I got to tell them it's Harps. Happy day, Happy day to you. I hope you're bloody terrific. Today we're talking about the meaning of life, the meaning of life. What a weird thing that is, What a weird idea? The meaning. Let's start with the the like, oh there's only one, there's a meaning. It's not like the meanings. No one ever says what are the meanings of life? Like it? There might be more than one meaning. And
so I want to unpack this a little bit with you. Clearly, I'm not going to give you a definitive answer, because you know why. And this is only my thinking. I don't personally think there's a definitive answer, and I don't think and this is just my thinking. And you have to see if you're thinking kind of aligns or if what I say sounds right or reasonable. But I'm going to suggest a few things and you'll consider them, and you'll discard them, or you'll maybe do something with them.
But I think that a lot of us believe that there is a single meaning to life, especially when we talk in a theological in a religious context, many people believe there's a meaning to life. And it's pretty much the same for all of us, and we all just need to live that meaning. I don't know about that. I don't agree with that. I don't think that the meaning of my life is necessarily the same as the meaning of your life. I also don't think not better,
not worse, but just individual. I also don't think there's a single meaning. I think that the meaning of my life when I'm twenty might not be identical to when I'm thirty or forty, or fifty or sixty or seventy or ten. Maybe it's something that evolves, Maybe it's something that's fluid. Also, maybe it's not a single thing. Why do then need to be a single meaning? Maybe part of the meaning of my life, This is what I think.
I think the meaning of my life in part is to serve and to teach and to coach and to help other people explore and fulfill and optimize their potential. I feel like that's part of the meaning of life. I feel like part of the meaning of my life. Perhaps we could interchange meaning with purpose. Who knows is to is to be loving and compassionate and kind, And I think part of that for me is a real exercise in personal growth. For me, because I can be
not those things. I can be selfish and self centered. And so I think part of the meaning of my life in hopefully sharing love and kindness and support and good stuff for the world and the people in my immediate world, is one that so I am of value and benefit to them, but also that I am being tested and I am I am on my own journey of discovery and growth and learning. So you know, I personally don't align to the idea that there is a meaning of life. I think the meaning of our life
can evolve over time. I don't even know why we need to give we need to come up with this single kind of explanation or banner that we drape over the top of our life. I'm not sure that it's even a good idea. Perhaps better than that is to get clear about, which I've spoken about before, what are the values of my life? In other words, what are the values of me? What are my values? What are the things that I believe in? What are the things
that are important to me? Because then that will probably shape the meaning or slash purpose or slash direction of my life. Like it's almost like this mystical, magical, mythical thing that we need to go on some spiritual journey and look under some spiritual rock or behind some spiritual burning bush to discover the meaning of our life, and then we will be enlightened, and then we will go on to live that enlightened life. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. Maybe what do I know? What do
you know? What do any of us know? What I do know is there's fucking zero agreement on any of this. You ask different religious groups, you'll get different answers to the same question. Different spiritual groups. Ask philosophers, are psychologists, Ask the stoics, Ask different teachers. You'll get nobody knows, you know and so. And why nobody knows is because there's no single universal answer. I don't think. I think
that you and I get dealt certain cards. We get. Okay, here are your genetics, here's the environment you're born, and here's the culture. Maybe here's the religion that you're born into. This is the circumstance and situation. That's your mum, that's
your dad, that's your brothers and sisters. And then on top of that you get to make a whole lot of decisions and hopefully figure out for you who you are, who you are at your core, what your beliefs, what matters to you, what your values, who and how you want to be. And then maybe once you get clarity around that, then you can choose the meaning of your life. There's an idea. Maybe the meaning of your life is not predetermined. Maybe it's you determined. What if you get
to choose, Like you've got a brain. Even if we believe in God, which you may or may not, but if God gave us free will, or if we just happen to have free will or whatever, surely you have the capacity to think and choose and make decisions. You have this incredible thing called your brain which allows you to navigate life and to all the complexities and variables of life. Why would you not get to choose the meaning of your life? Oh no, No, you've got this
incredible brain. You can do all this incredible shit. You can think for yourself, but you can't choose the meaning of your life. That's done and dusted. You just need to stumble into it, and let's hope you do, because otherwise you're going to die one day and you will have been just doing all this shit that wasn't what you were meant to do because you didn't discover the meaning of your life. Kind of fucking ridiculous, right, and
very limiting. And let's just say also, if you want to be a little bit scientific, akat there's zero evidence that there is a set meaning of life. Show me the evidence there. It doesn't exist. So until we get that evidence, why don't we go. You are in charge of the meaning of your life. You get to choose what your life will be about. You get to choose your path and your purpose. You get to choose whether or not there is a meaning or multiple meanings to
your life. If you are struggling, then, as I said two a minute ago, too, what matters to me? And I mean dig deep. I don't mean money, car house, Yes, of course we need money, car house, We need stuff, we need assets, we need to we need to live and navigate the very commercial world that we live in. Nothing wrong with making lots of money, nothing wrong with all the fancy shit that we've spoken about before, of course, But I don't think money is at the core of
your value system. When we think about the totality of your life, of my life, of our lives, what are the things that at the most fundamental core of me being a human, me being a conscious creature, me being a loving, kind, hopefully person that wants to build connection and love and to belong and to love and be loved,
and all of those things what really matters. And so when we get clear about those values, when we get clear about what are my beliefs, what really matters to me, then the challenge of finding the meaning of our life, or perhaps choosing it becomes much easier. Take a break, because that's what we do it about this time. We'll be back in a mini with a question. And we're back, of course we would be. So my question for you today is what are you choosing for your life? What
are you choosing for your life? And see you tomorrow