Today, I'm Sam, when this is your motivational moment for this week, We're going to talk about building confidence. Now, even in the term I use then building confidence, not having confidence, because I think sometimes we think confidence is something we're born with rather than something we can influence and grow. And I'm here to tell you it's absolutely the latter. We can grow more confident. We can become
more confident. It's not a set and forget scenario. Yes, sure we all have different starting positions, but we can all build from there. The other misconception I think with confidence is that confidence isn't our ability to succeed, it's our belief in our ability to succeed. Now, I wish just to say something as a cocky young trainer in the fitness game when I was learning the ropes, I fake it till you make it, fake it do you
make it? And it was kind of just something i'd stupidly tell myself, But as I look back, I really did, you know, there are a number of times I'd put myself in uncomfortable situations where I didn't really feel like I belonged there yet or know what I was talking about. But it was important that there was an air of confidence there to give my client's confidence in me, and then I could go and do the research and the
hustle and the behind the scenes later. So at the time I had to see that client, I was ready, but you know, I just wanted to. I could tell that if I didn't have the confidence in myself, why would they have the confidence in me as a paying customer and or something. And I was always really conscious of, you know, when I was twenty in pimple face and running around in my little short shorts, you know, not not as a thirty year old plus, but in the
really early days, I definitely felt that. So I guess the natural question is, well, that's all well and good, even understanding the distinction that it's our belief in our ability to succeed rather than our actual ability to succeed. How do we get that belief? Where does that belief come from? Well, it comes from previous experience. And this
is really important. When you are faced with a daunting or challenging or scary situation and you feel that you need some confidence, you go back into the archives and you think about another moment where you didn't think you could do it, or you were scared or you're out of your comfort zone, but you push yourself and you did it, and you clean enormous amounts of confidence by going back into the archives and pulling out from these previous experiences. Now, the best case is it's a previous
experience in a similar field. So you're about to do something in the workforce or in a relationship or whatever whatever it might be, and you can go back into the archive in a very similar circumstance. But if you can't do that, if you're going into that little kit bag and that's a bit empty in that particular category, just go back to anything that you did that time. I told myself I was going to sign up for a ten k fun run. I didn't think I could do it, but I did the training and I actually
crossed the finish line. And never in my wildest dreams that I think I could achieve that, but I did. I need to lose ten kilos, I didn't have a lot of self belief or self confidence, but I did it. Or a terrible public speaker, but I got up there and I did it. Whatever it might be, any of these situations will help give you confidence moving forward. It's always looking back to keep going forward, looking back, to keep going forward and building the layers, building the layers,
building the layers. So then the more times you challenge yourself, you put yourself in these precarious, challenging situations, the more times you go into the archives, and then the more times you face your fears and you actually do the act. It's doing the act that builds the confidence. It's doing the act that puts another wonderful memory, wonderful occasion in the archives for next time. And each time you do it, it's probably a more impressive memory to draw from them
the last. So what I want you to do, so you've got a bit more of a practical tool to help you build confidence in these situations is start journaling. Journal times where you have felt confident, and you're going to write it, read it, repeat it, write it, read it, repeat it. I mean, I always think of American Beauty with Annette Benning. She's she's washing the whole house. I will sell this house today. I will sell this house today.
Just telling yourself over and over and over and over again, and then you're going to take on that first snowball and watch that snowball of confidence grow from there