I'm saying, and this is your motivational moment for this week, and we're going to talk about how to get comfortable with change. So much of what I do as a job is helping people to get comfortable with change, get out of their comfort zone, make that transition that perhaps they've been scared of or resistant to for years, if not decades. Effectively, that's the most important part of my job.
Helping people put the practices in place, gain the confidence, have the skills, reinforce the habits, whatever it might be to make lifelong change. So I thought I'd do a little bit of research to why change is so difficult and why we avoid it so much, and it actually gets worse as we get older. And that's something that I noticed as a father. You know, my kids just changing a dime, I could pull them out of one
school put them in another. They wouldn't even care. Know the reaction to them changing schools from a Friday to a Monday. To me changing jobs or offices or suburbs that I live in would be completely different. I'd have a bit of a meltdown. I overthink everything. Oh my god, how did we survive? How do we do this? They'd make friends by recess, and you wouldn't wouldn't even better
an eyelid. But the reality is change brings uncertainty, and the studies show that this uncertainty has a very similar
feeling to us from a psychological perspective as failure. And that's why we tend to stay away from it, because a lot of us would rather stay unhappy than make the change, or we tell ourselves a lie, or we make things up to avoid getting out of our comfort zone or avoid the hard decision, you know, whether it's trying to lose weight, or whether it's getting out of a relationship that you know hasn't been right or isn't
working at all for sometimes years, if not decades. It's crazy to think that it's easier in our minds to stay in a terrible relationship than it is to do the hard work or have the discomfort or have that moment of confrontation or heartache or whatever it might be, to get out of a relationship. And change is important when you do the hard stuff and you get the reward from it, there's a real magic to that. So what do we do to help us get more comfortable change?
We have to remind ourselves that we are not failing. That what we are feeling is uncertainty. But guess what on the other side of uncertainty is growth. Don't confuse uncertainty with failure. You are not failing. Number two. Break it down and this is what I'm massive on because I do this from a weight loss perspective. To lose fifty kilos is very overwhelming, very daunting. But you break it down. I don't have to lose fifty kilos. I have to lose two kilos in the next twenty eight days,
so much more achievable. If all I do is get paralyzed by the thought of losing fifty kilos to the point that I never do anything to even lose half a kilo, then it's not doing many good. You've got to get the wheels turning, and to get the wheels turning, break it down into a more achievable small change so that you don't have that feeling of overwhelm. Number three. Celebrate it along the way. Celebrate. I think sometimes we're so fixated on the end of the journey that we
miss the magic. And let's use the example of changing jobs. Celebrate the fact that you're jumping on seek or linked in, or even happy to admit to a friend out loud. It's not just the little voice inside your head saying I'm going to quit my job and I'm going to look for something else. These baby steps along the way
need to be rewarded. If you're only having huge goals that are just too overwhelming to even get started, or you're never patting yourself on the back until you've reached the pinnacle of man everest, it's not going to be terribly successful and it's definitely not going to be enjoyable. So I want you to analyze your life every facet health, wealth, work, relationships, whether it be with your partner or friendships, it doesn't matter,
and be really honest with yourself. Where in one of those categories have you been thinking or saying for a while now there needs to be a change, but you've never done anything about it. In the next seven days, you need to have identified it, and you need to have taken that first step, that first baby step, and you need to have given yourself a good hard pad on the back for taking that first step. And that's this week's Listeners task.