I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for this week, and we are going to refine our inner circle for success. This motivational moment came from reading a quote you are the average of the five people you surround yourself with. So I've done a little bit of digging into this further, and I don't think any of us would deny that our inner circle has an enormous influence over our perspective and what we achieve in life.
So it's crucial that this group of people. If you're trying to better yourself, or you're trying to get somewhere in work or wellness or whatever it might be, that you surround yourself with the right people. So the people that you want to be surrounding yourself with fall into
these three categories. They're either a mentor so that could be a person that's doing what you want to achieve, but they're one or two steps ahead, they've maybe already mastered it, and there's someone that can teach you that you can learn from. They're a cheerleader, so there's someone there to support you and celebrate your wins, and I mean genuinely celebrate your wins, not sort of in that fake way where they're giving you different feedback to your
face than perhaps they are behind your back. And the realist, the truth teller, the person you know will tell you how it is when you need to have a hard honest truth or a hard honest moment. So I've got mentors, cheerleaders and realists. Get those people in your group, the people that you don't necessarily want in your inner circle. And actually I'm going to go stronger, the people you don't want anywhere near your in a circle. We've got
negative nancies. Sorry, Nancy. You know these people. They're the people that put a negative spin on everything. It might be their life, it might be your life. I find these people are often playing the blame. They're not inspiring, and the impact they have is you start to question your own abilities by hanging out with these people. And the next one is the one upper. No matter how much good stuff is happening in our life, they have
to one up you. No matter what little life milestone you would like to celebrate, you would like to share because you're proud of yourself, they very quickly squash that down or chop that down by changing the conversation to be about them and making what you thought was a wonderful achievement feel very small because they have to one up you in every situation that occurs. And then we've got the saboteur. So you sort of have to keep a wide eye for these people because they're not always
obvious that they're sneaking into your circle. But these people, they can do little or big things to sabotage your progress. So you're starting to make progress, you're starting to make change, starting to feel good, and they just find a way. They seem to have a way of bringing you down on purpose. They might even stand in the way of your success. And it's kind of natural that these people come out of the woodwork, because I've sort of said
this before in this podcast. I think, but I often think people want you to do well until you do. I think, you know, often people stand behind you and they good on you for having a go, and you should be so proud of yourself. And then you reach a point of success and those people no longer have the same attitude. You know, resentment and jealousy and all these other sort of natural human emotions sort of creep in. But I see it all the time. I see it.
With fitness, people often feel like it's easier to bring someone else down than to bring themselves up. Rather than me get myself off the couch and get myself moving, I'll try and take that person to the pub and sabotage their weight loss journey, you know, sort of put a spin on it. It's like, oh, you never catch
up with this anymore, and you're not social anymore. But the reality is they're really just trying to bring you back down to their level rather than the alternative is they have to come up to your new level, which is much harder for them to do. So it's time to do a little bit of really honest reflecting on who our inner circle is and which of these six categories they fit in, and if they're fitting into the wrong three categories, you got to boot them out. That
doesn't mean you remove them from your life altogether. But if you are really on a mission to go somewhere next year or whatever, it might be, what a perfect moment for you to identify who the helpers are and who the Hinduas are and surround yourself with the helpers in twenty twenty three and spend less time or less time in particular moments, particular places, particular environments, with those that, when you really think about it, don't necessarily want the
best for you or won't necessarily contribute to the best for you. Happening in twenty twenty three. So as always now says homework. Your task for this week is this. I want you to reflect. Now I've said the five people you surround yourself with. So have a look at your inner circle. Write a little list down of who are your mentors, your cheerleaders, your realists. Surround yourself with those people and distance yourself from the negative nancies, the one uppers, and the saboteurs.