Spirits, Ghosts, Heavenly Helpers - How to Tell the Difference

So I love to stay in that higher vibration that you see on a fan. And when you hit medium, it's just that. It's the mediumship. It's spirits that have crossed over for me. And then the when you hit low on the fan and you can see the blades very clearly, that feels closer to our dimension.

That is what I would consider ghosts, dark entities, and things of that sort. That's kind of how I describe it. My experience picking up on, and I don't get a lot of this experience and I want to let people know. Many times clients say to me, God, you do this work all the time. You spend a lot of hours in this realm, if you will. And they'll say, well, how do you combat negative energy? And I always say to them, for every demon or every dark energy, there are a thousand angels, right?

I stay in the very high vibration. So I make sure that I'm fortified. And some people say, well, you know, somebody brings up witchcraft or somebody will call and say, I think somebody's putting witchcraft on me. A lot of times it's like, listen, don't give it power. I've literally not given things power and seen it dissipate.

And so, when I have ever encountered a lower energy, you instantly feel the vibration shift. I know that, you know, your bread and butter is mediumship and mine is psychic intuitive work. Yeah. So if I'm doing a reading and I am in the angelic realm, that's where I put myself as I'm doing the reading. I will sometimes hear, we'll go back to our clairs, clairaudiently, and I can feel a shift in my body and it's almost like I hear this sound.

That's like, oh, right. It's almost like I power down. Yeah. Whenever I hear that powering down noise, I usually know that I am lowering. I'm going from that high fan to the medium. Okay. Right. And then boom, I'll get the ringing in my ears. I'll feel the tingling on my body and I will know that someone is trying to come through. So I physically feel it sentience.

I feel the shift. And for me, ghosts will always feel a bit cold or that mood feels heavy Mhmm. And spirit feels very warm and light. How about you? How's it feel for you?

They're stuck here. There's something residual or their emotional attachment to something here on the earthly plane. There can be stuck to a location. It can be a piece of furniture, but I have been woken up in the middle of the night by what I think is the water dripping on my face, whether or not this is a very low vibrational energy that needs help crossing over, or this could be a ghost.

Like my energy completely shifts. So my understanding too, are that ghosts are sometimes souls that are kind of wandering around that are confused. That's the way it feels to me, right? So that energy is there in that room and I don't know why it's there, but doesn't come to me in the daytime. It comes to me at night.

So when we're quiet, when we're calm, when they can have our attention, and then I get woken up in the middle of the night by having what I feel is water dripping on my face. So I interpret that intuitively as this entity or this leftover energy. They want me to listen. Don't talk, listen, you know, kind of like, okay, don't say anything. It feels eerily like a ghost.

And I hate to use the word eerily because there's nothing scary about it to me. I just know the energy is not it's not light. Yeah. Yeah. And it's not all the way like, oh, dark, evil, demonic. It's stuck. And I think because of the work that we do, this stuff doesn't really scare us anymore. Right. So I like that you used the phrase anxiety. Yeah. It's an uneasy feeling.

And I say, no, no, no, no, no, no. Let's not do that. And a lot of times, because we do this work all the time, sometimes we do forget to kind of cleanse before we go to bed. And then I get caught up and I'm like, oh, you know what? I don't think I really shut myself down.

Wow. We're starting off on a really creepy side. Didn't expect for us to start off this creepy. So before we get too much into it, let's try to explain and break down the differences of our heavenly helpers on the other side versus right. I don't want to scare people. One of my favorite things to talk about is our spirit guides. Some religions call it the guardian angel. What have you always called it?

I want to mention very quickly the book by Sonia Choquette, ask your guides. And in it, really breaks down a lot of the differences, but spirit guides to me are those that have lived in earthly presence before and are maybe helping us through a lesson. It can also be a loved one that has transitioned to the other side. So spirit to me, if we're gonna just say spirit, it feels very much like a conscious presence with intention and wisdom. So that's how I would term like a spirit guide.

It has this intentional wisdom that it's really trying to share. It's very high frequency. So their their energy to me feels expansive or loving. It feels encouraging or supporting. And that is in contrast to in ghost and the heaviness.

Who's like, buddy, you need to call him. You need to text him and you need to focus on this. And these are the points you have, right? Because they understand the emotion, the frustration, the brokenness. So they'll give you a little bit more insight that just feels a little bit more, it's not so generic.

And I'm not trying to call the angels that they're very broad and generic. However, when you need specifics, I always look at my guides as the hand holders. Yeah. Right. They hold your hand. Walk you through. When you're having a reading with me, I don't do a reading without Archangel Michael. That's for sure. He's my bodyguard. And if somebody for mediumship wants to come through, I see his sword in my third eye.

And if he lifts the sword, that means he's okay bringing somebody through. And I think out of the twelve, fourteen years I've been really doing this, like for a living, only twice has he not picked up the sword. Yeah. Only twice. And I remember after the session, I asked the client, you know, what was going on with your dad?

She was like, oh, he was into witchcraft. He did this, he did that. Santeria, he was right. And she went down this whole rabbit list of all these things. So yeah, guess what? Michael was protecting me. He's like, we're not entertaining that. We're not entertaining it. And I've created that. And we're gonna talk about that a little later, how you can create the dynamics with spirit.

Spirit will negotiate. If you can't handle this, you can handle this. People who are ghost hunters, you see them on TV all the time. They're okay hitting the fan on low and seeing the blade. Right? I just prefer not to. I want to be a little bit more heightened. So it's a choice.

And I was like, I'm sorry. You know? And she's like the his wings and this. And I go, that's my dude. That's archangel Michael.

And I kinda put my fist up like I we were fist bumping. I you know, with our Michael. But I love his presence because he always shows up. Never a time when you call on him and he's not there. He's not going well, look, it's Tuesday at 03:00 and you know, I'm sorry. I have other appointments I need to get to. They're omnipresent. And that's the word that I love to use for our guides, the angels, the archangels, the ascended masters is that they are omnipresent. They are everywhere, all the time, all at once. And all you need to do is really use your voice.

It doesn't require you to speak in a Shakespearean terms. You know, how is thou ist be with withst me? You know, you don't have to talk that way.

And sometimes connecting to souls on the other side when I'm doing mediumship, Some souls come through carrying a little bit of heaviness, but that may be emotional turmoil that they've carried with them to the other side that they're still working through. So that still doesn't feel ghostly to me. That's just a soul who's still working through it

They have a message or some sort of support that they're trying, you know? It could be that you're in a moment of transition. So when I am connecting to a soul from the other side, and it's a loved one, you know, mother, father, sibling, a friend of a friend, a pet. It, it always starts my, my body first reacts, my energy reacts in a way that I get goosebumps, but not in a, not in a cold way, but to me is my sign that the energy is present. Has drawn close to me. And then I know for me that that's safe. I sometimes, depending on the soul stepping forward, but sometimes they'll even rub my back, which is very, it's very indicative of a grandma that's trying to soothe you. Oh, there, there, dear. It's okay.

I've just gone from the physical, you know, into this realm and I'm here. What's your experience been? When it's a loved one?

And I remember feeling a tap on my shoulder and I opened my eyes and I see the sun. And I was like, Oh my gosh. But the first thought that came to me, and this all happened like in a millisecond, thought, No one should be home right now. Yeah. I turn and there was nobody there.

And I panicked, not because of the tap, I panicked because I was late. I got to brush my teeth, threw my clothes on, got on my bike, And it was the ride from home to school. I'm wondering, wait a second, who touched me? When I get hits like that, I always think it's my guardian. I really believe it's my guardian.

I just want to give an example of that. Sometimes it can come off creepy. And you gotta remember too, your spirit guides have been with you from the day you took your first breath and they will be with you from the day you take your last. When you hear people who have near death experiences and they come back and they're like, yeah, first thing I saw was this, like a guy in a robe and he's walking me to my family, right? That's And that's your guide I think that's so cool.

You have this partnership and they're always going to look out for you. The idea that we all sat and had a blueprint and we said, okay, before we get here, you're going to be my ride or die. You're going to have my back no matter what. And you know what? This circumstance is going to happen, but I got you.

And not only just one, some of us have more than one. Right. And it could happen different times in your life. I remember getting a reading back in like 2008, 2009. Yeah, that was right around the time I was sensing that I had something, but I was like experimenting.

And I had just gotten a brand new townhome and I was painting and decorating. And in the reading, the psychic says to me, you've got a guide who is so colorful. He has like a beret and he's holding a palette and he's showing you all these fabulous colors and he looks fabulous and everything is about colors and putting, you know, paint together and furniture. And I was like, wow. And then I realized like once I was done decorating the home, then he just kind of like, poof, he's gone.

But as simple as that, to have a guide, that's like guiding you in being creative. I thought that was really cool.

And you go, no, Missy, she's your biggest cheerleader in life. And I thought that was really sweet. And her name is Marigold, so shout out to Marigold.

And I was so sad for like a couple of days that I really did not feel his presence as strongly as I had felt it, you know, before. But you know, now he's back. I remember you also describing one time when I, I, I was talking about my guides and you're like, yeah. And I said, they show me them like sitting in a boat with their feet crossed, their legs are stretched out and their feet are crossed at the ankles and their arms are folded and they've got their hat tipped down, you know, to keep the sun out of their eye. And I go, why are they doing that?

And you said, They're just practicing patience with you. What am I doing? What do I need to do? And they're like, Yeah, they're just pretty much waiting for you to make a move. And then they'll wake themselves up and they'll get active again, But yeah, whatever you're doing right now, they're kind of bored with it. And I was like, Oh my God, what am I doing? You know?

And she smiles and she runs over to me and she hugs me and she says, Oh my goodness, I cannot believe you recognized me. And I said, Who are you? And she said, I'm your spirit guide. I woke up.

And in the dream, he and I are sitting at a bench in a park. That's how my guides come to me. I'm at a park bench always. And he goes, okay, well I gotta go. I said, why? He said, cause you're about to wake up. And I was like, okay. And then he's walking away and I go, wait, what's your name? And he says, Benjamin. And then I wake up.

So I call him by name. So you can work on finding that out through meditation, clair audience. You can work through dreams. But I always tell people, if that's something that's super important to you, that you wanna call them by name, they love that. Are you kidding me?

They cheer when we say thank you and we acknowledge It just builds the relationship. There was one other thing you said that I wanted to tackle. I remember when I would go to bed right around the time that I was learning about this gift and I would feel energy come around the bed. I'd feel a two at the foot, one to the right, one to the left.

And I remember being so upset because I'm like, it's like midnight. What are you doing? And I remember saying in my head, why do you guys keep coming to me at night? And their response to me was, we're not coming to you at night. We're always around you.

You just now are shutting down your mind, but it's warm and it's soft. And that's how you can tell the difference when you start to feel cold spots, right? And like you brought up the heaviness, that is when you've got to say, okay, I have to embrace what it is that I'm dealing with. How do you think people should deal feeling negative energy or cold spots, which we would call ghosts?

I mean, there's a lot. Right. But I think first and foremost, it's calling in, you know, God, and giving that prayer of this is what I'm feeling. This is what I need removed. Whatever you feel.

Again, I think this goes back to there's no special words that you have to say. It's just calling in that protection, that divine protection that you feel that you need and asking that energy be released and taken back from where it came. It's almost like cutting cords. Right? Cause there's an attachment of something.

So, I would suggest first prayer, and you can say the prayer while you're also clearing the room, clearing the house, whatever that may be. I always say leave make sure you're leaving either a window open or a door because the energy has to have somewhere to go. You can't just clear a room and you've got the doors closed and the windows closed because the energy is still there, there's nowhere for it to move. Simply using sage is great, but there are other things that you can do besides palo santo and sage. You can use a combination of mugwort, lavender, and cedar.

So they are cleansing, they are protecting, and then they invite in the calm. Like lavender brings calm back into the space. Now you could even go as far as having someone who does this on a regular basis or does this for a living come and smudge. They use the word smudge the home. One of the things I also do is I place a piece of black tourmaline and selenite above the doorways.

So that is offering protection with the black tourmaline, the negativity, and also the selenite is very clearing or cleansing. So there are some different crystals that you can certainly place around your room. But if you don't wanna do that, and that's okay, the simplest thing is prayer and then, you know, the clearing. Yeah.

Like he, it was a glimpse, like one second boom, I saw him and he disappeared. And the house had a lot of dream catchers and we're on the Coosawattee River. So hello. Didn't surprise me, but it didn't feel negative. Didn't give me like the anxiety that you talked about. So what I did was I let him know exactly what I was doing. I said, hi, we're only here for seven days. I am cleansing our space. I will continue to, to respect your space. I want you to know we are not intruders.

We will respect you, respect your home. I just literally had a whole conversation with him while I was cleansing. Didn't see anything after that. The energy was light. And this is one thing I know you said you wanted to talk about, like what makes the ghost linger?

And I think this is kind of a good segue because it didn't feel like a bad energy, but there are a lot of reasons, many different reasons why a spirit chooses to be earthbound. I said spirit, but yeah, it's a spirit, a ghost. I've seen spirits who aren't ghosts that are earthbound.

It's very, it's very evident. I even heard the voice one night very loudly and it scared the heck out of me because I was home by myself And by I said, you know, what, what else do I need to do? And you said to just let him know that you're here to share the space in unity, that I'm, I'm going to respect the space. I'm going to respect you. I ask that you respect me and we're going to share this and we invite in love and light.

And really it never worried me after that. You know, I just felt like for whatever reason, he likes this space and I couldn't get any history on the house or that particular plot of land. Obviously, it's Arizona, so there's probably a lot of native Americans. You know, we don't know. But I, I think too that

It could also be where if it's a husband and a wife and maybe he lost his spouse in that space, he's attached to that. The sadness that maybe he hasn't been able to rectify, or he hasn't been able to heal from. So there's also, for me, we've got the location imprints, emotional residue. And can you, can you think of some other reasons why they would be?

It's okay to go. I've seen people not leave because they're ashamed to go to the light. Yeah. I was such a bad person. Don't deserve to see the face of God. And it's sad. It makes me so unbelievably sad. So when I watch these ghost hunter shows and they like, they claim they're helping. There's one in particular, I won't say the name, but that drives me crazy that I have to stop watching because all he does is he riles the ghosts up. Then he's like, okay, show's over.

And then they leave and then the house is in complete disarray. And all they did was agitate whatever's there because they don't have the ability or the tools to help. The homeowners are coming to you for help and guidance. And all you did was piss the ghosts off by talking And to it any kind of now the activity is through the roof.

I'm supposed to have transitioned. What, what is keeping me? It's like, they try to get your attention to let you know, I'm not happy where I am. And maybe that is a cry for help. And so I've had the experience in mediumship readings where I've got grandma stepping through. She passed away before the husband did. And I can see how she extended the hand to help him cross over. She'll say to me, come on now, you know, it's time, where she is showing me how she helped him to cross over because he was still attached to, Wait a minute, I'm dead? And she's going, Yeah, you're dead. So come on, you gotta come.

You can't straddle the line. You could be there or you can be here, but you can't be both places. And so I had that experience where the souls get a little confused about crossing over.

At the end of the reading, it's almost like he went to a different level and it looked like it was going upward and it looked like just a wisp to me. And I remember at the time I was at a center and I came home and I just kind of sat in my office and quiet. And usually when I had a really profound day, I would sit with Michael at the end of the night and just listen, hear what he has to say. He'll give me tips like you did great on this one. You didn't ask enough questions here.

And I said, what was it that I saw? And he said he did ascend to a different level in his learning on the other side. And Archangel Michael said, just as you are helping those on this side, you're helping others on the other side. And he was trying to show me the importance of my work. Like this is not just earthly.

I felt like big shoes. It kind of scared me, but it was very eyeopening. I remember having a reading where a father came through and he was pissed and he had his arms crossed the whole time. And every time his daughter asked me a question, he would shake his head no, like he was so disappointed. And I said, there's a gentleman here and he keeps shaking his head. And I describe his hairline, the spectacles, the whole bit. And she goes, oh, that's my dad. And I said, but he seems like he's upset with you. And she said he was a preacher. He would have never condoned what I'm doing right now. So he was even chastising her on the other side.

He couldn't see that side to it. All he knew was what he preached his entire life, which is don't do this.

I connect with crystals. Right now I'm sitting in front of a massive piece of amethyst. I've got angelite, I've got selenite, I've got black tourmaline.

And five minutes later again, beep, beep, beep. So I'm like, what is going on here? Then I hear this crash in my daughter's bathroom. She squeals, calls my name. She said the thing that held like the paper towels and all that flew across her bathroom. Wow. I instantly knew she brought something home. Right?

I said, Archangel Michael, the warrior of archangels. First of all, surround me with the white light of the Holy Spirit. I want only my highest vibrational guides only and the angelic realm. I ask for warrior angels in every corner and every crevice of my home right now. And I give a number. I say, give me 50. I want 50 warrior angels right now. As I cleanse this space and remove this lower energy and I will walk through every room cleansing. And I will say, the cords of attachment that this lower energy has created. She's on the plane. I don't know what she's picking up. And then here she comes in and now this poltergeist starts again. No, no, no, no, no. We don't do that in this household. We don't do that.

We don't do that in this household. So once I did that cleansing, it stopped.

And then she takes you through exercises on preparing you to meet your spirit guides. Then there's the spirit guides of the natural kingdom, your runners, your helpers, healer guides, teacher guides, and it goes on and on and on. And then there's a really great segment on relating to your spirit guides and, you know, your guides' names and then living a spirit guided life. It's not just about ask your guides, but it's a phenomenal, phenomenal read. It's something that I refer to a lot.

You did touch earlier on if you want to give your spirit guides or if they tell you their name, great, but they don't care about having a name. Yeah. It's us that

There's nothing too frivolous to ask for guidance. Nothing. You lost your belt in your closet. It's okay to ask. And that's a great game to play with your guides.

Right? I don't know why I just saw a Ouija board in my third eye, so I feel like spirit wants me to talk about that. Things like that, right? If you even say, you know what, I don't mind hitting low on the fan. I just want you to remind yourself that when you work with lower energies, like something like a Ouija board, it's like opening your front door at night and going to bed. Like you have no idea who's coming through.

So I always say, be fortified, be protected if you decide that you're gonna kind of tackle things like that.