Finding Love & Maintaining Harmony in Relationships

Hello everyone and welcome to the United States show. My name is Crystal. This is my partner shine and together. We are unites co-founders. We are hosting this lovely event weekly the unite show every Thursday night at 6:15. So, we're having different themes, and different speakers every week. And tonight, we are doing, finding love, and maintaining Harmony in relationships. Plus, we're going to have a little singles mingle time at the end with lots of Q&A as well. So, stay tuned.

That's what you're in for. And we've got three wonderful, special guests with us today who have some lovely tips and tricks for not only doing well in your current relationship. But if you're looking how to attract the person you're looking for and really create Some solid foundations in your future relationships. So I'd love to introduce and get everyone to say a big, hello to our guests. We have joy. Regina up here, in the top with

her Christmas tree. We've got silver over here, and Georgia and silver are a wonderful couple, although they're currently not locationally together as they're working separately at the moment. And then we've got dolphin down here who is on the road in Sacramento. Did he freeze or he's just sitting really still out. There we go. Hi doll. Welcome. Welcome. We're going to start off with a really quick. We don't want to get into

backstory yet, but a lovely. Lisa people will know kind of what they can expect from you guys so I'd love for you to do a little hello. This is what I offer to the relationship world. This is why it matters to me and I'm going to bring you some juicy tips and tricks. So if you guys could each do one of those for our wonderful guests and then we're going to get into some fun questions, so whoever wants to start take it away. Or we can pick up. Hi I am Georgia morally.

Also notice a medic counselor Georgia and I am the other half of my beautiful partner in love Life and Legacy Mr. Silver story over here and we have been on the Journey of relating for the last four years. Through all the thick and thin. We are truth-tellers that is our secret sauce. And so we talked about relationships in a way that is very authentic and we navigate love from a place of Truth, club and transparency. We are currently creating a life. We are having a baby in March at

47 years. Young. Jung, woo. Way to go us and that's a whole new chapter of relationship. So I think crystals question of what we bring, our what I bring to the holds of relating would be. I bring the dissolving of patterns in relational patterns and some people call them triggers activations, traumas. So that's what I bring to the Abel. Thanks so much of a to be here tomorrow to see well, thank you. Yes, yeah, it's so beautiful.

I'll follow on from my beloved. And yeah, just just delighted to be here to share the radical truth of my coexistence, and co-creation with way for my lover, Georgia, I truly believe it's, it's been like a arranged marriage, Absorbs by a higher power than both of us. We were just we're kind of unlikely couple yet. I feel we look and act exceptionally together. It's just like this, this perfect perfect match to I couldn't have possibly chosen

myself and By that. I mean, there's just there's just layer after layer of depth that George and I are willing to go to together and that that is one of the keys that will go jump into in this session today. What I'm what I'm going to offer as a few. A few curveballs and a few a few bombs to shake things up as I love to do when I share the radical truth which I truly believe those are. Access to our authenticity in the depth of relationship that we truly desire. Let it yay.

Telling me you go dump it. Cool. Yeah. So I mean I've been doing work in the realm of relating and relationship for over 20 years. It is my life. It's everyone's life, but it happens to be my life's work and the two primary projects. I have right now is one is called relation flicks its

education based platform around. And relationships where we invite Educators and live broadcasting and writers community in a whole bunch of other resources for people to level up their love and relational skills. And then the other one is my personal coaching work, which is very much about integrating. What is unintegrated in our past and through that, enabling us to to really come into the full potential of our relationships. Yeah. Well, thank you, dolphin beautiful.

Hello. Now, I would love to if any one of the guests wants to share a quick intro of who they are and what they're hoping to get out of this call. And if you have any questions, maybe just wait till we've gone through everyone and then we can start. We want to do a lot of Q&A to keep it fresh into it, to make it really valuable for, for the people on the call. So if you want to share, you don't have to, yeah.

It just gives us a sense of whether you're single and looking, Or someone whether you're in a relationship and looking for ideas or support or just general maintenance. And then that will give our speakers a little bit of guidance as well as we're going to ask them some DC questions too. So yeah. Would anyone like to say hello? And I haven't brought you here and happy to jump in and then what brought me here is, I've always interested to hear and learn more about relationships.

I have great relationships in my life, none. Of which is a partner so that's the relationship. I'm still seeking and always open to conversations around where I can make that connection and see how things happen. Thank you. Thanks. Michelle. Anyone else? Go to jump in? It's okay. If you don't want to okay, please Teresa and I just happened to see on dolphins, Facebook feed that this was

happening now. And I just checked like a half hour ago and so I thought, oh well, that's an awesome timing. Yeah. And so I am not currently dating anybody but I'm in a place in my life where I feel like I am ready to be in like a high quality relationship it just some Sometimes is difficult to find people, I guess, especially I'm living in Costa Rica right now but I'm going to be. Yeah, it's pretty awesome. But I'm going to be leaving soon to go live somewhere else for a bit.

So I'm kind of a bit nomadic. Yeah. So I'm in an interesting place in my life, I guess you can say. Lovely. Thank you for being here. And thank you for sharing beautiful. I think Georgia and silver met in Bali. Maybe. Yeah. That's right. And Chris and I have a fun fun story to share about how we met two and we sang that style. Yeah. What are we talking about Melanie? Or whoever is behind Space Village that see you want to share By the way, I'm sorry.

If my name is not showing beautiful, of course, Sean, Kelly awoke know me. And, you know, I moved to be see a couple of years ago before I was, you know, living in Ontario and A few years before that I was in Egypt and, you know, the life of an entrepreneur you both know it's, it can get tricky to find the right person. You know, being you know, time-consuming. Oh yeah, the week just flies like this and oh, I don't have time for a social life.

So they form definitely looking, you know, for an authentic relationship and I'm planning to start, you know, traveling more. Now that I have, you know, things of open up and plump can travel again without any hassle and it would be a good idea to escape the winter. Maybe next year and celebrate my birthday somewhere. Nice and warm. You know, nice. I'm here to see if we can find that right person. I'm like madly, thank you for sharing that. Thank you, welcome.

Good to see him in video form, at least, not just Facebook text Melanie do with my app. That's why you see like, All of my zoom meanings are around my app or around grants alone, so I had to change it to us. The social setting. Exactly, we'll bring you some social quick, quick plug. If anyone is looking for Grants and loans for their business, just connect with Nazar, yes, or an apple community building with four events and workshops Allison or Melanie.

Do you want to have a quick quick share of what your, why are you here? And what you're looking for. Yes, Melanie. Yeah. Yeah, I'm here because I always like to learn about how to relate to others. I find that it's not something that comes easy to me, like, in Friendship acquaintances. I'm a Solo Traveler. I like that term. Someone had shared it with me a while back. I'm like, I like that term. I going to use it. And yeah, I'm actually quite content.

You know what? Some, my status per se, but I'm always open to if a man comes in my life, wonderful, but I just find that. That it's really hard for me to jibe with other people and for me to have that, it's really important to have the Friendship thing before to be like, oh, do I really like them? Um, yeah. It's just, it's really hard for me to like, drive with someone and be like, oh, you're super awesome.

Like, yeah, it's just, I don't know if I'll ever get there and I'm okay with it. So, yeah, it's like to learn more. I love that you. Yeah, that's beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Let's see. Listen, we're just getting a quick touch on what bringing everyone here if they're in a relationship where if they're looking for, kind of the next steps to support them in finding that special person.

So if you just want to share that and then we're going to carry on, okay, I've been single for a long time and I think I think the universe is wanted to be need to be that way for a while. Just to sort of really focus on me and who who I am and where I'm going. And so I feel that it's time to open up more and just be be more connected in in whatever way that looks like through friends or connections, or different, just different circles.

And and I feel like the The, the partner part will evolve from that, as long as I'm, I'm on my, my right space and right flow, and if the universe allows it, I think it's going to just be great. Yay. Hello awesome. Thank you everybody so good to hear from everyone. So, I'll give just a very brief because I think we know most of you pretty well, but just fine. And I just celebrated our seven-year anniversary on Tuesday. So, we met seven years and I know it's as sign point. It out.

I'm really proud of seven years in a working business, plus romantic relationship. I feel like that not to belittle any relationship where you're not working together. But for me personally, it has added a next level of accountability and showing up because sometimes even when we don't like each other, we need to show up for the business. So it's definitely added a whole nother layer into our relationship, which I'm very proud.

We're still in love with each other and we come from very different relationship backgrounds. I was a serial monogamist shine as my fourth serious partner and I almost did back-to-back since I was a teenager, so long, term relationship, long-term relationship, long-term relationship, and married. And I have two kids with my past partner. So I, that was kind of my background coming into our relationship and shined it a

little bit more. Or exploration and checking out the world in his relationships and less long-term big long commitment relationships. So, it was interesting for us to come together and kind of, really marry our two ideas of relationship and our values and grow through that. So we're excited to be sharing some of that with you and part of what really sparked this particular episode of the Night show Once We host a lot of community events and Gatherings, and consistently, we seem to have.

We have a couple, lovely couples like we have as our guest speakers here tonight, but a lot of our community are like some of you on the call who are really beautiful people but kind of haven't found that match yet. And so we're constantly getting side Bart into these conversations about how do you do it and what do I need to do it? So yeah, we've definitely. Got a lot of ideas for how to support our community, and we felt like doing bringing in some

more, lovely experts. If you will, to share some ideas would be really helpful to our community. And we have also started a singles, unite singles group. So, we're really committed to Bringing more love into all of your lives. So, that's what we're up to here. You can add anything shine?

No, I'll share it to go. But yeah, if, if any of the participants here have A burning question or a soft question anything that you're curious about, whether it's like, how to find the right person or whatever, if you want to, if you want to ask that and then different people can share as are. You have your hand up? Yeah. So how does this work? Because this is my first time attending, something like this.

Do we, are you gonna put us in like separate rooms and we have like, a five minute quick conversation or or should yeah. Facebook I'm not sure how this works. So we're going to start for the first little bit where we're going to pick the brains of our wonderful guest speakers. I know especially George on Silver. I think they have to leave at a 7:30 I believe or so. We want to make sure we use our time with them wisely.

So we're going to start by. If you guys have any burning questions, how do I deal with this issue? How do I let go of that? What's your best advice for this? We're going to do some round-robin where you're going to. Raise your hand, ask your question and then they're going to take turns or all of them will answer.

Preferably not at the same time and then after that, we're going to go into a bit more social where you guys can chat and connect and actually start to kind of talk about what your single experiences with each other and how we can support you guys in moving through that in a more intimate way. I don't think there's enough people on here where we need to go Go in separate groups, separate Branch out rooms. I think we can just work together and take turns speaking. So that's my thought.

And yeah, we'd love to start. If you guys don't have any burning questions, we've definitely got some that I'd like to bring forward from the community. So thank you. Yeah. So if you do have a question, put your hand up either virtually with the little icon or just wave it around, and we will call on you. Nothing yet. Okay, cool. So let's it says, I think everyone on the call is single and looking looking or open for

a relationship. So why don't we do a round robin of what the best tools are for sort of getting yourself ready to attract that relationship. And if Georgia, silver dolphin, if anyone wants to go go free. Yeah. What would you say is kind of? I know. I know a lot of times. It's like you do you? Your work and I think our community is probably on the same page with that, but please, yeah, carry on with that. And what would you say is the best way they can line up for

their next special? Somebody silver. I think you're going to take it away. Yeah, I can certainly speak to that and it's such a great topic because I come across so many so many men and women that are are single and literally talk themselves out of even dating. And I find that incredibly sad to be honest.

So really my, my thoughts on this are They talk themselves out of dating because they're they're looking for the one and even if they enter into conversation with somebody, they're automatically going through this thought process in their head and eliminating them through certain preconceptions of how it's going to go if they actually go out on a date.

So they talk themselves out dating completely and then end up, you know, in long periods have been single and and a loan and then getting comfortable with that. And I you know, my my challenge to you is to get out there and have some fun. Go on some dates and just have some fun with with no preconceptions. and just Yeah

just just have some fun. I mean that's how George and I met we were not looking for love long-term at all at that time and and here we are in the most incredible adventure together. This has been absolutely mind-blowing. So get out there have some fun date data, few people and you don't have to have sex with every person that you date. I really want that to sink in. There's so many levels of connection, one can have and explore all those levels of

connection. It's not just like friendship and fucking, it's like everything in between. There's absolutely everything in between. So explore that as my night encouragement, to all of you. Huh. That's really, that's really, that's really good advice. And I think that's really. I've seen that a lot exactly what you started off by saying that, you know, so many people looking, but they actually talk themselves out of dating because they have all these ideas.

Whether it is you know what you were saying that. You know I need to find the one I've been recently at some of our Gatherings, we've been a lot of people come in with. I'm looking for my next best person.

But all men in North America are assholes and I'm like that might or you know all women are crazy and I'm looking for a woman, I'm like, mmm, you know, and I know they're kind of venting and they know that they need to do a little work with that piece, but it really is a good place to start is like, what is your, what is your idea about what dating is is going to bring me

to? If it's I'm doing it to find the one that's a lot of pressure on every Single date or if you're doing it kind of trying to find the non-crazy, the only non crazy woman or non crazy man in North America. That's a lot of pressure and you're going to be holding that up that checklist up as you know every time they say anything, ever go evidence evidence evidence. So yeah, I'd say that's really really good.

Advice going having fun lower your expectations as much as you can just to yeah, enjoy each other's company. How about dolphin and Georgia? What are your thoughts? I'll go. Yeah. I mean you mentioned it Crystal for us to like, who we spend time with when we're long, is is a really important aspect of what attract someone. So you know I think if there is a sense in us that but being on our own is not okay, that's a challenge. In peace.

And then, so there might be some work for us to do there around. Like I'm good with me and then I move into life and I play and then I move into life and I date and then I move into life and I meet people I think that's really, really important. A couple other things that I think are really important that. I mean, there's a million but I'll focus on two. Are you clear what relationship is about for you?

It seems like a funny question but when I work with couples that are struggling, one of the primary pieces that I Right off the bat. And a lot of people I work with haven't really deeply explore. Like, what is your relationship for? What is it in service to? What are you really about? What is, what is your relationship of vehicle for in your life? And if you don't have a good workout sense of that, you're kind of going to relationship blind and, and we will often

misuse relationship now. If you don't know those things and you're just going to meet people and you want to find out, that's cool. But if You really want a relationship but you don't yet know, relationships are really out for you and that there's a mismatch. So I encourage people that are looking for a real partnership. You need to be able know within yourself and and able to articulate to another relationships.

Really mean to you, but they're about what they're in service to. I think that goes a long way to being able to have meaningful conversations with people to get a sense, hey, are we on the same page? Is this a relationship to pursue? So, that's a really Powerful piece. The other one where are the people's I would want to take be with spending your time? I've actually spoken with lots of people who are complaining about not finding people who

work and live be in singing. So what we find Not be with us. Good at jump in for a second dolphin breaking up for everyone else or is it just me and know-it-all 10 seconds or so we lost you. Yeah you can maybe take your camera off because you are breaking up in the camera. Yeah. Yeah. I'm using starlink which I thought would be sort of latest addition to all of my eternity issues. There's not too big. How's my audio right now. It's a little bit better. The floor.

Yeah, really what? I'm speaking to is do we have a sense of are the kinds of people we want to be with spent their time and and take a little bit of time to figure that out. What kind of communities? They're part of what activities do they do. If we're in places where the people we want to be with are not hanging out. Of course, we're not going to find matches for ourselves. So so those pieces Are simple, but actually really important, beautiful. Yeah, that's that makes a lot of

sense. A lot of common sense. I know a lot of women and they're kind of like, oh yeah, I'm looking for guys and looking for guys, I can't find anyone. And then I like all the guys at the clubs and the bars are just jerks, and I'm like, hmm like how much can you really you don't get to know someone when it's loud and you're yelling at each other and if you're actually looking for a relationship that might not be the best, Best environment to really get to know someone and to connect.

So yeah, good point, find out where they go. So so Jade, anything that to the how to find your sweetie conversation. Then as I see your head, yeah, yeah. I'll just quickly stuck on both a couple of things, silver and often said, and you know, first and foremost, I think the exploration of relationship is really a beautiful place to start to Silver was sharing. And if you don't know that in a business, we sometimes, do you know, value vision mission. Vision Values.

And in order to have a Mission Vision value system for relating, you need to explore and you need to connect to others without any pretense of judgment or like slower was

saying any end goal. And really, what you're doing is you're in that process, you're learning about yourself and your learning about what your needs and desires are and you want polarizing, your energy in the direction of One person, you're you're really being Discerning and practicing this level of discernment and then I love what dolphin was saying about choose dates. Like, choose your next adventure. Like, come on, screw dating apps right? Carissa your, it's not working

for you. Let's move, you know, choose your next adventure and and Every part of your life. Start to infuse that sense of personal Adventure. Go to the coffee shop, I have a wonderful meditation. I do with the women, I work with called Who's That Woman and it's basically just like getting you ready to walk into any environment and feel the energy of what you desire from Life, Like Making Love To Life first and foremost. And that doesn't have to be perfect.

No, you don't have to have like the Eternal perfect self-love model in order to get into a relationship that you desire and self-acceptance is a big piece of it. So like get into life, get into Adventure show up in spaces for people are like Who's that woman? Who's that guy, right? And it's about this inner resonance that you are admitting and the people that you want in your life will come, they will arrive. So what's your next adventure? Where are you going?

What are you going to explore? That's me. I love it. Beautiful Georgia. So good, that's great. I really like the idea of thinking about it. A lot of, I think a lot of our people in our community are in some kind of business, some kind of entrepreneur, and as entrepreneurs, we often do a lot of case test stud, like asking our customers. What do they need? We're finding out, you know, how does our product work? Do they like, do they like our service? We're researching surgery.

We're checking things out and I I feel like one of the things that I think a lot of us miss, a lot of when we're starting out or looking for a relationship is, we're kind of looking for that. Like fall in love Sparks energy moment and forgetting that, you know, we're stepping into someone else's world. We've got ideas, they've got ideas and to kind of I love that idea of like looking at it. Like, you know, it's an adventure. It's like I'm getting information.

I'm doing reconnaissance, I'm checking stuff. About how am I showing up in the world? How are they showing up in the world? And, and kind of relaxing a little bit of that like fall in love, and it has to be this idea that maybe you've never even experienced, or you've only seen it, you know, in a movie or online and really, yeah, doing some, letting it be like, fun, and research and exploring. And yeah, yeah, when Crystal and I met, I had been dating women and not really feeling.

The what I wanted out of a out of a relationship. And so I just said, you know, I'm attracting women that are not what I want right now. So I'm just going to stop like I could just tell that something was off with with by who was who I was attracting. And and then for Crystal, she had just gotten out of a relationship and and got dumped, and she was feeling kind of low and both of us at the same time, around the same time, sort of And we're going to, we're going

to live our best life. We're going to make ourselves a 10/10. We're going to be as happy as possible on our own and not date. And that we both sort of decided note like forget this, we're done for a minute. We're just going to focus on ourselves and and that was right around the time. I met Michelle and I was working working with this lovely, human William and running events. And it was it was this entrepreneurial fun excitement and I just got into this flow.

Whoa, and I was just feeling amazing and not dating at all. And Crystal was just got back from a retreat and was, was in her Zone and really working on herself. And I think it was like three days after she said, I'm Anna, has four days four days after she's like. Okay, I'm going to take a whole year off. I was committed to being casual, because I had never done, casual dating, and I'm like, let's try casual clearly.

I'm missing something. I'm too, I'm, I like threw everything into all my relationships. I Like they were my everything in that, made it painful when they ended and who am I without it? So I was like, I think I should just do what these other people do and just be casual and I was very committed to casual and it lasted for days until I met you times. I failed that one but I think that the piece where you done

see well. So there are the way that you hear about like women who get pregnant after they've been told their infertile right after they adopt, it's like once once the edge Goes away of whatever you're really, really want this baby and it's not coming and all your focus is there and then when you get a baby, you adopt a baby. It's like all the resistance goes away and then you can get pregnant. And I feel like there's a part of that. In this in society, we've built

up this, all this thing. And even when we were sort of talking about earlier, it's like, you know, getting through, it's like what? There's nothing wrong. Like, it's not a bad place to be. It's fine. It's just, it's part of life, right? And so I think just understanding Meaning that it's a for me.

Anyways it's an energetic Dynamic and the way that silver said that he couldn't have planned and that it was some sort of it felt like it was some sort of other worldly connection that brought them together because it was, it's too perfect. Like there's too many pieces and it's just crazy. And I feel the same way with me and Crystal like the overlaps are just crazy. And and so I think there is a really important energetic. Piece to it for me of being a vibrational match to the person

that you're wanting to attract. And for us, that meant both of us getting into that state, on our own, and just feeling really excited and empowered. And and I think because there's so much ideas and people have so many bugaboos about love and relationships. The fact that we were saying no to it and actively not looking for it, sort of release the resistance. It's a crystal. She was like, a casual, and I guess I was in an open enough place to. Yeah, go ahead.

Well, I think that's the piece I wanted to tack on to that is. We weren't saying no to relationships because we had any bad feeling about them and that's a difference. And I feel like a lot of people are like, well, I can't date this type of person or that type or in this country or they've got ideas, which are they're putting walls up and I was really in. I'm not going to look for a relationship. Bishop not like I'm not ever

going to have one. Just I'm not going to be seeking one because that had been my old pattern when I was alone was to seek a relationship and this was I'm not going to seek one but what I was really a up was I wanted community and I wanted to be around people and I wanted to connect with people and I wanted to collaborate and I wanted to be around other people.

Like dolphin was saying like to put yourself around people that are like what you want, like what you want to be, like the kind of people you want to be around. And I Really realizing a lot of the people I had been around. Were heavier, they were in a little bit of a struggle. They were in a bit of a fight and I was like, I really want to be around people who are like excited about the future and changing the world and doing good things for the world and

humanity. And I just want to be Juiced up, being around those people. I don't need to be dating them. I don't need to be having sex with them. I just want to be surround myself with these type of people, and that's why, when I was introduced to shine and then met him. I'm more a few months later it was really, he was 100% exactly who I wanted to be around. He was excited about Humanity. Loved connecting people, there was always a swarm of amazing people around him.

I'm like great, this is exactly what I'm looking for, in my life right now. So he was actually a perfect match for me. Energetically what? I was putting out and the same for him. He was looking for collaborators co-creators, people to play with people to jam with people, to build with. So the romantic thing was something that wasn't in our Conscious Forefront, but because it wasn't, there it actually allowed us to connect and I really believe.

If I had been looking for a relationship, I definitely would have not chosen shine in that moment because my idea of what I needed was based on my first relationship was like this. So I can't have that in my next relationship was like this. So I've got to cut out this and this because that's where that came from and on my third relationship super fun but no future, no plan. Okay, so I Have anyone.

So now my window of what was acceptable for me in a romantic partner, was quite small and shined, and not fit many of my boxes. For a very long time, I was determined, we are casual. He was the best I could do for casual wear casual. I'm just dating him because he really didn't match a lot of my boxes and the same. I had two kids. When we met, I still have two kids. They haven't gone anywhere and they were much younger. My You was two and a half, I

think. And I just stopped breastfeeding in my, I had a five year old toddler and so I came, I was a package deal. I came with with babies and shine was really determined to do. Business was very focused on business.

He had spent a lot of time in his past working with kids and working with people was with disabilities and special needs and had put a lot of that energy and he's like I don't want to be like taking care of kids like that's not on my agenda but We both kept like, okay, this part feels really good. Let's just soften the edges around these pieces that he leaves his socks on the floor. I can't be with him which is a real thing that I bought a few times and I think.

So I feel like really that we were committed to actually not being committed to each other helped us move through that early phase where we write each other off and that's what Joe silver was talking about, you know, not kind of right? In people off right away. So yeah, yeah. So we have children, silver only for another half hour or so so I want them to if anyone has a specific question for for Georgia and silver or if they have they just are not necessarily have your hand raised.

Yeah, mazhar sorry. Yes, I wanted to share something, you know, to address Carissa's. She said, something very interesting. What filters do you use? You know, what kind of filter should be using when you're, you know, getting to know someone, I used to have these filters all the time. When I was younger, I had this list and if she didn't matter, you know, match my mom, then she's out. And then what, as I evolved it became more about you. You know, having matched like goals.

They don't have to be identical but at least, you know, the foundation of having the life goals and then I realized there was one thing that was even more important. After, you know, dating based on, you know, matching life goals, I found out that none of this matters.

There's only one thing that matters in my opinion and that is you know that both of us should be open to self growth and you know, you know, doing the self development work and All this stuff because if that Foundation doesn't exist, like, you know, cell growth and self development, then the relationship will not be able to evolve so whether you take it from a spiritual level or just from like a human behavior pattern or psychological level, whatever you want, you know,

label it what matters is being open to that kind of development because this is how any relationship can grow. And like you both said you both had lots of boxes, you didn't fit, you know, with each other and it Don't matter because you had that organic chemistry and things of old of time. Because as if we, let go of attachments just like Georgia said, Georgia said let go of attachment.

When we let go of attachment what you know of certain expectations, then we really get to discover what this person's about. You know, like when I think of how, for example, both Americas were discovered, nobody said oh I hope America is going to look like that. You know, they just went on an adventure takes up their boat. They've got Right. People, the right crew, and they were just, you know, having that adventure.

Of course, there is also the, entrepreneurial side of how to navigate a boat and all that, and using maps and everything. So, there is a mix of, you know, pleasure and Adventure at the same time, you know, makes to a professionalism at, you know, this is, I think this is what would describe your relationship. You will discover the Americas

into ever exactly. That might be a really good if no one has a specific question, that might be a really Lee good Next Step that especially Georgia and silver could address would be once you've kind of maybe met someone that you're interested in what without getting in our way of starting to measure them with criteria. How do you kind of make sure that you're, you know, kind of, I think a lot of people feel like I don't want to invest too much time if this isn't going to

go somewhere. And so make sure that those values kind of lineup, do you have some ideas for those? Those next steps. Yes, I do. And yeah for everyone. That's single this listening. I just I just want to stack on what you mentioned Crystal, you know, George and I didn't take many of each other's boxes either the beginning and we really, really grew to love each other and and that was because of a couple of key elements and and one of those was Truth, radical truth.

We were we were willing to speak Our Truth. We were willing to ask really, really good questions instead of having all these unanswered questions in our minds and then answering them ourselves, without actually asking the person that were with, you know, it was, I've got this feeling that this is going on. Is they actually happening or, you know, where do you want this to go? How deep do you want this relationship to be? You know, what, what is going on in your life right now?

Are you seeing any other anybody else? You know, just just call it out. Whatever is in your mind, be be brave enough and courageous enough to name it because then it's not nikoline away at your brain and talking yourself out of what could be an incredible relationship. So that's the first tip I would give. And then the second one is, is willingness, I mean, that's what George has had in abundance, their willingness to go deeper and that is a key key element to to the longevity of any any

relationship. And you know, if you're looking for harmony the only way you're going to find any form of Harmony and Chappelle is to accept those, not going to be harmonious. And that reminds me of an incredible quote from dr. John Muir, demartini and he says I gave up trying to be happy because it was making me sad. If we're constantly looking for everything to be perfect, everything to be like it was in that honeymoon period. If we're constantly looking to be happy.

And, you know, passionate and sexy group going to be disappointed because that's not how relationships are. I mean, Georgia of Georgia. And I have discovered an incredible depth of intimacy. Even through those periods when we've not been making love, we've deepened our intimacy. In so many other ways. So, I don't know if you want to stack on that honey. Over to you. Thanks lover. That's best the truth. But is the radical truth and to stack on what silver saying

around radical truth. And this is a really, really important one. So often you'll hear things that don't that might not feel good and might not feel right for you in that moment. And it's likely that that could be something to do with something that has occurred in your life and your past, maybe in the formative years. At some point, you know, I'll give you an example.

So silver, right out, the gate said to me and I don't want a relationship now, I was really happy being single and being who's that woman. I was having a great time.

So I wasn't actually looking for a relationship but to hear a man say those words activated something inside me that I had two choices and so when you're in a space of dating, And you're meeting people and you're connecting and you're practicing radical truth objectively having a boundary and energetic boundaries so that when I heard those words I could see them feel them as His truth and it wasn't a reflection of me. And so I thanked him for his truth.

And I went on with my life and then he showed up again. And then he knows that. And what are you looking for? I was like, well, I'm definitely not looking for a sexual relationship and it kind of just went on from there. And so being able to own your own stuff in the middle of some of these harder truths. As you're getting to know, someone is really important because if we're constantly triggered or activated for our nervous system is activated by.

Other person's truth. We aren't going to get to know them. We are going to get to know them. If we're automatically eliminated, silver was like, well, then you don't want a relationship. See ya? Just because of the way I received it. You know, I didn't want a relationship, who can relate to that, I don't want a relationship that I received that in a way that was like, oh darling. If I had allowed that, we're not worked with it in my own nervous

system, we might not be here today. so it's really important Edge that in, in, in relating Dynamics, especially when you're getting to know someone, Wow. Thank you. Thank you. I love this. Does anyone have any questions for George and silver while we have them? They're kind of a big deal. This is actually just came to mind for me. So I've had intimate Partners at different stages of my life that are not relationship Partners their friend. It's a friend been gypped. Type partnership.

And I've had people say to me, that's stopping you from actually finding someone. And I don't feel it is because to me I've separated the two. Any thoughts on that? Great question. Yeah, Michelle. What people think watch for rhetoric that isn't your own personal belief, just push it aside because your sexuality and where your what are your exploring and your life is beautiful and it has absolutely no reflection on the the person you're meant to partner with the being that is to be your

partner. In fact, it only encourages Bridges that in even more authentic way. So that's my personal perspective. You might know I love that because I'll say to that Georgia for me. What it does is it removes? The sexual aspect of meeting someone new. Because a lot of people, that's the thing that's on their mind, how I wanted somebody to have sex with, when you take that off the table here, approaching I'm approaching them, the person. As the person sex has nothing to do with it.

So that's kind of great. That works out real well. Well then, doesn't it. Yeah, I think, you know, and this really speaks to choosing your belief system your values. What's right for you? There is so much information on the internet like you could just be bombarded with people's opinions and ideas. So really choosing what feels right for you is is really key. So I appreciate that share a lot if anything I think stacking on that Michelle you know.

Sir, all about connection and as I said earlier there's the connection has a vast vast scale to explore and to play with. And you know, just before I met Georgia, I was I was really exploring every aspect of that I could in the wrist there's some some women that I was with where I would, like, I just walk around the house. Naked, you know? Or we didn't and we both do that.

We just have everything hanging out, would be naked and we'd end up dancing naked in the in the bathroom while we're brushing her teeth just just giggling like like teenagers. They were high. And are, you know, having a bath with with somebody else and just just being really present in the in the Beauty and the the delight and then Messy of that without needing to be anything other than that. It didn't need to go any further. And that's, that's the beauty of radical honesty as well.

And radical, truth is just being able to be fully present in that experience. Good. I love that. I just wanted to add a little bit of. I love Abraham Hicks. And what? What they talk about is that like the universe sort of knows what you want. And the way that you line up with those synchronicities, that you couldn't have planned that are just seemed amazing. Is is just following that little breadcrumb trail of like, does this feel better his does this feel good?

It is this and not from like a bad place of like a like I need I need a fix. I'm feeling terrible, I need something. It's like no I'm just I'm feeling good in. Ooh, this feels fine with. That's interesting and whether you might Standard are not like that's the path towards what you want and so as long as it's real and I can tell from your face when you ask the question is like, yeah, it's fun. It's great.

So it's like perfect. That's that's I think that's the only thing to pay attention to. Yeah. You're putting yourself in the vibration of what part of what you want. So just because you're also open to a relationship that has other components. I really love attraction doesn't agree that you can't. It would be the same as saying, like, Don't bother working your job because then the lot, you can't win the lottery because you're canceling one without the other.

So I think it really is. I mean, obviously, as long as you're checking in and it's still feeling super fun and valuable and useful, more is more is more so yeah. Yeah, you go girl, munication is key as well exactly. Anyone else have a question for a Georgian, silver. They've got 20 more minutes. Alice. I tend to have a really busy life, busy work and busy family, and a lot going on, maybe even a little more than that average

person. And I enjoyed meeting people and I have a good time, but I have a hard time not compartmentalizing my life into different sections. Us and being a little more open. And I'd like to learn how to be a little more open that way. I think I don't know if my question is clear. Yeah, you could just just sort of, you know, drop into that a little bit more and share with me a little bit about what you

mean by like to be more open. So what I heard you say was you have a full life busy life, we tend to compartmentalize. And so, you would like to create more space for openness or maybe you could. I think so. And, and relationships, whatever that looks like, I A family life, where part of my family doesn't really like socializing because I'm a mom of two boys and they don't, they don't like

the extra perks. So I find it hard to keep the balance and although, I'm open and willing and I think I think in some ways they are too, I find it difficult to put into place in reality because I have about this much time left in the week. Yeah. Yeah, I hear that and often these these domestic quarrels motherhood. It's a, is a role is a beautiful role. It's a wonderful role and it does tend to take precedent over opportunities to connect with others. And I really hear that and feel

that. And so what you're asking is like where do I, how do I, how do I do this? And it might be something as simple as you know, really acknowledging might be a piece of you. Needs to check in with self. Like, how much do I give to myself? How much am I willing to receive and my boys? I don't know how old they are but you know, can someone once a week? Take them. Can I make time? And why am I not making time? Get curious with yourself. Can my boys? I don't know how old they are.

Again the 13th they can but they have some they have some stuff. Yeah, there's some stuff. Yeah. Like they have like things that they don't want you to go out or yeah. They have. They have some stuff right? Yeah, it's okay. Got it. Okay, so I guess I guess it's really about giving yourself the gift of that openness. Hmm. Creating space for yourself permission to to embark. On that. And to cut that we mom's we have a codependent tie.

You know, we really do and that ties beautiful as it is. Sometimes means to be relinquished a little bit to make space for ourselves and everybody thrives everybody ultimately thrives when mum has more more space for herself believe in him so that would be my feedback on that. Okay, firstly, I just want to acknowledge you Alison because when you when you came on you you really mentioned that you consciously took time to to discover who you are and into to

work on your own authenticity. And I think that's a beautiful, beautiful stepping stone for, you know, transitioning to being open to meeting somebody being open to love. Of being open to to receive. And I want to I want to share this with everybody. That's such a vital part of being able to meet someone is being open to receive. So I encourage everyone of you to ask yourselves and I open to receive And listen and see what's there. See what's there? Because you may discover that

there. There is something that Society. Well, it's like holding onto you and, and keeping you closed. So, am I truly open to receive just asking yourself that question numerous times and listening without judgment as to what comes up. And just by listening to the answers that inevitably appear that can open you up. That can dissolve that that Shield or that that barrier that was there. That was there from a previous experience and just really getting that you are a different

person. Now, to to the person that had that previous experience. That perhaps made you guarded or put the shield up right? It's okay to to let that shield down and be be open to receive. Okay? There's a there's a really lovely Abraham but I speak in Abraham. Abraham parables in the lovely Abraham clip of woman who's talking about their family dog. And the dad was like, No, no dog. Like absolutely not and one of the kids is like I don't know

what I really want to talk. I want to take care of it. One of the kids really wanted to talk and she was kind of indifferent and and they sort of found this dog that was so perfect for all of them that they all just fell in love with it and it and if they would have kind of tried to like make a collective decision, whatever their ideas about the dog were at odds but when one of them got Into alignment with the dog and just focus purely on what they wanted and why they wanted it.

They attracted a dog that matched everyone's desires. So that came up for me with your boys is like you don't really have to pay attention to what they're saying from probably a triggered place you can like ignore that as much as you can and just and just focus on what you want. And what Georgia said I love is like when when you really focus on what you want and fill yourself up, everybody wins because you're more available to them. You have more love to Give your filled up.

It's like it's and and they will see that even if they can't maybe put their head around right now. Yeah. Yeah. In truth. I know. I know it's about me. I know it's my know and I think one, one final piece on this too. Especially as a busy person, busy Mom myself. I know it can feel like I can't even you know carve out the time for like my bath or workout or like the thing and you. How can I carve out the time to date or two?

New person into my life and what I try and do when I feel like I don't have time for something that I want to do. Is I try and just pre pave. It pre Paving is something Abraham Hicks talks a lot about or I step it forward, in my

mind. I imagine it moving forward, even if I can't move forward with it because then energetically, even if you go on, no date, your children have don't change their opinion like you have no physical, things are changing, but you can date in your mind, you can show up. You can imagine In it, you can do it. So to see, and so fun, and so exciting. And, and just that feeling, and everyone's going to feel so good. And like sign said, like, it's

going at this. The person's going to come in and they're without attachment getting too attached to how it's going to look. But everyone's going to feel the benefit of this. I'm going to fill the. In fact, I'm going to feel like I have more time in my life not less time. How is that even Pion?

Even know how that's possible. Like just juicing yourself lining up yourself and Abraham does this like put a hundred dollars in your wallet and if you're feeling scarce about money and when you go shopping instead of like I can't afford that and I can't afford that be like I could buy that but I'm not gonna I could buy that but I'm not good at. So I do that we did that. When we were lining up with this house, we went shopping for houses and we're like they

weren't even available. We drive down the street. We like, I like that one. I like that one. Who would be fun to live? Here, it would be fun to live here. And so even you're not taking time out of your regular life. You're not dating but you're walking down the street and you're like, ooh, that's a nice one, that's a nice one, go shopping, imagine what it would

be like with them. Imagine what their life could be. Like imagine what it can like you're stepping instead of going, I don't have he's beautiful. I don't have time to date him. He's love with but I couldn't date him. My kids would he like that's if that's the message try? Like I could not gonna today. I'm gonna talk to that's okay. But I could and stepping it forward and then when the guy does Is show up. You're going to be so much

further. Along your path of it, being fun, and easy and exciting because you've done that work already. Yay. And before we run out of sorry I'm just gonna, yeah, I was just going to quickly add. If you don't mind to that for Allison, for what I do with clients who are really busy is start to book some time in your calendar for you, and start like two hours, start with a movie night, then go to a day. And then you can go to, like a It's sort of like date night

date. Time with yourself, looking it in your calendar and keeping and doing something for you in that time. Because then when you have someone you want to date, you will have time in your calendar and that's but it's Gotta make it and keep it and not moving and not like no, no, I won't do that. Make sure it's time for you. Nice, good one. I want to make sure before we lose Georgia and summer. We're not losing them. They just have given us this

much of their time. Time. And then they've got other people that need them in their lives. I'd really love for you to share. I actually don't know because we've had other conversations but is there are you guys doing workshops right now? Are you doing couples coaching? How can? Because everybody who's tuned in, I'm sure it's going to be like, these guys are amazing. I want more Georgian silver and we are not going to host them every week. So you're going to have to find

other ways to connect with them. So what are do you have workshops coming up? Do you have events? What are ways? That people can connect with you and get more of the Georgian silver love and you guys do stuff together and separate and yeah. Take it away. Thanks Crystal. Thank you, Crystal. And yes, of course, we actually took a bit of a Hiatus from our business together in order to follow our own internal desires around what we wanted to bring forth in the world for this last year.

I'd say that that's an highly recommended relational tool is to follow the path of Independence. In your in sovereignty within your relationship. So I am currently working globally with women. I am a somatic, therapeutic counselor. So a lot of the work I do is about injured integrating intergenerational trauma, formative years, trauma, and really creating a more peaceful easeful authentic and pleasurable, life for women. And we also work together doing

couples mentorship. We do have an Week program. So we work with couples to mostly with couples who are deeply triggered an activated in their relating experience of each other. As we as we all know, we come together often and we mirror these great, wonderful things, these wonderful things, these we mirror, these mirror, these nervous system responses. And so we really support couples to come through those. And we can be Reached through Facebook and all capacities, as silver honey.

Do you want to share a little bit about what you're up to these days? So uniting all the good in the world, Thank you, lover. Yes, I'm really focused on creating strategic Partnerships to unite all the good in the world. I have taken a short break from, from coaching, from our love life, Legacy program, that George and I were running together. However, we are still taking on the, the old client, if it's a good fit. So, feel free to reach us.

Reach out to us about that. I'm also Also cooking up an exceptional men's program as well for for all the men who feel like they have a higher purpose within them to help them find that that mission, that's bigger than themselves. So that's that's really what I'm focusing on at the moment and I know you wanted some tools as well.

So Georgia Georgia mentioned one of them which is Is Independence. Really focusing on on your individual aspirations and not getting to two entangled in those together, having having different interests and I'm living five days. Apart, from, from Georgia, the moment, which has been has been wonderful and fruitful as as far as giving us some some space to just breathe and Really come back home to to who we are as individuals.

So that you know, when it does come to the weekend, we're absolutely yearning to be together. So that's that's also also a good, a good tip. And one thing that's really, really supported us because we're, we're a power. Couple were very powerful leaders in our oh and right, where we're both creators. Were both for our goals were very, very, very similar.

We have, we have strong traits. And one thing that's really supported at us as a couple is to take turns in leading and George has been a big advocate of this. She really LED this and encourage this into a relationship and I have to admit. It's it's, it's only recently that I have Really been able to really 100% let George and lead on certain things. I realized that I had this this element of needing to to watch over or control how how everything was done.

And I just recently relinquished that, you know, when Georgia was, was letting out our basement suite, for example, it's like, I don't, I don't need to be involved in this at all. You know, why, why am I micromanaging and just being able to do that in a relationship and read in different sectors of of life is incredibly powerful. Why do we call it leading and leaning? So it's very consciously chosen, you know, you can feel the energetic, swing a pendulum swings.

Okay, I'm going to lean, okay, I'm going to lead, okay, I'm going to leave. Okay, you lead. So it's it's it's a real, really beautiful pendulum, the way it's things naturally, quite naturally. But also consciously, It prevents a lot of Confrontation as well. A lot of a lot of arguments, a lot of discourse. You guys are so inspiring. I love it. I want to be George and silver when I sleep. Internet, Michelle jump in with the question related to that meeting and leading.

So when one is leading, do you confer with the other at all or do you just let them? I think so. I am very Alpha and so being more Omega is somewhere I really enjoy. And when I was living abroad in Bali, I was way more in that Omega space. It's an energy. The energy is so different and I I find this role of motherhood and poem making and running a business and motherhood's very, very Alpha by the way. It's it's not it's not a particularly Omega rule, so

you're you're in this. So being in Canada being in the western life, I'm much more activated in that awful role. And so, in my interrelating dynamic, I watch for that hyper aroused State and I just tone it and dial it back because I can relax like it's nice for me to be able to relax.

I'm sick and tired of running the show and so it's been about safety creating safety where he I trust him to take the helm who swings are still working on it. I mean it's a work in progress Michelle, but it's it is it is, it is Is a constant conversation. And then there are some days where it's very effortless. Like it seems very obvious he's going to do all the elephant and I'm going to do the Omega e and vice versa or vice versa. Yeah.

You know sometimes with renting the basement Street for example you just need like a five-minute had our conversation. What are we achieving here? What are the numbers were working with? Okay great let's go and five minute. I don't conversations are one of the Biggest relationship techniques. You can also give you don't need to have these long drawn-out. Blabbity blah has just made a 5-minute, idle conversation, great, even set the timer on your phone. Love it. It's like it's like detail

factual. We do need the feeling in the history right now. This is not space holding. This is like I love it and I think we're going to take that one on. Yeah it's great or you just kind of get into to all the stuff and it's just it gets it gets a bit dull and you get a bit into this these very domestic roles which are really boring like that. You want to, you want to take the fun out of your life. They're managing a household

cleaning toilets together. I hold all these young people who are like I can't quit this move in together in my quiet. You can see. In toilets together another day. Like exact you can do it on vacation when it's fun for you, it doesn't. Yeah, that's the rush. I would love to hear you speak. Come on and see ya. Share a moment dolphin before we lose well and and Jordan silver.

You can tune in and watch the replay and catch because we're hopefully getting a few more minutes of dolphin as well here, but we do want to honor your time. So if you need to pop off, thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. I really enjoyed being here with you today and yeah, thank you. Thank you, shine. Thank you Crystal. Thank you to everyone. Thank you. Yeah, thank you. Thank you both so much and thank you to everyone. That's that's shown up today.

It's a while since George and I have done a podcast together and it's really really got those juices flowing and really a great affirmation to to the work that we're constantly committed. To in supporting others as well as deepening our own relationship. So this evening has been an affirmation of that. So I really encourage you all to to live fully and love fully. Beautiful. Thank you so much. Thank you. Dolphin. Were you going to chime in here

and share your? I know we didn't kind of get to go back and forth with you but please feel free to take a little you can address all the points or just your general overview as well because yeah, I know you have so much value to offer and I love your perspective on relationships as well. Yeah, I'm going to I'm going to hang out and wait for it for a few minutes. I've enjoyed listening. I mean, just lots of Beauty in

what's being shared. And I just appreciate when other people have really done the Deep Dives and worked with pieces and work with people and bring back the insights of how relating really works. So mostly I've just been enjoying, I've been working on my router situation but also obviously very much in the call. I don't know how fast.

I'm just much better by the way. So here we are, you know I don't know that I have anything particular to add you know that the people in the room that are looking for love, I think one thing that I like to include which is just the practicalities, you know, we all bring in things that were attracted to. And and so I think that's worth exploring within ourselves. Like what am I attracted to some of what we're attracted to is innate?

Some of what were attracted to is like, really good and representative of what will draw us towards a good partner and it's good for us to recognize that in this modern human culture. Some of what we've grown to be attracted to is actually not good and so you know, for us to to do some some deep investigation and some listening and some learning about how I would describe it as integrated attraction, if my attraction is integrated.

It means the things that I'm drawn to you are naturally aligned and good for me and an inviting of my full potential and the relationships, full potential. The last integrated, my attraction is the more I'm going to have old unresolved relational pieces that are kind of informing who, and what, and where I'm attracted to.

And so that piece around understanding that aspect of ourselves and how we are drawn to relationship and then also including how others are drawn to us so that people might be attracted to us and that Be coming from a really good healthy place, but they also might be carrying their own unintegrated attractions and and I like this lens because it's a little bit like playing in the sandbox.

You know, we all have a Sandbox. We're walking by checking each other out and sandboxes look good, or not good to us. And, and that's worth including in the whole process of meeting. One another, getting a sense of how we relate of what we're looking for, of what we want to create together, and And as we go, I loved what was said earlier, which is so simple. But so obvious is like, if the way that we're operating allows us to more and more know ourselves to more and more know

what we love and what we want. And what we value then that's going to be a way in which we live. That overtime relationships will naturally get better and better. Our discernment about compatibility and Alignment will naturally get better and better over time. So any idea we have of like getting Ting it, right? Or finding the one I think it's worth throwing that out the window and and get good at play, get good at Discovery, get good at listening, get good at asking questions.

And, and most of all, and I think this is where Georgia silver and I really lineup is like get good at speaking. The truth and hearing the truth because in that we have something really trustworthy to build our relationships on Oh good, thank you for sharing. Well said, yeah, I love it. I'm glad we stayed. Yeah. Well, thank you for creating a Vortex. The three of you and the two of us.

So the five of us creating a Vortex, I feel like a possibility too because of course you have lovely tips and tricks but you know, we didn't touch on this. But dolphin is also in a wonderful relationship with his sweetheart and he has an awesome little baby anymore. They stay with us a little bit. I missed been like what two years ago when he was a baby. And now he's not any more, I'm

sure. Yeah. So dolphin is also an in a wonderful supportive, committed relationship, and I feel like sometimes, even one of the deterrence for dating can be like, is it even possible? Doesn't even exist. I've just had crappy relationships. My parents had a crappy relationship. Everyone I know is in a crappy relationship and I feel like what we've created Which is really fun as a little Vortex of possibility and that all of us were not in these relationships. Not, we haven't been in these

relationships for 100 years. It's been different amounts of time, but it's not even been most of our adult life in these current relationships. And that it really is a possibility to to find your person to line up to connect. And there is some things you can do in between until you get there. But yeah, it's a lot of just just kind of believing, putting yourself around people that are doing it. That are happy that are in relationship that have good values around it.

And checking not only because we're feeding ourselves our own information. But checking, you know, what are you exposing yourself to are? You exposing yourself to a lot of TV shows? And a lot of heartbreak, and a lot of people that have a lot of challenges because if that's not the reality want and relationship, then put yourself around awesome people who are doing what you're hoping to. Kind of aspire to be. So thanks, guys. I feel like we did that tonight. We who?

Absolutely. Absolutely. Thank you so much fun. Thank you all and see you next time. Yeah, yeah. I'm against all the best. I so good. It's funny. The the idea of like a relationship, being this thing that you're moving towards. Oh, hello Deon. Anna, welcome. Hey, hi. We're just we're just friends. Listening from 11 to 2 of the speakers just left him and we're

all just jamming a little bit. And there's this idea of like relationships being this thing that you're moving towards and it's this big goal in this dream and this thing and to me, it's kind of like starting a business where it feels really fun and sexy to think about it. But actually doing it, it's like it's a thing and especially And depending depends on the

relationship. I think there can be really easy ones and and more challenging by enough for me, a lot of of this relationship and having a business together has been like, okay, like here's here's your shit about this. Here's your shit about this. Like here's what's not Heroes, what you haven't killed about this. Like, it's just hard a lot and it's intense and it's like in your face and and crazy. And so it's not like, it definitely is not like, oh, like this is easy and fun.

Only like it's lovely and amazing and worth it and it's a lot like it's been challenging and work and but but fun in the way that starting a business is because it feels like we're

building something. It feels like I'm growing and getting better and and I can see the progression and and we've really evolved and move through different phases and so it's it's it's fun but yeah, definitely II don't have any Negative things about like just being being playful or being single or whatever because it's like it's that any any anywhere on the Spectrum or my we're all in relationships with with you know, the world and with each other, no matter what.

But any spectrum of of like, intimate relationships or friendships relationships, I think are so valuable. And at, and it's so okay, wherever you are on that Spectrum. Like, it does, it doesn't have to be a full on thing. Right here, you're living together. I'm doing the whole thing because cleaning each other's toilet. Yeah, it's, it's because it is, it's like, it feels like it's starting a business. It's a, it's a project.

And one of the things that's been really interesting with Crystal, and I, that the my relationship before Crystal, and I've heard a few people talk about this, where, like there's, they have three main relationships. The first one is the first love. It's this big thing. The second one is a mirror. That's like your exact.

Like you, like you're dating yourself and it, Example this stuff and it's super intense and it's very fiery and passionate but also kind of just functional and you both really like the same thing. So it's like as a partnership that can be challenging because neither of you really want to do

the things. The other one doesn't want to do because you're very similar and then there's this and then the third relationship where you meet someone who's a really good match and who sort of fills out just like a business partner would wear. Like you're really good at operations, they're really good at marketing and sales. I'm like okay you can actually have a business together because you You have like harmonious skill sets and I feel like that's me and Crystal to it to you.

Like we really are a good fit and we like the stuff that the other person doesn't like in the like living of life in the decisions and finances. A lot of it. Yeah, we have preferred that the ones that we really, neither must like, actually those are the ones we hire out. Yeah. And that's really important for we ask for support from the community or someone to help us out with because it's not worth forcing each other into it. So yeah, one thing I was going to top on that and oh my

goodness isn't gone. Yeah, that's okay. Okay, I want to own a welcome Kai. So we haven't acknowledged to hello Kaiser and Indiana cases, Crystal's mom. And she must be a master of relationships. Now, she's been. She's been doing it from. She had six kids, and she's got a beautiful husband, and Deanna welcome. Do you want to share both of you just a quick intro and who you are and what's your relationship to relationships? We can't hear you Deanna. Okay, yeah.

Sorry. I know, it's so funny because Facebook, I was just on there and it was like, this is like starting and I was like, oh, it's happening now. So I just click. So, super cool to be here. Yeah, so I actually help people get into relationships and I call myself a radiant love coach and that is because it really comes from Honoring our Divine Essence and who we are. And so, I love what you were saying around.

You know, we get triggered in all these beautiful different ways because it's an opportunity for us for our soul to evolve and to learn the lessons that we need. And I think you're lucky if you just have those three relationships and then you get into like the perfect one. Wow, I was like, oh man. No I definitely didn't just do that in three. Like it took me a few more than that but yeah, I mean And you know just committing to doing the work, becoming the best version of yourself.

You know, I literally manifested my dream partner. God literally I had to like calm down. Stop distracting myself like get present and was like, literally guided to Vancouver and spirit was like that's where your partner's going to be. And I had done, they say, you know, that expression when preparation meets opportunity, like I had done all the preparation. I was so clear in what I wanted, I noticed in here because it talked about Abraham Some like aligning to like what you really

want. Like I made a vision board with all the Google images that I found like specifically for like everything that I wanted. I had this long exhaustive list for a partner, like I did my work and then Spirit, literally put me down, put me next door to my now husband and 40 days from the day that I moved into that apartment. I met my husband on a Friday afternoon because I said, Hey to a Hot guy and literally like, 30 minutes later, we were on our first date and an hour and a half.

After that, we had our first kiss and then we were never apart from that. So I love what you guys are talking about about really just like a lining to like the Law of Attraction and using everything in your life, as a learning opportunity to really become your best self. And then when you meet your partner, then they're going to trigger you an all new ways that you did. Even just talking to my, I just got off the face time with my husband because we're in separate countries right now.

But he, you know, I was like, did not want to take personal responsibility for things like, I just wanted to like, you know, skate away from it. And he was the one that like really held me up to it and like, made me, you know, had me deal with the things that I had been avoiding my entire life. And so, I just love what you guys are saying is that, like, you know, continuing to be in relationships, we all have special relationships, like, we're all here to help each.

Other and to teach each other things. So so yeah. That's a little bit about me. Thank you for sharing. That's a great story. Yeah, that's that's really good. You were missed the beginning but where there was a couple questions about, you know, if I'm busy and how do I make time for dating and that such a good.

Reminder, if you've done the and we were talking about doing the pre Paving and doing the lining up work and you've kind of done those pieces and then I had a teacher who said he was really a More shy and socially awkward, but part of his job being a coach and being a trainer was to meet people and connect.

So every time he had an event to go to, he would say maybe I'll meet my next best friend there, you never know, and just like this fun and excitement, and it's such a good reminder to that, you know, you can be walking down the street and meet your next partner. You don't have to go on a dating site and a nap and have a whole formal thing about it, if especially more easily, if you've done the lining up, I work in that piece is really? Yeah, really valuable.

So thank you for reiterating that. I say two more things on that to actually just because it's so one is really like what you just said is like approaching everyone as just like a new relationship. So you take the pressure off of any relationships like oh this is going to be my husband. Oh wait, but he's not six-foot-two. So he can't be my husband. It's like all this like these expectations around ourselves.

Yeah, and this Shoot. Now I'm at I've just lost for what the second one was that you've you inspired me about but yeah I just think that you know letting that down and just having fun with it like releasing that thing in not knowing when it's going to happen. But like really surrendering I think that's the other thing is like the big shift that happened to me was surrendering my timeline and realizing that I was on God's timeline and like

if it's either. Yes. No, or not right now, trusting the not right now and something better is going to come up and like that's like what I have to like. Like really, really help. People like remember is just surrendering that something more magical than you could have. Expected is coming full. Yeah, this is good. Thank you. That reminded me of the piece that I wanted to jump in with. I was recently having a good conversation with somebody.

I know who quite well, who's in a long-term polyamorous relationship. He's been in Nepal. A relationship for quite a while. And he feels like he's, you kind of an expert now or at least very well-seasoned. And I was kind of digging in and asking him a couple of questions. That's not something I have experience with.

So I was curious and he was really saying, of course, the number one thing that Georgia and silver who were on before and dolphin have really talked about is communication communication, communication and honesty, honesty honesty, and he was saying how most of the people he's engaged within the polyamorous world. Do a really good job of being very clear with boundaries, very clear with communication because they're kind of coming into the relationship.

Knowing that there can be lots of hurt feelings. There can be lots of triggers. This is a bit of a more complicated situation. There's more people involved, there's more feelings involved. So he said, when it works really well, there's very clear boundaries. Who does what where, when why how with Like it's a very clear almost. I was saying, it sounds like a business that sounds like when you're getting involved with a business partner and you saying these are your roles, these are

my expectations of you. These are my expectations of myself, showing up. He said it was very, very, the successful ones in the best ones are when they're, they're just so honest and so clear with each other and I was joking, but I'm not really joking and saying he should host a workshop on polyamorous philosophies for the Monogamous relationship because I think it would be so valuable and I we started off a little bit with this at the beginning of our conversation here

tonight, talking about how a lot of there's a lot of baggage that we bring into the idea of dating and relationships. A lot of romantic fantasy, sexy porn, whatever the bits are, that you've built, your ideal relationship on. And a lot of that is not necessarily much of a reality

often. And that you come in with that, like, oh, if I don't feel this or it doesn't right away, then I'm going to write this off and I feel like if we more, if those who are looking for a monogamous relationship, approached, it much more. Like, these are the things, this is the way I want to show up in a relationship.

This is what I'm hoping to you know how I want to be involved, how I don't want to be involved like what this person was saying he experienced in these polyamorous relationships. I feel like we would do a lot better as a society.

In dating, if there was a lot more of that, almost not calculated in a cold way, but kind of thoughtful way of entering a relationship instead of getting swept away or swept off in our own minds of what we're expecting the relationship to be. So I feel like that's something. I'd love to explore one day, maybe in the future, is to have someone give a talk from that perspective, because I think

that would be really valuable. And for a lot of us who are entrepreneurs and In the wellness world, a lot of people in our community who will be listening in. It's a good reminder. You know, you don't jump into a business relationship with no conversations about what you see it turning out. What's the end goal for the

business? How do we want to work together and have a lot of, those kind of what people would call like hard conversations, but you make sure that you know, those are in place so that you can actually, you know, relate and connect together. So that was an interesting. I thought I had and I'd love to actually, I would be curious if dolphin if you have any thing to add into that, too.

With your, I know what's relation flicks for anyone who's just tuning in, Dolphin has a wonderful company project, passion and relation flick, real lost. The relation flicks in sharing this kind of information with the community so I'd love to hear kind of your Two cents on on. Yeah. Having more of that clear. Communication like you would in a polyamorous relationship in a monogamous one. Be beneficial for people. Yeah, beautiful.

Yeah, I mean, what comes to me is that in a monogamous relationship, it becomes quite easy, because there's a Simplicity to it. You and another, even though it's very complex, we can start to get Overly simplified around, what's required for this relationship to continue. Really, just two. People have to choose to be there and if we're not doing things, well, we can still stay together. When you start to add more and

more people. It becomes increasingly clear that the relationships and the kind of network of relationships are only as strong as their weakest link. So as you invite more people into the equation, there's more complexity, there's more stress and pressure On the people that are holding all of the connections. And, and it's, you know, I always talked about when you add a person to an intimate Dynamic, three people.

Instead of two people is not like plus 1, it's exponentially more to hold its exponentially more to take care of. There's, there's way more required around. Making sure that needs are met, making sure that Clarity is there in what's agreed to. And so, I think what we can Can take from people who have found a way to be effective in their in their polyamorous relationships.

Is that in some ways. Many people have become quite complacent and lazy in their monogamous relationship and then, I don't mean that in a mean way or to wag a finger, but just to say it's a little bit, like growing a garden, you know, most of us want, all of the fruit and vegetables of the garden, but we don't necessarily want to dig in the dirt and

That's not how Gardens work. If you know you can go to the store and buy something that's sort of like the fast-food approach to to dating or relationship. You can just get someone else to do the work and then you can go and get the fruit. But something happens when we know how to grow food on our own. There's something intrinsically meaningful to us about the fact that the food that we're putting in our bodies, the food that we

created. And so, for those of us that care about that, kind of authenticity that the care about The, the origins of the fruit that we eat, it becomes incumbent on us, to learn, to grow, and to be able to have that, that level of communication. So, you know, in a few words, I agree with you, Crystal and the application, and implication of that level of communication is,

is not easy. There are simple principles that really supported and being effective, but the application requires more maturity, more responsibility, more willingness to hold our own peace. Cesare own emotions as they arise and more of a willingness to speak utter piercing. Truth in the interest of more authenticity versus the interest of comfort or getting immediate needs met.

So, you know, I think when we look at what effective communication is it's, it's what what kind of communication provides the deepest, most meaningful relationships over the longest time span. And, and I lay that out as a kind of Target that we can start to shoot for around is my communication about meeting an immediate need, which is, you

know, that's fine. But if meeting the immediate need is disconnected from what nourishes, the individuals in the relationship long term, what you have there is unsustainable relationships. So good. Thank you. I love that analogy of the garden. I think that's a really good. A good thing to keep in mind as well. Is there anything that anyone would like to share questions, answers ideas, open open for, for whatever?

Yeah. We'd love to if you have more questions, kind of on dating relationships in general and then I feel like because we did say that we wanted We did want to move into having a little singles mixer time. And I think what we want to really use that time for is to hear from you guys as to how we can support you in creating some fun singles events, how we can support you in meeting those

people that you're looking for. So we definitely want to make sure that we have time to hear from you guys about that as well. So yeah, you can also share what you're looking for. As soon as maybe your, your next sweetie is This on YouTube. Exactly, yeah, don't have any step on up. Thanks. I know earlier. Dolphin had mentioned something about integrated attraction. I just wanted to know if there could be maybe an example of because that's a new term to me.

So I'm just wondering if there's maybe an example for that. Oh, good question. Yeah, I'll give you an example from my work history. I used to work with an agency called safe team, and the woman who founded it, this amazing woman. Man named Anita Roberts and she had a really challenging childhood. There was a lot of kind of abuse of power and control. There was there was physical abuse or sexual abuse and she managed to Parlay that into some really powerful empowering work

for teenagers. So she created work that supported young people and being more, clear, more self-aware, more empowered than she would tell this story when she was doing the work. She would say that because power Actuality. We're kind of wrapped together with abuse for her when she was little, she had a very strong attraction to men that were essentially dangerous. So she would feel aroused when a man who was not, not necessarily mature able to hold his own emotion.

Often men who had issues with anger, these were men that she found very attractive. This is an example of what I would describe as unintegrated attraction. So these are aspects Of how her attraction system developed an early life. And that the attraction, of course, snub the parental figures, our survival to a developing child, our ability to relate and connect with them from an evolutionary perspective, is what allows us

to survive. And then we naturally become attractive to those figures in the way in which they raised us for better or worse. Now, an integrated attraction system, I mean that in spite of that being the history that enough integration and healing has taken place where the attraction is no longer rooted in things that match or mirror the dysfunctional dynamics that were there in her childhood.

So that instead of being attracted to these men that were sort of dark and and aggressive and not able to manage their own emotion, the attraction system would would over time develop in a way where she would see a man who was able all to be present, who was curious, who was playful, who know who knew, how to handle, and hold his own emotions, who was responsive to the needs of others and an integrated attraction system, would be attracted to those things.

Because those are the things that allow relationships to to thrive over time. So I hope that kind of makes sense. It's a term that I've coined and it just makes sense to me in terms of how an integrated or an integrated nervous system will relate to being attractive attracted to other individuals based on the kind of Attraction template that we got from drawing up. Yeah, that makes sense. Thank you.

So would it be a good idea to maybe figure out what was the unintegrated qualities of our past or patterns or beliefs or just maybe kind of mentally or physically? Write down a list of like oh this is what I desire for my integrated attraction to occur. Yeah. So both of those are helpful and what I would what I would say about. But the journey is your life, will tell you what's on integrated. So we can dig and we can go back in time and we can reach into

memories and that's all good. And can be very potent in terms of having transformation. But the reality is, is that we are so intelligent that we will naturally intuitively unconsciously recreate. The very dynamics that are not yet integrated in us in our adult relationships. So you don't have to go very far now. Now, if you're you Being single for a long time.

So it's also possible that that we create a dynamic within ourselves where we create so many barriers to intimacy and relationship so that we don't have to really show up and face those pieces. And so that might be a part of your journey is looking at how and where you make it impossible. I use that word kind of colloquially, but you make it very challenging for you to find someone and or for someone to find you and To really explore

relationship. Like you the way you stated it in my in my memory of the call is it's like you just have trouble finding people you're attracted to and you find that the people that kind of show up in your life, you know there's just not this spark and so you know exploring why that is and is it possible that there's there's enough value and exploring relationship that don't necessarily match your picture of what needs to be there but but there's enough

presence there's Willingness there's enough curiosity where you're both going to learn and grow through the experience of being in relationship. And I think that doesn't have to be just Intimacy in terms of friendship, in terms of all the ways in which we can connect. Again, I have so much trust in our unconscious ability to recreate the very things that we

need. So that we can heal and put our past to rest, but conscious awareness presence and a willingness to feel everything that arises in that is required for that to really be be fruitful for us. Wow. Well, said dolphin, very interesting. Yeah, to to add in on to that. I think that's, that's what I was kind of touching on a little bit at the beginning, that a lot of my relationships early on were, oh, I can't be with someone like this because I was

and it didn't work. So I've got a swing. It was this pendulum swing from trigger to trigger. So they were like this. So I have to be with someone like this and then they were like this. So I have to be with someone like this. So, like dolphins said, I made it almost impossible for myself because the window of eligible available people Lived where I lived was very small and that met all my criteria. And I think that's that's a piece to kind of check out.

And like dolphin was saying, you don't need to necessarily know what are all your triggers are all your pieces because they will show up but you can do Abraham-Hicks talks a little bit about this. Of course you don't want to spend a lot of time thinking about your past relationships and things that didn't work. So you don't want to be stirring that up but you can use it as a springboard. I didn't like it when this happened, so I do want this to

happen. I didn't like it that he put his his whatever above what I thought, you know, should be there. So I'd love someone who spends, you know, more time, you know, in a way that works for me or I didn't like that the way he was as a parent. So you know, I want someone to be more involved with their kids or whatever the piece is that you're swinging from instead of just kind of reacting to it. I have to look for someone who isn't like this trying to really stack yourself up with what's

the opposite of that. So that's been my experience and that's what I was doing a lot before I met shine was really instead of like, I don't want someone like this. I really tried to go. Okay. These were the things I didn't like now really spend, like, 90% more time than I spent on making the list. I didn't like really juicing up, so I didn't like this. So I mean, I want this and this and this and this and it like

that. So I want this innocent So really spending making sure that you're kind of attracting instead of actually attracting the things that you don't want which is where some of that unconscious comes from.

And like Dalton said, don't worry if there's bits in there that you don't know you're running because there are and you'll Attract it and you'll get to deal with it and then you'll have that awareness about it. And like we said at the beginning and like, Georgia and silver said as well, they weren't actually, what we weren't, what we were each other were Looking for, they weren't lined up at the time. They met either. For this being this perfect love

affair. It was really there was just enough pieces in the moment and enough openness to be able to keep seeing it through and I think that's a piece to that was it silver said at the beginning, kind of don't cut yourself off before. You've even started and being open to trying it out. Checking it out, not having this big expectation of it needing to be. Something life-changing but that just that willingness can grow

into a relationship and 100%. I know, shine and I would not have would not be together if we hadn't both been willing to show up in what to me and him seem like a rather mismatched relationship at the beginning. So yeah, I actually met another guy who was dating a woman with kids or just broken up with a woman who had kids and he really was like, are you? Sure that you want this because it's a thing like it like if you like it's a thing, like be sure that that's what you want and it

wasn't what I wanted at all. Like I actively was like not looking for that and I wanted to only focus on the business and have no distractions and it was so my mental mind was like, okay, this is fun. But in about like, a possibly things like it wasn't even like, oh she doesn't work out enough where she eats meat and I don't like, it was not something that was, you know, not me. Not having kids was not We actually ever going to be an option. So it was like the number one biggest.

Yeah. Biggest deterrent for what shine thought he was looking for in the moment? Thank you, Deanna, and by and I kept meditating and getting into the Vortex as best I could. And I kept receiving this message when I would meditate and get quiet and I would ask the question that it's like, no, this is really good for you. This is what you want. Give it a like, stay with it. Just don't don't Don't don't go don't like throw it away.

Just stay with it and and that's been a big way that Crystal and I have both balanced when things get really hard. Is we've gone through enough Cycles where we know that when we feel really good, it feels really right.

And like it is a good fit. And so, even if we can get ourselves into a bit of a spin, which I don't do this anymore, I don't know, of course of those but I think we've kind of spiraled a bit out of this but Where where we might in the past be sort of doubting and I was just the right thing and are we is this what we really want and and now that we've been through enough cycles and we know that when we feel really bad we can create these stories that aren't true and and then that can lead

to, you know, decisions and things that by like I said you want to say something quick. Before you go. No, okay, you're good. Thank you, Mom. Was it Cycles tuning in? Yeah that we've just sort of easy. We've just sort of learned that the thing to do when we're feeling bad is to get feeling good and not trying to deal with anything that feels bad and fix it or like talking through or whatever, it's like, just like, leave the room, take some space, get feeling better.

And then, you know, if you need to talk about something repair, whatever, proactively create a plan. For the next step but just yelling at each other or being being mean to each other like you know venting when there's not the other one can't really hold spaces.

We found to be very counterproductive because it just creates more repair to do later and and I'm guessing you know, in the worst case, scenarios for four people, it ends up in the relationship ending because they're just like, I don't, I can't deal with this is too much and and so it's

that thing. So yeah, I think that's a good piece to remember to especially when we're kind of all, you know, talk oh. It's lovely being in relationship and it's so fun and and to really remember that never in our relationship was there especially at the beginning not thoughts of. I don't know if this is going to work and that it was hard and there was a lot of that and for me being through many long-term relationships before shine where

I had had those thoughts and then yes, eventually it did end and it was very painful. It was really hard for me to meet those times with myself where I was with shine going. Okay. Here's the beginning of another relationship. I'm feeling the same way. I felt in those other relationships and those ended and I was right and it didn't work and all that stuff. I proved myself, right? So why does going to be different right now? And it was really hard for me.

Not to pull that history with me and jump out early and sell and sabotage the relationship early because it did come up a lot. For me and it was something like shine said with my kids. And for me there was a lot of things that a lot of ways that he reminded me of my exes which was really scary because I thought I'm going to end up in the same position and a lot of ways when he did not remind me of what I thought I needed in a

partner and of my ideal. So I kind of had to proofs like my future projection of what I wanted. He didn't match a lot of that and my past history, I was pulling up with me. He did match a lot. Not. So it was really scary for me and I had to do exactly like shine said and I had to really

walk away. We created early on I had insecurities of him cheating when we were fighting so I thought if we don't fix this fight right now, he's going to go off and cheat on me. So I had to be vulnerable with

him about that and share that. As soon as I could in the relationship and we came up with a deal that we had some good communication about it and that we would not end the relationship when we were feeling Not about it in a fight and we would not cheat or go be with other people without a community conversation. First and shine felt really solid, that that's not his Mo, that's not how he's going to behave. And so that really I needed that even though he's like, I've never do that.

Of course, but I needed that reassurance and I asked for that really clearly, and I had to do Reality Checking when we were fighting. Okay, you're walking away. Are you going to go cheat on me? No, I'm not. Okay, I just needed to hear that. And I did that for a long time. Time at the beginning because that was a big piece. I was pulling up with me but it was I was not saying you have to fix me or change me.

I was saying this could be supportive for me to feel, okay, to let this go right now, so he can walk away. And then I had to do the work of what am I pulling up? Why am I feeling bad about him? What are the pieces that I have really activated in my psyche around relationship and around shine? And are they true? And a lot of times I could see A, they weren't true. And B, I was just in the shit anyway.

I was feeling bad and our deal with each other was if I feel bad about shine leaving his socks on the floor which I keep bringing up but it was a real thing for me at the beginning of a relationship. If I feel bad about that, I would check and do. I feel bad that good about everything else but just bad about this and the answer was 100% know. I always felt bad about a lot of things including the socks, which were terrible is so

painful. But really, I was actually having a bad day and feeling bad about a lot of things and they were the trigger, were the Catalyst or the final straw. So I made myself a deal that I'm not going to talk to him about the socks until I'm feeling really good. And then if it's still a real thing then we can like sign said we can create some systems and here's the laundry basket. I've never heard about the socks.

So obviously she did a good job because I don't remember ever having any conversation or knowing about this before tonight and what I found was of course when I was in a good place in the Text. I got ideas for how to communicate it in a way that obviously didn't feel triggering or scarring for him, and the behavior was able to shift and I was able to let go of my expectations.

So I think that's a piece to to keep in mind when you're hunting for this relationship where you're in the beginning of a relationship to really check all those red flags and all those warnings of course, you know, you might end up on a date with someone who's just a hell? No, and that's fine, but check where those are. Those red flags real is that is that past, I'm pulling up and putting on this person's face. Is it future stuff that I'm like, oh they do this?

There's no way we can be together in ten years if they do this, like, just kind of like you can make a mental note and you can be like sure I'll readapt address this on day 10 you know, I can give yourself a break like if it's still a thing and it still comes up, we can talk about it but let there be some space because so much of it, we're just picking up from where we left off and especially if you left off in a bit of Ask which normally we do, because that's what ended the

relationship. You know, give yourself some time to build some Foundation where it's comfortable and fun to be with someone before you dig in and fix things and change things and make sure that you're completely compatible at the beginning. So yeah, I Michelle, thank you so much for being here, for being here has really encouraged. Thank you so much really great to hear everybody. Thank you. Dolphin and really great to use well and thanks for everyone else. Dating love you shine.

And Michelle is one of the first. She was one of the first ones in our new singles group that we have formed. And she actually did the thing that we asked everyone in the group to do, which is to start putting yourself out there, say what you're looking for, say, what you're open to receive, how you want to connect with people, and to start putting yourself out there because we love connecting people and that's what's really fun for us and we keep coming across people in the community.

So we'd love to hear from you so that we can Some connections dolphin. You go yet? Gonna love you. We love you doll. Thank you for being here. It can. Yes, can you share with people because they've I'm sure enjoyed your wisdom, has noticed self. Can you tell us and we'll share the links of course but what you're offering the relationship community and how they can play along with you.

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everyone, relation flicks. So like Netflix, but with for relationships. So yeah, it's an amazing space that dolphin is holding for our community, so do check it out and reach out if you need help, finding the links or getting connected to dolphin and Ecstatic to support you with that. Well, thank you both. I love you. Thanks for having me. I look forward to more and yeah, we'll be connecting in finding each other more and more as we go.

I love you so much. Send love to your family for us, much love. Yeah I think you will do. Cheers. Thank you. Dolphin. Yes, I have a question. I know this. You night show is new this month. So I was wondering if you might have plans to do or Relationships the monthly or every few months or you let us know when you're ready to share. Yeah, we're definitely feeling like there's, of course, million subjects that we're excited to talk about.

So, last week we did Marketing in mindfulness which was super fun and really interesting and next week we have got talking your Tech questions. So bringing your Tech questions to actually our unite Tech Team, so for people building their websites. If they Help with ads any kind of tech questions we really want to support the community in learning more about that and getting the support they need. So that's going to be next week when we have lined up after that

ribbon. It's like a vision board kind of manifestation by and thought you know, for New Year's coming up. Yeah, lining up for our new year, getting your, you know, your perspective relationships on there and being nice and clear. So we definitely we don't have

yet set like that. Every once every month we're going to do a Relationship one, but I do think that it feels like it is, we always listen to what the community's asking for from us. And what we're getting, a lot of requests about and relationships is definitely a high up there. So I do think we're going to be cycling in some kind of relationship thing, pretty regularly. And then the other piece that we want to do for anyone who's wants to check out our unite singles group.

So you can find that on euphy on Facebook. It's just unite singles and What we wanted to really do with that is start to use it as a little bit of a platform for people.

Like I said, Michelle already did share just a little bit about what she's looking for, what she's opened for we want to be able to share resources on there will of course, share the replay of this call and to start really finding out what will be useful and valuable for the singles in our community and how we can support them better and definitely if more calls like this are helpful to, you would love to hear that there.

And then I'm sure we'll probably get in some polls and things for what will be most supportive and we do as we are in the Vancouver Lower Mainland. We're also excited to potentially host some meet ups as well, and get actually everybody in a room together and connecting together. And we do have a lot of other people in our community who have a lot to share on the kind of more conscious relationship angle. So we'll hopefully be getting some different speakers as well. Come in and talk.

And yeah, yeah. All kinds of fun stuff planned. Great. And some, I know at the beginning when you started recording, you said that you did live on Facebook, you do live on Instagram and then you put this on YouTube as well. I'm just wondering where you put all the content, exactly, you know, the only show that YouTube link the most. It seems to be a good place to funnel people. And then we'll also put it on United and almost of are like, channels that can can host this

video. Yeah, we might take Little clips and put them on Tick-Tock or whatever. Yeah yeah. Okay thank you. Yeah thank you for your kind here. Apologies. I feel like it was false advertising as we haven't done a single mingle and don't really know what to do about it. Other than if you guys want to show you have an idea. Yeah, I was thinking if you guys want to share a little bit about, you know, who you are, what you're looking for, that could be a way to just sort of

share. And then I have a selfish Unite. Question of the end, what I was thinking especially because it's a bit of a more intimate group and it might feel intense for people to be like, hi this is me and this is what I'm looking for. Although we're totally open to hold space for that as well. What I would love to use this for is a little bit of a, you guys are obviously our Target for this community and who we want to support.

So like exactly what Melanie was asking, what would be valuable for you in Being supported by unite in your single to non-single journey and also we could do a little bit of if you want to what I was thinking. If there was more of us and we would do more of a mingle. What we would get people to do is just kind of share a little bit more informal instead of like this is me what I'm looking for but kind of like this is what I value, these are my values.

These are maybe some of my mistaken beliefs that I'm working on, I love It was kind of just unraveling that so that we can be a little bit of a support for each other in this community. And I think my intention is that that then spills out into the group as well. We're in the group were able to kind of share that and support each other in that as well, where you can say, hey, I'm wanting to start dating but I'm feeling nervous about this or that. So yeah, that was kind of.

Thanks Alice, not but thank you, Allison. I know we've run a little bit long here and we appreciate everyone. Coming and maybe we'll just have to have a whole mother singles event and rally everybody and do that again soon. Thank you, Alison. I was actually going to share this week on the Facebook group, but I didn't have time to write up what I wanted, but I plan to do that this week. So I think I'll just do that instead of sharing here, because I'm going to be going as well.

But amazing, thank you so much for being here and we're really excited to keep supporting the community. And it feels like this is, yeah, I'm really I need, and I sure wish there was someone holding the space when I A single. So yeah, we're like you found a wonderful guys. So work so well. Exactly. Well, that's kind of why we haven't done a little bit of this. In the past is really, we're not, we don't need to, you know, we're in a relationship.

So, you know, what's the point of us hosting? Like, singles events and then we were really getting the message that people are like, hey but we need like, you know, support and inspiration. And you guys hold such great space for that. So we're like, okay, I guess,

yeah, I do have an idea. Within the unite, singles group, I was thinking that if we want, we can kind of host or suggest an event and then we can plan ourselves instead of you guys organizing everything because I know you guys have lots of groups and lots of things going on. So we can initiate ourselves to like, create an event and I love only support that we on the same page.

That's what we were really hoping for is it would kind of be like, hey, I'm going for a walk on the beach and does anyone? To come. This is my area and that it doesn't have to be again, like, oh, you can only come if you're a male because I'm female and I'm interested in men that were supporting each other.

You guys are supporting each other in having these, you know, like, okay, we'll go for a walk and it's going to be with a couple other women, but we're all going to talk about conscious relationships and what we're attracting and bring that mindfulness to it and support each other and changing our beliefs, and that it doesn't have to be.

Oh, they're just dates or It's just meeting up with people that I'm interested in because like we were talking about earlier on, we need to what really supports Us in attracting the relationships that we're looking for is putting ourselves around people that believe it's possible to. So yeah, I just having a discussion on relations relationships. Yeah, yeah. Having a fun event like going bowling or going to a restaurant

or like something fun. I feel like that's where I've met most of my people that I've been become intimate with this. Like events and parties have been doing fun things. I've never, I've literally never gone on a date that I like just where I like dating app or you're like, oh let's go on a day like I always just meet people through things and yeah just kind of happens. So yeah it's that's that's cool no don't feel like you're stepping on any toes step on in.

Oh yeah suggest create events for the group to you feel like yeah we're going to go to this restaurant, you know, when works for everyone or I'm you know I'm going home later. Excuse darling. Once you start it will pump, it will will keep on will invite people and we'll get it going. Yeah. But I'll be more than glad to be a Corgan iser, because I do have experience in organizing events back when I used to do meet up perfect. Well, I'd love to coordinate to have Melanie if she's open to

that as well. Amazing, amazing. Now, we're talking so good. I love it. You guys will be our two core coordinators and we will coordinate with you and we'll get some stuff happening. Inning. Yeah, yeah, I love it into that Melanie. Are you open to that suggestion? She might have stepped away, shut us up to it. All right, how are you doing? Nazar, do you have anything you

want to share before? We not really just the app thing, you know, it's the Android build is about to be launched this one tomorrow, if not next week, the latest. And what's that, what's the elevator pitch? The pitch for a space Village? Yes. Yeah, well yeah, that's simple. Its platform or Property Owners, you know, an event planners can connect because I've been looking for, you know, places to rent to host events and property. Do you know think of a new

Marketplace? Yeah. Because real estate, you know, it's not working anymore. So now that's fantastic. That's a great idea. So we will know, all the good places to host a singles meet up. It. Yeah, well, we'll get there. That's that, that sounds really. That sounds really cool. If your intention with it is to maybe one day, sell it, we might buy it. We're going to want to build something similar. So yes, I'm using, you know, Club advisor platform.

It's a really unique platform, word, censorship free. So this is the big Beauty, right? No data mining being sold to third parties. Not nothing like that. So cool, and congratulations. Good for him. I'm really happy for you. Yeah, whoo. Yeah, signing and he while you're while you're here and we have you any thing that you would like support with either personally professionally and also Is there anything that you've seen on you from unite or

us on social or email? But also on the platform itself that you were like, oh, this isn't working or this could be better, or I'd rather I want this Builder is just I'm just looking for General General feedback, right. I honestly have been very busy with, you know, like the app and everything, so I didn't really do a thorough check on over unite, but I'll definitely do that. But I think, in my opinion, And I think they're, it's offering a bit too much, so one can get lost.

So we can have it more focused. I think it would make it easier. That's the, you know, the, you know, the very, you know, surface level, you know, opinion until I dig deeper and give you a proper flutter, got it. Are you talking about the app or just unite social in general? I think you like, social in general. It's like it's doing so many things that gets confused, a lot going on. Exactly, okay, cool. Yeah, that's great feedback. Back. We're definitely thinking about

that. Yeah, awesome brother, lovely to connect with. You biting me this was great and looking forward, you know, to seeing how we can create the next event or co-organized next event. Yeah, we actually don't have a meet-up yet so if you want to Not or not, we don't know how to use it yet. So yeah, I would learn and create a United meet up here and look into that. But maybe we'll be using space villager pants instead, right? Because that's perfect.

Yeah, that's right, Android. Build, this is out there, I'll definitely reach out to you and see how we can utilize it. And have some kind of partnership or collaboration, you know, of unite and see how broken value to each other. That sounds great. Yay, hello ma'am. Really, really nice to connect here and Appreciate you and what you're doing in the world and we will connect soon. Yeah, have a good night. Tell me go.