#1550 This (Version Of) Life Wasn't My Plan - Harps

I'm talking about today. I'm talking about life as the thing that we inhabit, the practical, three dimensional physical existence that we have in the middle of work, in the middle of relationships and in the middle of all of our commitments and obligations and joy and pain and pleasure, and then more on an internal level, that kind of emotional and psychological and sociological, perhaps and spiritual experience of life.

There's the situation we're in, and then there's the experience we have of the situation or the circumstance or the environment that we're in. And yesterday, yesterday I did a workshop, a private workshop. That's funny, private workshop by twenty people. So it's kind of public, isn't it. But I think anything for me. Anything that's like twenty people, I call it a private workshop. Anyway, So I did a private workshop here in Hampton, and we had about five hours

together and we spoke about a lot of things. But somebody came up to me in one of the breaks and I was talking to them about this idea of designing our life and creating our life. And yes, there's stuff that's in our control, of course, and there's stuff that's out of our control. And of course there is a certain level of unpredictability and unknown and uncertain and

uncomfortable that comes with the human experience. And of course we've got to acknowledge that we can't plan for everything, we can't anticipate everything, and that bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people, and we don't know why. We just know that that is

an inevitability of the human experience. And you're going to have great shit happen to you and terrible shit happened to you, and good days and bad days, and physical, mental, emotional, social, financial, personal, professional peaks and troughs, and in the middle of it, you've got to make do. You've got to survive and hopefully thrive. And something that dawns on me, has dawned on me for years, is the amount of people that

And there's no judgment or criticism in this. This is coming from a good place of spending much of my life trying to help people think better, do better, create better, build the body they want, their health, they want, the business, the brand, the lifestyle, you know, the relationships, the communication, and the inner world of joy and calm and peace and satisfaction and contentment and hope. But it's it never ceases to amaze me how many people live in a

kind of This wasn't my plan state. I didn't This wasn't what I wanted, This wasn't what I intended, This wasn't what I thought would happen or where I thought I would be at this stage of my life. I didn't plan to end up here in this literal or metaphoric place or state. And the amount of people that I work with and talk to and connect with that almost seemed to be a passenger in their own life. You know, if we compare our life to a vehicle, a kaha or a bus or something, and it's almost

like we're a passenger on that vehicle. In that vehicle, we're being swept along with the momentum and the flow and the mayhem and the energy of the life that we inhabit as the life that inhabits us. But then there's the practical life that we exist, that physical, three

dimensional life where all that stuff happens. And you know, for many people that being swept along or I guess another metaphor analogy would be in would be being in that river where there's a certain current and flow and energy and we're in that river and we just go

where it takes us. And while there can be there can be a joy to that, and there can be a kind of an organic kind of development in that, I guess, and learning and growing and dealing with the unpredictability and the uncertainty, but also the idea of getting out of the river sometimes and standing on the bank of the metaphoric river and saying, am I going in the direction that I want to go? Am I doing the things that align with my values and who I want to be and how I want to be? Am

I living my plan? Do I have a plan? You know, so many people when they say to me, this wasn't my plan, and I say, could you tell me what the plan was? And they kind of look at me quizzically, and I say, well, you said this where you are your life, the current state of your life, wasn't your plan? What was your plan? And can I see a copy of the plan so that I can kind of get context? And people look at me quizically because well, there is no plan, There is no there was nothing written down.

There is no copy of a plan that I can look at, because in truth, they didn't really have a plan or a strategy or a timeline or a protocol

or an accountability process. They just had an idea in their head of how life would work out for them or where they would be in five or ten years, thinking that things would kind of unfold and happen and would somehow land on their feet, the old magical, mystical landing on the feet, rather than saying, okay, it's June tenth, twenty twenty four, on Planet Craig, I'm sixty, When I'm sixty five, these are the things that I would like. Hopefully, maybe this is my five year plan, or it's my

one year plan. Let's stay with a five year plan. I hope that when I plan that when I'm sixty five, this is my intention, this is what I would like. These are the goals that I have. So now I'm going to create a plan around that, that five year plan, a structure, a process, a timeline, some accountability. It's a

do list. I'm going to have some KPIs, some targets that I need to reach or hit along the way, so that I just don't have some aspiration or vague hope or finger crossing intention in the back of my mind. I actually have in the front of my mind a concrete strategy and plan of how I will create the outcomes that I want to create in my business, in my life, in my relationships, with my physical, mental, and emotional health, with my lifestyle, with my situation, circumstance environment.

I will have a plan. Now, that doesn't mean our life has got to be one big strategy and there is no joy, or there is no intuition or organic kind of expression, or there is no flow. But we don't even we don't need to operate in either that organic let's see where we go flow state or the strategy state. I believe the human experience, the best version of the human experience, is where we can improvise, adapt

and overcome. We can go with a flow. We can we can have things that just come up and change the direction or the course of our life that we didn't plan. But also at the same stop, at the same time, we can have a destination that we're heading towards that does involve a degree of strategy, a degree of work, a degree of effort and energy and focus and resilience and adaptability, so that we are not the passenger on that bus, so that we are not a

character in our own story. The amount of people that I talk to that tell me that where they are in their life is not where they want to be. But in many ways they have been living unconsciously. They have been unconsciously getting up every day and doing kind of a version of the thing that they did yesterday, day before, week before, month before, year before, that wasn't in the first place, wasn't optimal anyway. I often say to somebody something about, let's just go with and this

is just an example, but their health. I don't meet many people who, given the opportunity, wouldn't want to be healthier. I don't meet anyone who wants to be less healthy. And when I say, all right, so is one of your goals to improve your health and your function and your energy and to potentially live longer, and not just live longer, but live healthy for longer. So not just to improve potentially improve your lifespan or your potential lifespan,

but also your health span. Everyone will say, well, fuck, yes, of course I want that. And then I'll say, well, tell me about the booze, the seven days a week booze. Oh yeah, there's that. So again, this is not self loathing. This is self awareness. This is acknowledgment. What is the thing that I really want for my life? What does my best life look like? What does that even mean? What does a healthy body look like for me? How

important is that to me? How important is it that I do a job that resonates with me, that I love, or at the very least, you know, sometimes it's messy and painful, but in general terms, it's fulfilling and rewarding. And I like the culture, and I like the job, and I like what I do, and I like the

experiences and the people that I work with. And of course there's going to be a bit of mess and pain, but it's where I want to be versus I fucking dread getting up on a Monday because I've got to go back to that place that I don't like with those people that I don't get that don't get me that, and I'm going to work in that And yet but what am I going to do? What am I going to do? This is just my This is just my life,

and woe is me? And I shrug my shoulders and five years go by and I'm still in the same joint. But I actually haven't done anything brave, courageous, amazing to change the situation. I just tell myself and others how

hard I have it and how unfair life is. Well, guess what, you know, sometimes we do have it hard, and sometimes life is unfair, and sometimes life sucks, and sometimes you know where Joel Sardi, my friend who's been on the show A Bunch, who came home from serving in the military and leaned against a railing and fell over the railing and broke his neck and became a quadriplegic, you know sometimes that sometimes that and we don't want to think about that. That's horrible and sad, but it's

just part of life for some people. And as I've said a couple of times lately. Joel can't wake up tomorrow and say, guess what, I'm not doing quadriplegia today. I'm just going to fucking walk. It's too you know what.

It's too tiring, spending three hours every morning going through this whole ritual of getting ready just to be able to eat breakfast, getting up at four o'clock for this whole ritual of going to the toilet and being cleaned and getting being dressed and working with cares to spend three hours to get to the point where he's ready for breakfast at seven o'clock. He doesn't have the option of not doing that. That is just you and I. Hopefully you and I we don't have to deal with

that or anything like that. We get to choose our attitude. We get to decide what is what things mean to us. Because you and I have the ability to be able to process data uniquely, we get to concentrate and focus our energy on things that will produce better outcomes. And I'm not, for one minute today trying to be insensitive or uncaring because I know many of you have hardship, many of you have trauma, many of you have had and still have adversity, and I acknowledge that, and I

genuinely feel for you. But at the same time, I know that you want more, and I know that you know that it's not going to accidentally get better. And so while we can acknowledge the unfairness and the adversity and the pain, we can acknowledge that we're not pretending that life is not shit sometimes, or we're not in pain, or that we don't have trauma. We're not we're not unaware of that. We're not ignoring that. We're not pretending life's a Disney movie, because we all know it ain't.

But what we're doing is we're going well despite this hard stuff, despite the stuff that's not fair. What can I do? What is one thing that I can do today to create a tiny bit of shift in my life? How can I make my life more of a conscious process unless of an unconscious existence where I'm being swept along in someone else's story, I'm being driven along in someone else's bus. I am just a pawn in someone else's game. And all of these metaphors sound dramatic, but

it's true. It's true, like all of us want better, all of us want to grow personally. All of us want happiness, fulfillment, joy, calm. But the question is how do we create that? How do you and I consciously, strategically and courageously design, construct, and inhabit our version of our best life? Whatever that means. Think about how much time people spend when they buy a block of land

and they build a house on that. How much time people spend designing, choosing, paying for building this thing that they want to inhabit. They might plan and replan and design and decide and redecide and change their minds. It might be for some people a one, two or three year process to actually build this thing that they're going to live in, to get it just right, to build the house that suits them that they love to be in. Now, if I said what is more important your house or

your home or your life? You're going to say to me, well, of course my life is more important. Then I'm going to say, how much time are you spending designing your life? Visualizing what you want, what you need, doing a stock take on your current operating system, on your current outcomes, on your current lifestyle, on your current habits and behaviors. What are you doing? What are you being. What are you creating is the way that you are currently doing life? Working?

Are you optimizing what you have to work with? Let's don't worry about or waste energy on what you don't have. I'm sixty. I can sit here and think about, Oh fuck, I wish I was thirty. Oh I finally I'd have done that when I was twenty. Oh I finally I had a known what I guess? What's all bullshit, it's all redundant, doesn't matter because I can't fucking go back in time. I don't have a time machine. I can't change any of it, and it's all a waste of

my energy. So what matters is today today? As I said June tenth, what am I going to do today today? What can I do? Craig Hapa, what can I do today to move the needle? What's an idea that I have? What's a decision that I can make? What's an action that I can take? How do I stop wasting energy on bullshit that is out of my control? And how do I start focusing on and investing energy on the things that will give me the best return on that investment. What am I going to do? What is in my control.

I want to share with you some questions that and again I say this all the time, but and I said this to the group yesterday after I'd banged on for Nelly six hours. Personal development doesn't matter whose mouth it's coming from, or whose words they are, or what

book it's written in, or what program it's in. But all of these things that I share, and I might share some things that don't resonate with you, that are bullshit to you, And I understand and feel free move on, hit the pause button, go and listen to Tony Robbins or whoever, or come back tomorrow or whatever it is. But if I am saying something now that is resonating, the value of you listening to this is not in the listening. That's part of it, I guess, But the

real value is in the doing following the listening. If I say something that provokes you or resonates with you, or is meaningful for you, or maybe even makes you a bit emotional, that's not the worst thing in the world. I hope that my words. I hope that my books. I hope that my podcasts. I hope that my seminars and workshops. I hope that for some people, that moment in time, that encounter that intersection with me and my thoughts and ideas will be a starting point for someone.

I know that I am not the answer. I know that my words are not the answer, but maybe they're the start because I also know that the only person that can genuinely design your life, create your life, and inhabit your optimal life is you. I can't do it for you. You can't do it for me. The only person in the world that I can change is me. The only life that I can renovate is my own. The only existence I can inhabit is my own existence. I can encourage, support, cheer, educate, inspire, pray. I can

do all of that for you. But I can't make a decision for you. I can't take action for you. I can't be brave or courageous for you. I can't have self awareness for you. I can't own up, step up, and look up for you. I can't execute for you. I can't be resilient. I can't do anything for you other than be here for you to encourage, support, and inspire. All of those things the resilience, the work that the energy,

the courage, the willingness to do something today. When you hear these words, despite the fact that you didn't fucking plan to do it today, and despite the fact that it's not convenient. Do you know what happens when you do something that's hard and uncomfortable and inconvenient, You change a little bit. You change a little bit because you're working against that weakness. You're working against that internal emotional

and psychological resistance. You're working against that fear, that laziness, that procrastination, all of those fucking things that keep you trapped in mediocrity, when you go, fuck it, I don't want to do this, I don't feel like this, but I need to, so I'm going to. When you stop looking for comfort, when you stop looking for accolades, when you stop looking for a round of applause, when you stop looking for someone to validate you or tell you you're awesome or give you a fucking pat on the

back for eating a chicken salad. When you stop doing that, then you start to step into your power and out of their power. Because the project is you. You are the project. You are the problem, you are the solution. And yes there will be external problems. We're not saying you're the overarching problem of all. But in terms of you growing, nobody's stopping you from making a decision, even somebody like Joel who's in a wheelchair that I spoke about before.

Joel's still learning and growing and evolving. Joel's a dad now, he wasn't when he broke his neck. He's a dad of too, He's a husband. He's becoming a great speaker, he's becoming his condition. His body doesn't define him. His body affects his life, but it doesn't determine his life. His level of function is a very It is a factor that needs to be navigated and negotiated. But it isn't a death sentence, that's for sure, And it isn't all determining in his story because his story is yet

to be written. The rest of his chapters are yet to be written. And he can get up every day and feel sorry for himself, which by the way, would be understandable, wouldn't it. And he can do that, and he did that for a minute, and he said that, But after you do that for a while, and after you immerse yourself in all of that stuff, which again I say is understandable, But then what you still wake up one day and you're still in a wheelchair? So

is that hard? Is that unfair? Incredibly fucking hard? Incredibly unfair? Does life suck? Life sucks? His life? Beautiful? Life is beautiful, Life is all of it and none of it. Life is met and mayhem, enjoy and euphoria. And in the middle of all of that shit is you. Is me trying to figure out what is success for you? So what is success for you? Like when you think about your best life? What does that mean? And if you can't figure that out right now or you can't give

me an answer, that's okay. But I know that you don't want to be a failure, So therefore I automatically know do you want to be a success? Great? What is that? And let me tell you, if you can't define it, it's very fucking hard to create the thing you can't identify or define? What does success mean for you? And then you go, but well it's so big, I get it. So what about success in your career? What does that look like? What about success within the context

of your relationships? What does success mean? And it doesn't need to be mind blowing. It might success in your marriage or your relationship or your relationship with kids, mum and dad, or simply whatever. It might just be that you get on great. It might just be that you spend quality time together. It might just mean that you

give love and get love, and that success amazing. Success for you might be earning enough money to tick all the boxes you need to live practically, and maybe an extra ten or twenty grand a year so you're not going backwards, and that's that. Maybe success for you is building a billion dollar organization. Again, there's no right or wrong, but there's right or wrong for you. What is success

for you in terms of that internal world. We're so externally focused when we think about the internal world, which is the place where living happens. The external world is the place where life happens. But the living, the feeling, the emotion, the joy of the pain, the pleasure, the hope, the devastation, the idea, is the creativity, all of that internal juice, that's where it happens. What is success for you in that space? Maybe success for you in your

internal world is calm. Maybe it's joy. Maybe it's happiness. Maybe it's creativity. Maybe it's excitement, maybe it's fun. Maybe it's a bit of all of that. Maybe it's something different, Maybe it's satisfaction, maybe it's contentment. But you're not going to accidentally end up there. Maybe some people do. I don't know if I've met someone. I'm sure somebody. I'm sure one or two. But let's just not rely on that.

Let's think about what that might look like for us, and what we might need to do to create that, what we might need to hold on to and let go of. What are the things that really matter to you broadly in your life? What are your values? What are those things that if we were going to build set of behaviors and habits and an operating system for this designer life that you want to inhabit, what are the things that we might base that on. What are the things that you value? What are your ethics? What

are your morals? What are your goals? Who do you want to be? How do you want to be? How do you want to be for yourself? How do you want to be for others? What do you need to do more of? What do you need to do less of? What do you need to acknowledge that isn't working? Again? Not self loathing, self awareness. It's very hard to design our life to create a structure and a process and a plan and a timeline and accountability to tap into resource.

It's very hard to create this operating system if we don't know where the fuck we want to go or why the fuck we want to go there. What happens when, in the context of this design of life, Now we've got our plan, we've got our structure, we've got our process, we've got our KPIs, we've got our timeline. What happens we wake up tomorrow and we don't have any motivation? What do you do then? What's your post motivation plan?

What happens when people discourage you, when people criticize you, when people are unfair, when people shit on you, that's going to happen. You need to rely on you. That doesn't mean that you're going to be, you know, Robinson Crusoe in an ocean of humanity on your own little island. But we don't want to be dependent on other people to keep us emotionally and psychologically buoyant. It's great when we've got support, it's great when people are cheering us

on and loving us. But if you can only keep doing the thing things that you need to do to live your best life in the presence of a fan club or a round of applause or a standing ovation, or a trophy or a pat on the back or some kind of accolade. Then you're in trouble. I've spoken about the e Myth before, which is a book written by Gerber Gub and he talks about this idea of working on the business and the difficulty that comes in working on the business having that kind of macro view

of the business. When you are immersed in the micro the day, the day, the day to day, the minute to minute, the business of being in it, it's very hard to be objective about the thing that you're in the middle of. And you know, for me, it's always been important that I found a way to metaphorically and sometimes geographically get away from my day to day, get away from the momentum and the continuity of my typical you know, situation or environment or job or even relationship

or circumstance or lifestyle or whatever it was. And there have been many times in my life where I knew that something wasn't working optimally. It was kind of okay, but it definitely wasn't optimal. It wasn't giving me a lot of joy, But in the moment, in the situation, immersed in the middle of it, it's hard. It's hard to see the things that you can see when you're away from it. It's hard when you're in the middle

of it. Just like when you're in the house, it's hard to see the house because you're in a room. But when you're on the other side of the street, when you're away from that house, when you've got a different perspective, you have a level of objectivity and understanding of what is in front of you, because now you can oh, you go, oh my god, the house is on fire. I can see it from out here. But when I was sitting in the crapper reading the newspaper

and the spare room is on fire. This is a terrible metaphor I acknowledge, or a terrible analogy, but we

have to sometimes get away. For me, I've spent many times in my life hitting the pause button on something, stopping something, and I've spoken probably ten times over the course of fifteen hundred episodes about hitting the pause button on my life for ten days and going to Queensland by myself when I was very, very very busy under a lot of pressure, owning multiple businesses with one hundred plus staff and doing a lot of things, and on

the outside looking very successful and very accomplished and very competent and ticking lots of box And if you were a fly on the wall or an observer perhaps looking from the outside in, you would think Craig's going great, he's killing at his succeeding. And while those things were objectively true, depending on how we evaluate success, if it was about commercial and financial success and brand and business, well yes one. But that's all the external stuff. But

the internal stuff for me was a nightmare. The internal stuff was chaos and stress and anxiety and overthinking and overreacting and poor sleep and poor mental and emotional health and all of these things. And so these two states of external success and internal chaos can coexist. Not only can they, they do often. I don't do heaps of

one on one work anymore. I still do a little bit, but in my experience, the people that I've worked with that would be considered in our culture or our society to be towards the successful slash extremely successful end of the scale in general terms, more anxious, more of an overthinker, worse sleep, more likely to be medicated for depression and

or anxiety and or sleeplessness. And often despite the success in inverted commas that was happening in their life, in that internal world, they were often emotionally, mentally spiritually bankrupt outside looking in amazing, inside out state shit ouse. That's not to say one causes the other, but that is to say that there is not necessarily a positive correlation between external success the situation, the appearance, and internal cess

success the feeling or the state or the experience. And when I got away from my life for ten days, I realized I had a level of perspective, awareness, understanding, and insight that I couldn't get in the business in the mayhem, in the flow, in the momentum of my from when I got out of bed to when I went to bed. It's like all my minutes were taken with stuff. But when I got away from that, I didn't do any work. I didn't have any phone calls,

I didn't use a computer. I didn't have any conversations for ten days with anyone from my life, friends, family, work. I completely got away to think about am I living the life that works for me? Do I does my life reflect who I am and how I want to be. Is it working? And do you know what, It's not that I was doing anything bad or wrong, but it just didn't work for me. And I said this to someone yesterday. I said this to someone yesterday, and that is that I ca In life, things have a used

by date. And when we think of a use by date, we think of bread and milk and stuff in boxes and cans. But also sometimes careers have a use by date. Sometimes relationships have a use by date. Sometimes habits and behaviors work and then they don't work. They expire. And for me, there was a long time where working in gyms, training people, being on the gym floor building business building brand, you know, training trainers in that space where it was

all about the body and health and fitness. For the most part, it was great and then eventually it wasn't. And it wasn't because it became bad. It was because I evolved. And then when I evolved or I changed, or my focus shifted, then my life had to change. How I lived and how I worked, and what I paid attention to and what I learned and how I executed the things I wanted to do In my job and beyond. But sometimes in order to get that level of awareness and insight and perspective, one we've got to

get away, either literally or metaphorically. And then two we need to be brave. We need to be brave because it means that quite often we need to go backwards to go forwards. It means that we might have to make decisions and do things that in the short to medium term might not suit us, or might not be comfortable, or might even alienate us from people that we care about.

But we can't make personal decisions perpetually, periodically, of course, where we put ourselves second because we love someone and they are the priority, and part of our life is to serve and love and be somewhat selfless, but not perpetually where we are just a doormat, an emotional doormat, and like I said, a character in someone else's story. I don't think that's anyone's purpose. It's nice to be nice,

it's not nice to be used. And so you know, sometimes that means making a decision, that means changing a behavior, something that will make you better and your life better and your results better and your internal state better, that might piss someone else off because they don't want you changing. They want you to go out three nights a week drinking booze with them. It doesn't suit them for you to be different. It doesn't suit them for you to

go on a fucking health kick. It doesn't suit them. Right, That's okay. It's not your job to keep everyone in the world happy, just like it's not mine. Your life is always giving you results and data and information. Right now, I'm sitting in my office at home. It's on the first floor. I've got all of these amazing windows that look out onto all these beautiful trees that I have in my yard. Downstairs, I have a recording studio. And

I'm not saying any of this to sound great. I'm saying this because for me, I realized that if I'm going to work a lot, I want to work in an environment that I like. I wanted to create a workspace and energy that for me is conducive to calm and creativity and concentration and efficiency and productivity. And I did that. So when I go to work in inverted Commas, I'm in a place I want to be environment that's nice. I'm in an energy space that really works for me.

But I didn't accidentally end up with this. I chose this. I built this, I created this. I realized, as most of you know, when I was young, that I didn't want a typical job. I wanted to work, I just didn't want a typical job. If I had have followed the paradigm, if I have followed the status quo, if I had have stayed on the proverbial conveyor belt or in the proverbial river, I would have just gone with the flow and got a job and clocked in at

nine and clocked out at five or the equivalent. And while that is not a bad thing for many people, that is a great thing. For me, that is not a great thing. And I knew that. And in order for me to design my life, in order for me to build a life and inhabit a life that reflected how and who I wanted to be and my values, I need to I needed to figure out how do I do life without having a job, How do I support myself, how do I create income? How do I

build a business? How do I build a brand? And how do I build something that intersects with my passion and the things I'm curious about and the things that I want to do anyway, I don't want to do them because they make money. I just want to do them. And also, by the way it makes money, that is great.

So many times I sit and I'll talk to somebody that I meet, and we might talk for an hour, and I end up where I'm talking about the stuff that I'm talking about now, because that's just where the conversation goes, and I'm essentially giving someone a coaching session that I'm not being paid for, and I'm doing it joyfully because I love talking about human performance and happiness and the human condition. I love that this is not hard for me. This is not which is not say

I'm perfect at it. I'm definitely not not say I don't fuck up or get things wrong, but this is not. This is I don't sit here and think, oh god, I've got to do a podcast, Oh God, I've got to try and come up with something, and you know, shit, how quickly can I get this done? And I don't. I don't think like that. The only thing that I think is, well, not the only thing, but I guess my focus is can I do a good job, Can

I talk about something that's relevant and meaningful? Can I share with them something that might be of value to them, that might be a catalyst for them, that might be perhaps a starting point for them. So how do I want to finish this? So we all inhabit a life. We're all we're all going through life. We're all making decisions or not making decisions in some instances. We've all got potential. We've all got certain genetics. We've all got

twenty four hours in a day. We're all we have certain personality and certain goals and dreams and visions and aspirations. We've all got a certain amount or type of resources. I think most of you listening to this. I could be wrong, but I would think that most of you want to do better, think better, create better, produce better on some level, not with your whole life, but part of your life. Perhaps what does that look like for you? Some of you have heard me over a thousand times.

And I don't say this because I want to be brutal or I want to I say this because I care about you. And sometimes some of you have heard me for a thousand times and had a thousand light bulbs and done not much. And if you have done it, if you have done much. If you have created, then congratulations,

I'm proud of you. But if you're the one day soon person, or that it's not the right time person, nor it's the this is too inconvenient right now, or you don't understand my life, maybe that is true, But if that has been the story for the last hundred days, the last two hundred days, the last five years, ten years, maybe it's not true. Or maybe it is true. But still in the middle of the inconvenience, in the middle of the discomfort, in the middle of the uncertainty, maybe

you still need to do something. Don't hate me, love your guts, See you tomorrow.