We talk about communication often, but there is a reason why. When couples contact us about issues they are dealing with in their relationship, or how they want to improve something, the first question we ask is "have to talked to your spouse?" Almost every response the answer is "well no, I haven't." It is amazing how many couples can't and don't communicate how they are feeling for fear of rejection or having it cause an argument. We believe almost every issue can be resolved with good communi...
Jun 27, 2023•28 min
Fear in marriage, and in life can have severe consequences. Fear can also keep us from progressing as it paralyzes us from taking risks that can better our marriage, future and life. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss how fear can impact your marriage, the different aspects that people fear, and the things couples can do to overcome their fear. Here are just a couple of the things couples (or spouses) fear in marriage that hold them back from having the life and marriage they dream of, that w...
Jun 23, 2023•29 min
Ok, we know we are Ultimate Intimacy and our niche is helping couples that have a good marriage that want to make it even better... so why are we talking about infidelity? How is this going to benefit a couple that has a good marriage and why would you want to listen to a podcast about why couples have affairs? Well the truth is even couples that have strong marriages can end up destroying their lives and everything good if they are not extremely careful, or if they don't put the precautions and...
Jun 20, 2023•36 min
We feel all of our podcast episodes are very important, but we wanted to list the top 10 episodes that we think can be the most influential for many couples. These are also the topics that we get the most feedback and/or downloads on, and also see that most couples struggle with or want areas of improvement. In this episode, Nick and Amy share the podcasts that they think can be the most influential for most couples and share the reasons why. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Int...
Jun 16, 2023•34 min
Why do so many couples fall "out" of love in marriage? We know the divorce rate is near 50% so chances are many couples that are listening to this podcast and feel they have a happy marriage could unfortunately end up in divorce. But that doesn't need to happen if you understand the reasons this happens and what you can do in your relationship to not let it happen to you. In this episode Nick and Amy talk with Grant and Stephanie with Forever With Purpose about the main reasons couples fall "out...
Jun 13, 2023•54 min
Do you ever feel like your conversations are always taking about the same things and they are never fun and exciting like when you were dating, or first got married? Do you want to have those fun and exciting conversations again like you had early on in your relationship? This is the episode that will change the way you have your conversations and bring back the excitement and fun into them! Nick and Amy share the secrets they use to have great conversations together both in and out of the bedro...
Jun 09, 2023•24 min
Welcome to the "Ultimate Intimacy Podcast" where we help couples find "Ultimate Intimacy" in their relationship. Join Nick and Amy, as they discuss the various ways you can express your love and gratitude for your husband, and make him feel special. Drawing from a combination of personal experiences, expert insights, and real-life stories, each tip presented in this episode is designed to foster a stronger emotional connection with your spouse. Whether you're a newlywed seeking to establish a st...
Jun 06, 2023•35 min
We get SO many messages from couples saying “when I try to talk to my spouse about sex, or other intimate things it always causes and argument” What can I do? In this episode Nick and Amy talk to Dr. Wyatt Fischer about how couples can learn to communicate about intimacy and other tough topics as well as tips on what couples can do to avoid conflict when having these conversations. Every couple on earth has conflict, but it is the couples that know how to resolve the conflict quickly and move on...
Jun 02, 2023•32 min
Husbands, do you want to know the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and appreciated? In this funny and light hearted episode Nick and Amy discuss the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and Amy lets Nick know if he is even close or we have to re do this episode and list 10 other things. Find out what Amy thinks and if these 10 things can help make your wife feel loved and special. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to ...
May 30, 2023•27 min
What is emotional infidelity? Emotional infidelity refers to a situation where one spouse becomes emotionally involved with someone or something outside of the relationship in a way that undermines the intimacy, trust, and commitment of the marriage. This can involve sharing intimate details, thoughts, and feelings with someone other than one's spouse, seeking emotional support or validation from someone outside the relationship, or engaging in flirtatious or romantic behavior that undermines th...
May 26, 2023•35 min
We don't get to travel as much as we would like to, but the past couples of years we have had the opportunity to travel to a couple pretty amazing places that exceeded our expectations, and were very affordable compared to other options. Amazing food, accommodations and fun things to do you will never experience anywhere else! In this episode, Nick and Amy share a couple amazing places you can visit together as a couple for pretty inexpensive. They also share some things you can do to find even ...
May 23, 2023•25 min
Getting along with your in-laws is an essential part of building a healthy and happy marriage. When things aren't going well with the in-laws, it works it's way into you marriage and can cause serious issues between a couple. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss things you can do to get along better with your in laws, which will in turn help you have a better relationship with your spouse and in your marriage. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or a...
May 19, 2023•22 min
We have been watching a really fun show called "Bahama's Life." The show is about couples looking for their dream property or retirement home in the Bahamas, and they look at several different properties and then decide which one is for them. The fun thing to see is how so many couples talk about how they are accomplishing their dream that they have worked together for so long for. A lot of them say that they put a picture of the house they wanted, or the property or lifestyle somewhere they cou...
May 16, 2023•28 min
We have been working on the Emotional Intimacy Workbook for about 6 months and finally got it completed! This workbook covers so many topics that can help couples connect on a much deeper level, and also break down barriers that are keeping them from discovering Ultimate Intimacy in their relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the different topics in the workbook and how the workbook can help your marriage! If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app ...
May 12, 2023•19 min
We all know marriage can be hard at times, but have you ever considered what makes it hard through those times? Sure, we can have financial difficulties, health issues, and many other things that can cause significant impacts on our marriage, but at the end of the day, we get to determine how we react. Just because life can really kick our butts sometimes doesn't mean that marriage is hard. It is life that is hard that often causes significant issues the bleed into our marriages. In this episode...
May 09, 2023•34 min
You hear us talk about "Ultimate Intimacy" all the time! We even branded our company that. But what exactly is ultimate intimacy, and how can you obtain it in your relationship? In this episode Nick and Amy dive into what Ultimate Intimacy means and how couples can find it in their relationship. And yes, it is possible for couples to obtain it! If you are in a marriage where there is a high desire and low desire spouse and it's hard to find the balance, then this episode is for you. If you haven...
May 05, 2023•32 min
Social Media is destroying peoples marriages, and on average, it can be more addictive to women than to men. Although porn and social media are quite different, they both are very addictive and can cause a lot of the same consequences. Many people believe social media is the porn for women. In this episode, Nick and Amy pose the question "is social media the porn for women" and discuss statistics as to how it impacts women, they share poll answers from the audience to find out what all of you fe...
May 02, 2023•32 min
So often in marriage it is the higher desire spouse that is ALWAYS initiating sex with the lower desire spouse. However, it is so important for the lower desire spouse to also initiate sex in the marriage to show their spouse how much they love and care about them. In this episode, Amy (and Nick) share 12 fun ways the lower desire spouse can initiate sex with the higher desires spouse. Nick shares the reasons sexual intimacy (and the lower desires spouse initiating) is so important. Nick and Amy...
Apr 28, 2023•31 min
We were sitting in the marriage retreat talking about sexual and emotional needs in marriage and a husband asked, "How do I emotionally connect with my wife? What does that even mean?" We all looked at the wife to hear her answer and she says "I don't know!" Which is actually a typical answer. A lot of husbands want help in this area, and many women don't even know what they need! What is emotional intimacy and how do we do better at connecting in this way if it is so important to a marriage? In...
Apr 25, 2023•36 min
In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the typical stereotypes of men and women when it comes to sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy differences. We know that not all couples fall into the typical stereotypes, but we feel that yes, we are created completely different, but at the same time we are so much more alike than we sometimes think we are. Both husbands and wives want to feel emotionally connected, spiritually connected, and sexually connected to each other, we are just different in t...
Apr 21, 2023•32 min
We just finished the Intimacy And Adventure Retreat we hosted with Married For A Purpose and had an incredible experience that was life changing for the couples (including us) that attended the retreat. In this podcast episode, Nick and Amy share their thoughts and takeaways from the retreat and the ways it helped so many marriages.. including ours. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your mar...
Apr 18, 2023•30 min
There have been many polls done on this subject and it is interesting that for most men, they value being respected more than they value being loved . This shows how important respect is in marriage and that marriages can't survive (or flourish) without it. However, there are often times in marriage where the respect fluctuates and can be lost, based upon certain things that happen. In this podcast episode, we discuss how important respect is in marriage (for both spouses), and the ways, and thi...
Apr 14, 2023•33 min
The other day we were laying in bed (after making love) and talking and laughing at all the ways women can loose focus when making love. Amy was joking that she was close! Then lost it. Then close again... then lost it and stating all the reasons why. Her leg fell asleep, she heard a dog barking outside. She had congestion from allergies. It's funny how a nuclear war could be going on outside and it wouldn't affect the husband, but how every little thing can often impact a woman. We thought this...
Apr 11, 2023•33 min
Couples that have happy and successful marriages do a very good job at managing their time and priorities in their relationship. They prioritize the important things and put the less important things last on the list. This is the opposite of what most couples do! Most couples fill their time with everything else and put their relationship last. Maybe they don't do this intentionally, but it happens. They fill their day with all the other things and then are too tired to connect physically or emo...
Apr 07, 2023•35 min
So many couples keep score in their marriage trying to keep things fair, or following the 50/50 marriage model, and wonder why it only makes things worse. When you keep score, you then become competitors where there is ALWAYS a winner and a looser, instead of working together as a team. You try to keep things equal, but it is impossible to do so. This causes resentment, imbalance and will kill your intimacy as a couple. In this podcast episode Nick and Amy share their experiences of earlier in t...
Apr 04, 2023•22 min
A transaction is an exchange of goods or services, and something that is typically a win win for both parties involved. For example, we buy groceries and our family gets the food we need to survive, and the store gets our money. A home buyer buys a house and the seller makes money (or gets rid of the house). In our jobs, we trade our time and skills in exchange for money! Just about everything we do in life is a transaction in some way or another, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that....
Mar 31, 2023•34 min
Being a parent is amazing and so rewarding, and no parents would trade it for anything. But unfortunately for many couples, their marriages and intimacy often take a back seat to the kids, and because of that, the marriage suffers. Couples justify this and say "we will focus on our marriage once the kids are gone." Your relationship isn't something you can just turn on and off like a light switch. Marriage takes a ton of effort and it is something you have to work on constantly, and it is never ...
Mar 28, 2023•39 min
Are there one or two very little things impacting so many other areas of your marriage in a negative way? What if you were just a couple little things away from having a wonderful relationship? In this podcast episode Nick and Amy talk about how for many marriages, there are probably just one or two little things that could be causing a ripple effect to take place causing other issues in your marriage that wouldn't normally be there. For example, if you are having disagreements over finances, th...
Mar 24, 2023•30 min
As there are so MANY distractions in life, stresses and other things that cause low libido or "lack of drive" with sexual intimacy, there are ALOT of couples that struggle with their sexual wellness/sexual desire. This lack of sexual desire often has very negative impacts on marriages, especially when you have a high desire spouse and a low desire spouse, and we hear this from both men and women. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk with Dr. Shawn Talbot who is the inventor of a new sexual wellnes...
Mar 21, 2023•27 min
In a previous episode with Alex Boye, he talked about the power of our words and the impact it can have on not only to ourselves, but to our spouse (and others). There are villages in Africa that take this so seriously, they will kick you out of the village if you are too negative as they believe the words can poison the whole village. In this episode Nick and Amy tackle the hard topic of verbal abuse. When most people hear the word "abuse" they think of horrible things being said. But let's be ...
Mar 17, 2023•39 min
