Words Matter, Talking on Eggshells & Changing Relationships by Changing Our Words With Sam Horn

Episode Highlights With Sam

• Why she gave away almost everything she owned and became a nomad for a year
• The reason words matter so much and how to get better about the words we use
• Why parents should get the word “careful” out of our vocabularies with our kids
• Words that, as parents, we should USE and words we should LOSE
• A simple exercise to shift your words in parenting
• Replace stop with start in parenting
• Capable instead of careful
• Replace "No" with "Yes you can" as soon as
• Why to replace the word should with next time or from now on
• We can’t motivate anyone to do better by making them feel bad
• How to be a pattern interrupt
• Replace “nothing’ and “no way” with “There’s something” and “I wish”
• Language to use when kids are sad, upset, or mad
• When we think we are comforting and we are actually contradicting them and how to paraphrase and understand instead
• Why not to explain when people complain and what to do instead (agree, apologize, and act)
• Two words that can put grievances and grudges in the past
• Replace finding fault with finding solutions
• Four words that help us keep our cool even when other people aren’t
• In influencing others, example is not the main thing… it is the only thing

Resources We Mention

• Talking on Eggshells: Soft Skills for Hard Conversations by Sam Horn
• Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam Horn
• Someday Is Not a Day in the Week: 10 Hacks to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life by Sam Horn
• Sam Horn - website
• The Black Stallion by Walter Farley