally and emotionally available for great sex? Are they a high quality individual beyond the looks, the riz and the lifestyle? You have to know who you're getting into and who you're getting under. Know who you're fucking. be just as interested in knowing them as you are in fucking them else it's fornication by the way fornication is a sin not simply because the bible said fornication is a sin and this is key because bad things happen when you fornicate
Fornication can emotionally destabilize you. It can fuck up your mood, your self-esteem and that of your partner. Half of you, your mental health issues are because you're fornicating. I'm sorry to say. you can also catch an std you can give an std you can go broke chasing sex If you're cheating, you may lose your relationship. You may break a heart or a home, depending on what side of the bed you're on.
just the scare of an unwanted pregnancy can complicate your life whether you're a man or a woman it can set you back months if the scare is real abortion which is a sin becomes the next option And what they don't tell you about abortion is that a little part of her dies every time she does it. The man is also complicit in that sin. And if you want to keep the baby, you may be forced into a loveless marriage with someone you don't like in order to parent a child you never wanted.
Like it's a slippery slippery slope into hell. Don't get me started on rape, underage sex and other darker forms of fornication. Bottom line is, fornication gets you in trouble and it affects everybody, not just the fornicator. That's why the Bible frowns against it. It's trying to protect us from ourselves. On the other hand, having consensual pleasurable safe sex with someone who is age appropriate, someone you know, respect, are attracted to with maximum understanding of the consequences
is not fornication. That is sex as God intended. Sex that is all the pleasure without the emotional burden, without risk of pregnancy or infection. You're either both single or a couple or married. So there's no breach of trust or fear of getting caught. Everything is proper. All things are equal. That is the golden snitch of great sex. Fornication is rampant because sexual illiteracy is high and the requirements of good sex is hard for the average person to take off.
I'm talking discipline, patience, a conscience, an understanding of consequences, a sense of dignity, a sense of timing, and being a good judge of character. That's why marriage was invented. To protect us from the consequences of fornication. To hold people accountable. Christians believe that any sexual activity before marriage is a sin simply because the Bible says so. No. it was to mitigate fornication because a single mother is not socially good.
Because a fatherless child is not socially good. In fact, that's a disaster waiting to happen. Marriage as an institution was created to protect women and children while holding men accountable. Because without it, men would have all the sex and father children endlessly if you let them. Men have no chill. Now who's going to communicate everything I've just said to different people with different levels of understanding?
It's difficult, it's tricky. Who is going to educate people on the emotional slash spiritual slash social consequences of sex? Because nobody really knows why things are the way they are. And those that know won't talk for fear of ridicule. Like I'm putting my ass on the line saying all this on a podcast. So we all just collectively agreed to opt for the low-hanging fruit, which is to create a fear for sex, a fear of sex, and frown heavily on premarital sex to keep people in line.
It worked for a time, but only for a time. So let's recap. Fornication is sex that is outside what is healthy and healthy. If you're having indiscriminate sex with strangers, with people you don't like or respect, without care or concern for the other person's well-being, without protection, that's fornication. Communication gets you in trouble, but great sex takes you to heaven. It's wholesome, meaningful, and guilt-free. It's all the pleasure without the pain.
Sex at its worst is an animalistic act. Sex, at its best, is the most beautiful demonstration of love between two people. Emphasis on love between two people. If you listened to last month's lovers series, you know well and good what I mean when I say love. I'm talking care, consideration, and connection. Which means that sex is not reserved exclusively for husband and wife. Especially because not all married couples love each other. So there's a nuance here that is very key.
God put these feelings in us on purpose. If marriage were the condition, it would mean that those who never marry would never experience sex. That doesn't seem consistent with God's will. You bet your ass God intended for us to get freaky, albeit responsibly. premarital sex is not a sin but common sense says to abstain from sex until marriage because like i said in the intro Sex is no joke. It is connected to everything. It affects everything. Pleasure is just the prefix.
Something that critical requires maturity, understanding and responsibility, which is assumed that one develops in marriage. In marriage you can have sex without worrying about all the other extra stuff that comes with being single. Marriage means you're ready to commit to a single partner, have kids, and raise and protect them. Any child born within the marriage becomes part of a family as opposed to a burden on the society. That's the simple idea.
Marriage ideally completely nullifies fornication because it is assumed that you know who you're marrying, both biblically and literally. But while marriage nullifies fornication, it must contend with adultery. Adultery is different from fornication in that adultery is any sexual act by a married person that is not with their husband or wife.
While God doesn't directly say anything about fornication, he specified explicitly in the Ten Commandments that thou shall not commit adultery. You get why? Even Hebrews 13.4 says, Let marriage be held in honor among all. all and let the marriage bed be undefiled for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous On paper, marriage is a sacred thing and sex between a married couple should also be a sacred thing. So adultery is sex that is adulterated.
tainted, impure, poisoned by lust. Adultery is frowned upon because it defeats the purpose of marriage. It's supposed to keep people sexually honest. If you read the Bible in its entirety, not just bits and pieces, not just the parts that support your agenda, you will understand how I arrived at this thinking, this wisdom. Flesh and blood didn't reveal it. to get here you have to understand god his will and his purpose for all of this in a holistic way to understand the specifics of sex
If you study history and human nature, you will understand my position. I urge you to educate yourself so that you can make better choices, not just easy ones. I'm here to tell my people it's time to stop believing bullshit just because a motherfucker tell you bullshit with a straight look on their face. We too old, we too smart, we too motherfucking good to believe shit don't make no fucking sense. Apostle Paul said something that perfectly captures my stance on sex.
He said, all things are permissible, not all things are constructive. All things are permissible, but I will not be a slave to anything. That's sexual intelligence right there. maturity, responsibility, discipline. Once you become a slave to anything, you're fornicating. At the end of the day, if you do want to have sex until you marry, that's a very good choice. Peace be on you. I support your decision. Just know that there are also consequences for not being sexually active as an adult.
Listen to part one for more than that. Stay woke. Please forgive me for interrupting your vibe right now. But I just had to shout out the legendary Young God community on WhatsApp. That is an exclusive group where committed, consistent listeners of the podcast gather to share their thoughts on the themes discussed. Thank you.
or via any of the links on my social media at IamTheYoungGod on Twitter and at TheYoungGodPod on Instagram. Do follow, do subscribe, do leave a review if you're enjoying this episode, share with your friends and fam. And now let's get back to the show. The other thing I want to explore is the emotions that come with sex. Nothing prepares us for the feelings that follow pleasure.
Depending on where your head is at and the nature of the relationship, you might feel shame, infatuation, affection, confusion, indigestion, you name it. That's where emotional intelligence comes in. Because sex and emotion are so tightly linked, it is safe to say that emotional intelligence is sexual intelligence. Knowing how to navigate feelings that develop as a result of sex Not many people have this skill, so they opt instead for emotionless sex.
They swing to the opposite extreme, apathy, whereby they feel nothing during and after sex. It's just sex. Sex without an emotional component. Sex with people they have no feelings for. Just another body for the lonely. That's fornication. Sex without emotions, without vulnerability, without care for the other person, at least on the barest minimum. is akin to liking the honey without liking the bee. That's unethical. That's fornication.
It doesn't feel good knowing that you gave a sacred part of you to a man that looked at sex with you as taking a piss. It's not fulfilling. It's disgusting to think about. They will call it casual sex. I once heard someone compare casual sex to ordering takeout. She said, I'm not trying to redecorate the whole restaurant. Just grabbing a quick bite. Not every meal needs a candlelight dinner. Fuck. if that's how he sees sex then that's how he sees the female body the female person
But most importantly, it says everything about how he sees himself. There are men out here that think intimacy is having sex without a condom. it man the the illiteracy out here is crazy fam i'm here to tell you that there is no such thing as casual sex nothing about sex is casual you are inserting yourself into someone taking someone into your body Someone explain what the fuck is casual about that, please?
Don't worry, I'll wait. Thinking of sex as casual is the most unintelligent thing you can do. It's a slippery slope to a casual unwanted pregnancy, casual abortion, casual parenting. But guess what? There is absolutely nothing casual about hell. Outside of the fornication part of it, Emotionless sex is like the least enjoyable type of sex possible. It's a waste of everybody's time. It's like having white pasta without the sauce, white rice without the stew, pounded yam without soup.
See, don't get me wrong. They don't have to be the love of your life. You don't have to even be a couple. But sex is best when both parties feel something for each other. It elevates the pleasure, the intimacy, the energy. These are all part of the knowing process. When you feel something for somebody, you're more likely to look out for the other person's pleasure, not just your own. One-sided, selfish sex is not fun. It's fornication.
I'm not saying you have to pledge and profess your undying love and commitment before you have sex with somebody. I'm just saying to have respect for the act. and have strong boundaries about the circumstances under which you engage in it. If you want to understand why some people are fine with thinking of sex as something casual, go back to the beginning. Look at their sexual history. People don't know this, but your first time having sex determines how you see the opposite sex and sex itself.
If your first time was consensual, age-appropriate and with someone you had a connection with, It is very likely that your view of yourself, the opposite sex and sex in general will be more wholesome, romantic and idealistic. Casual sex wouldn't compute to you. You will expect your sexual encounters to be meaningful, wholesome and revitalizing. Anything less is not worth your time.
On the other hand, if your first time was drunk on sex, which means you probably can't even remember it. If you were peer pressured into sex, you know, if you did it just to get it over with, to feel among. if you paid for sex, if you were molested or raped, especially as a child, if your first time was any of the above, you are probably battling serious sexual demons. which means that sex will often feel overrated to you because all you see are potential bodies not actual people and humans
Casual emotionless sex is why people become sex workers. I'm talking porn, prostitution, only fans, runs, and whatever else is out there. The reason why many people, especially women, opt for the low-hanging fruit of sex work is because it requires that they simply be shameless and promiscuous enough to take the penis off strangers, sometimes on camera. That is all that's required. No training.
no certification, no self-worth, no sex ed, straight to sex work. Just lay back and take that. It's ironic because a sex worker is basically a woman who lays on her back to get to her feet. And she's still not on her feet. Make you make sense. Hmm? i'm just throwing rocks if it hits you holler modern women go into only fans and porn because they believe they're too beautiful to suffer
When a woman is only focused on her physical body and looks, she will often attract men who are lustful. That's the rule of the universe. They are reflecting her lack of connection with her heart and emotions. I hate how I allowed myself to just be like used up. And that came from a lack of self-worth. I did not understand my value that I was born with. I didn't. And people that I shared my body with. When I think about my list, it's repulsive.
But that was an outcome of me discounting my worth. I hate even having that spiritual tie in any type of way. But yeah, I would absolutely change sexually high mood. I remember this powerful quote I saw from this lady called Eartha Kitt. She said, Men have always wanted to lay me down, but never wanted to pick me up.
You see, when a woman is truly embodied in her divine feminine essence, she is a magnet for conscious masculinity to show up. When she is embodied, her depth will scare unconscious men who are horny and only looking for sex. Are you with me, dear listener? Modern women often argue that sex work is honest work and women shouldn't be shamed for it. What they don't see is how it hurts their fight against misogyny and other forms of female oppression.
First of all, sex work makes the objectification of women easy. the second thing is where there's sex work rape isn't far behind if something can be paid for with money it can also be stolen it can be taken by force If sex costs money, men who don't think they should pay or men who can't afford to pay will resort to rape. The same way people steal iPhones, people steal sex from women. I'm talking date rape. Only bad things happen when sex is reduced to a financial transaction.
It's a nasty, dangerous, slippery slope to hell. It's fornication. If they never see the light, if they never ever come back from that darkness, they end up becoming A1 fornicators. The elite of the elite level fornicators, the kind you find in Sodom and Gomorrah. And as for the men who patronize sex workers, In the immortal words of the great Carl Williams. Why? You're part of the problem. You're part of the problem. Stop paying people that you don't have no respect for.
I'm going anywhere on fire. Let's take a moment to pause and breathe, relieve the tension. Whatever you're doing, close your eyes. Take a deep breath. In through the nose. out through the mouth one more time in through the nose out through the mouth Let's resume. I like to think of myself as one of the lucky ones. Because my first time was wholesome and special. She was 21, I was 18, and we were dating.
It was a very loving relationship. That woman saved my life. That experience set the standard for my sexual spirit. it put me on the path to becoming a sex god where i can walk the fine line between demon time and godly hours effortlessly I don't even know what that means no one knows what it means but it's provocative lol what that means is that I'm a sexually reserved man Meaning I have control of my sexual desires.
I don't feel the need to make sexual advances every time I am attracted to a woman. I don't objectify or degrade women for my sexual pleasure. I prioritize consent and mutual interest. I value her autonomy and boundaries. I only want it if she wants it. If she doesn't, that's okay. I won't steal her kiss. I won't touch her inappropriately. But boy, if we get on the same page. If she gives me the green light, oh my goodness. For me, it's all about timing. Kairos.
Consistent listeners know what that word means. Kairos is a concept to do with timeliness, the special moment when it's the opportune time to say or do a particular thing. I wait for the right moment and the right person. When that moment comes, it's pure magic. If that moment never comes, it's not the end of the world. Like I said in part one, there's a lot one can do with sexual desire besides having sex.
Libido can be transmitted into other forms of energy. If you're promiscuous, if you're always ejaculating and orgasming, your libido is worthless. But some of us have figured out that our sex drives can be turned into fully fledged sources of this. especially if you're an artist. AI can never produce true art because it can never be horny. That's the first step in making any piece of art fam, your sexuality. By the way, by the way, by the way.
Me and my guy were catching up some time ago, talking about our love lives and things. He's in a committed relationship and I asked him if he'd ever cheated on his babe. He simply said, when I realized I was spending the only free time I had Yo, goddamn. Shit. And I get it because it's like, control your lust and you understand how boring 90% of women are.
Truly. And the other 10% are high quality women whom you should actually keep as friends. Learn from them. Do business with them. Get into their good books and into their circle and just be that guy. You don't want to complicate things by having sex with them. The mistake that guys make is the second they meet a beautiful girl, they see only sex, nothing else. To be sexually intelligent, you gotta get past the need to act on every sexual impulse.
And if you don't end up with them, you get exiled from the group and everyone that they know. You lose relationships. Their friends can't be friends with you anymore. You end up cutting off so many awesome people out of your life because you wanted to get laid. Your libido is limiting you fam. Fellas, while I still have your attention, let me use this opportunity to debunk the myth that all vaginas feel the same.
This is false. Like penises, vaginal canals come in different shapes, sizes, temperatures and textures. If you believe they all feel the same Maybe you aren't paying close enough attention to your lovers. which poses a whole new problem. Again, a lack of sexual intelligence. Did you know that male bees die after ejaculating in the queen bee? What is nature trying to tell us?
Some vaginas are so good. There's no point living afterwards Fam there's levels to this jokes aside jokes aside okay this conversation about sexual history The concept of virginity is so important. Ladies, you need to understand that as long as you got a vagina, you run the entire motherfucking universe. That's the way it is. You need to understand that. The only niggas that don't agree is homosexuals, and we wasn't talking to y'all.
I think a lot of women hate the conversation because They feel some shame about their first time and they don't want to be judged for something they had little information about. I get it. But there is some merit to the high regard female innocence is held in. I mean, there's a reason why God chose a virgin to mother his only begotten son.
The symbolism holds weight for me. It's not that women shouldn't have sex unless it's for childbirth. It's just acknowledging that, as a society, we leave too much to chance when it comes to our first sexual experiences. we are drawn to the pleasure the thrill of sex but there are so many unforeseen and unintended consequences based on the nature of your first time for both men and women but for some reason he holds more weight for women
Maybe it's because woman is the custodian of sex. Sex is connected to her health, emotions, hormones, energy, nervous system, and of course there's the childbearing aspect. I mean, The Poon is a literal Pandora's box that once it's open, all kinds of things are released into the world, including hope. Imagine sex as this beautifully wrapped box that society has warned and tempted her about.
She's heard all kinds of things, pleasure, pain, love, shame, liberation, regret. It's all in there, swirling together. So she opens it. At first, it's filled with wonder and discovery, a new experience that may carry sensations she never knew existed. But once the box is opened, like in the myth, everything that comes with sex, emotions, expectations, judgments, vulnerability, spills out.
whether it's positive or negative she's now faced with things she can't unsee or unfeel and just like in pandora's box there's one thing left at the bottom Hope. Despite all the confusion, the lessons or consequences, there's hope that she can navigate this new world of intimacy, make her own choices, and grow from it. This is my view on female virginity.
And we know these things instinctively but it's very hard to properly articulate into words for people to understand. So they just say a woman's virginity is important without any context or explanation. That's the problem. Personally, I wouldn't judge any woman for not being a virgin
I would just wonder what she's carrying as a result of her first time. And to any young woman listening who has not yet opened the box, I say to you, sex is one of those things that you can go your entire life without having and be fine but once the ketchup is out the bottle you can't put it back so i urge you to watch what you take into your body whether it's food medicine or penicillin
Especially penicillin. Because what's good for the whole is not always good for the soul. Please say that again. What is good for the whole is not always good for the soul. Let that sink in. Who's there? It's me, The Sink. Oh, and by the way, you can follow the podcast on social media.
at iamtheyounggod Instagram at theyounggodpod I regularly post exclusive content and updates on events all kinds of things you don't want to miss that so please follow I could legitimately talk about sex for days if you let me. but I would rather be about it than talk about it. I'm gonna wrap things up. No pun intended. If there is anything you take from this episode, let it be this. Two things have the most likelihood of altering the course of your life.
Cars and Sex Pleasure without responsibility is a recipe for disaster. One wrong sexual encounter and your life is changed forever. If you're lucky, you can learn the consequences of your actions while still benefiting from the lesson. Many never get that chance. We are generally illiterate when it comes to the intricacies of sex. and that causes a lot of problems both personally and socially.
Sexual education is non-existent. People don't know enough about sex beyond getting naked And so this episode and the previous part are my attempt at closing that gap and offering a solution, bringing signal to the noise, being a voice of reason where there is no reasoning. I hope all this talk about fornication, casual sex, virginity, and sexual history opens the Pandora's box of your mind and reveals to you aspects of yourself that you may have ignored.
Self-knowledge is the key to becoming the best version of yourself, especially sexual self-knowledge. It is so underrated in personal development. It is not talked about enough. And so I hope this episode sows the seeds that help you grow and help you become a better person, a better lover. And most importantly, regardless of where you have been and how you got here. I hope this episode gives you hope. I hope it serves as a rope to pull you out of the darkness and into situations that are dope.
so that you can graduate from being a sex object into a sex god. And if you haven't already, I recommend you go back and listen to part one. it is something special please share this episode with your lovers and friends Listen together. Listen again. And tag The Young God on social media as you listen. I want to know your thoughts. I want to hear your epiphanies. I want to hear your rebuttals as well.
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