A good a team. It's me. Hope you're bloody great, Hope you're enjoying your day. So just a brief you today, kind of brief. It's been an interesting day for me.
I wanted to share some thoughts and ideas with you about or around the propensity that we humans have to wait, to avoid, to procrastinate, to deny, to delay, to not address things that we should, to not take ownership of things that we should, despite the fact that if we really open our eyes, I mean literally and also metaphorically open our eyes toward our life and our situation and our environment. Now outcomes are telling us there's a lot
of insight. There's a lot of information to be gleaned, there's a lot of wisdom. There's a lot of insight that we can pay attention to and do something within a very practical sense, strategic sense, to make us better, to make our life better, to make our relationship or environment or outcomes better. But nonetheless, quite often we wait for the catastrophe, We wait for the wheels, the metaphoric wheels,
to fall off. And I'm being mildly reflective today because I just got off the phone about twenty minutes ago with the doctor who you may or may not have seen. I've had some stuff cut off my face in the last week. As I record this, it's Thursday, and exactly one week ago, I had two things cut off my face.
Three things were one big, which was an actual little surgical procedure to cut some shit out and make sure they cleared all the margins and all of that because they were quite sure it was skin cancer, and also to buy up see two other things, one on my
forehead and one on my forearm. And they've also identified about another eight things which I need to go back and get checked and not checked, but I OPSID and then probably a procedure or three anyway, So they chopped away at my chin last week, and the pathology came back today the chin and also for the biopsy from the forehead, and the forum turns out that all three were forms of skin cancer basil cell carcinoma, which is not obviously as bad as melanoma, of course, but nonetheless
not something that you want in your body, and can eventually turn into something quite nasty down the track if left unattended. And what's interesting for me is I'm generally the guy who likes to think anyway, I was going to pump up my tiyes who likes to think that he is all over everything and switched on and paying attention. Why is he talking in the third person? But I like to think I'm the guy that looks after my health and my body and pays attention and pays attention
to my business and my friends and my relationship. And I think that for the most part, I do. But there's clearly times when I'm not paying enough attention. There's times where I'm not really in tune with all of the data. I'm not really in tune with all of the information. I'm not really in tune with what I'm being told, not told verbally by somebody else. But my results, what my world, what my environment, What my interactions and encounters and outcomes are telling me. And you and I
are always getting signs. We're always getting signals. We're always getting messages and data and information and downloads. There's always something to be gleaned from our environment, from our relationships, personal relationships, intimate, super personal relationships, professional, and those relationships
that we know to be typically toxic. We're getting download from our body, from our emotions, our emotional system from our subconscious mind, that knowing that we have that deep underlying awareness, that knowledge, and sometimes it's more like an instinctive or an intuitive thing like our internal sat nav, to which I often refer that deep knowing that we have that internal whether or not it's emotional or psychological, or some kind of subconscious guidance system or some kind
of spiritual sat nav, I don't know what it is, but I do know that for me anyway, and most people that I talk to, there is an awareness, There is a knowing, There is an urging from something or somewhere deep down pointing us in a direction or opening a door of awareness about a thing that we should pay attention to and potentially address. You know, we're always getting We're always getting feedback from our peers, and information and data from our social interactions and experiences, and from
even the things that we can measure and quantify. I can measure my body composition, I can look at my bank account. I can see how many people are listening to my episodes. I can see how many people are connecting with an idea or a message that I share through my whiteboard like I can get quantifiable data and
measurable results. The challenge with that for me is not to get sidetracked with how much to people like me and how popular I am, but rather to have an awareness around what's the data telling me, who is resonating with, what kind of themes, ideas and messages, What should I do more of? What should I do less of? So we're always getting this information that we can do something with your financial situation, and even even the day to day stuff that seems somewhat incidental a look a glance.
We don't want to overthink everything. But at the same time, I feel that many of us have this real propensity and capacity to be able to wait, to be able to to unwittingly maybe maybe to wait until the wheels fall off, the metaphoric wheels fall off, till till the shit hits the metaphoric fan, till things get either out of control or almost out of control. And it dawned on me that I've really waited for too long. I used to get my skin checked all the time I
used to get it. I've had a bunch of things cut off, and there's no excuse, but I literally have not been back to the skin cancer clinic where I used to go twice a year. I haven't been back for four and a half or maybe five years, and fair to say, it's good that I went when I went, stupid that I didn't go for that long, And the same can be said for lots of other health checks and updates and kind of that we can make. You know, our body is always talking to us. Our body is
its own form of wisdom. You know. The subconscious mind is wise. The subconscious mind is I believe, always knowing and prompting and urging us in a direction or a way towards something or away from something. I know when I try and rationalize dumb shit with my prefrontal cortex, I try and be illogically logical by rationalizing shit that I shouldn't and I can make a case for it, and I can, I can turn it into a reason when deep down I really know it's not a reason,
it's an excuse. Deep down I really know, I know that there is something that I'm doing that I shouldn't or not doing that I should. You know, for me, for example, I spend a lot of years working in the fitness industry, a lot and a lot of years owning my own gyms, a lot of years working on the gym floor, having thousands of conversations, managing leading hundreds
of trainers and fitness professionals. And it was great. It was really good, and I loved it, and the fitness industry was great for me, and my staff and my clients were great. And I learned and I evolved and I grew and I really benefited and I became. I think through those experiences and that time and those encounters and relationships and peaks and troughs and challenges, I became a much better, more capable, adaptable version of me. But it got to a point where I wasn't learning and
I wasn't growing as much, if at all. It got to a point where for me, that particular thing, that particular time, in that particular industry, doing that particular job that way wasn't that it was bad at all. It wasn't that I hated it. I didn't hate it, But I just got to the point where I felt like my time was up. I felt like with that particular life style and job and career and that particular operating system for me, I'd reached my use by date. But stupidly,
for me, I think I waited. I think I waited about a year or two too long, maybe even three, And it didn't end up catastrophically, but it could have because I knew. I knew a year or two or three before I got out, or before I kind of stepped away from got out. Means it sounds like I
was escaping something terrible. I was I definitely wasn't. But you know when you start working in an industry at eighteen, and you're working on a gym floor literally and helping people and teaching people how to squat and deadlift and talking about bums and legs and micros and macros and mindset and motivate and structure and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Autopilot. Right, you can hear me, And then thirty years later you're still doing a version of that.
Of course, I was doing other things at the same time. I was doing a bit of talking and writing, and I'd spread my metaphoric wings a bit, but I knew the signs were there. If I think if I had have done it too much longer, I might have hated it. But I didn't pay attention. I didn't pay attention to my feelings. I didn't pay attention to my subconscious mind. I didn't pay enough attention to the kind of results that I was producing, which weren't as great or as
good as they once were. You've been around people, or you might even be the people who has comma, has waited too long with health, where your body's screaming at you to do something. Your body is telling you. You know it, not even like you need to guess. You know that something is wrong. You know that something is
going to break. If you don't pay attention, if you don't make a decision, if you don't acknowledge what is, if you keep putting your head in the sand, if you don't take action, if you don't be brave, if you don't be accountable, shit is going to break. And then once something breaks, then once something that, once the catastrophe happens, you are forced to act. You are now in a reactive state without a choice, because if you don't do something, you're going to die, or if you
don't do something, you're going to metaphorically die. I've seen people do that in relationships where they're in a toxic, destructive, horrible relationship and they just stay there because I guess they think on a level, or they believe on a level that it's easier to stay in then get out, and they might be right. And yes, this is a very complicated, multi variable kind of issue relationships, of course, and I'm not in this case. I'm not talking about
domestic violence and all those horrible things. That is for another time, but just people who happen to be in relationships that they might be friendships, they might be business partnerships, they might be people who work side by side, but it's just like the nature of the relationship for the most part, is destructive and toxic and unhealthy. Yet people either one don't do anything truly to fix it or
address it or get out of it. And then we wake up and it's five years down the track, and now my anxiety is through the roof and I'm still not addressing those problems and I'm still not having that hard conversation and I'm still pretending it will fix itself and it won't. You know, one of my better friends, I don't want to disclose who, and it doesn't matter why, but one of my better friends in the last couple of years passed away and I saw this person not
long like within days of when they passed away. And every time I saw this person, for probably the last ten to fifteen times that we got together, I was worried. There was a bunch of alarm bells going off for me about a bunch of things that I won't open the door too wide. But even from the outside looking in, I could tell that this highly gifted, talented, intelligent person was not addressing things that they should and for that person,
time ran out, you know. And I'm not trying to be melodramatic, but I've had that experience with a bunch of people. Maybe that's because I'm old, so I've been around for decades. But people that I've lost that I don't think needed, I know, didn't need it, didn't need to be lost. And I can't undo that. But I don't want to lose any more friends. I don't want
to lose any of you. I don't I don't want to hear, you know, I don't want to hear about somebody who passed away because they wouldn't make a decision, because they wouldn't go and get a check, because they wouldn't step up or own up or be honest or be brave. And of course it's not about what I want,
it's about what's great for you. But but it's just, you know, when I see people who are unnecessarily in a holding pattern of destruction and anxiety and toxicity and overthinking and rumination and mental and emotional and physical despair, when there's an answer, not a quick, easy or painless answer, but there's an answer, there's definitely a path to take, There's definitely there's definitely something or things that can be done.
You know, When I see that, it makes me sad, you know, And on this show we do our best to you know, enlighten and inspire and educate and all those things. But at the end of the day, what really matters, what really matters, is yet becoming the best version of you and optimal you and living your purpose and all of those things that I am passionate about,
lifelong learner and supporting. All of that stuff matters. But almost the most basic of requirements, the most fundamental of human needs, is for you, is for you to pay attention to what your life is telling you. Your body is telling you, your emotional system, your internal sat nav is telling you. So this is a brief one, but
I'm going to leave you with this. What is the catastrophe that is imminent for you if you don't take action, if you don't pay attention, if you don't acknowledge, if you don't open your eyes, if you don't be brave. What is the thing you need to stop avoiding and own up to or address and when will you do it? See you next time.