¶ Introducing the Relationship Recharge
This is just the bonus episode today .
On the ultimate intimacy podcast .
With Nick and Amy .
Today's just a little bit different . We just wanted to share that tomorrow starts . Do you know what tomorrow is ?
The . What did you name it ?
It's Sexy September starting tomorrow .
How could I forget that ?
Sexy September yes .
I don't know how I forgot that .
Every married couple needs to know about Sexy September .
I love Sexy September .
Yes , so we wanted to share something with you that we created , we hand designed for you , just .
And when , amy , we want you to jump in with us . When Amy said we , she means me , you .
You mean me ? Yes , that's it when .
Amy says we , she means her .
I created for you , because I'm giving it to Nick , because I want to have Sexy September .
I won't turn you down .
And Sexy September is actually not just about Sexy September . It's about connecting emotionally , sexually , physically , spiritually , romantically , and it's going to be a challenge that we're throwing out that we're gonna take , and I've made it fun . It's not just another . Here's a calendar . Do these things on these days .
We're gonna explain it to you why we created it , what's entailed and why it's gonna be awesome .
Yeah .
Right , yep , I love it . No , I was just yeah , I was smiling and happy and so we're gonna call it Because we don't want it to just be September . Anyone that listens to this , whether it's months down the road , weeks later , you can start this challenge at any time .
So we're actually gonna call it the relationship recharge , and I like those wordings because sometimes we need a recharge , like we just need some resparks .
Right , yeah , your battery wears out . It doesn't mean that things are bad . You just need a recharge . You need to get going again .
That's marriage . You just need a little jump kick . So this is a 30-day marriage challenge . You can take longer , you can do it quicker . It's really like up to you how you want to do this , and I made it a Like you could do it a couple different ways to make it super fun .
So instead of just throwing out a calendar and being like this is what we're doing every day for the next 30 days , I created it a little bit different . I actually made it so that you can create your own challenges on the days that you want them .
So if , like , it's date night , friday nights and you're like this is a good night to be intimate , you can pick challenges that do that . Or up on Sundays or a good time to emotionally connect , you can throw that on a Sunday .
So the way this is going to work , you can either like cut these up so we made them into cute like almost coupons , so you could cut them up and put them in a bowl and just pick one randomly to make it fun for the challenge .
You could just print it off , or just even look at it on your phone and just go in order and then just cross them off as you do them , or you could like decide which days go where . So you can kind of do this a couple different ways , but they're really fun things .
Yeah , just totally fit whatever you're feeling like or whatever you're in the mood . You can kind of just pick whatever ones you want .
And the coupons are super cute . So there's going to be like a technology-free day , a sleep naked tonight . Lower spouse or low-desire spouse initiates . Tonight .
There's some fun date challenges , talking challenges , giving surprises kind of challenges , physical touch challenges , just all sorts of like different challenges , and there's extra ones so that if there's a few that you're just like I don't want to do that , or a couple wild choice card .
Yeah , there's quite a few .
There's a lot of options . So it's kind of like create your own challenge with just a ton of really fun , cute ideas . We're also providing a love notes and initiating cards . So for me it's really hard , and we get this a lot from husbands or wives that have like a lower-desire spouse . It's hard for us to initiate when it's not on our mind , right .
Like there's a lot of times like Nick wishes that I initiated more and I'm doing a lot better at it . But when it's not something on my mind or my body's not telling me that I wanna make love , it's hard to think about . Like that's not gonna come across my mind .
So there's some initiating challenges in this sexy September or relationship recharge challenge for the lower drive to initiate , which is awesome , because sometimes I just need to be reminded that I need to do that . So a fun part of this is that we have some little initiating cards . If you heard our jokes , we have a new way of initiating .
Nick will do something I'll be like is that your way of initiating ? And when I say that , he knows that I'm initiating right .
That's fun , yeah , exactly .
It's kind of our private joke now when we're initiating . So there's a couple like little coupons that are like a cute way to like hand it to your leave it somewhere for your spouse to know that you're initiating . I also have some printable coupons on there , like you make me happy because one of the challenges is to write your spouse a love note .
So there's a cute little love note or gratitude card that you can leave your spouse somewhere . So it comes with that it also . Some of the challenges are like try something new in the bedroom .
So we have made a chart a printable chart or that you can use on your phone of like different positions all in one place that you can like cross out when you try those .
Or and the fun thing about this is there's been a couple of positions aiming at like okay , we'll try this . I have no idea .
That doesn't look super great . It doesn't look like it's even gonna work .
I don't even know how it works , and we've tried them . We're like this is actually really good , really fun , yeah , and it's great for both of us .
So that's a great about . We're also , you know , tying the sexual intimacy into this challenge because it's really important for your marriage . But , like we always say , emotional connection it's gotta be the foundation , right .
So this challenge is to help you , you know , talk , communicate about things , but also bring back that romance and those sparks into marriage , like better date nights , planning date nights , holding hands more , just like those kind of things .
So it also comes with , like bucket list and some day ideas and some I don't know , just some fun and easier way to have these conversations and to connect deeper .
Like I'm really excited for this challenge because I think it'll be a little bit different and maybe , with some of the printables or slash charts that we're giving you , it could make it a little bit easier to discuss and plan out right .
Yeah , I think it'll be really fun .
I think that's gonna be a ton of fun and , like we always say , it's all about intentions . So , if you're interested in joining us with the Sexy September , this awesome challenge , romance connection that you want , we all want our marriage right . It's all about intentions .
So , just taking that first little step to be like let's commit to this together , let's let's make this month amazing . If both people like do that and they're like okay , I'm willing to dive all in and kind of change how the affections going in our marriage try a little harder with that non-sexual physical touch , more sexual touch , more awesome conversations .
I think this is huge .
Well , and even just the simple things mean so much to each other , like when you do the little simple things for me , you know , such as give me a coupon or something like that , that means the world to me and hopefully vice versa .
So even just something like this challenge , just , you know , writing a little love note or giving your spouse a coupon or different things like that can just really change the dynamics . I mean , it could be so meaningful to your spouse just to let them know that you're thinking about them .
¶ Preparing for Marriage Challenge
And I think it comes down to preparation too . When you put a challenge in front of you , like if you're doing like a diet , you get the recipes , you , you chart out what you're going to eat , right , You're ?
you chart out some discipline there and you're constantly doing things You're working towards something .
You're laying it out , You're , you're making a plan right . Absolutely I think the same thing has to come to our marriages .
We have to plan out , being more intentional and some and I hope that this challenge helps , because when something's laid in front of me and I'm organized and I'm like , okay , I need to do this , I need to try this , this is my goal today , this is our goal today . We're going to try harder at this .
When I lay it out and either put it on my calendar or have something reminding me , I feel like it becomes more of a a focus a focus , for sure . But also I think you get more . I don't know , you set goals but you start to accomplish them and actually they turn into habits . Right , they turn into habits .
I love it that you're exactly right . This helps turn things into more habits in the relationship to where , rather than having you have to get something to do , it . Hopefully it'll put things in motion to where you just start doing these things .
Yeah , so I think it's . If you're interested , I hope you'll jump on board with us for our September challenge , or just start it whenever you hear this or are interested , if you really want to jump start , recharge your marriage . I'm really looking forward to this .
Yeah , we'll put a link in the show notes and then you can also go to shopultimateintubacycom .
Look for either the sexy September challenge or after September . We're just going to call it the relationship recharge challenge , because it could be at any time . So we hope you'll jump on board with us . It's all laid out for you . We have simplified it , we've made it cute , we made it fun , we made it easy to access . I don't know .
I think it's going to be awesome .
I do too . I'm excited .