“Just because one person’s problem is less traumatic than another’s doesn’t mean they’re required to hurt less.” J.A. Redmerski This is the 40th episode. I am 40 years old. I have lost 40 pounds. So that’s 40-40-40. How's that for timing! There are two issues I address in this episode. First, there are seasons to life. There are the dark times and the good times. There is a time to celebrate, and a time to buckle down and deal with the issue at hand. Second, during the dark times, be careful not...
Sep 11, 2018•18 min•Ep. 40
Here's a webinar I did some time ago. You will discover... 1.Why do controlling parents...well...control 2. 11 ways they control and how to counter it 3. Your best defense against them support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jul 31, 2018•27 min•Ep. 39
Narcissists are emotional parasites. They don’t care about the people in their lives. They just care about getting their emotional“fix.” They want you dependent and broken. Whether a romantic relationship, platonic relationship, or even a work relationship, getting involved with a narcissist is a miserable experience. So, today we cover the signs to watch out for. Subscribe, Rate, and Review. I would be most grateful. support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jul 10, 2018•19 min•Ep. 38
Are you in a working environment where people would throw you under the bus without the slightest hesitation? Does getting ahead mean selling their souls and backstabbing you? One listener demands to know why. In desperate times, people tend to do desperate things. When you look beyond all the posturing, you will see the fear that’s driving toxic work conditions. Subscribe, Rate, and Review. I would be most grateful. support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jun 12, 2018•9 min•Ep. 37
Here’s another listener question. The person states, “How to deal with toxic environments where you, the victim, are turned/labelled the negative or toxic person. Especially when you know you aren’t.” There are three powerful methods to deal with this situation. Don’t be deceived by how simple they are. Send your questions to support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
May 29, 2018•17 min•Ep. 36
How old must you be before you can live your own life in their eyes? Today, we explore some reasons why controlling parents are the way they are and how to deal with them. Click on the link to sign up for the Controlling Parents Webinar. https://www.toxicpeopledetox.com/p/Controlling-People-Webinar
May 22, 2018•13 min•Ep. 35
Have you ever tried to be nice to toxic people? People are often surprised to hear me say that I am not a nice person. Of all the virtues in the English language, being nice would be at the very bottom of my list. When it comes to being a nice person, I will explain whether or not it works and what to do instead. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! I would be most grateful support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
May 15, 2018•13 min•Ep. 34
Getting over a grudge is a process. I would love to say “do these 3 things and the grudge will be gone” but that’s not necessarily true. It’s not about letting go of it. It’s about it letting go of you. The mind can go to some dark places. In this episode, we discuss how to deal with these negative thoughts. support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
May 08, 2018•12 min•Ep. 33
It’s frustrating when someone sabotages your efforts. It’s even more hurtful when that someone is a family member you love. Why do they do that? How do you handle it? Let’s shine some light on the subject today. Rate and review, I would be most grateful.
Apr 17, 2018•11 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Are you speeding down a dead-end road? Are you throwing good money after bad? Are you on a ship to nowhere? I was there too. What happens when we don’t want to abandon a path after we put resources and time into it? Should you call it quits and move on with your life? In this episode, we give you some questions to consider before making a big decision. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! I would be most grateful.
Mar 13, 2018•11 min•Ep. 31
Just a heads up, I will be updating on Mondays only for the next two-three months. I am recording episodes in bulk and will return to a multi-day update in the future. Until then, here are 3 gold nuggets you can use to help you get over the fear of looking stupid. Enjoy! Subscribe, rate, and review! I would be most grateful.
Feb 27, 2018•11 min•Ep. 30
Are you doing your best to be an awesome human being and toxic people think that you’re being selfish? Well, we all have selfish tendencies, but we also have our virtues. A listener wants to know why toxic people feel the need to call other people selfish when they themselves are obviously being selfish. Today, I talk about a simple, yet powerful observation to help you but this into perspective. Subscribe, Rate, and Review; I would be most grateful! Support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Feb 07, 2018•11 min•Ep. 29
Read Full Transcript How did I gain 100 lbs.? Simple. I wouldn’t admit it to myself at the time but emotional overeating not only led to weight gain but to Type II diabetes. It was a mess. At the time of this episode, I lost 25 lbs. so I still have 75 more to go. In terms of technology, we have it good these days. I can log on to a language website and have a conversation with a Spanish instructor from Ecuador. I can connect to past classmates on Facebook. I can walk into a Sam’s Club and walk o...
Jan 31, 2018•12 min•Ep. 28
We have another response to an email from a listener. If you are a freelancer, contractor, etc., what happens when clients or customers want to come back to complain after services have been rendered? What happens when they come back weeks, months, or even years after the fact to complain about your good work? support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jan 29, 2018•9 min•Ep. 27
When you rearrange your life to appease/accommodate people, especially toxic people, don’t be surprised if those same people who you tried to accommodate won’t be with you when it counts. If they are, it’s more of a backseat driver type of thing. People are quick to dictate the terms of your life, but they very rarely take action. Let’s take a look at how to deal with these types. Questions? Comments? Email us at support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jan 17, 2018•8 min•Ep. 26
In today’s landmark 25th episode, I am summarizing the previous 24 episodes in to 6 key points. These points represent the ideal mindset for dealing with toxic people.
Jan 15, 2018•11 min•Ep. 25
Key Points 1. The problem of having expectations that are too high or too low 2. How to find that middle ground
Jan 10, 2018•12 min•Ep. 24
Key Points 1. Why we tend to fall into the trap of living some else’s life 2. Three powerful things you can do to break that habit 3. A lesson from our often toxic higher educational system Thank you for your comments, reviews, emails. Email questions and suggestions to - support@TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Jan 04, 2018•15 min•Ep. 23
This is a short one as I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year! For this month we are going to focus on crafting your Toxic People Detox game plan. Subscribe to stay in the loop.
Jan 01, 2018•3 min
Don’t let people run you over! In the last episode, I talked about 7 reasons why toxic people are attracted to you. The main factor that govern the rest is that you are afraid of conflict. The problem with some people is that they don’t want to come off as arrogant, pushy, selfish, a jerk, etc. A pushy or selfish person is one who cares only about their own needs and makes no effort to accommodate anybody else. They tend to expect others to drop everything because they assume that their time is ...
Dec 28, 2017•14 min•Ep. 22
There are toxic personality types that make a point of seeking out people upon whom to unload their bad behavior and manipulation. A drama queen, for example, is far more likely to seek out a person who is highly reactive than one who isn’t. They want drama and a centered person is not going to give it to them easily. So, they go for the easy targets. Key Points 1. To understand how toxic people choose their targets 2. To look at yourself and identify behaviors or attitudes that might be making ...
Dec 20, 2017•16 min•Ep. 20
Of all the vices I’ve mentioned so far, self-righteousness has the potential to be the most polarizing! A self-righteous person will oftentimes defend his or her actions as well-meaning. On the surface, nothing is wrong. The problem is the intention. Self-righteous people can actually make very good points. They’re not always wrong. However, they measure themselves by other people’s abilities to keep some preconceived rules. They may seem helpful, but they are tearing you down by constantly poin...
Dec 18, 2017•11 min•Ep. 19
I have five simple but powerful writing prompts for you all today. The most powerful reason to write is to get out of our own heads. Have you ever heard someone say, or you might have said it yourself, that sounded better in my head? That’s because our minds can play tricks on us. It reminds me of that quote from T.S. Eliot’s “Between the idea and the reality, between the motion and the acts, falls the shadow.” Key Points 1. Writing helps to bridge the connection between out reality and our fant...
Dec 13, 2017•10 min•Ep. 18
Moving on can sometimes be as difficult as dealing with a toxic situation. We can be left with the emotional fallout and left carrying emotional baggage. So how does one move on? How do you deal with the anger at a person or situation? Key Points 1. Dealing with Anger 2. Severing ties 3. Confronting the negative emotions
Dec 11, 2017•18 min•Ep. 17
We have an identity crisis in the US. We don’t let people express who they truly are and they in turn don’t allow us to express ourselves. So, they lose their sense of identity. People can then become disconnected from themselves and from those around them. It was a painful experience, but losing my sense of identity left me open to con artists and other people who took advantage of that vulnerability. It is a slow process, but you can gain confidence in who you are and not be overly dependent o...
Dec 06, 2017•14 min•Ep. 16
Finding yourself is determining who you are without external labels. When it comes to self-discovery, ask yourself, “Who are you?” Most people probably have trouble answering that question. We live in a society where a good number of people have lost their sense of self. That’s why you see books, podcasts, and programs about how to find your authentic self. We tell people to look within. We know that means self-reflection or introspection, but what are you supposed to be looking for exactly? Wha...
Dec 04, 2017
Caring about what people think about you can actually be a symptom of another problem. The problem is a lack of self-esteem or self-confidence. There is a direct correlation between our confidence and our anxiety of what others think. That confidence, in turn, is related to our understanding of ourselves. In this episode I will address 4 key points: 1. If anything where to happen to you today, would all those random people you’re so worried about be there for you? 2. Watch out for people who put...
Nov 29, 2017•12 min•Ep. 14
This skill is not only the most important skill in dealing with toxic people, but in dealing with life in general. It’s something that’s missing in our society particularly from the millennial generation. The best way to deal with toxic people is to focusing on creating an amazing life for yourself. It’ vague, but that’s because an amazing life means different things to different people. Read Full Transcript Episode 13 – The Most Important Skill For Dealing with Toxic People Practicing Detachmen...
Nov 27, 2017•14 min•Ep. 13
Drama Queens and Kings cannot resist the opportunity to create conflict, and dealing with their manufactured conflict can be an especially big challenge. Even people who have excellent self-control can lose it when confronted with this kind of emotional manipulation. You can count on the Drama King or Queen to know how to push people’s buttons to get the result they want. Key Bits [1:35] Why drama queens and kings are the way they are [2:01] Recognizing a drama queen or king [5:26] How to stop t...
Nov 22, 2017•9 min•Ep. 12
In this episode I cover 6 common types of toxic bosses and how to deal with them. Hate playing office politics? So do I. Think of it less playing office politics and more about protecting yourself. Key Points [1:26] Two important questions to ask yourself [2:09] Your best defense against a toxic boss. [3:30] The Six Types of Toxic Bosses Want More? Visit www.TheToxicPeopleDetox.com
Nov 20, 2017•17 min•Ep. 11
