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Wayne | S1 Ep2 Part3 "No Priests"

Oct 17, 20233 hr 36 minSeason 4Ep. 4
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Ted Lasso Talk

Speaker 1

Welcome to our Ted Lasso talk , the Tedcast . Welcome all Greyhound fans , welcome all you sinners from the dog track and all the AFC Richmond fans around the world . It's the Lasso way around these parts with Coach , coach and Boss . Without further ado Coach Castleton .

Speaker 3

Okay , welcome back everyone . Today we're discussing Wayne . This is Wayne season one . There's only one season of Wayne . This is episode two , and this is part three of our coverage of episode two . No , priests , I am your host , coach Castleton , with me . As always , it's Coach Bishop .

Speaker 1

Mike , I offer you some stolen cookies for sale .

Speaker 3

And of course also with us is our boss Emily Chambers .

Speaker 2

Now , when you say offer some stolen cookies for sale , I just want to confirm what you mean by that is you lifted some cookies and now you are planning to make a profit off of them . I'm not saying it's a bad business plan . I think I could get behind that . I just want to make sure that that was what you were going for 100% , it's pretty much America .

Speaker 1

but just out of , the backpack .

Speaker 2

Just like super a very little overhead because you're not paying for any of the things that you're making money on .

Speaker 1

Yep .

Speaker 2

That's , this is the profit model there we go .

Speaker 3

Yeah , it makes you wonder . This felt like a good idea to Dell , but it's almost like if you're going to do the steal , steal something that maybe it's like the low , maybe she just has access to it and doesn't have to be stolen you know what I mean .

Maybe there's some program where she can get them and she's like , all right , I can make money off these and I don't know . It's interesting , she's running for mayor .

Speaker 1

She does seem to do what is opportune , like it doesn't seem like she's like planning heists or anything . I mean , it's sort of like , just like nobody's looking , boom , it's mine now .

Speaker 3

I want to . Before we start , I want to read a quick something from one of our wonderful butter cups . This is from Buttercup Megan . She says hi , coach , I went ahead and finished , wayne , because it's both bingeable and so binge worthy .

I plan to watch the entire series again and very much look forward to your continued deep dives and the conversations they create . I particularly cannot wait to hear everyone's take on episode five , my favorite in the most heart wrenching . Can I please just adopt this girl , kind of way ? Thank you , megan , that's so awesome .

This is what is really what I hoped people would feel about this show . It is , you know , it's not the same thing as Ted Lasso , but this , especially as we start this part of it , there's a whole second chance subplot that really feels Ted Lasso ish . And so , anyway , I wanted to explore that a little bit .

When we left off last time we were with Tracy and Dell , after their little dust up , tracy had enough of Dell's mouth , and then this is like the at the end of this there was . They just were sort of having a moment where Tracy was just sort of confessing like hey , listen , like here's some words of advice , unsolicited .

But you know , dell , dell says does a thing where she says listen , stay out of my business . You know she's like hey , your boyfriend doesn't like coffee and I gave it to him . It was like he pissed she's the term piss , which I like .

That is , it is appropriate language for her background and Dell's response to stay out of my business because from her dad she knows , you know , push away , push away , push away , don't let anyone too close . She doesn't have a mom . So it's an interesting dynamic .

And then , while we fired the , the old recording machine up today , coach said something I thought was really interesting , and we were . I was just going to blow past this scene and just start into the next part . But , coach , what did you say about this scene ?

Speaker 1

Well , this dynamic , this dynamic between Dell and this waitress , they just I just can't get enough of it . It's , it's , it's .

It's honestly probably been my favorite part to to of the show , to this spot , and I obviously there's some great stuff about Wayne and there's a lot of stuff to to , to celebrate and dig into , but I don't know that I've seen this mentor relationship before .

Not only that we don't see as much of this in terms of women , I think , but also that I that I don't . If we've seen it right , it's the princess diaries , right , it's not like , right , it's not . You know folks who we tend to look past and what lessons do they have to share and what guidance may they , you know , miss out on as they're coming ?

I don't know . There's something I'm finding myself very curious and like I could learn a lot myself , not just what Dell's going to learn , but what am , what am I going to learn when these two get to interact ?

Speaker 2

Yes , I agree with you on all that . I really like their relationship at this stage . Not that I disliked what they were doing before , but there's more to like now . I think sort of to talk about their first interaction where Dell ordered coffee and Tracy said aren't you a little bit young ?

And then Dell got pissed the heart wants what the heart wants and thank you , Tracy . I think the biggest difference between that stage yeah , the difference for me between that interaction and this interaction is that Tracy is actually finally being honest about what she expects by telling Dell aren't you a little bit young to have coffee Like ?

There is a small part of this , that Tracy is acting out what she wishes somebody had told her when she was just age . That's right and I can appreciate that , but Dell was not fucking interested .

When Tracy brought that the first time , like once Tracy became honest and clear about why she was saying what she was saying , dell was able to hear her , which I think is like Castleton I know that you did not like the way that Dell responded to Tracy , and Bishop and I were both just like oh no , no , no , that's fine , and I think it was this element .

I think it was this fact that it seemed like Tracy was not interested in Dell . Tracy was interested in Tracy and once Tracy made more clear what her shoe is coming from , dell could hear what she was saying . And so I like that in order for the advice , the mentorship , whatever it is to work .

To click for them is when Tracy is like I don't actually know that fucking much , I'm sort of a mess , but here is what I wished I hadn't done , if I could have changed things . So I also really like this and I also like how it mirrors sort of the earlier interaction and how they've changed .

Speaker 3

Yeah , no , it's really interesting . You get the sense that it lands with Dell right at the end , when she's like don't blow it up before there's a chance to maybe be something good . I love that there's a maybe in there , because her life is full of maybes and she would never say absolutes . Because look at her , look at her face .

In this scene she's just , she's just worn , worn out . But my , my sense of it's funny when people tried to give me advice . This may be just me , but when you're young you don't have the worldview , you don't have the experience , you only see through a very specific lens .

And if someone would tell me like , hey , you know , I fucked up and I did this , I'd be like I'm not gonna do that , you're like , I'm like whatever like I'm not gonna . You know , I mean it wouldn't almost , it almost never landed on me .

And now I look back on those moments I'm like God , I wish I was more receptive to those things Because you know it was people trying to help and you know , being honest , instead of saying , oh , you know the world's gonna , you'll just take the world by storm and you know everything's gonna go your way .

But I remember I remember being like Dell in situations not necessarily like this , with a 40 something year old waitress with regrets , but I thought it was interesting and the dynamic . Dynamic is , you know it's different between them than you tend to see on , like your average , like network TV show , obviously .

So I don't love network TV coach , not my fave , I get it Okay . So as the scene moves on , we get . Now we go into a scene where we have the Lucheti's showing up at the . It is like an ice cream social kind of thing . It's like it's like police day at . You know , we're at the Brockton .

It's Brockton Community Police day , police , community Day at the ice cream stand . Boss , walk us through what happens in this scene .

Speaker 2

As they're walking up one of the twins . I'm sorry . I have cousins who are twins and I still can't tell them apart , and they're 35 years old . I've known them for a long time . One time another of our cousins told me that one of them looks like a mouse and the other one looks like a bear , and I'm like I don't .

Number one know what that means and number two don't know which one looks like a mouse or which one looks like a bear .

Speaker 3

So that's , completely unhelpful to me .

Speaker 2

Anyway , sorry , tommy and Simon , apologies . One of the twins says I'm getting ice cream and body . The father says you ain't getting shit . He says but dad , it's my own money . He said you order ice cream . I'm gonna bear you in this fucking parking lot that money is for scratchers . Before they even talk to the cops .

This is the interaction I'm gonna bear you in this fucking parking lot .

Speaker 1

I wouldn't expect him .

Speaker 2

Yeah , like that's some dedication .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah , but I wouldn't have expected Bobby to be so familiar with Dr Spock , so that was shocking that he's just like , wow , like , oh , the berry in the parking lot . Yeah , absolutely yeah . Part of what I'm enjoying about the show generally and these interactions bring it out is that it is both dark and almost farcically funny .

Like what , like , if you that's for scratches , like I'm like what is going on with these people ? This is insane .

Speaker 3

So yeah , but it's not that far from the truth , though I hate to say .

Speaker 2

So this way of talking .

Speaker 3

Yeah , I don't know , this is pretty common . You order ice cream and a barrier in this fucking parking lot , like that is . The latent violence in every single interaction is very common , very common . This is I don't know what other .

I've always talked about how people from New England are harder than everybody else , and I've traveled all over the world and I've never I've just never seen anything like it where it's just like this amount of just tension and misery and the gray . So much of the year is gray and cold and uncomfortable , and the people are gray and cold and uncomfortable .

And you know , I mean just , it's just this , it's this dynamic . Right , you order , you order an ice cream on a barrier . Okay , look it , you walk in , carl , it's Carl and Teddy of the twins crosses I'm getting ice cream , which is what a kid would say when he goes to nice . Right , you ain't getting shit . That's so there is . No , it's not like .

Hey , let's build a bridge of communication . Let's , let's , let's , let's do we workshop this idea . You know , like , like , like , it's like . The craziest thing Bobby Luchetti's ever heard is that his son is wants to get ice cream and ice cream place . He's like but dad , it's my own money .

You order any ice cream and I'm going to bury you in this fucking parking lot . That's what he says , this fucking pack . And then we say , all right , what is the reason ? What is the ? What is the important thing ? That ?

The financial lesson , that that Bobby Luchetti is trying to teach his boys about their money it's my own money and the and the and the lesson is that that money is for scratches , scratchers , that's scratch tickets , in case people don't know , like is for lottery tickets for the mass state lottery to scratch off .

Speaker 1

Oh , it's amazing , but the authority with which he says it like it's almost like . No , we're going to put that in an annuity . Like it's like yeah , it's scratchers .

Speaker 3

Yeah , that's it . That's not Microsoft stock , but it might as well be in his mind . And then , on top of it , we've spent a lot of time talking about cultural dynamics and racial dynamics and , how you know , in Ted Lasso we talk all the time about how different groups of people are treated .

Coach , how often in your community does someone walk up to like I was thinking about specifically flatbush , the flatbush you grew up in right walk up to a walk up to a group of police officers on their free time and say , hey , you find my fucking daughter , or what .

And then have a teenager who , with a like barely double digit IQ , say where's that sister cop ?

Speaker 1

Not not too often I'm trying to remember that would be carry the one never yeah , never , right yeah .

Speaker 3

Yeah , yeah , I'm like even I'm blown away

Parental Control and Family Dynamics

. But the thing is it's a community and so , like there is the knowledge , like when Jay was like , oh you know , bobby Luchetti is the horse , is that like they all kind of know each other and you know . So there's this dynamic , right ? So where's sister cop ? You know what , Dad , I'm gonna get ice cream . Shut the fuck up .

It's what is what Dean Winters says go be somewhere else . Now which boss ? I would say it's a nice way to treat your kids . I mean , it's nice , it's you know , it's nice respectful , it's . You're building your .

What I'm saying is you're building like a dynamic where they're going to be like first of all , good to their own children and then and then also they're going to respect you as a person , outside of the fact that you have sort of a like autonomous control over their entire existence . You know . So , I meant autocratic .

I said autonomous , I meant autocratic control over their entire existence , although and they'll respect you outside of that , I'm sure yeah .

Speaker 2

I mean the idea of you having complete control over your children's bodies because they belong to you , obviously like yeah , I have spoken myself about how easy it was for me to once I came to the conclusion oh , I don't have to have kids like you , just don't . You just don't have them Like , instead of doing it , you don't .

And it's even easier because having the kids is more work .

I wish a lot more people would consider if they actually wanted to have kids and if they do want to have kids , if they want to have them because they want to build people who will one day be good for society and nice to other people , or if they just want to have a mini person that they could boss around , that they could feel like they own .

Obviously , the second one is the proper choice for becoming a parent .

Speaker 1

If you don't want obviously free labor , yeah .

Speaker 2

Yeah , yeah , no , it like I do understand why it happens . Everything about this makes perfect sense to me , but also it's one of the worst things that people do .

Speaker 3

Yeah , and this is I say it's common . It's not like every family in New Orleans like this , but like in this type of environment . I mean , brockton is a perfect blue collar town for it , but you know , I know I grew up in a blue collar town . I still live in the place where you'll see this . You'll see like a version of this .

It's not as like open and in your face as this , but you'll see the looks and you'll see . You'll just see it . When he says , go be somewhere else now to his teenage boys who are like basically as big as he is , what kind of protest do they put up ? What do they say ?

Like okay , I'm being , I'm trying to lead you to an answer , but what I'm suggesting is they say nothing and walk away immediately , because do they have any doubt that their father will punch them in the face in front of 30 cops ?

Speaker 1

Zero , zero , and it seems that they're pretty confident that these particular cops would do absolutely zero about said punch in the face .

Speaker 3

That is probably true . That's interesting . So you think about like law enforcement as a deterrent right , as a threat of deter , like , oh , if there's people slow down , if they see a speed trap .

But there are some members of society who are not phased by that at all and in you know , conversely , they would be like , yeah , I punched my kids right in front of the , went to the community police day and I let those little bastards know who the boss was , and the cops didn't say jack shit about it .

Speaker 1

Right .

Speaker 3

Right , it's a whole different world . Okay , please have a seat . He says to , or Sergeant Geller says to Bobby he slides a Manila envelope across the table . And what does Sergeant Geller say , boss ?

Speaker 2

I have some friends who could get information for me very quickly , and let's just say I have some good news .

Speaker 3

Okay , right , oh yeah , it's about fucking time . And he opens it up and he says what the fuck is this shit to which ? And what does he say , boss ? What does Geller say back to Bobby Then ?

Speaker 2

I don't have cancer .

Speaker 3

I don't have cancer .

Speaker 2

I don't know , Obviously that's what that's what Bobby was concerned about . This is why he came down to the ice cream social to find the police officer to double check if he has cancer .

Speaker 3

Yeah , what ? And he goes , what'd you just say ? And he stands up . He stands up , he's like you playing me for a fucking fool and what does ? I can't . I can see if it was Teddy or Carl , but what ? What does one of the boys say when Bobby stands up , fuck him up , daddy . Fuck him up , daddy Is what ? Because they don't have anything else .

That's all they know . It's either nothing or violence . There's nothing in between . Even if it's a cop , they don't seem to recognize that . You don't go fuck up Like like law enforcement officer , and that would not be within the bounds of the law . To quote unquote fuck him up .

Speaker 1

I ended with daddy that way Right , like , yeah , you're once this like absolute tough guy , but also a seven year old like what ?

Speaker 3

is happening . Yes , yes , that's so good . They do this in clue or they were

Discussion on Language and Characterization

not . Press or poem Colonel Mustard says I got it from my mommy and my daddy . Like a grown man saying mommy and daddy , it is so , it's the words . You get your money . I inherited it from my mommy and my daddy . Like you're in your 50 .

Speaker 2

Yeah , I mean , admittedly , my fathers are dead and I call my mother Kathy , but there is something to me about when grown people refer to their parents as mommy or daddy that I'm like , like , like man , this is going to sound extremely cruel of me , but I need you to follow me for a second . A woman I worked with , I believe at the time .

She was close to retirement , so we're talking 63 , 64 , like she , she was actively planning her retirement when her mother passed away , and I don't want to make light of that , regardless of the age . Losing a parent is extremely difficult and I completely understand that .

But she then started telling people at work that oh , and now I'm an orphan and there's a part of me that was like I don't , I don't know if you qualify as an orphan , like I feel like that is maybe reserved for something else . I understand where you're coming from . But you yourself are a little literal , grandmother . You can't be an orphan Like there's .

There's got to be some sort of distinction .

Speaker 3

Is there , is that part of the definition that it's a child , I think . I think I feel like it should be feel like it should be Maybe she's a huge . Pirates of Penzance fan and she was always wanted to be an orphan so she could then relate to the , you know the major general in the in the Pirates . That should we go with that ?

Speaker 2

I mean that's the it is kind of good theory that the orphan pull that you go for , because Annie is right there .

Speaker 3

No , no , no , Annie's right there , yeah , yeah .

Speaker 2

No , I prefer .

Speaker 3

Pirates of Penzance . Obviously that makes sense , yeah , okay . So he says no , this is this is . You know , sergeant Geller is like he's a cool customer and he's got a vibe about him that they're just , they're sort of instructing us . First , when we met him , we're like he's a fuck up . He left his service weapon on the counter .

The dumb idiots are playing with it , dropped the clip out of it . You know he's , I will get , I'll find your dog , you know . Like up till this point we're like is this guy like a ? What is what is going on ? We found him . We met him with his hand in his pants , which is not it . The optics are not great for character intro .

You know , you just go . You know what I mean . You just go . What is going on with this guy ? But he's more calm . He says sit down and he says please , which is smart , which I really liked that he said please , because a guy like Bobby Luchetti wants he , he's such , it's almost .

It's not alpha , it's like past alpha , like he can't function unless , like he thinks like oh , you fucking respect me and that's the word we got to like .

Speaker 1

that's the right guy . It's got to show him his respect .

Speaker 3

That's it . That's it . So he says what I'm trying to tell you is that now that I beat this thing , I'm ready and committed to finding your daughter and defining this . And he looks around and he says this son of a bitch , that's bastard boy . I'm like is he is ? Did he choose ? What is this ? Why does he choose that language ?

Because he's looking around when he says it . What is the choice there ? Is it ? Is it him trying to get Bobby to ? You know , like , think , like he's one of them ? Yeah , I think it's .

Speaker 1

I'm on your , I'm on your side .

Speaker 3

We're together on this ?

Speaker 1

Yeah , I think because other , because it was such a bizarre like what ? And then this bastard boy like are you going to ?

Speaker 3

curse , yeah , yeah , I think it's really funny , good boss .

Speaker 2

Although I did know a kid at friends younger sibling who didn't swear all through high school .

And then I want to say maybe he was about to like turn 18 or start a senior year and my friend didn't catch him but like walk past his bedroom and he was sitting there on his bed very quietly going fuck , fuck , shit , hell , just like trying to practice the words to get more used to him so that he'd be able to sneak them into conversations as if he had

been swearing his whole life . So maybe this is one of those where he's like this what's , what's a good thing to say ? a bastard boy which is like barely even an insult and sounds more like something from lame is like definitely bastard boy doesn't sound like fighting words .

Speaker 3

No right , it sounds like a line of haiku . Yeah , yeah , it's not , it's not , it's not , it's not much , officer Giller . But he says , yeah , oh , this is what I love , this , this , this . He asked him to sit down that successful .

He asked him , please he swears quietly , looking around to bring to sort of break , to lean into the boat and make Bobby's see he's one of them . And then Bobby likes this yeah , god damn , this is my fucking daughter we're talking about right . And he says and I apologize for any lack of focus , but now this is my life , this is my mission .

Getting your daughter back , I can't . And I am like this what is this ? I just loved it . Oh , fucking a . Okay , I love fucking a , love fucking a . Is this part of your world at all , boss ? Do they do fucking a in Chicago ?

Speaker 2

Oh yeah , Absolutely .

Speaker 3

Fucking a right they do .

Speaker 2

Yeah , I mean it's not . It's not as common as Jag off , but it's there .

Speaker 3

I just like coach . What about I got a fair amount of that ?

Speaker 1

but in , because I went to school essentially in Benson well , it was like rights , but it's near Benson hurst , so there was fucking . A was definitely a phrase that I was very familiar with .

Speaker 3

Do you equate it with is like an Italian term .

Speaker 1

In my experience . Yes , in my experience yeah it was a . It was an Italian term .

Speaker 3

There was this great scene in true romance where they like get everything to work out and they they cut away on someone , like hitting a desk like an excitement . One of the cops like , oh , fucking a , like so excited . And then they did the cut and like , so good , fucking a is such a funny for me , it's just , it's just a punchline .

You know what I mean . Like whether my friends and if I , if I drop a fucking a , you know , I'm just , I'm just fully joking .

Speaker 1

But this is what he says when he's psyched Fucking a .

Speaker 3

Okay , this is fucking awesome news . Awesome fucking news . Geller says now I'm going to need some information . What do we know about this kid , Family , friends ? And then this is the first time my my sort of ears perked up at Officer Geller . He says what's his problem ? What's his problem ?

Speaker 2

It feels a little bit like Officer Geller got all of his personality from early 80s action movies .

Speaker 1

Yes , yes , I was going to say cop show , yes .

Speaker 2

Yeah , and don't worry , I'm going to be talking about Terminator 2 later in this episode , but it feels a little bit like when , in the early 90s , all the white children at my suburban school started saying things like Asta la Vista , because we thought , wow , that's so cool that you get to say something that's not badass in a different language .

Speaker 3

That's so funny .

Speaker 1

Wow , that's funny .

Speaker 3

Okay , yeah , I just was like what ? Like I'm like it's , where is it when ? Like what's your problem ? Oh man , like seems like surfer , like fast times at Ridgemont High , whatever , I'm like , that's how I think of it . I'm like what's your problem ? I'm like it's a very .

I think what we do sometimes is we will typecast police officers into like okay , you played , you know , you played sort of nose tackle for your high school football team . You're a big ham neck thug , you don't .

You know , you're just like very rigid and the rules of being a police officer sort of applied to you and you liked it , you liked , you know , being in a position of authority , and we'll sort of end up with that sort of trapping for police officers . And then you get this dude is like what's his problem ? Oh , and I'm like , okay , this is refreshing .

I don't know For me . I will say I mean , show me the other side of it , show me a different version and keep me interested . And that's what this is doing . And then , what is Bob ?

Speaker 1

You go ahead , coach .

Well , I was going to say too and it's again part of my whole thing about this being super dark but also sort of absurdly funny , and it's he's just to borrow from generation younger than mine he's just so mid Like I'm sure he's solved some crimes , but I'm also sure he fucks up all the paperwork Like I'm sure he's lost track of somewhere and he's not serving

a jail sentence because they got out of the back of his car and he was like , ah , who's got the fucking energy ? Like he's just super mediocre .

Speaker 2

It feels a little bit like he wants to run the town the same way that Andy Griffith or Andy Taylor . I should say sheriff , andy Taylor wanted to run Mayberry . Only there was zero crime in Mayberry . So when Andy walked around and it was just like , hey , the law is a presence here , don't try to fuck shit up . Everyone was just like great thanks , andy .

Whereas in this case there is a lot of shit happening and Officer Geller is like I'm just going to be around in case anything happens , just if you need anything . The cops are going to be here , don't worry . And they're like we need a shit ton . He's like yeah , I'm here , I'm just here for you .

Speaker 1

Just here and around . Right right , I'll be at the ice cream social if anybody needs me . Yeah , we need this shit ?

Speaker 2

Yeah , we do . Actually we do need you All right . Well , let's go get some ice cream .

Speaker 3

I like that you're bringing this up . This is really good . I want to point out the dynamic here , which is I could write oh my God , I could just talk for for so long about the Bobby Luchetti's of this world , and I know a lot of them and a lot of them are tradesmen .

There are a lot of them are workers that that are in the trades , and plumbers and carpenters and electricians and they are very marginalized and they support the primary block of certain political wings of certain parties and what happens is they feel marginalized . Everybody in the world goes white man , have everything , and these guys go no , we fucking don't .

I work way harder than I ever wanted to . Nobody gives a shit about me . Everybody looks down there , knows of me , everybody hates me for shit . I don't think I did . I don't know what the fuck . Everybody else's problem , but I work really fucking hard every day for like a tenth of what my parents had on one salary and they go I don't , I don't get .

No one's

Society's Impact on Marginalized White Men

looking out for me . So now I'm not going to sit here and say , oh , boohoo , poor , you know , middle income , white , white man . I'm not going to say that .

But what I will say is I understand why they get there and I understand the how society funnels them there , especially with , like , the absence of so crazy I could talk about this forever how music changed once upon a time to further push them away , and it was had to do with like , start a clear channel , buying out stations . It was .

It was an ununness on unintentional change , but what happened was , once upon a time , hair bands vanished from radio and then you had to make a choice between hip hop or country . That was it . Rock and roll died , it was gone .

So these guys were like I don't have any anything , I don't understand hip hop , and they all either got pushed to country or to talk radio . And they went to talk radio , and talk radio is predominantly conservative . And so you have these guys just getting indoctrinated for decades , listening .

They put it on to have some sound while they work and they just go over and over and over . So this reaffirms that they are marginalized , and so that's what Bobby Lichetti knows . So he sits down and he's like this guy's giving me the fucking run around . These fucking cops . They're useless pieces of shit .

You know what I mean If you're a died in the world liberal . You look at the cops and you go oh , they're with the conservatives , they're not us Like I know . They're not us Like you know what I mean , if you're right , maybe I'm speaking out of school , but I know it's like oh , yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , no .

Speaker 1

I think this is really interesting to me .

Speaker 3

But these guys , these white guys that are marginalized , aren't like , oh , the cops are with me . They're like , those are fucking assholes that work for the man , like they are the man . So it's this weird dynamic and everybody can point the finger at everybody else .

And I'm not saying there isn't wrong or right and I'm not saying there's no grounds , but from Bobby Lichetti's point of view , this guy is going to give him the fucking run around and his daughter's out there . Whether or not him wanting to get his daughter back is love or nobody takes from me or whatever , you know macho bullshit For sure .

Speaker 1

For sure . Because we both know and what he knows good and goddamn well is . She said bye , daddy . She was not whisked off into the night kicking and screaming so a hundred percent . Give me a break .

Speaker 3

Nevertheless , he's sure law enforcement isn't going to help him . So when this guy , this cop who he knows , you know anecdotally from around town , says the line now your mission is my mission , this may be the first time .

That's why he's fucking it up , because it may be the first time he feels like he's being seen by somebody in authority , by a power structure , and I'm just like . I just want to just note that , because we'll gloss right over it , we'll blow pass it . This Bobby Lichetti is an anal sore . He is so awful and whatever .

Speaker 1

But I'm telling you , I personally know 50 to 100 Bobby Lichetti's of different shades of , and they're all a version of this and they grow them on trees in this part of the world and part of it is nobody fucking takes them seriously , and they know Well it's funny you say that part about being taken seriously , because if there's one thing that and I'm going to

speak about this in you know , very general terms but based on what you were just saying if there's one thing that , in quotes , should come along with being a white man in America , should be being taken seriously , and I wonder if , on some that , the element you're saying of yeah , fucking a okay , like yeah , yeah , I was waiting for somebody to notice that I'm

a white man sitting here saying what he wants . Let's get to fucking work . Like it seems a little bit like yeah , but yeah , glad you noticed . Like yeah , I should be in charge . What I care about should be the goddamn priority . I don't know what took so long .

Speaker 3

Weirdly , I don't think that .

Speaker 1

Really no , I'm really curious .

Speaker 3

No , no , no . I don't think that even comes into it , Even fucking remotely . Comes in like seriously , not even Okay , because that's

White Privilege and Perceptions

what privilege is ? You don't have to waste your time reaffirming that you're a white man . You are a white man .

Speaker 1

Right .

Speaker 3

And you know that , like you don't . You don't think like I'm . I'm outside the power structure . You're just like oh , this is the whole fucking reason we pay taxes . And so you fucking cops do what I say . When you pull me over , you're wasting my fucking time . I pay your salary to catch criminals who would steal my daughter .

I don't pay you to pull me the fuck over . I'm a good man and I'm a good citizen . Do you see what I'm saying ? You don't even think like I'm a white man and therefore , it's doesn't even .

This is why when , when they , when they're backed into a corner and they say , like I don't even know what the fuck you're talking about , I don't give a shit if you're black , white , purple , that's what they'll say . Because they don't think of that , because privilege allows you to not even waste a fucking iota of your time . Interesting .

I don't think it plays into it in that way . Like , oh , you noticed I was a white man . Because they don't feel like what liberals like or or it progressives people like me would describe as like , oh , an entitled white man . Like they're like okay , point to my fucking yacht . You know what I mean .

If I'm lucky , I'll get a week on the cape every year If I'm lucky , like if I do everything right and I don't spend my money anywhere else . I got to keep my , my , my machines upright . You know , I was just talking to my guy that does lawn mowing and stuff . This is it he's got to . He can't afford to pay people and he's got to keep .

You know , he needs a four-wheel drive vehicle because he plows in the winter . He doesn't feel like the world is customized to his liking at all . He feels he's getting in the ass every day . He doesn't know who to blame . Now , granted , they tend to blame the wrong people , and then you have to Well right .

Right , but still they're not thinking like oh , you know , like I'm glad you noticed I was a fucking white man . They don't think of them . They don't have to think of themselves that way . Yeah , yeah , yeah and listen . Anybody has to do .

This is my perspective from living in this part of the world for a long time , but that doesn't make the right perspective . I know elsewhere it may be totally different , but at least I'm speaking for the great northern idiot of that group .

I grew up inside great northern white man and I grew up inside that group and exist inside that group , and so I have some insight into that particular demographic .

Speaker 2

Actually , I don't think that it ever occurs to white men , but I'm white . You should be paying attention to me . I do think it's much more . It's much closer to what you're saying .

I would say that the actual privilege is every single straight cis white guy that I know , even like the extremely progressive ones , even the ones who are aware of white privilege and male privilege and everything else , believes that they are somehow the exception to the rule , and the amount that they believe that can vary a good deal , but I think what we're

seeing from him is a lot of what you're saying , castleton , in that what he thinks is nobody ever listens to me and I am the smartest person I know how is it that nobody else knows , I'm so fucking wicked smart but why aren't ? they listening to me .

So he actually probably does feel shit upon by the world and that he is not getting a fair shake because he's supposed to work . If I were so privileged , why the fuck am I after work every goddamn day ? So yes , I don't think that it consciously occurs to him .

Speaker 3

I got to fucking work every day there guy , and over down the fucking street these guys are getting welfare for fucking doing nothing .

Speaker 1

They get the free apartment , they get the free fucking cab .

Speaker 3

They get the fucking bus path . I'm just telling you . That's how they think and from that perspective , when race does come into play .

Speaker 2

for that I see where they get there , that's it . It's never . I am lucky because I'm white . It's always other people are getting stuff because we are mean to white people , if they think about it that way .

Speaker 1

Right , no , I'm not .

Speaker 2

Because they're thinking it's fucked .

Speaker 1

No , I'm hearing you . No , that's interesting . It's really sort of fascinating .

Speaker 3

Yeah , so okay , I also want to talk about I love to talk about shots and how beautiful the frame is . When you shoot a scene like this , you have what's called AD , an assistant director , assistant . The AD is like is like people who don't know when , how to shoot , like I've never shot a scene or never been on set .

Your AD is like the master sergeant of any operation . It's like an NCO . It's like the person who has the I don't say the biggest balls , because we're just talking about white , like you know the patriarchy , but it's the person with , like you just scared of most .

You know , not always like physically scared , but you're like they just run , they keep the trains running on time .

Speaker 1

That is a great .

Speaker 3

AD . Right , that's just how they do it . So it's people think , oh , the director , the director is there to so that one person has a vision and the director directs the actors and adjusts performance and has an overall point of view and the cohesiveness of the vision is based on the director .

But the assistant director , the AD , is like they make sure everybody gets set , let's get moving , get in places and let's you know like everything's got to keep going . And when you have a really good AD and I should look up who the AD was , I'm sure there's more than one on this set , but we'll definitely look into that but sometimes they have .

Film Production

You have background actors and they have . They say , okay , cue background and they say rolling . Well , they don't say rolling anymore now because that's so fun , that's film . But they used to say rolling and they say action .

But you would cue the background actors ahead of time , so you would have them walking in the background to make the scene feel more believable . And sometimes they screw that up and then that's called continuity .

Every job has to has to be to look at it and be like , oh , the lady in the really loud yellow coat was crossing here , so she couldn't possibly have made it that far . So it gets much more complicated than you think , but this show does a really good job with background .

And then they have this gorgeous shot where it's framed because , you have to remember , you're still in public . This isn't . This meeting is not taking place in the precinct , in the police station . This is out in the community . It's community policing today . And so people are walking around , people are . You know .

There's a shot of Sergeant Geller and behind him that people are . There's a line , they're ordering . They're ordering ice cream and they do a good job of it .

And then there's this beautiful shot where it's it's a shot in in of Bobby Lichetti sitting at the table , and then behind him , over his left shoulder , you have the two twins , you have Carl and and Teddy , and they're just standing over there . Carl was eating an ice cream .

He went and got an ice cream , even though he was offered murder as a result , but he still , he still did it . So I'm like , does he think ? I'm like , is he crazy ? I'm like , why did ? this is yeah , what is the boss ?

Speaker 2

He knows that his dad is going to make that thread every time and follow through , not every time .

Speaker 1

Right .

Speaker 2

If he never did it . I mean , it's just that simple .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I mean , he gets told that he's going to be killed eight times before breakfast , every single day . Right . So he's like , yeah , all right . Well , I'll roll the dice . You know , I want ice cream .

Speaker 2

The way that his father interacts with him is through these sort of violent threats , but he only actually ever acts out on them occasionally . It'd be too much work to beat up your son every day , every day . Come on , that's so , it's a hard .

Speaker 3

So again , the yes . Now let's talk about the production , design and the wardrobe , and the wardrobe and the costuming . You have Bobby Lichetti . He's in a knit cap , unmarked . It's not like it's a Nike cap , it's a , you know , it's a work cap because he's got to probably work outside . He's got his car heart jacket on the insulated car heart .

He's got his chain , he's got his jeans and he's got , like his work boots . That is the Gen X and older blue collar tradesman work a day attire here in New York . I don't know if it's like this everywhere else , but that's like starting with Gen X and older , all the boomers and all the silent generation .

That's what everybody for those three generations for , and millennials are a little different boss .

Speaker 2

In the Midwest they would not have that chain necessarily . Most wouldn't . It depends . It depends on what you got going on the rest of it altogether . Also , I forgot to mention earlier . You said something about how hair metal went away and rock music died , or something . That is because you are an old person . I just need to clarify .

I need to reach out real quick and acknowledge the indie emo scene of the early 2000s did , in fact , shred in many ways , but you had already left college so you did not get to hear that much .

Speaker 3

No , no , no , this is not me .

Speaker 2

No , no , no , no no , I know , I know I'm teasing you a little bit . I'm just saying that for that group . This is the way that it always happens . You get a little bit older and you're like what the fuck happened to music . I'm doing it myself now . I'm like who the fuck is Olivia Rodrigo , what the fuck is happening here ? But it's because I'm old .

It's because I'm old now .

Speaker 3

Yeah , no , no , no , there's a certain thing . Olivia Rodrigo is really legitimately good , by the way .

Speaker 2

I've heard that she's really good .

Speaker 3

She is really good like seriously , I've always tried to stay up with music myself .

Music and Violence in Family Dynamics

I always wondered if I'd be one of those guys that didn't know what music was like coming out and was new and whatever . And I've always tried to and sometimes it was hard or whatever . But what I'm saying is , generally those guys are not alternative listeners . They needed network TV and if network TV went away they're like oh shit , I have to .

That was the network Death Leopard , van Halen , white Snake , kiss , and then it scrolls into Megadeth and Ozzy and all those things . So there's sort of different versions of it , but it all generally stopped being played en masse on the radio and alternative doesn't count . That's not what we're talking about . We're not talking about emo music .

We're not talking about grunge . We are talking about grunge , but then grunge went away too . So it was just this thing that happened and anyway we can talk about this another time . We don't have to discuss it . But I always find out . I always wonder anecdotally what role that played .

When guys went to work , stopped listening to Van Halen is a perfect example and then where did they go from there ? And they weren't listening to Michael Jackson . Let's say it wasn't pop music that they were into . They were into a different thing . So anyway , it doesn't matter , we can talk about this forever .

I have a couple of friends who are like music , professional DJs , and they came up through . There's still DJs in the world , there's like eight left and we have friends that are like two or three of them and they talk about what happened to music and how it went away .

They can talk very , very eloquently about how everything changed , why it all changed , what role money played in it , and it's really just fascinating Monopoly . Monopoly is inside the radio business .

So anyway , that being said , I was saying that there's a uniform , work uniform , and then the Lichetti boys are in the background in their track suits and I like that . You said the necklace , because the necklace is a couple of things . The necklace is Italian and sometimes you have the .

It's like that's a very common thing in Italian communities , but also it's like the farther you get out to the suburbs , the less you'll see chains and things like that , and then it becomes even more hardcore and less like . You know , the jewelry could be like ah , look at this fucking guy with the jewelry on there .

I'm going to fucking choke you with that thing , guy . Like there's just no , I know , I know it's crazy , but like that's really how it is . And let's say , outside any major city , you get like 50 miles outside , you're basically in Tennessee , no matter you know what state you're in .

So okay , so you have this beautiful shot of the boys looking over the shoulder and he says Gellar says can you take , pick this up , boss ? And say what does Bobby say ? He says what's his problem ? Oh , and just talk about this a little bit here . Go through the lines there .

Speaker 2

Well before this little cocksucker stole my daughter . Stole my daughter , by the way , as if she were a TV or a car .

Speaker 3

Yeah , yes , she stole a perfectly good Zenith . She's basically that .

Speaker 2

Yeah , stole my daughter . He burned down his house and he burned it down with his dad still in it . But , truth be told , that firefighter told me that the dad was already dead before the house burned down . I don't know cancer or some shit like that , I'm not really fucking sure .

So , number one , we already know exactly how Bobby feels about his daughter , that she has property and that she has been taken . He is not concerned about her safety . That isn't the issue here . He's not worried that Wayne is doing untoward things to his daughter . He just wants her back .

Speaker 3

Well , he is , because that's what he would do . Remember he said oh , we don't even know what she's doing , and we're like , yeah , you say that because you're a disgusting pig and that's what you probably do . But you're right , that's not his primary goal here .

Speaker 2

Well , but he is not . Yes , he is not concerned that she would be negatively affected by that .

Speaker 1

He would be concerned that she would lose value because she has property . Yes , that's a great thing , that's a great thing .

Speaker 3

Well , assuming they found yeah , that's right , that's right , coach . Assuming that they found Dell , like this afternoon , would he be like oh , I'm so happy you're right , come here . No , how would he treat Dell ?

Speaker 2

Don't you fucking run away again . What were you thinking You're going to run off with that fucking asshole ? You don't know what it's like out there . I'm the only person that could protect you . Now get inside before I beat your ass , that's right .

Speaker 3

This is a man who grabbed his daughter by the hair . Remember that .

Speaker 1

Yeah , that was strong . Oh yeah , you should have seen that .

Speaker 3

I watched your faces when then he made that move , because I feel like that was a . We talked about it , so we don't want to dwell on it , but like that's where you go , oh , oh , oh , oh , oh , oh , oh oh yeah , yeah , yeah , oh this is your problem . You're done by the hair , okay .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah , this is me . I know your children up . It's not that you like believe in corporal upon it Like . You beat your children up , like as if y'all are in a fight that only one of you gets to participate in . You beat them up .

Speaker 2

Also , there is something that's so , even though it is very aggressive and painful . There is something that is so bitchy about pulling somebody's hair , like it's such a weak move You're not punching anybody , You're not risking that's interesting . Anybody doing anything back Like you are , but like that's , that's something a little bitch does .

So , yes , he is violent , but he's also a violent little bitch in the most derogatory way I can say that .

Speaker 3

Did you guys ever see the SNL Sam Adams commercial with Bill Burr ? So it starts . Oh my God , if you tell me , you haven't seen this . Oh my God , you're going to love it .

So Bill Burr , it's a bunch of people doing Sam Adams starts the season with Winterfresh or like Autumn , whatever beverage , and it's a bunch of randos drinking it , drinking Sam Adams , autumn Lager or whatever . And then they're all like do the generic , oh that's great , oh that's tasty . And then you have Bill Burr , who's a real .

He's just like Bobby Luchetti and he's like I don't . He drinks the whole beer and he goes . I don't like that . And there's this moment his son pushes a cart into him from behind and he's like we got to go . You know I'm going to be late for work , daddy and he's like I'm trying fucking enjoying myself .

We'll link it into the description or , boss , you can tweet it up . But there's this moment where the kid is trying to get to work the adult son of the Bobby Luchetti character played by Bill Burr and the kid is like about to rebel . They're in a supermarket and Bill Burr looks at him and he goes oh yeah , today , the day .

Speaker 1

Yes .

Speaker 3

He goes today the day . You're going to take a swing at your old man , and so we say that in my family all the time . I it is a joke with me I have the sweetest son in the world . He's 13 years old , he is like a bunny rabbit .

He is so wonderful , but like , if he ever even like , like , looks at me funny , like , even like remote thing I go today the day , today's the day , because the presupposition is in New England . That day always comes .

Speaker 1

That's right . It's the inevitability that's built into the comment . That's kind of shocking yeah .

Speaker 3

It's the day the day you take a swing at your old man , Because the old man , like a lion in the wild right , uses his physical force to keep you down until the point where you can chase him out of dodge . That is so disturbing I can't even , I cannot even stress .

Speaker 1

It's super primal .

Speaker 3

I'm horrifying of a paradigm that is . That is terrible .

Speaker 1

Yeah , no , it's incredibly primal and a really some of . There's a piece of it that I'm like it's natural and will it ? I think , as we do better , we can channel it in a different direction than an all out like actual fist fight , but I do . I think there's also a natural sense of like yeah , you know what ?

I see my son come up the stairs and he'll say you know , he's standing there all bare chested and muscles and I'm like , yeah , I used to look like that and then . But then part of me is like I got joke in quotes . But I'll be like , are you what you think ? Like you intimidating somebody walking up here ? Like , oh , you got your shoulders popping .

Speaker 3

You did shoulders today .

Speaker 1

It looks like you did shoulders today , but there is a part of it right that , like you know , we'll , we'll grapple and wrestle and stuff . But I do remember the first time he legit had me off balance and I was like whoa , like okay , like I got to play , I got to pay attention .

Now , when we play like this , like I can't just be like uh-huh , uh-huh and half watch the game , like this guy can take me down . Now that's a thing that could happen . But yeah , you don't want to , I would . I would not recommend getting into full out brawls with your children as their right of passage . That doesn't strike me as a good way to go .

Speaker 3

It's so funny yeah .

Speaker 1

We don't have any of that .

Speaker 3

We don't even like wrestle or any of that .

Speaker 1

Oh , really , you know , alex and I is definitely .

Speaker 3

Well , I think , alex , you got . You have athletes in your house . My kids are just like so they're just like I said , they're paying this one , the 13 year old , like if you met him and people listen to this , they would be like , oh my God , like he's like a stuffed animal .

So like I'm like this is a day ticket , so you're only , and he'll just like laugh and then hug me . Oh , okay , but they just think it's funny , you know it's like it's so , not our dynamic . And now you have probably Chetty , I don't know cancer or some shit like that . I'm not really fucking sure Now which .

Speaker 2

I just need to point out is such an indication that he is not paying attention to anyone , anywhere , anytime .

Speaker 1

Yeah , what do you mean ?

Speaker 2

He's only repeatedly been talking about how he's afraid he has cancer and now he doesn't have cancer , and the fact that he would casually bring up in the conversation that Wayne's dad just passed away from cancer and that that he , like he , doesn't even know enough to know how what he's saying will impact other people . He's just talking shit .

Speaker 1

Yeah , and actually I'll let . I'll let us continue for a moment , because he , if you miss this if you miss this element of his not giving a shit . He so we get . Did you get ? Did you say cancer ? Yeah , you know what ? I got to have a smoke . So I am talking about someone dying of cancer .

To someone who just had a cancer scare in the midst of an ice cream social where there are families and children , and you know what , though , I got to have a smoke . So fuck all of y'all , like fuck every single one , but even fuck you , because I would have to actually think about the fact that this would impact you .

To say fuck you , I'm just going to smoke because that's what I feel like doing .

Speaker 3

Now listen . Yes , that's true too .

TV Show

First of all , I don't think Sean Simmons , the creator of the show , gets enough credit , for just this line itself shows like oh , he is isolating three different people's how they're affected by cancer in completely different ways . If you hear the first part of Bobby Shetty's speech , he says , yeah , the kid fucking burned down a house with his old man .

And if you're the cop , you go Jesus Christ , this kid's a fucking murderer , right . And then he says , oh , you know , it's like the old guy , you know the guy who's already dead . I guess a firefighter said , or whatever , dance cancer or some shit . I don't really fucking sure , and you're like , oh wait a second , like this is right .

So totally changes Geller's opinion , especially because he just passed over the paper that said whatever . And the reaction is I don't know cancer . And I got a cigarette . Now , coach , it would be better if he said you know , fuck everybody . But he doesn't . What does he say he goes to ? He said first of all , geller checks . Did you say cancer ? You know what ?

I got to have a smoke . Can I have a smoke ? Can I have a fucking smoke ? Can I fucking smoke here ?

Speaker 1

Can I fucking smoke ? What is ?

Speaker 3

happening . Which is what ? What is that ? What is the reason for that line ? What is that saying ?

Speaker 1

Because you can't fucking smoke anyway anymore . It's bullshit . That's right . Why ? Because they're fucking liberals . That's right . Right , the liberals are charged .

Speaker 3

I can't even fucking smoke outside . I can't smoke on my fucking . I can't legislate every part of my existence . All I fucking do is raise good kids , pay my fucking taxes , go to work every day and excuse me if I want to have a fucking cigarette , right , right , I'm not hurting anybody . I don't believe , I don't believe in secondhand smoke . That's a fucking .

That's a liberal fabrication . That's the libs . All right , we're outside . How can it possibly I don't know science how can it possibly hurt anybody ? I'm literally outside . You tell me the wind fucking isn't going to carry to it . You know what I'm saying ? Like the mentality , you just go what like . But he is certain of that .

Can I fucking smoke here Because he's persecuted coach ?

Speaker 1

He is a persecuted entity , but also to say can I have a fucking smoke here ? But he's not actually asking , he's declaring what you're describing . It's really a declaration that I am going to fucking smoke here . I don't know if you have some stupid fucking rule that I clearly don't give a shit about , including .

We don't randomly scream curses when children gather Right , like what is happening . Why do you keep screaming , fuck Like what's happening .

Speaker 3

No , it gets so much better . Can I fucking smoke here Shit ? He lights the cigarette that Gellar like it , wincing because of this guy . Hey everyone , my daughter got kidnapped as he lights a cigarette , right , and so what does he say ? So I'm going to say this amazing way .

Speaker 1

So I'm going to smoke . You can all fucking blow me Wow .

Speaker 3

He just said fuck you all . That would have been one thing . But he just declares and turns sort of behind him without looking , Does some sort of hand gesture and says you can all fucking blow me . And then you get the best insert of the episode . Which is what , boss ?

Speaker 2

Of course , as he's turning around , there is a mother with her two young daughters at the table hearing and witnessing everything happening , and the face on the mom is maybe the best because she's not even like she's not shocked by it . She's just like ah .

Speaker 3

Like .

Speaker 1

Seriously , idiot Like seriously , yeah , this is not . She's heard this all before . This is not like the clutch your pearls in the fancy restaurant scene . This is the rock . I just wanted to bring my kids out for some ice cream .

Speaker 3

Like a guy sitting at a table with a cop might have like what's the cop doing ?

Speaker 1

Right , what's happening here Right ?

Speaker 3

That little insert of these . It's just an insert . There's no guarantee that these girls were even on set . There's no guarantee that this was even shot in the same .

Speaker 1

You know what I mean .

Speaker 3

Like they match the light , you don't know . But I left so I roared . This is my sense of humor . You can all like and then blow me . Which is so , is so , so fine , yeah .

Speaker 1

It's so vile , right , it's such a vile thing to say like that .

Speaker 3

But yeah , in this context , normally you wouldn't care if this was like a locker room .

Speaker 2

Right , right , yeah , yeah .

Speaker 3

But here , the way it's said , in defiance of his persecution , he's going to go get himself cancer , because the boys , dad , died of cancer and because the cop just beat cancer , he's going to go . Yeah , it's so funny , I it's amazing . Okay , so I just can't , can't get enough . So so now he says what's your fucking deal ?

Huh , and now we hit , we see , now we see something . You called him mid coach . I'm very fascinated by how people view Geller at this point in the story , because he's a , he's a fixture . Um , what is going on here , boss ? Walk us through what Sergeant Killers doing now .

Speaker 2

So at this point he is actually trying to work the case . He is doing some um I Don't want to name any specific shows , but anytime that they have the Profiler show where they're like , oh , the the criminal must have done it because of unresolved issues with his mother , and it's like , well , maybe , maybe .

But he is trying to figure out Wayne's motivation , and so one of the things that he asks is now this boy . He says he's obviously lashing out , he's in pain and Bobby does not care for that . Right there is no chance he wants to identify with Wayne and what Wayne might be going through Between his father dying and anything .

Speaker 3

But he's not the strong suit of this type . Yeah , yeah , that's what I was gonna say , yeah .

Speaker 2

Yeah yeah , empathy is not yeah to the point that he says to geller Are you fucking ? You're fucking with me , aren't you ? And he says Maybe we should be helping him . And Bobby says that's it .

Speaker 3

The fuck did you say he says it kind of to himself , he's not looking at Bobby . He's like really sort of yeah , thinking through this , but as soon as he says it , right , bobby says what .

Speaker 2

He says what did you fucking say ? And then and the tays are behind him as he's jumping up to like , really make this a fight . Fucking taste , because this , by the way , again A police function . I can't .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I cannot stress this enough exactly .

Speaker 3

Yeah , he gets tased right away by j officer . Jganetti is right behind him .

Observations on a Chaotic Scene

Uh , did you see how , uh , how fazed by this was ? Uh , yeah , good coach , talk about coach is making a hand signal .

Speaker 1

Not at all like it was so funny because you know so he's sitting there . We should watch out for this guy . You know we've got this guy jumping up . He now wants to fight and there's he .

He doesn't even move his head to watch Bobby go down , like he just shifts his eyes and follows him down to the ground with his eyes and then looks back up , like Okay , like .

Speaker 3

I Find it very zen . Uh , like , he's just like very calm . You know the Uh , it's like he's not . I know he would say the andy griffith reference really fascinating . I'm gonna think about that , yeah , but he's not , he wasn't worried about , do you seem like ?

Oh , this guy's gonna just think he was just like okay , like you're gonna do this , you're , you're by Billy's chetty , you , you , you have a five cent head . You're probably gonna be do something stupid and Jay's gonna taste like like it's almost like a practical inevitability .

Speaker 1

Yeah , because the tazing . I mean far be it from me of all people to uh , excuse police violence . But I gotta think that if you , what is it ? I think that if you jump up and start cursing at some you know police captain or whatever you know , you have to accept that there there is a possibility that you're about to catch it .

I mean like you're about to get it because , come on , what are you Like ? It's so funny to me that the approach is I'm gonna kick your ass , and just how quickly . It's like you're really not . You're really Like I get that . You're in your backyard slapping your kid around . You are the boss , but You're really not gonna kick my ass like I'm not .

I'm not phased by your threat and I'm also not phased by the fact that you're now on the ground . I don't really .

Speaker 3

You're not gonna fuck around and find out like this is like right away , instant , oh , okay , and then what does Jay say , officer , jay , what does he say to , uh , to officer , sergeant teller ?

Speaker 1

Can , cannot believe you . He did this after all you've been through with your cancer and everything . Which , again the absurdity . Like what is happening , right , like that's funny , but what ? And Um ?

Speaker 3

and Jay's super emotional every time we've seen him . Yeah , yeah , yeah , he's been like you know .

Speaker 1

He's like Jay , calm down every time , yes , jay , jay , but he's not the kind of emotional you would expect out of a cop , like on a cop show , right , it's like almost like a nervous , like you would expect this to be , like the nervous Mom that everybody's like it's gonna be okay , right , like yes , oh , and you were sick and why would he be ?

Like what is going on here ? So , yeah , I it's just , it's great . But yeah , he's really upset and can't believe like that we're not all being very super sweet right now , um , but the best is that cancer and everything . Yeah , jay , there's something I forgot to tell you like every character here is insane . What do you mean ?

You forgot to tell him like he's beside himself with concern for you . You slid your medical results to some fucking idiot , but you forgot to tell what is happening .

Speaker 3

It's so good and that's we cut on that scene . That's where that's the out , that's the little button on On this Brockton police community day and we're done there . Now we cut to the scene where , um , okay , we have , uh , what is the song that's playing in the scene ?

We have , we have Tracy driving like a looks like a Chrysler LaBaron convertible or something like that , like a Circa in 2008 , yeah , 2005 , chrysler LaBaron convert or something like that . Um and um , it's Tracy in the driver's seat and we got , uh , who was in the passenger seat here ?

Speaker 1

uh , coach , we've got Dell in the passenger seat and I know uh boss has a music piece on lock . What is it , boss ? Uh , it is everything wavy by low pass low pass lusht Featuring .

Speaker 2

And this is where I feel like the kids should have told me it's a , it's a , it's numbers and letters , and I don't know if I'm supposed to renounce them or read them out each one . I believe that it is supposed to spell first class . That would be my number one STCO , ss . Remember how much I said like I love .

Speaker 3

White people talking about featured acts . Oh , that music , it's the fun . You feel like a middle school principal .

Speaker 2

Every time you say every fucking time it's the lamest thing you can say it's so bad and it does not it . It isn't even a matter of needing me to be talking about rapper , hip hop or anything else . Um , on the nationals newest album called laugh , track , quote unquote , the sad one . Uh , they have songs .

They have one with fewy bridges and one with , uh , rosaam cash . And on the album it says featuring and I can't do it , I can't say the national featuring fewy bridges , because even that that's the weight of sentence that's ever existed and I still feel uncomfortable saying it . I'm like they did a song and rosaam cash is there . Cash is .

Speaker 1

I know it's , it's like . I mean it's the most yeah .

Speaker 3

What yeah the national featuring uh ?

Speaker 1

no and Asap .

Speaker 3

As soon as possible , rocky as soon as possible .

Speaker 2

Oh .

Speaker 1

Jesus okay , it's so painful Um all right .

Speaker 3

So they're . They are driving down the road . Uh , tracy's driving and they're singing along with this song or at least Tracy is right , we got a single of her . She's got a cigarette going and , uh , you want to talk about that ?

Speaker 1

ash coach , we want to shake that ash , that's funny , but yeah , there's something about this cigarette burning and that she hasn't asked that . Just it adds to the like general For me at least , it adds to the general like just chaos and like Ragged edges of all this , like I'm like what , what , why wouldn't you just ash what's happening here ?

I feel like boss has something on this for me .

Speaker 2

Yeah , she has no no , it's the exact opposite . It's um . I understand why it would appear that that would be chaos . What it actually is is that she knows Exactly when the ash is going to fall out by itself , which is when she is going to put her hand just slightly outside of the car enough that it will blow away . This is not chaos .

This is a study of cigarettes and cigarette smoking .

Speaker 3

That she knows Exactly how long she could hold that ash on there . Do you ever you guys ever know people . When people smoked a lot more growing up , I knew people that would like , maybe out in the big eye I uh , I can , uh , they'd be a place where they couldn't ash , so they would let the ash get real long and then ash it into their hand .

They ever see you ever seen that ? Okay , that's okay . Yeah , coach is looking like that's crazy .

Speaker 1

I've never seen it Right . I mean , it makes it makes sense .

Speaker 3

That's the the length of her ashes , where it reminded me of that when you let it get that . I was thinking , like with that convertible , if she tried to ash it would be like all like through the backseat . You know what I mean . Like just because of whatever .

Surprising Revelations and Emotional Connections

But anyway , they're driving and you notice that she's singing , and then there's a shot of del . And what is del doing ?

Speaker 1

here , coach , the same she is singing now . How they're singing is very interesting , because she's 41 and gives not a fuck , so she is all just having her great time . Del is being a uh , a cool and uh , uh , appropriately reserved teenager who's not gonna admit that she enjoys the same song as the 41 year old version of her . So she's , she's mumbling .

Speaker 3

Yeah , she's got her head turned away and she's just mouthing it because she knows it , but she's not gonna . And 41 is perfect because , boss , uh , what happens to women after 40 ?

Speaker 2

People stop paying attention . You get to do whatever the fuck you want . There you go .

Speaker 3

So they're driving , and what do they see on the side of the road ?

Speaker 2

here , boss , they say see two assholes , one of whom is wearing wane's jacket , that she just told him what the fuck even is that ? Uh , so immediately , she is on it , immediately , she knows something bad has happened .

Speaker 3

So they pull over quickly .

Speaker 1

she jumps out , we hold on before you do this , though , the we , we point out the writing and we do stuff . You do stuff like this all the time . You point an hour at something . You know you're gonna need it later . You know you need , you know you need it for the story . But it was so well done .

When she made fun of his jacket I didn't feel like it was that like proverbial gun in in um act one that must be shot in act three . I thought , yeah , that's some mean shit , she would say because she's pissed and it is kind of a weird jacket and okay , right , like I thought that was that .

And so when it got used here , just as a matter of craft , I found myself going oh nice yeah .

Speaker 2

I didn't , I didn't realize you were planting .

Speaker 1

Yeah . I didn't see that coming like a lot of times . It's funny because I have a cousin , um CJ . I'm gonna shout out CJ . Uh , but my cousin CJ were super tight and he laughs at me because he's like , do you ever get to enjoy anything ? Because he , because I do to most things in life .

What we do on this podcast , which is I'm like , oh man , that's a great . We're watching some show and I'm like , oh , the structure of that joke is just that's really . And he's like oh my god , like he's like are you serious , right ? Can you unplug ? Yeah ?

Speaker 3

and I'm like no .

Speaker 1

I actually can't like if I'm watching some stand-up , I'm like , oh , wow , yeah , no is , look at that like . I love how we like Flicked his hand there or oh , the act out on that like . But he only does act out to news kinds of jokes , like my brain is constantly doing all that , um , so yeah .

So as I was watching this , I just found myself the the writer part of me applauding and going nicely done , did not see that as an element I was gonna care about , but I'm fully aware of it and I know exactly what the fuck it means .

Speaker 3

Yep , hit it in plain sight . Yep , exactly exactly , and I love when it can do that to me .

Speaker 1

I love that .

Speaker 3

Now , looking from the side , this is not a labyrinth . It's significantly shittier car than a labyrinth . I'm trying to think what it looks like . Uh , what is that ? Um god , once upon a time , I would have known . Is it a mercury Cougar or like ?

Speaker 1

no , it's like one of those shitty dodge , dart knock . Do you ?

Speaker 2

know , I can tell you with absolute certainty it is not a Nissan versa . So I do , I do know , I do know what that car looks like that is the one car , a Nissan versa ?

Speaker 3

No , it's not .

Speaker 2

I also have a general idea of what a Ford Focus looks like , because that was my previous car .

Speaker 1

I do know , though I got those two . Here's a . Here's a tidbit .

I , when I was in eighth grade , um , as I , as I remember this , specifically wanted A burgundy , as well as going to grow up and be a baller , I wanted a burgundy Chrysler le Baron convertible because I was walking one day or no , actually it's from my window at my dad's , my dad's apartment .

I saw a guy in one and they were chilling in the car and two of his friends were sitting like on that Part where the roof would come up , but like the top was down so they could sit there and they were the absolute vision of cool to me and I was like I will have that car Did work out that way .

Speaker 3

I know , I know we're gonna , we're gonna throw stones , but like it's a fun , it's a fun car and and I had a Chrysler le Baron , like we had a family car . It wasn't convertible , it was like a shitty old black one , um , but um , it's like they weren't bad cars , what you know once upon a time .

And if you look at them now with today's eyes , they , they , they kind of aged . Well , I think they're not . You know , they're not horrendous , like you can still go . Oh , that's actually right it looks like fun still , you know , even if they're more dated , this is like a real shitter and I can't . It's not . Is it a k car ? Is it like a relying k ?

But I don't know if they did convertibles for the k cars , but anyway it's a shitter . Um , and so they pull over . Uh , out goes del . She jumps out hey , where'd you get that jacket ? And the dude in you know the dwayne gave the jacket to . He's like uh , uh , Uh . And what does his friend say coach , Are you wanes girl ? And she says what ?

Speaker 1

yes , she says yeah .

Speaker 3

Coach , I think I double clicked sorry . Let's okay , hold on , let's go back . Yeah , he says are you wanes girl ? And what does she say ? Coach , this is amazing .

Speaker 1

She says , yeah , yeah , which my eyes opened . On that I was like , oh , are you now ? Yeah , who the fuck are you ? Um , which is you know appropriately del , I'm sorry , it was like great and oh , I'm so sorry I didn't . He loved you so much .

Because we've seen what's going on , I'm like , oh , my god , they're telling , they think , they are telling her what they think , which is that they watched him , they saw it be killed , they saw him shot in the head . Yeah , they saw it . So there , you know . So it's , yeah , it's , it's , it's all very it's fascinating .

Speaker 3

But even this is lovely , so much . He loved you so much yeah , yeah .

Speaker 1

Yeah , but even that right . So she's been told about the coffee and then they come and whatever happened with these guys that they're all apologizing for . The one thing they do know for sure Is he loved you so much . It didn't take long we didn't have to know him for long to learn that . So she's really finding out .

This guy must really somehow Really care about her , even though human emotion isn't a real thing . Where she grew up , right , I mean it's , it's kind of cool .

Speaker 3

Right , and we're thinking , okay , uh oh , this is what , um , one night they spent together , right ? So this is day two . She's already identifying as quote unquote , wanes girl , like that's like . She's like at least she can answer in the affirmative to that without like hesitating , um , and then we get he loved you so much , which I , I just I'm like what .

And she looks back at Tracy , like what the fuck ? And , and it's this one , a single shot of Of del . And then we cut , which I like , because the audience knows what's up . You don't have to waste time , you just bring us back like , oh yeah , what's going on with mine right now ?

And then we cut back and we are now this side shot of kira Leaning forward , presumably looking at wane , and she's just , her adding , just stirring at him with a switchblade .

Speaker 2

The line about uh yeah , I'm wanes girl . I don't want to pretend that it isn't important , but I would also like to . It is . Sometimes it's just a matter of convenience .

It's like is she in that moment going to be saying well , I'm not necessarily his girl , but he and I are traveling together and I do like him a little bit , but I'm not sure where it's going , because we just met like totally , but but she didn't know .

Speaker 3

Wane Two days ago like in this way he was not part , there was no del and wane doing anything no but it's more like now she recognizes his jacket that she hates . Now , you know , I mean like there's a , anyway , I yeah .

Speaker 1

I hear you , though . I hear you , it's not her going yeah .

Speaker 3

It's not her like yes , right , just like yeah , am I the person you're referring to ?

Speaker 2

Yes , I am , it's um reminded me , actually , of a Halloween party . I went to Jesus 20 years ago , back when I was in college .

One of my roommates and I decided we were both going to dress up as old school gangsters , like not the not like Sexy gangster costume , but like we're gonna put on some bad fedora , hats and pinstripes and walk around the light and be funny . And she looked amazing . I thought I looked good .

And then when I got there , one of our friends had already had too much to drink and was like not passed out but close to asleep in the basement . And somehow I was the one that was like called up to take care of this . And somebody came upstairs and looked at me and said , okay , so you're Dick Tracy .

And I was like , well , no , no , that wasn't exactly . I wasn't trying , I wasn't going for dick tree . But then I was like , yes , fine , I'm Dick Tracy , let's fucking where's my past out . Fine , let's go find her , take care of this . I , it felt more like that .

Speaker 1

To go with Dick Tracy , that's .

Speaker 2

Yes , if we need to get this done , fine , I'm fucking Dick Tracy , let's go .

Speaker 1

Yes , another t-shirt like we are gonna . I mean , I don't even think anyone else would make t-shirts . We got it . We got so many we got it .

Discussion on Game and Kidnapping Tactics

Speaker 3

Now tiras says don't try nothing funny .

Speaker 1

Okay , wait one one quick thing before , don't try nothing . Funny , just because I'm trying to figure out just how long we can make this episode . No , but , um , one of the things that I I think is done masterfully in this show .

Also , as long as we're talking about the writing craft of it , people think about when you get into a scene , and that's a , that's a whole skill . Like when is like , when is the absolute latest moment we can get in here ?

But getting out of a scene , well , is also a skill and Consistently right , whether it's you know oh I forgot to the eye cancer or it's you know that moment , you know , with del looking back at Tracy and the car , it leaves us with some questions , not questions of like well , what will be said , but like , well , then what happened ?

And we're out and we're kind of grabbed by whatever we're watching next . I thought it was I anyway . I think consistently that's been done through this show . That is the skill that has been shown and it could be the editor like . For all I know , the scene went on for another two pages and the editor said we don't need any of that shit .

But however they got there . It's really well done here .

Speaker 3

Okay . So yeah , we don't cut directly to Wayne , we cut to Kira , threatening , and then we cut to Lee , fucking Murray , with a gun on . You know Wayne , who's off camera , he does not look the way , he holds that shotgun , he just looks very uncomfortable and freaked out with it .

And and now that we've reached a moment where they've , in their infinite wisdom , the brand trust of Lee and Kira has decided , you know , we're gonna give Wayne a chance . So she cuts his , his , uh , his hands , which are bound behind him . Like she doesn't cut his hands , she cuts the rope holding his hands .

And don't , don't , try nothing , funny , um , which , okay , uh , you got a gun on me and a knife and uh , but they're gonna give him a chance to , uh , to free himself . What ? What do they say here , boss ?

Speaker 2

Say that they're gonna play a game . Uh , so if he wins , we let him go , if I win , we don't . Inherent in this idea is I don't understand the practicality of it .

Like I understand why she decided that they needed to do something , but it's kind of like Well , we kidnapped you and we can't let you go , because if we let you go , you're gonna go to the cops .

But if I force you to play this game with me and you Abide by the rules that I'm making you abide by , then we'll have a deal where you won't go to the cops . Like that , doesn't that ?

Speaker 1

that's not how things work in real life . No , it's not , but it feels like there's also an element of .

Speaker 3

There's a tied vote , there's a there's a vote for living and there's a vote for dying .

Speaker 1

And so we're in an impasse , and so this game is essentially the vice president casting the 51st vote . Uh , I'm sorry , that was super domestic reference . Uh , basically the just breaking the tie . Don't even worry about it . Our congress is a mess and probably won't be lasting another five years . Don't even bother to learn it , folks fingers crossed .

Speaker 3

Yes , that that is true , but it's also so Kira can justify killing him . Yes , she's gonna put it in the hands of the gods , but also , nobody could ever possibly beat her at this particular game .

Speaker 2

Yeah , this is the um . Who was it ? The spartans who would put their babies out on the cold mountain side and be like , why didn't kill them ? They just , you know , when I left them outside in winter and they happened to die . But I did not kill them this is not on me .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I don't think I knew , or maybe I've forgotten if I had ever known about that .

Speaker 3

I'm curious about that .

Speaker 1

You know where my ?

Speaker 3

mother's from right Like .

Speaker 2

But you've you've mentioned Greece . Sparta and Greece are not necessarily Wait .

Speaker 3

I thought you're the thing about let me tell you about some stuff about Greece .

Speaker 2

Let me um oh .

Speaker 3

Okay , folks , okay .

Speaker 1

I am gleece is what I took from everything you've ever said about your mom I am gleece . I will be putting in the scripts someday .

Speaker 3

It was a militaristic society . So yes , they did . Uh I there's versions of Uh , depending on when you're reading the these histories , but uh yeah , sometimes it's it's left from the elements and sometimes it's just Chucking them off the off a cliff .

Speaker 2

I didn't kill him , I just threw him off a cliff , and when he landed he was no longer alive . What do you want me to do about that ?

Speaker 3

Yeah , it's their own like version of the perfect race . It's not not ideal . Uh , we try to go with the , the baklava section of our , of our shared history .

Speaker 2

It's a better one .

Speaker 3

It's too fine Um .

Speaker 2

Yes , thank you .

Speaker 3

Thank you , coach . That was amazing . Um , I love it . No , would you like some buckle ? Oh , help yourself . Okay , um , right this is a member member , roobert just is entitled to baklava you . So if he wins , we let him go , if we , if I win , we don't . Now what , nate ? We get a shot in the air . Nate , holy fuck , we get a shot of wane Nate wishes .

Oh , my god yeah um , we get a shot of wane and he's very calm . He's looking at the knife . And what does he say , boss , what are we playing guys ? Yeah , he's almost , it is almost exhausted . He's like I'm in a rush to go get del . And now these like inbred , like like degenerate , possibly psycho , you know , you know , like want to be killer .

Bullshit is in my way . He's just like Like I don't think he seems fearful , but no , he's on alert . He's like on like okay , how , yeah , he has to , I think he's more From .

Speaker 1

From what I read in this scene , he is more endangered , endangered by their stupidity than their violence . Like part of his like calm seems to be like let me not make this dude nervous and the gun goes off Like I don't think he actually , they haven't in them to do the shit .

They're talking , but they're just dumb enough to fuck this up and I end up dead . That's , that's the vibe I get . So when he says , what are we playing guys ? I get the sense that he's like I don't , I am figuring out how I'm gonna get the fuck out of here .

So tell me about this thing so I can figure out if , if there's a hammer I can put in my pocket , like you know what I mean , like that he doesn't in the rest of his life , like he's gonna use whatever's around to fight . And I think he's just sort of figuring out . Is there anything about this game I can leverage to get the fuck out of here ?

Speaker 3

Yeah , that's really really smart . So so , kyrs , that's simple . You do what I do , but better and faster . You go home , you ready . My curry is getting cold . I love that line . Oh , it's so good .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I guess . Like that's how much I give a fuck about whether you live or die . Let's get this over with so I can go eat my curry .

Speaker 3

Eat curry .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 3

Put on some some fucking music . Lee fucking Murray turns on the competition by Stephen Argila . Thank you , boss , for looking that up . And boom she goes . One , two , three go . And then what is the game ? I know what I call it . What do you call this game , Either one of you from in your neck of the woods ? What is this ?

It's called different things in different places .

Speaker 2

I don't think we have a name for it . I just call it that knife from aliens .

Speaker 1

I mean , I got no , I have .

Speaker 3

No , yeah , I have no other .

Speaker 2

I know it , I know it is mumbly peg oh see , I was about to make a joke that I was going to that if I had to name it I would call it stabby knifey . And then you came up with whatever that mumbled the peg like mumbled yeah mumbled the peg .

Speaker 3

I only know that because , like kids at my , I went to told you I went to a very fancy boarding school . I didn't board , it was day student . But the boarding students were bored out of their fucking minds . I remember one day , coming in , they'd all been playing it . They all have cuts on their hands .

And I was like they're like , oh , you got to try this . And I was like , oh , yeah , no , definitely , like just , we'll do it after after school . And then I'm kidding because you're all stupid and I had cutting my hand , like in any , like I hate paper cuts , right , why would I willfully ever step ?

You know , you can see where they fucked up and cut the sides of their fingers and stuff . And I'm like , for what again , like I was like I don't know , it does not compute , but anyway I don't have enough .

Speaker 1

I'm sure I've shared this with you all before . I have been , in some ways in my life , a total risk taker . Like you know , I drove across the country in a car with three good wheels because , oh yeah , I'm going to take over Hollywood , Watch me now . But but this brand like , that brand of like hey , let's jump off some shit and see what happens .

Like I always am like when people bungee jumping , I'm like the fuck for the fuck , for I get that it does something for other people . But my reaction is always why the fuck would I do that ? Like ? And to me , this game is just that Like . I'm like why would I cut my hand to do ? But then what happens ?

Like what even happens if I'm the greatest whoever lived at this ? Nothing like this . No , it's literally all downside . Guys , what are we doing ?

Speaker 3

Yeah , I'm a terrible person to have in a friend group because I'd be like let's jump off this bridge trail , it's into the river or whatever . And I'm like , yeah , yeah , who wants to be like an urban myth ? Like I guarantee that water is two inches deep , let's not check it Right .

Right , like go ahead , but I'm not fucking jumping off a trellis in the middle of nowhere , like I'm not . Are you out of your fucking mind ? But whatever , yeah .

Knife Incident and Teenage Girl Hero

I never actually very , very , very good at this . I don't know how she got good , I don't know why she want to be good , but it was very fast . It looked to me like they sped up the film or technically slow down the film a little bit yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah . But it looked like that , but still impressive by the way .

Speaker 1

Just quickly a little film note , because coach just referenced it . It's counterintuitive , but especially when people used to shoot film , you speed up the film when you're filming to get slow motion Because you're getting more action per I mean , you know , shorter amount of action per frame and you do just the opposite to speed things up .

So you would actually slow down the film so that when you play it it's faster , and I used to have to just sort of sit for a second with that , before I made any decisions , because it's weird to me Yep , yep , totally .

Speaker 3

You used to also have to check the gate , see if there was anything .

Speaker 1

Check the gate .

Speaker 3

Right .

Speaker 1

Yeah , check the gate .

Speaker 3

Make sure nothing got in on the film itself . Check the gate .

Speaker 2

Are we clear ?

Speaker 3

Or else we got to , otherwise we got to do another take because the gate is not . Anyway , the whole different world now digitally , so okay , your turn . She hands him the knife , he lifts it up and is about to do something . That's way up , like wait , what ?

Speaker 1

That's not the game , dude I have to tell you , the minute that knife was handed over , I was like this motherfucker going to stab himself in the head . I don't know how , oh yeah .

Speaker 3

I don't know where that came from .

Speaker 1

But instantly I was like he knows , he doesn't know how to do that and I don't know what's going to happen next , but he's going to put I figured he was just going to do it to say I am fucking crazy . Basically , bring it on . I thought that's what he was going to . Like you think I'm afraid to cut my finger Look at how crazy I am .

But I immediately thought he is going to that moment when he lifts the knife . I was like he's going to stab himself in the goddamn head .

Speaker 3

He definitely looked at his hand while he's looked , but also he gave her such a withering look while she was so proudly doing her thing he was like what are you doing ? Like you do , this is something Right . You know what I mean . It's like the opposite of I have a hammer , yes , Like yeah .

Speaker 2

I did not pick up that he was going to stab himself , but I do see it a little bit of a him shooting the hostage .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , he is eliminating himself from the equation .

Speaker 2

Like you think you're going to kill me , I'm going to stab myself in the hand and then you're going to have to deal with that . So , like I am , you are no longer in charge of me being injured . I am in charge of me being injured .

Speaker 3

That's hard , because what are we established in the very first scene of the pilot episode about pain and Wayne ?

Speaker 1

He can take a fucking beating , he can stand up . I mean , he , he , he , you can , he will choose a beating if that's what he decides to do . So yeah , like , oh , I might nick my finger , is not a thing in Wayne's world at all Wayne's world , but at all . Right , yeah , you're sure .

Speaker 2

Like in the immortal words of roadhouse . What you're getting at is pain don't hurt , pain don't hurt pain don't hurt .

Speaker 3

That is a great movie . God , that hair was good . No , no , it's great and you watch it . It is no , no , it's horrendous .

Speaker 1

But it's like get him get him .

Speaker 2

I don't care where the other one is , it's a somebody one time tried to show me the room and they're like , oh , it's so bad , just watch it . I'm like , why would I do that with my time ? Like there are a few . There are very few and far between some terrible movies that I delight at , but most of the time I'm like , no , they did a bad job .

Speaker 3

No , no , no , no , no . This this is no . I don't think this is that , but anyway it doesn't matter . The best thing ever written , ever written about roadhouse was like the 20 year anniversary we had one of our writers .

Speaker 2

Yes .

Speaker 3

His name is Dustin Waters .

Speaker 2

Yes , that was amazing .

Speaker 3

And it's like the best thing ever written about roadhouse . Go to the antagonist search for roadhouse . It is like it is so well done , it's unbelievable . Okay , so he , he lifts up the knife and and he's looking at his own hand . And then what happens here , Coach , the door bursts open and who waltzes in ?

Speaker 1

Dell , total kick ass hero shot . Backlit a little bit of wind so we get some dust off the kicking in of the door and Dell walks in holding a chainsaw . And one of the things one of my children has schooled me on is how teenage girls specifically , are just dismissed in popular culture . Like anything they like is dumb .

They're very rarely like the hero of anything . And to have Dell walk in , but okay , I'll just ask the question how many times have either of you seen that brand of hero shot of a teenage girl ?

Speaker 2

Oh , none , that I'm thinking right . I mean like , even if I have you know .

Speaker 1

And so , yeah , I again sat up and was like , oh , here we go , Because she sees some shit and base one of the things about we talk about class . One thing about class I think plays out in this is like if you're with me , then you're with me .

Daffy laughs , you know , was laughing at me when we were watching that chimp empire I told you all about , because a few different times chimps went off on their own and I said , man , you got to stick with the click . We left together . We came here together . We mother fucking leave together . Like that , you know what are you doing .

Teenage Girl Defends Friend With Chainsaw

And to me I was like here's what Dell is about . Dell might think he's a fucking idiot , they might think he's wearing a stupid jacket , but that's my mother , fucking friend . And what's not going to happen is y'all are not going to fuck up my friend , Like that's just not going to happen .

Shit , I might beat his ass five minutes after we leave here , but what's not going to happen is you are not just going to fuck my friend . And so I was like , oh , she's for real .

Speaker 3

It is so well done . She kicks the wooden door in , comes in fully backlit hero shot . Then she's got a chainsaw . We then pivot to the weirdest shot you'll ever see , but it totally works .

The camera somehow magically behind her in the doorway and zooms into the shark on the back of Wayne's jacket that she made fun of that now she is wearing and there's like no , it's like it's just for , like , trying to defend this , like in a film school format . People be like what are you doing ?

That's like you cannot do that , but it works so well for some reason . He's like OK , like go ahead .

Speaker 1

Coach , but they are one at that moment , like everything I was just saying about the vibe and the class and the whatever they said with this shot .

Speaker 3

Like and look at the shot . The shot is a shark backlit about to fuck some shit up with a mouthful of teeth right . And then you look at and you look at , and that's that's what Della is right now .

Speaker 1

Yeah , no , it's got a mouthful of teeth .

Speaker 3

The teeth are on the on the chainsaw .

Speaker 1

But and it's also such a twist on a teenage love thing , right Like I remember giving some jacket to this girl , or blah , blah , blah that girl or this one's wearing that one . You know , I remember a girl wearing my varsity jacket was like that's a big fucking deal . But in this context with these two , this is their very specific expression of that dynamic .

Speaker 3

Yeah , and it's turned on its on its ear because it's not somebody white nighting , he's not a guy coming to save the girl , it's just her kicking all the ass . And it's like what the hell is this shit ? Kira is stunned and there's this nice little beat , like she ignores Kira , della ignores Kira , and she looks at Wayne and what does she say , boss , hey .

And he says hey , back . He's still got the knife in the air , but he's got a real like smile on his face , like right , delicious . And it's just hey , hey . And they smile at each other and now you got Lee fucking Murray saying what , boss , oh great , now we're going to have to kill her too . Oh no , sorry , I'm sorry , that was Kira that said that .

And then Lee fucking Murray says this this is such a , such a misogynistic , terrible line .

Speaker 1

Yes .

Speaker 3

Yes . And he says we're going to have to kill her too . She your friend . And then what does Lee Murray say here , coach ?

Speaker 1

Little girl come to big boy play huh . So he , as much as Lee fucking Murray is who he is to me in this moment , saying that line , he is society too . Like everything I was just saying about teenage girls not being taken seriously or why we treat , you know , boy bands like there's such a fucking joke as if every other group isn't in its own way .

A goddamn joke Like all that came out in this line to me . Because she's standing there with something of a weapon .

I understand you're the one with a gun , but the idea that you don't even know how to start that , come on , you don't even know how to start that thing Like that , that is right , right , right , the fucking nerve of you , and yeah , and then we get a great moment behind that and what is that Now ?

Speaker 3

watch it , walk us through . We do it in in in breaking all the rules . Yeah , in scene flashback time cut .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 3

You don't even know how to start that thing and Kira laughs and we got a shot of Dell where you go . It looks like this you might be a doubt on her face and then and walk us through this coach ?

Speaker 1

I can see my goddamn breath in here . Can we put on a fire ? She says , walk again to their lovely abode , and then um yeah , with her dad , and it says two months ago .

Speaker 3

There's a pop up that says two months ago , yes , right , yes . And she runs it and walks in like in a sweatshirt to talk to her dad , right .

Speaker 1

And and he says why don't you learn how to cut wood and stop fucking nagging me ? And he does some , he , he does a dust off the shoulder thing , but he's holding his , his , uh , pointer and thumb together . I don't know what that symbolizes , but given who he is , I am sure that that represents a hole on someone's body .

Now , I'm not sure all that goes into this , but I promise you that is not my mistake . He is . It has a meaning . I don't know . You know if it's like stop fucking with me you , you know ugly term for woman , or why don't you stop nagging me ? You can kiss my ass . I don't know what it means , but I promise you it means something .

That that's how he held his hand . As he said it which , by the way , is also a fascinating way to respond to your child saying that it is so cold in the house that they can see their breath Like . This is Mr Protective who's got to find his daughter . And his response was why don't you learn how to cut wood and stop fucking nagging me ?

Why don't you teach her how to cut wood ? You're her fucking father . What does that ? What do you mean ? Learn Like where she's supposed to learn it the fucking wood cutting class in school , like he's just horrible and so . But the beauty of it is then we go , we follow her .

We see that she decides yeah well , I'll do just fucking that , which I love , that she doesn't go crying a corner about it . And we see her absolutely learn how to do it .

And then we cut back to her in this space and she boom drops , holds on to the cord that you used to start it and lets the and allows the chain saw to drop and come back up to her like a fucking yo-yo . It is as bad as anything I've seen with chainsaw in my life . And then he says motor starts , she's ready to rock .

And then she says now I'm going to cut your dick off . And I thought , oh my God , I am just . Wow . Can I adopt this kid ? Can I just ? Are you kidding me with this fucking girl ? She's great , she is phenomenal .

Speaker 3

Now , I'm going to cut your dick off . Who do you think ?

Speaker 1

you're talking to . I don't know how to start this thing . Not only do I know how to start it , I know how to use it , and now I'm going to cut your dick off . I love it .

Speaker 3

Yep .

Speaker 1

Yep .

Speaker 2

So there are two things about this scene , specifically . Number one it reminded me a lot of Linda Hamilton as Sarah Connor in Terminator 2 . I promised you I was going to talk about it again . I heard this story . It could be apocryphal .

I'm not entirely sure , but James Cameron , the director , and Linda Hamilton were in a romantic relationship when they were filming Terminator 2 .

Speaker 3

They later got married .

Speaker 2

I'm not sure exactly , but they were together so they were together and Linda Hamilton rightly pointed out in one of the later scenes when she's supposed to be reloading a what's that called a pump shotgun . It's like you slide it down and then the shot goes in .

She points out to James Cameron , her partner and the director I just got stabbed through the shoulder . There's absolutely no way that I could do this . And he's like it's not that kind of movie , it doesn't matter . Like it doesn't matter if you shoot it . Nobody's paying attention to it that way . She's like I'm paying attention to it this way .

I got stabbed through the shoulder . My character gets stabbed through the shoulder . I am not holding up a gun and able to pump it this way . Like it's never going to work . He says honestly , this is not this big of a deal . She's like let me give me one shot , let me take one shot .

If it doesn't work , we don't have to do it , but give me one shot . And what she does is grabs the pump , the slide and shoots it to that good gun down . Like it's hard as you can I remember that moment ?

Speaker 1

Oh my God , oh my fucking .

Speaker 3

God , that's an iconic moment . It's an iconic moment .

Speaker 2

Badass thing that has ever happened . She throws the gun down , it reloads and then she swings it back up to her bad hand so she can hold the hand up a little bit and shoots and does it five times , over and over and over again .

I cannot prove that Linda Hamilton is actually the one responsible for that , but I choose to believe it because it's one of the greatest things that I've ever seen in my entire life .

Speaker 3

That's awesome , and so this and people will copy that it's a pump action shotgun . The whole reason you do that is so you can expel the cartridge and load another shell into the chamber , and you have to do it If it's a pump action . You literally that's how you advance it .

Speaker 2

It's how you do it .

Speaker 3

Yes , the next one . So it's sort of a but people have now spoofed it many , many times in many ways . But yeah , it's an iconic moment . And then go ahead , keep going , buster .

Speaker 2

So it was so fucking good . Also , god damn Linda Hamilton in that entire fucking movie . Good Lord she I had , as I've mentioned before , had probably already seen Terminator before Terminator 2 came out . I was too little for it . It doesn't matter . So like the change in Linda Hamilton , oh my God . Okay .

Childhood Abuse's Effects on Skills

But more to the point of this show , in addition to that being extremely badass Castle , one of the things that you have said before is how would she know this ? Where would she learn it ? Who would teach her ? And at the time I thought like , yeah , I get what he's saying , but something felt not exactly right about that .

I need there to be no confusion that children who suffer abuse are extremely savvy in their abuse , and by that I mean they do know that something isn't right , like even if it's not , that they live in this world where they are unaware of other people .

They know about TV shows and sometimes they have friends and they will not invite their friends over to their house because their house dynamic is sad and scary . But when they go to your house , they know how that works , they know what family dynamics are supposed to look like .

And so , having her do this , her dad says I don't care if it's freezing in here , I'm not going to take care of you , you go take care of yourself , you go learn how to do it .

And then she does , and so I just I want to make very clear that children who have dealt with abuse , even when they get older , are often extremely skilled in learning how to do these things .

Yeah , Sorry , I didn't want to cough , and so I'm sure that there's a shit ton of things that Del has picked up because she's had to , and that she has skills that we wouldn't imagine that she would because of the abuse . It doesn't make it good , it just means that there are ways that she has used that to her advantage .

Speaker 1

Yeah , and I'll say that that may be part of you know , I was just sort of speaking about myself , which obviously we never do here , but I have a very strong like protector thing . I get going and when I yeah right , and when I see this , when I get that vibe from people , it makes me want to look out for them .

Like one of the things I've said in my life is like I've I've been doing this for a long time , I have a lot of friends and I don't expect people to look out for me . You know like to take care of me . Like I've had to learn how to , whatever .

But there are a few friends , like that story I told on the on our on our last , our last last episode about my friend who you know the guy pushed me on the basketball court anyway , and it means so much to me because people rarely think to protect me . You know what I mean .

Like if you're Dell , it's , it's you just rarely have anybody look out for you or or care how you like , not even care how you're doing , but invest in how you're doing and so yeah , for sure .

Speaker 3

I think that , that , that , that that who's the person that's looked out for her most , maybe like a nice teacher that tried to connect with her that she pushed away . Like what are we talking about , right , she doesn't have any that they never see , I don't know . Like who's you ? Go ahead , go ahead , boss .

Speaker 2

Well , I'm actually going to push back on that idea of the the teacher that she wasn't invested in One of the things it . Children with abusive parents are extremely good at getting adults who might be able to help them to help them , but in ways that doesn't actually let them know how bad things are .

Speaker 3

Like um , I well , you talk as if you know . It's really fresh and for me to have you talk like an authority when all your stepdad did was steal your clarinet to buy a heroin . Oh , oh , oh , oh , no , no no no , none of this is a personal experience .

Speaker 2

This is just my professional as an accountant , I need to become really familiar with the aspects of childhood abuse . But well what ? Um ? There is a scene in shameless where lipgallagher finally having gotten into college and theoretically escaping the poverty and abuse of his own neighborhood .

Uh , somehow financial aid gets fixed fucked up and the financial aid officer is like we kind of can't let you come back to school . He's counting out dollars 3750 , 371 , some two counting out the dollars to pay his tuition .

Speaker 3

I died . I died with every flip of the . I remember watching that being like , like my heart was stopping as he was counting singles or whatever . I'm like oh my it's , it's , yeah . Anyway , keep going , yes .

Speaker 2

Uh , and so the the financial aid officer is like well , you have these options , you could take a semester off , you could come back , blah , blah , blah . And the speech he gives is fucking amazing . If you have watched the bear and if you love Karmie and his speech , please go find this . I will post this again . It's so fucking amazing .

Jeremy Ellen White is great at this specific thing and the speech is amazing . I don't want to downplay that . But there's a minute , like a split second , just a little like flash across his face , where he realizes the financial aid officer is going to try to give him some bullshit .

That you tell rich kids when they have a lot of options and this is not what he is here for . He cannot do that and so he needs to come clean to the financial aid officer and let him know how fucking bad things are at home , Like he he's going to need to let him peek behind this so that the financial aid officer understands what's going on .

And it sucks to have to do that Like . You need to walk this very thin line between you . Let them know that there is something amiss , but you don't tell them so much that they are scared away by the creepiness of your household .

And so I think that I think that the reason that Dell reacted to Tracy the way she did when they first met was not because Dell instinctively will push everybody away . I think that she read that Tracy was not coming at her with the right intentions . She picked up on that . In this case it wasn't danger , but in some times it can be .

When she picked up on that little bit that was off , she pushed that away . I don't know if Dell would do that with everyone . I think that if she could find somebody who would be willing to help her , if there was an aunt or neighbor or teacher , I think that she would use that . I think that that just hasn't been her experience yet .

Speaker 3

Yeah , no , you might be right and talk about protecting Right in this moment , I'm going to cut your dick off , but she still is eight full paces away from a guy with a shotgun and there's some math to do there . It doesn't matter how brave you are .

That's a ranged fight , a ranged weapon versus melee weapon , and so Wayne is mindful of that and he goes wait , I didn't get my turn Right . He's going to go and provide a distraction using his superpower . Tiro's like what ? And what does he do , coach ? He's true to your prediction .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah , he stabs himself in the hand and when it happened I thought didn't see it happening like that . I did actually see it happening like that and so it was like there was a gratifying piece , but I liked that it was . It's not White Knight , but it was heroic .

Like he's like , oh shit , like I've been in enough tangles to know that I appreciate you coming in here , but you are in real danger of dying right now and it's super heroic of him to do this as a distraction .

Speaker 3

Yeah , no , it is really . And also , this is the I'm not going to say this is the beginning of teamwork for them , but it is like you start to become aware . There was one time we recorded an episode where I was talking about how bad it was when men talk over women and they don't let women talk , and I said , boss , what do you think of that ?

With the full expectation that as soon as she started talking , I would immediately talk over her . And she knew it , and she started talking and it was like the one of the first times where I was like , well , not one of the first times , but it was like , okay , this is teamwork , you know she'd see the signals coming and she knows .

You know , exactly where the goal . Yeah , and you go with this . I just said Lee , fucking Murray , he's got a , got a ranged weapon and and Dell's got a melee weapon . Guess what happens to a chainsaw when you hook it it becomes a ranged weapon .

So as soon as everyone's distracted through the air , the gun is gun is turned towards Wayne and Dell hooks the , the chainsaw at him and over and lands and cuts through his foot and the shock he backs up , shotgun goes off , blows apart the lava lamp , spraying Kira with the , the , the , the goo that's in there , the hot , hot goo .

Speaker 2

It's called a lava lamp . Just call it the lava .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I had that thought , but I was like , maybe I'm not up on the , you know the lava lamp .

Speaker 3

It's pretty much . It's like it's like , seriously , it's like a . The lava part , I think , is like . It's funny when you find out what's in the lava lamp , which I looked up once upon a time . It's not anywhere near as exciting . It's like oil , like oil , and you know , the lava part is , like you know , super .

So it was like something so boring , but anyway it's hot and it's on her face . She doesn't necessarily know that it's not the glass from the thing that shattered and she's . You know . Lee is screaming you fucking cocksucker . And while he's injured , of course Wayne jumps into the fray . He still tied the chair .

So he backs Lee into a corner head , butts him backwards to knock him out and pulls the wrapping off so that he get the chair away from himself .

Wayne and Dell Face Danger Significance

By that time Kira's recovered , she picks up the shotgun and she aims it at Wayne and Dell .

Speaker 1

Wait before we say the , the , the and part . Dell comes over next to Wayne and Wayne and Wayne eases her behind him and I think that's significant , I think what each of them chose to do . She came to stand next to him All right , we're together in this . And he said if you're going to get to her , it's going to be through me . And I didn't .

And it wasn't white night and it wasn't , you know , chivalrous , it was . She's with me , I care about her and if you , if you , if you're going to shoot her , it's gone , because you shot me first . And I thought that was really yeah , I thought that was , I thought that was really an important moment in all this . I mean she does .

I mean she tells her to go over there with the gun , but she does stand next to him . Dell doesn't run behind Wayne .

Speaker 3

Right , yes , Absolutely right . And you know , Wayne knows , he knows he can take a shot . He's taken one already today . So the likelihood of him surviving , to his mind , I mean Dell is like what ? 80 pounds of ring and what you know , like she's a little peanut .

And so , Wayne , it looks very serious in this moment because we're talking about the stupidity on display and how he was navigating , that , Just like you said , he's not worried about the violence , he's worried about the stupidity . And he says don't , because he can see that she is amped up . You know , Lee is gone . She's got a weapon .

She doesn't know how to control herself . She was the one advocating murder in the first place , right . Yeah , he says don't . And she says I have to , though don't I Like , because she doesn't know . But she is dumber in the bag of hammers and so right , I have to , though don't I imagine . This mentality is so terrifying to me . And and Wayne says what ?

Speaker 1

No , you don't .

Speaker 3

No , you don't Like . This is as like soft spoken as you hear it . It's really interesting .

Speaker 1

Totally . You know it's interesting . I'm glad you stopped us on that because it feels like you're right . Totally it's different . And I think in part it's different because he sees he's known the whole time , like she's just seen some Tarantino movies or some shit . He's not what she's pretending to be with this fucking goofy knife game and all this bullshit .

Right , like he's thinking like how do I get out of this den of idiots ?

Speaker 3

And I think , when he says she's play acting , yeah , yeah , and I think when he looked at her .

Speaker 1

Yeah , he's like you're scared and I know that you think you have to make this next move . I am . I am understanding how you feel . He's actually showing empathy actually and he's like I know you're scared , don't do this crazy thing because you're scared . It's okay . This part is okay .

Speaker 2

Yes , everything you just said , and I loved all that .

But what I also loved about it is now the confirmation that every violent thing Wayne himself has done before he knew he needed to absolutely do he like took a look at the entire playing of a field of play when what's his face was beating up his buddy in the hallway and he was like , well , I need to grab that trumpet .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

Smash him .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

His face Like .

Speaker 3

I do need to do this .

Speaker 2

And the intention there . The intentionality , specifically like the fact that Wayne has gained out all of these different circumstances and decided this is how I need to act makes me like him so much more than I did before , and I didn't think that was possible .

Speaker 1

You know , I love that . You just said that and the calculations that he does in almost every situation we've seen him in , it really is , it's beyond like impressive . Now I'm like going back through and looking at him through that lens and he does the math on shit really fast and he makes super interesting choices .

I mentioned my cousin CJ earlier and he said it was a whole conversation we were having about , you know , apologies and regrets or whatever . And he said look , I know what I did and I know why I did it because I was there .

And his point is this may not have been like the admirable thing or the not admirable thing , but the math in that moment added up to this choice . And I can walk you through my math , no matter how either of us feels about the choice I made .

Now , and I think this is that where it's like Wayne's really sharp on that front , Because I didn't even to see a trumpet is not , he didn't see a gun , but he saw a trumpet and he was like I can use the trumpet , just like later I'm going to use the bike lock right , Like he just whatever is around , he's that scrappy .

Speaker 2

I need that aluminum bat .

Speaker 1

Yes .

Speaker 2

And I think that that's really important . Part of the reason why it feels so authentic is that there are a lot of times where if you heard a story about a kid in one of your children's high schools who would smash somebody else in the face with a trumpet , you would have thought oh well , he's out of his mind , he has no idea what he's doing .

Like that's a crazy person that has no idea . And so the show telling us , showing us repeatedly that that is not the case , he's not out of control , he's not unaware , he has a skill set that most people don't have , because his father taught it to him . His father gave him as much of a code as he could and his code says you do this shit .

So , even though it's violent in a way that we aren't expecting , it has reason and a method to it , and I love that .

They show us somebody in a less privileged position having that and using what he learned in that position in other ways , like we are seeing the fact that being abused , being neglected , not having as great of a life isn't good , but it doesn't mean that you are devoid of skills . It means that you have different skills .

Speaker 3

Yeah , I'm taking a second to think about all of that . I think , yeah , no , this is what gets us right here , boss . You get to this moment and he says you know , you don't , tecira . And she aims , like we see her raise the sights to her eye and they're not getting out of this , like there's just no way to get out of it .

And then , in the same way , Coach talks about , like , oh , the bearing the lead in plain sight , or sort of bearing the answer in plain sight . What actually gets them out of this ? What is the moment that happens here to save Wayne and Dell ?

Speaker 2

Northside bitch that would be Tracy running into the shed and slamming Kira in the back so that she falls over the table Like kicking her .

Speaker 3

Kicking her . Yeah , which , like I'm like this is hysterical because I don't think that would knock her out , but it does and you go . Ok , I'll take it Like Northside .

Speaker 1

I mean we got flying in chainsaws . I'm like what does ?

Speaker 3

it say that in the moment where Tracy has to rise to the occasion , that's a high school yell , right Isn't that her yelling , or like a neighborhood yell or something Like yeah , I assumed it was a neighborhood .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I assumed it was neighborhood . So , yes , and I totally noticed that and in terms of class , I thought that was absolute perfection . My nephew is years ago , so he's a skinny little kid and we take him to the beach and some big waves here and he's enjoying the LA beach and this humongous wave is coming in .

I mean it's just going to right and he stands and he faces it and he flexes .

Speaker 3

And he goes flat push , and that's the best . Yeah , I was like oh my god , I've written about it .

Speaker 1

I can actually , I will find that .

Speaker 3

I've read that . I know I've heard that before .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , and he , and it was amazing . And I'm telling you there have been times in my life where , whatever it was , I have yelled my first time on a zipline . I yell flatwish .

Speaker 3

Like I'm just like it's like your identity . You're yelling .

Speaker 1

What is it ? I am like no matter what you're about to put in front of me , I can rise above it because I survived that place .

Speaker 3

Right , right , right . We've talked about this before . Actually , season one , we talked about this , yeah , on Ted Lasso , season one , we talked about people that make it like the concept of making it out .

Speaker 1

Yeah , and I think whatever North Side means I assume it was a neighborhood , maybe it's a high school , whatever I promise you it is the kind of place people make it out of , because it's a declaration of like , listen , if I could make it out of North Side Detroit , whatever it is that gets said next Flatbush , roxbury , whatever it is if I could make it out

of that , whatever it is you're about to do , or say , buddy , let me tell you it's nothing to me and yeah . So anyway , when she yelled North Side for the kick was awesome .

Speaker 3

And do you think she spent even one nanosecond planning to ?

Speaker 1

know North .

Speaker 3

Side no , no , no , no , no Right , it just comes out right , yeah , it's like in that moment it is yeah , it's like you're subconscious and it's like a battle cry .

Speaker 1

That's exactly what it is . I mean , think about the yeah , think about my nephew . Literally , he's like holy crap , that is a humongous wall of ocean water I'm going to have to take on . And what did he say in that moment ? Flatbush .

Speaker 3

It's interesting . Is it an identifier ? Is it a like , a rallying cry ? Is it like oh , I'm going to channel the power of Flatbush , or is it ? This is how Flatbush handles adversity , or you know what ?

Speaker 1

I mean , like , I think it's a combination of those , although it's an interesting distinction . But yeah , I think it's a combination of those .

Speaker 3

Ah , it's so interesting .

Speaker 1

I love that .

Speaker 3

Yeah , right , and you're right about . Look it , boss , made it out of the rough and tumble streets of Aurora Illinois . And now she goes to fests all the time . Wine fest jerk fest , whatever the ones I'm sure that they do have a jerk fest .

Speaker 2

We have a large Jamaican community . We have a large of everything community and also like so yeah , so you make it out of places , I think . Also , just to be extremely clear , I grew up . I spent the later half of my time in Aurora in a neighborhood called Garfield Park , and it is it's not bougie , but it's like a lot of old houses . It's fancy .

Nobody would roll past my mom's house right now and be like whoa , look at the rough and tumble streets .

Speaker 1

We got around here Right .

Speaker 2

But I do , I connect , I identify with that , especially growing up next door to Naperville . There's a lot of people that are like whoa well , I'm sorry you're going through Presbury Aurora , no , no , no , lock your doors . And I'm like you bitches .

Speaker 1

Oh , wow , you know nothing , nothing , absolutely nothing .

Speaker 3

I especially love when Tracy owns her age , which she adds , that which is just 40 , and then adds one to it . This is Janet Porter , who's the actor that plays Tracy , and she just that one little addition . It was like there's so much pain and resignation and but like courage to like say I'm not going to lie , like you know it's , I'm not 40 41 .

Speaker 1

Well , also it's , I'm not going to lie . But also there is a point when you're a kid , I mean you're down to the like and a half and three maybe , like you know . You know I'm seven , but I'm going to be eight next month , like I got it , you know , and right .

And there really is a point where there have been times that I've had to pause and figure out how old I was . But I know I'm 51 . Right , I get something like this .

So I took it also as that is , like she has officially hit the numbers where , like , she turned 40 and she was like , well , I mean , there's no , there's no three quarters anymore , we're done with three quarters .

Speaker 3

Yeah , and we've discussed this on on on past episodes . For sure we're talking about , you know , women of a certain age and how and the label society puts on you and like the pressures at different in different decades of of a woman's life and we talked about in America , but you know this is also in the UK and elsewhere .

But yeah , I'm the I'm most qualified to speak of it . On this , podcast bosses like typing . Boss doesn't look , she's typing .

Speaker 2

I was looking up a couple of different things and no , no , no , no , I give a little bit of a shit . Come on , it's you two . How could I not ?

Speaker 3

Obviously , I'm going to care a little bit , a very little . Yes , thank you , boss .

Speaker 2

I always try and no , no , no , no . This idea of it's . It's so funny . We , the three of us , literally had a conversation earlier before taping , and one of the things I mentioned is society .

So often , like we have mentioned before in when Harry Met Sally , when my grind cries about how she's going to be 40 someday , and then I don't know , for me as a woman , when I hit my 40s , I was like shit , it's fucking awesome . This is great .

Speaker 3

I can pay for things like that might have been a big help .

Speaker 2

But , like you , think that there is something terrible about people not paying attention to you and then you get to an age where you don't give a shit anymore and nobody else is giving a shit what you do , which should hurt , but it doesn't , because you're like fucking great , I'm going to , I am going to go sleep in that tent in the backyard of an

acquaintance of mine so that I could attend wine fest , and that's what I'm doing this weekend , and not this weekend , obviously . But , like you , just everybody stops paying attention and you get to stop caring what people think , and it's fucking . Walking around and not being self conscious is one of the best things in the world .

So , yes , don't be afraid of turning 40 . It's fucking amazing .

Speaker 3

But I remember when

Humor, Self-Expression, Personal Growth

I was . I'm not a big Larry David fan , mm-mm .

Speaker 1

Not that I don't really .

Speaker 3

I'm not because I dislike him or anything . That that's a humor rubbed me the wrong . It like frustrates me more than I . Like you know . Certain sometimes the humor are great and whatever .

Like you know , they like cringe humor or things that give me physical pain while I watch it I go , oh my God , it just does something to me , but usually not the way they want . Like you know , like I'm not , it's the type of humor that doesn't doesn't really work for me as well .

So , while I can recognize his skill and talent and whatever , I don't , I don't spend a lot of time watching the guy . But there was one tiny clip of the Larry David show , I think , one time I watched and he was on the beach , I think , and he was wearing a stupid ass hat and he looked stupid .

He had , he looked stupid , he has all kinds of stupid shit on and his buddy is like what are you wearing ? He's like I'm married and wear whatever I want . And I was like yes , oh , I was like , oh , because the purpose of clothing by and large is to , is to condition someone else's response .

It's not for you often , right , it's so that you can put on a like . I remember when we got this little ding in the side of our minivan . We have a minivan and it got sort of scratched up in this one thing . It was like , ok , we can pay our thousand dollar deductible and then you know whatever . And Julianne was like , who are we fixing that for ?

Like , who gives a shit , we're not going to sell this van , we're going to run it into the ground . It'll never have another owner . Who are we ? We're going to pay a thousand bucks . So the parents at the kids school where we drop off will will nod in unison politely at us , you know . And like like who ? Who is they're going to judge us ?

Fuck them , wow , not in those words .

Speaker 1

That's not natural . The messaging is there , yeah you share that with me interestingly , and that's not my feeling . Like if my car is dirty for too long , like I start feeling like OK , like let's not get off the rails here , like this is enough .

Speaker 3

Right , but that's for you . No , no , no , yeah , it is like yes it is . You live in Los Angeles and it is , so it's kind of , yeah , it's kind of a thing , it's a really hard place to have a banged up big yeah .

Speaker 1

You know , but I did . I have held off on some repairs because I had other ways . I wanted to spend that money and that story . You told me Juliana's wisdom , and I did go . You know , I'll just wait . I can wait some months . Take care of this thing , that is actually more important to me , and then I will double back and deal with this fucking car .

So thank you .

Speaker 3

I mean like I like scars and so I'm like why would I just like ? I don't know ? Like here , sometimes it's charming you go like oh , I remember hearing like Brad Pitt or something I'm maybe making the wrong connection .

It was like oh , he drives like a banged up like 1998 grand Cherokee or something and it's got all it's all dinged up and I'm like I kind of dig that , like I kind of like something about him , like there's , there's like or like Keanu Reeves maybe it was somebody where I was like oh , okay , yeah , like they've like leveled up to the point where they just

don't have to care anymore and I think that boss addresses this better than anybody . Which he's like it's just we spend so much of our . It's a hard world to live in . It may have been easier , maybe easier in the past for a lot of people , but like right now it I know as a parent it feels it's hard .

It just getting through the day is hard and the world seems like it keeps getting harder . And how ? What percentage of that hardship is like us worrying about what other people think . I'm like , oh my God , even as adults , you just go .

Speaker 1

I don't know , man . I mean I've got a ton of work on that . Coach knows I can stand in the middle . I've shared that before on here , with social anxiety and stuff . I could certainly 10 to 15 years ago , be standing in a party holding court .

People would think like , oh , he is living a life and on the inside is like speeding thoughts , all these voices , will you shut the fuck up ? No , don't shut the fuck up . This is the so-and-so is liking this . Okay , then I guess I should tell another story . Well , no , don't tell another story , shut the fuck up .

I'm like , oh my God , it would take so much work for me to like tamp all that down and just sort of like be at the party and all that . So , yes , hard , I think it . Yeah , it's hard in ways . Life is hard in ways I didn't expect personally and then I couldn't have fathomed worldwide .

But like personally , I just I don't know when I thought it would be . I mean , I think if you asked me , I was a kid and it pinned me down , it would be like somewhere between 35 and 40 . Like you've got it figured out and then you just sort of like , live the rest of your life , you raise your kids .

But you know what's what and there's some of that , there's some truth to that , you know . I heard a car turning the other day and I heard click , click , click , click , click , click , click and I was like that's a boot , you better go get that boot fixed .

Speaker 3

That's just right . That's just what your veteran you know what I mean Like that's just . I've been through some shit .

Speaker 1

But you know , it's not nearly as figured out as I imagined . Not even close , Not even close .

Speaker 3

I'm with you , coach , I'm still figuring it out and that's part of the reason we have this podcast is , to be honest about that , I always social media has done such a disservice to people in that it's given people the sort of license to pretend even more that they haven't figured out . Look at us , look at everything .

It's just a stylized version of their existence , you know , curated for everybody else's eyes . And sometimes you know , obviously there are certain exceptions , but in general I'm skeptical of people that have that think they haven't all figured out because I go . Hmm Well , no I mean like right .

Speaker 1

I mean , is there anything more intelligent than there ? Are a lot of questions to be asked here , Like whenever I hear somebody say that I go , oh , they might , they actually might be an expert . But also just sharing a story of some wonderful ex participants who were explaining to her an accountant how money works and you know , you just let her .

Every expert I know , expert in quotes , Every internet expert I know is an idiot . It's an absolute idiot . Like , not just like on this topic . They are not sharp people , but get them started on immunology and they will share their research .

Speaker 3

Yeah , oh , my God , yes , lest we cavitate and fall down to well of that , let us . Let's continue to back to Wayne , where now Tracy has come in , northside bitch knocked out Kira , kira and our boy , lee fucking Murray Murray yeah , lee fucking Murray are knocked out on the floor . And Wayne , we get this , this elevated shot of Wayne and Dell approaching Tracy .

Wayne kicks the shotgun away and what does Tracy say ? Like in this aftermath moment , like where the adrenaline's still pumping , you're not quite sure what to do , and it's like , oh , we're kind of a , are we a team ? Now , you know , like this kind of moment , I respect it . Tracy didn't have to put her ass on the line .

There's a gun in there , like you know what I mean .

Speaker 1

And she and she somehow she has a cold because she's from Northside . Bitch , she's with me , I'm gonna shoot her while I'm standing here .

Speaker 3

That's right , that's so .

Discussion on Relationships and TV Shows

Speaker 1

The same thing that brought her around that counter is the same thing that got that woman kicked in the back .

Speaker 3

Yeah , Right , yes , I am clapping . That is exactly right . Yes , you , there are lines and once you cross them , that's it . That is right . Good job , coach . Jesus Christ , that's great .

Yes , it's just kind of stunning that the absolute , the , the , the lack of respect between when , when and and and boss will say , oh yeah , tracy started it , but but , but , the thank you , tracy , like the , the horror show that said that to her in the morning is the she saved her ass at in the afternoon .

I just go , wow , that life is funny and yeah , it's just sort of an amazing moment . So Tracy says what here , boss ?

Speaker 2

So what do you guys want to do now ? Want to get high or something ? I I laugh as a 40 , as a 41 year old woman don't get high with teenagers , that's . Don't do that , yeah .

Speaker 1

That didn't seem like yeah , that's not by the book Like a smart thing .

Speaker 2

There is a part that I absolutely understand from her character , like she is sort of arrested in her development in high school . She talks about how she has new boyfriends and new jobs and you know I understand where she's coming from with that .

But also it's like , oh , don't do what she does , cause there has never been a teenager alive cool enough that I'd be like , yes , I would like to get high with you right now as a middle aged woman . Like , I'm sorry , teenagers , this is not against you , it's just developmentally inappropriate .

Speaker 1

That's really funny , I love it . Now I'm sitting here like I love it yeah .

Speaker 3

I know some cool teenagers Um , not that cool boss says just shaking your head no , no , hard line . Now I will pause it . The next scene we get uh , what we ? We don't get a response to whether or not they're going to get high . We just go back to the woods and Wayne has a gas candy , is filling up the button . I will , I will , here's a , here's a .

Uh , a suggestion .

I suggest that the bike is an allegory for their relationship and so as they travel on the bike , which is like a it's a smaller bike , it's like , you know , kind of banged up , but like it can go , but it doesn't have all the bells and whistles , like sort of like you know , you have the sense , like it's it can do the job , but it's a little challenged .

And as Wayne is doing this , dale walks up behind . She kind of glances at him because she knows like , okay , if I get back on this bike , meaning the relationship is going to continue , we're going to be in this together . I have to have a conversation with him . She knows she has to do it .

Speaker 1

She knows , okay , and this is what I talk about when I talk about shared agreements .

Speaker 3

This is the beginning of shared agreements for them , she says , as he's putting the gas in the thing . What does she say here , boss ? What is the like ? Wayne isn't , you know , notoriously laconic in his speech pattern . He doesn't talk a lot , but what does what does Dale say here to him ?

Speaker 2

This is how it's going to go . We're going to be friends first . I'm not like breaking up or anything , we're just going to take things slower and then we'll see .

Speaker 3

Okay , okay , okay , okay , okay , right , like go ahead , coach yeah .

Speaker 1

Yeah , no , no , no , I loved . I mean maybe I was supposed to assume something that I didn't , but I don't get the sense that they've done anything physically beyond that kiss on the cheek or that we saw or whatever . And I love that she's . I mean she talks to me , she talks about taking things slower . That it makes perfect sense .

But in almost every context where I've heard that that way , it's meant physical , or at least in part physically .

Speaker 3

Yeah .

Speaker 1

And I just really I enjoyed it . Like this is a real emotional relationship , like it's not even like they're like , oh , we're waiting . Like it's just like they are moving and having their relationship and that hasn't come up yet . But when she says let's take it slower , it seemed to me like , yeah , I get exactly what she means . We met .

We met two days ago and I'm not sure that I'm ready to just say I'm your girlfriend , but we have just saved each other's lives . You're the best thing that's happened to me in a while . So , all right , I'll be a little vulnerable to see where this goes .

Speaker 2

One of the things that I really liked about the way that she said that was it's not like I'm breaking up with you . This is going to sound sort of random and I shouldn't really be saying it out loud until I fully formed the thought , but I just started watching Dr who .

I only jumped in on the David Tennant seasons because , to be perfectly honest , he wears glasses and he's coming back in November as the doctor again . He's extremely attractive and I would like to know what's going on so I could be caught up on that .

Speaker 3

And he's always good . He's a goddamn beaut , he's great . It's almost like I cannot think of a thing , even shows I didn't like , with David Tennant on it , but goddamn , he's always good , he's amazing .

Speaker 2

I love everything about him . He is a big trans supporter . He seems like a good fucking guy . I really like him a lot . He also seems like a little bit of an asshole in a way that I would like . I'm a big , big fan . I really like him Anyway .

So the first companion that David Tennant has is Rose Tyler and she has a relationship with this guy , mickey , and it's I don't know if it's British or if it's something else , but like he is her boyfriend and then they kind of break up but then they still see each other , like they still have a relationship , even when they're not officially boyfriend , girlfriend

or whatever it is . When she is like literally traveling the universe with another man , she sort of has this relationship with Mickey that's hard to qualify exactly .

Like it's not just friends but they're not dating , like it's an in between , and I was trying to figure out if there was a good word for that , because like Del gave him a kiss on the cheek and then they ran away together but they didn't make out .

We haven't seen them be physically romantic with each other , but they are in this relationship , so like there should be a word for that . Like it's I feel like our language is really limited in a lot of ways , especially when it comes to relationships , especially between men and women .

Like we invented this phrase , friends with benefits because the idea that you might be physically attracted to a friend but not necessarily want to be in a full blown relationship with them , it seems foreign to us . Like these are the kinds of things that they're not exactly friends but they're not exactly dating . So what the fuck are they ?

And the internet , when I type that in , doesn't give me any good information . It just makes me be rude to coach Bishop , which is my least favorite thing .

Speaker 3

Yeah , well , it's pretty high on my list , so I enjoyed it .

Speaker 2

That's your favorite thing .

Speaker 3

Yeah , I love when anyone's rich coach Bishop . He deserves it . He's a rotten guy . I think we've like , how many , how many thousands of hours of this podcast has he established ? Like he's just , he's just kind of a jerk . No two ways about it .

Speaker 2

No , I get that , have you seen ?

Speaker 3

have you seen staged ? By the way , the show staged the David Tennant and Michael Sheen . It was like they made it during the pandemic .

Speaker 2

No , there's actually a lot of stuff that I put down because there was also was it ? Sharon Horgan and James McVoy did a pandemic movie too that I still need to see . I can't remember the name of it right now , but I'll need to look into that .

There's a lot of stuff that during pandemic I was trying to track down and I either couldn't get it through whatever streaming service or whatever , but staged , I will check into . I will put that on my list .

Speaker 3

Yeah .

Speaker 2

I love them together .

Speaker 3

Oh my God , they're so it's so amazing I can't , like I can , I could gush for like just how they capture what it is to be an actor , the like , the self sort of importance and how they poke fun at each other when they're doing the same thing . I mean it is like is stunning and the level of talent to convey that like .

There was a movie with Tom Hardy and a lot of people don't like Tom Hardy , but there's a movie where he was on the phone driving in his car . I can't remember the name of it right now . I got to think about it . The whole movie was him driving in his car . That's it . That was a whole movie and it was fucking great .

I was like , oh my God , you know how good you have to me to keep me injured . Like it's literally just him talking to people on the phone in his car , then like ramping up the tension . I'm like , wow , like dear God , that's a hard role to have . You know what I mean . Like how do you do that ?

So these guys are doing these literally Zoom calls in a time where everybody hated Zoom calls and it still was like absolutely phenomenal . So I highly recommend that In this speech with Wayne Dell says okay , we're going to take it slow Now .

Rejection, Crackhead Jokes, and Police Drama

Boys , we don't want to talk about this , but boys are not trained to be sent . They don't know how to take this type . This is a rejection .

It could be very , very easily perceived as a rejection and something in her is attuned to that , so that she ends up we've talked about it on the show and I talk about it all the time which is you never want to blame and shame . If you can help , you can help it , like most of the time , 99% of the time , you can help .

So blaming and shaming doesn't work . It just doesn't work . And so if he had that sense , this may have been a tough moment . But she says all that . She says you know , this is how it's going to be . We're going to be friends first . I'm not like breaking up or where's it taking things slower , and then we'll see .

And then , without looking up , she's got her eyes down . She says I'm weird , we fucked up . So this is like , this is me right . I'm like oh God . And then it invites him to come into the boat again . And so , and what does he say , coach , in response to that ?

Speaker 1

I stabbed a knife through my own hand .

Speaker 3

It's just like , like this moment that could have been diverged and ends up bringing them closer right . And he holds up his hand and , bloodied , he's looking at her . She like laughs , like laughs about the craziness of that right . And then , boss , what does she say in response to that ?

Speaker 2

I don't want to be a 41 year old single crackhead waitress with regrets .

Speaker 3

Right To which cave .

Speaker 2

No , we don't .

Speaker 3

Hold on . And then what does Wayne say ? Me neither , me neither .

Speaker 1

Yeah .

Speaker 2

Now I will say she was making some assumptions with the crackhead . We have no way of knowing for sure if Tracy is a crackhead or not , that this was her joke . But again , and she only said , get high . She didn't say does anybody want to ?

Speaker 1

go smoke some crack . Yeah , that's a pretty big joke , it's not , it's ?

Speaker 3

not . I would say like in the , in the lingo , it's just like a . It's like a , it's like a fill in for a druggy or something like that . You don't have to be a crackhead to be like a crack , you can be like . You know , someone could be just getting high every day , like at , like smoking weed , and be like look at this fucking crackhead Like .

You know what I mean . It's like a . I think that's how she was using it . But but yeah , she doesn't want to be a 41 year old waitress with regress . And he needed to see . And they have this moment . They look at each other , they smile and it's okay , right , the moment , the moment is good , it's not bad . How much farther do we have to go ?

I'm guessing I should look this up because I'm curious about the actual road trip . I wonder if anybody did the work to chart this . I'm sure the production team did . I'm guessing this is Rhode Island or Connecticut . I doubt they would have gotten as far as like New York or New Jersey on the on that first night .

You know , maybe , like they go four hour , I guess . I mean guess they could have driven through the night and made it as far as like Jersey . But going down the Eastern Seaboard I'm curious . I wonder where ? Where this ? You know what's Tracy's hometown , basically .

Speaker 1

I got a postcard . I will say that the bus at the bus station in the background of the scene we started on today . They're saying Albany , syracuse . There's such and such bus that stops in Albany , syracuse , what have you ? So I don't think they would have made it . They certainly didn't make it to Jersey .

I don't think you put that in the background as part of production . If you wanted to communicate today , made it to Jersey . You know what I'm saying .

Speaker 3

Right . So it's like upstate just just north of of New York city area , like over the border of Connecticut . That's what I'm thinking Like New York , ish , right , you know what they call upstate and is really down by the city , bergen County , exactly Like those . Like , yeah , somewhere around , yeah , well , I don't know around there that's Jersey .

But okay , so I got a postcard with the town we're going to , we'll buy a map and so , okay , he's got a plan , no worries , right . And so he's looking through his bag and Dell notices he's looking through his bag and he glances over at her like a little like shit , and she says tell me , you didn't fucking lose it . I mean , this is , it's so funny .

She looks away , she's like shit . And again , they don't , they're not going to waste a lot of time with it . Now , we , now we know we don't have to . We know what that thing looked like . We saw it . It was featured in the pilot . Like this dad handed it to him . It's a perfect Like . It is a key piece of evidence , right .

And now we cut right back to the . Now , you know , moderately recovered . Oh God , this guy , he is unbelievable . Okay , so we cut back to the police station . Bobby the Cheney is now being he's got .

He's sort of had his arms behind him in handcuffs and Jay , jay , jay , jay , jay , jay Jay , jay , jay , jay , jay Jay Jay , with his arms behind him in handcuffs , and Jay , it looks like he's taking off the cuffs , he's standing up , he's no longer on the ground from the tazer and we're in the actual station house .

And this , this is like amazing to me , like the balls of this guy , the nerve of this fucking guy . Coach , what does he say here to to a Sergeant Keller ?

Speaker 1

What You're not pressing charges . Tough guy huh Like wait the not pressing charges . I think charges that's a good thing , right Like what is happening right now .

Speaker 3

Like that's what I'm saying . Like , oh , do you want me to , Are you like ? Cannot help , but talk this way .

Speaker 1

Right , like even in this moment .

Speaker 3

He's got some guys helping him out . He's got right , right . It's this tone , and the tone is James Tartt Sr Yep that's great . You know what I mean . They have a certain way and it is just destructive in every direction , like even toward himself . What you want me to Fucking idiot , like what I don't . It defies reason and boss .

How does Sergeant Geller respond ? What does he say ?

Speaker 2

You're going through a lot right now . Mr Lucetti , I understand you would be emotional your daughter out there with that boy whose dad died of cancer . I secretly got myself a second chance . I recently got myself a second chance , so I'm feeling generous .

Speaker 3

Yeah , that's fantastic . What are you going to do about my fucking daughter ? Huh .

Speaker 2

Oh my God , this fucking guy .

Speaker 3

Yeah , what the fuck are you ?

Speaker 2

going to do about our sister ?

Speaker 3

This is a through line . They do this the whole season . Dad says something , one of the absolute nimrods like copies it , and then the third nimrod also says it , but usually fucks it up . So what are you going to do about my sister ? Like his voice is so , it is . So these guys are unbelievable and I love this so much .

What the fuck are you going to do about my daughter ? Yeah , what the fuck are you going to do about my sister ?

Speaker 1

And then coach what's the response from Sergeant Geller , I'm going to find her is what the heck I'm going to do , which made me laugh . That made me laugh because there's a lot of F-bombs flying . So this choice to go with heck was pretty fun .

Speaker 2

And part of what I liked about this is that Bobby's reaction to everything always is nobody's giving me the amount of respect I deserve . Nobody understands how good I am at this . I'm pissed off at everybody , whereas Officer Gellers is always this poor boy whose dad just died of cancer . I understand you're going through a lot Like .

There's a lot of empathy that Geller is showing . There's a little bit where it's like he was afraid that he had cancer , so now he is going to identify with people with cancer more Like it's a little bit selfish , but most of it is . He understands that other people are going through things , so he is going to try to help them out .

He's not going to come down on this poor kid whose dad just died , but he's also not going to arrest Bobby , because he's trying to be nice to everybody .

Speaker 1

Well , and also Bobby can't even process it . Yeah . And as oh this , kid might be going through a lot . Are you fucking with me , like ? Why would that question be fucking with you , like ? Even if whatever else you think about the world , why would someone showing concern about a third person be an attempt to fuck with you ? But he just can't even process this .

Even when it's to him , even when the tinnest is in his direction , he cannot wrap his head around someone not putting their foot on whoever's neck the first chance they get .

Speaker 3

Yeah , he's got roughly 62 million friends who tend to feel similar . Listen , all I ? It's the situation . The dynamic between these two is Bobby is always escalating . Every chance he gets is an escalation . Every single thing he says , Bobby Lachetti escalates . And in this dynamic at least , every time Sergeant Keller gets a chance , he de-escalates .

Sometimes it requires a taser right , but , like , like you know , it's like this is the dynamic and , yeah , Bobby has no patience for a binary . There's his perspective or the wrong perspective , that's it . So he has no methodology to get past that .

Speaker 2

So yeah , that's a great way of putting it His way , or it makes no sense whatsoever .

Speaker 3

Yeah right my way or the highway . How about this the thing when people say , oh , you don't like the rules of this country , and get the fuck out Like um , oh , god , oh , but it's such a you just say like , wait a second . What ? Yeah , you know ? Yeah , bobby says yeah , well , thanks for nothing . Oh , thanks for nothing .

It's what he says to the guy that just didn't press charges for threatening an officer . Oh God , I love it so much . You got these absolute dildos next to him . These guys are so funny , I love them so much , I'm gonna call them out this entire time . I love stupid characters .

John and Jamie Champagne playing Carl and Teddy Lucchetti it is so hard to play stupid this . Well , I mean , it is like inspired . And they also are wearing caps that are just like unmarked black and white caps , like one is black , one is white . There's such drips I can't . I don't know . I love it , I can't . I can't get enough of it . Thanks for nothing .

Mystery Guest and a Misunderstood Sketch

And now in comes who this is ? Now the plot thickens a little bit because we're just about to have this resolution . Lucchetti's about to , are about to leave the precinct right , and who walks in boss ? Who's this mystery surprise guest ?

Speaker 2

Oh , the landlord . I don't remember his name because unfortunately , the actress did such a tremendous job of making me hate the landlord that I tried to forget about him right away . Yeah , the landlord with his arm in a sling injured .

Speaker 3

Right from where Wayne threw the beef jerky , so his dog would break his arm and jerk his arm out . Mr Hernandez is the guy's name played by Patrick Gallagher , and what does he say , boss ?

Speaker 2

Says that I got something that maybe is gonna help you out on the case , basically , and he's got the envelope of the cash and I'm using , as everyone can see on this audio medium air scare quotes saying the cash that he was supposed to be paying for rent . Officer Gallagher opens it up and says a sketch of the boys penis I mean I cannot get enough .

Speaker 3

I know it's raunchy humor , but like it is so I love it so much it's so stupid .

Speaker 1

But it's not , though it's so goofy Like it's such an obviously generic . Just this is a penis drawing . Yeah , that the idea that , like you really thought they brought that . He brought that to you as some sort of identifier .

Speaker 2

Like yes .

Speaker 3

That's like he gives it credit . He's like he responds like in an official capacity . I don't know if the sketch of the boys penis is gonna do much for this investigation . You know you're like what the fuck is happening .

Speaker 2

You know I couldn't figure it out before , but Bishop is saying that now that this would be a way of identifying him . Did I tell you guys about going to the gay bar in college with one of my closest friends , the one who was sunshine and delightful and I love so where we went to school ?

You were allowed into the bars when you turned 19 , but still couldn't legally drink until you were 21 . So they had to have all sorts of symptoms where they would stamp your hand if you were getting a drink . But they wouldn't stamp your hand but you were allowed in blah blah .

There was one gay bar on campus and I went with my delightful friend one time it was me , her and another one of our friends and I am a little bit older than she is . So the other friend who happened to be a guy , he and I got stamped with it said top because we were both over 21 .

And my friend who was younger , got stamped bottom because she was only 20 . And she said , well , why did you guys get top and I didn't ? And I was like because we're 21 and you're not ? She said , oh , oh , oh , oh , oh oh .

I thought he got stamped top because he's a man and I got stamped bottom because I'm a woman , and in the missionary position that's how the men and women are . Wow . And I was like there is so much to unpack in that Number one .

Number one what you're telling me is that you thought that they would look at us and our IDs and stamp us by what we are projecting as our gender identity , that , like he is stamping , yes , she is a woman . I don't understand that . Number two we are going into a gay bar .

Why would they decide to use the missionary position between a man and a woman as the signifier of how they're going to stamp us ? Like what happened when you saw that ? That is what your mind jumped to , like none of it makes any sense . Doll face , I love you so much , but none of that makes any sense . That's really funny .

So , yeah , it's kind of like that . It's like one , it's not even a good picture . And two , he's not walking around with this dick out Like you're not going to be like , oh that .

Exploring Second Chances and Societal Responsibility

I saw that on that most wanted poster , a sketch of that boy's penis .

Speaker 3

It is so goddamn funny and I remember the guy opening up for the first time . I think it said fuck you . Then the next one said eat shit . And then I think the penis was third , I think . But it's like it's just this yeah , it's this , it's a callback to that moment and Wayne's first time and how it kind of bites this .

You know this guy's like kind of a , you know he's just kind of stiff , this landlord , and so he's like no , no , no , no , no , no , no . This like it's not the penis . And he shows the postcard . I don't think the kid meant for this to be in here , but I'm pretty damn sure that's the kid's mom .

He says now , by the way , chetty , on his way out over here , is this ? He says it's been a long time she's lived in my building , but I'm almost positive that's her . And look where it's stamped from . And just right over Geller's shoulder , conveniently Downton Abbey style , like every single plot point in Downton Abbey , is one person overhearing something .

It's like amazing . He just go are you serious with this ? Oh , but this is basically this , is it so ? Bobby sees it and , as if he needed to help , geller says out loud Ocala , Florida , unbelievable . And he goes huh , it's something .

Speaker 2

Now , the only thing I'm gonna point out is I understand that Dell was just very upset with Wayne for leaving this postcard with all of the information , because this was going to be sending them directly where they needed to go . All it says is Ocala , Florida . It's not an address .

Speaker 3

So yeah . So he says , ah , it's something . And on the way out , that's it . Bobby's heard all he needs to hear . Hey , dad , can we stop a pizza or something I haven't eaten like all day ? And Teddy says I love this .

Speaker 1

It's the food .

Speaker 3

What's that ? It's the food of his thing .

Speaker 1

It seems like he's always saying like he wants some food .

Speaker 3

Yeah , that's true . Yeah , carl , Carl , we wanted the ice cream . Teddy is the one responding . But Teddy says you fucking liar , we had chicken pams , that's . Do you know what that is Like ? Hearing that you know what ? That is right , it's a suck , it's a chicken parmesan . Yeah , chicken parmesan , yeah , it's a red sauce and melted cheese on a chicken cutlet .

It is universal and message Like it is . So it's like if you come up here and you go , you know like they'd say different regions of the country , right , right they , what's your favorite ? I mean in New York it might be pizza , or whatever . Chicago might be pizza , right , and then Philly it'll be a cheese steak . Up here they all say , oh , chowder .

But it's not chowder , it's fucking chicken parm . That's funny , like everybody's chicken parm .

Speaker 1

I love chicken parm , by the way .

Speaker 3

No no , no , it's delicious . There's a reason it is , but it is like universal here . So I cracked up when they said that you fucking liar . We had chicken pams and that's it . They walk out and boss On the way out . What does Bobby say ? Cause , as dad of the year , he is concerned about their health and wellness . What does he say ?

Speaker 2

Shut your fucking mouths and get in the truck . We're going to Florida .

Speaker 3

I love it . And then , of course , carl's like yeah , that's what I'm talking about . Okay , so Gellar says thanks , and now , as Hernandez leaves , jay says he pulled the kids file and tell us about the file here , coach . What does he say about the file ?

Speaker 1

The kids got a really bad history . So what are you thinking , Sarge ? What does Sarge say ? Coach , Second chances .

Speaker 3

Second chances right , which is like we just talked about this on Ted Lasso . He just talked about the concept of second chances and who gives them and who is the authority and the decision making to do it , and how people come together and choose and who's worthy of it . There's so much involved in this .

But , gellar , I cannot wait to see how your opinion migrates on like cause you're , I forget , I think coach . You said he was mid right , yeah yeah . And then we're seeing also that he's somehow weirdly empathetic , which might just be a projection of his own selfishness . We don't know at this point , but like it's starting .

It feels like some version of a mantra . Now , like , my new thing is second chances . We don't know if it's gonna last just the end of the day . We don't know . We don't know what this guy is , but we know that he says what's his problemo . We know he whispers bastard boy . Right , he's a little , he's definitely not typecast .

Speaker 1

You have to at least say whatever is you made him interested yeah . Okay , so , so where we're heading into ? Oh sorry , Gellar Boston .

Speaker 2

Well , I was only gonna say , on the part of second chances , what I was thinking about , one of the concept of who is responsible for giving second chances . I think that one of my societal , my issues with societies , that we are always entirely too focused on having that done on an individual level rather than a structural level .

Yes , when was it Whenever it was that I talked about the bishop and Les Mis forgiving Valjean , and that is because he's representative of the church . The church is supposed to forgive .

The police theoretically should be rehabilitating and putting out productive citizens into the world , and what we have is a system that says you individually need to eat this shit and forgive your mom or your ex or whoever the fuck it is . You're supposed to forgive this person when it should be .

All of the structures in place Say we are going to give you what you need in order to have a second chance , and then the individuals could say I can't do that , for I can't get there . Or I've seen the work that you've done by going to this rehab facility that we have open to the public , and so now I can get there with you .

Like , I don't want anybody to think that I'm not in favor of second chances . I'm in favor of second chances where they are supported by the weight of society in order to make them more effective .

Speaker 1

I love it you said that the way you said it , because I feel that it may be some sort of corollary .

Frustration With Inequities and Lack

But similarly I am driven crazy . There was a story , for example , about some little kid I get who saved up his money so that he could pay off all the kid's lunch bills . And everybody was like , oh is this sweet .

Speaker 3

I was like this is fucking horrific . I was like this is . I remember that , yeah , I had the same thing Horrible . Are you kidding me ?

Speaker 1

This little kid has to . Yeah right , that's our solution . That's like ah , few , that's taken care of that . Some little kid mowed lawns or saved their allowance or whatever . Because we're too shitty as a society to do what this child did , which is to say , if a kid is hungry , let's just feed them , and so yeah , I'm with you . We offload , we offload .

You know it's interesting . We've talked so much again on an individual level about emotional labor and sort of the heterosexual model of the household and so on , but we probably could look at how that overlay that model of an imbalance of emotional labor onto much broader societal issues , right , and much broader pieces of like how we do things .

But yeah , no , I'm with you on that , though with in terms of forgiveness , like , yeah , he's had a hard life , or he's a drug addict , yeah , like you said , like , so maybe we should be financing rehab centers and not making this my fucking fault so you can steal my next clarinet . Get the fuck out of here .

Speaker 3

Yeah , yes , yeah no exactly Exactly that this is starting to show . I'm not saying starting , it shows up everywhere , but I see it meandering into places like it hadn't gone before and I'm like , are you serious ?

So I live on a lake and so we have a well for our water , but because you know , this was not planned years ago , like people just build houses all over the lake , there's all these like really sort of questionable proximity concerns between where drinking water wells are and septic systems are , and then also like things leaching and so you just go .

Oh so we have water that we , you know , we clean and filter and everything our filtration system , but for our drinking water we tend to get water delivered . We try to get like a Poland spring water just delivered . And so they've started to put this thing on your app where they say tip your driver . And I'm like you know who owns Poland spring Nestle ?

That is a multinational conglomerate , and you want me to take my harder and you tip my fucking driver . Why are you out of your mind ? No , it's , but I'm supposed to now look at this guy and go hey , thanks , I , you know , have a good day . And he goes yeah , thanks for the tip . Asshole , I'm like you're fomenting .

I don't know if he's saying that , you know what I mean , but maybe somebody feels the pressure to do it and then I'm the only one on the street that doesn't tip and he's like but I'm like , you know , you're fomenting like class infighting when you are a multi-billion trillion dollar corporation .

I looked up the other day the things that Nestle owns and it would like your jaw would drop Like what they own , the silos of the industries that they own , and they want me to tip their driver .

Speaker 1

I mean the place where there's a tip jar . And again I feel like you I actually I make a point of tipping generously because I , you know , bartend blah , blah , blah . I just feel like let's not take it out on the folks who have the least say over how this all goes .

But I feel it is outrageous for me to bring a bag of chips and a Coke to a counter , have the person tell me what that's going to cost me and then turn me this thing that says you know how much of a tip do you want to leave ? None , like it's not that I don't believe in being good to people , but like what is going on here ? Did you bake the ?

Speaker 3

fucking chips .

Speaker 1

What , what , what . What am I tipping right now ?

Speaker 2

Well , and it's such a weird way of it getting in . It's like it brainworms the way that this idea gets in . So in Chicago , just recently like within today or yesterday at some point the city council voted to do away with the less than minimum wage pay for tipped workers .

So now , if you work a job , you make minimum wage , which in Chicago is about $15 an hour right now . And people all over Twitter are saying this is going to cost customers more , that we're going to have to pay more and that servers will get paid less . And I'm arguing with people online that I shouldn't be pointing out . It cannot be both .

We could say that it's one or the other , but it literally cannot be both , unless somebody is stealing from both of us . Like if you , as the customer , are paying more for a burger and less for the tip , you should be paying the same amount . If they charge you more than you would have paid with the tip , they're stealing from you , that's gouging .

If the server is getting paid less because they're getting tipped less , then the owner of the restaurant is taking money from them and not paying them what they should have been paid or what they should be getting paid .

If we are increasing one thing , the only person that should be seeing less of that is the owner , because it should always be that the person with the most pays the most , and instead we are fighting with each other , even though I'm going to keep tipping and I want everybody to get paid more , and waffle house employees deserve more and the Nestle delivery guy

deserves more . And everybody except for the billionaires deserves more , and somehow we are getting pissed at each other about tips .

Speaker 3

That's fucking ridiculous Right Preach . Yes , boss .

Speaker 1

As always , where do I donate to the ?

Speaker 3

cause I know I love it , I love it . I want to tip you for your campaign to end all billionaires . But , yeah , no , no , this is a bad thing right now . And it's funny because we work really hard on this podcast to send out really good messages about everything and we want to share , we want to be kind , but you go wait a second .

It's different when it doesn't change the fact that you want to be kind , but it's like whoa , whoa , whoa , whoa . Well , you're a multi-billionaire , billion-dollar corporation . You first be kind and you know like . You first Like . We have a limited supply of everybody's pinched for money right now .

Speaker 1

Well , that's when people say you know like , oh , you should give to such and such an organization to take care of wounded veterans . Ok , I'm not saying we shouldn't do that , I'm just saying who would they get wounded for ? Like I didn't put together an army to go anywhere , like that should be part of what we're all paying for .

And what happens is it's not as if those who give more don't pay taxes . It's not as if those who give more get a break on their rent or their mortgage , but it's an unfair burden and where your kindness is leveraged against you .

Speaker 2

Yes , yeah , no , it's the same way that it turns out that fucking Exxon Mobile is the one that came up with the idea of a carbon footprint , because those motherfuckers are destroying the planet and they want us to feel bad because I put my air conditioning down to 71 degrees at night so that I could sleep through .

Speaker 1

I'm the asshole .

Speaker 2

Why didn't I use my reusable bag ? Thank you .

Speaker 3

Exxon . Yes , I want to be clear , just for the record , that we are fully in support of the people in our armed forces and the VA and the people that come back . And I want to make sure that we never know , with these sound bites , how it comes out , oh yeah .

The people that have been wounded in the name of protecting our country and they are so often forgotten and it's like they're used up , like , oh , it feels like and I wish that this wasn't the case , but it feels like a professional lie that everybody accepts is the truth and it's almost kind of funny Like , oh , you know what , sign up for the army .

We really love you , thank you for your service , but as soon as you're of no use to us , we're going to fuck you as hard as possible . We're going to restrict . I'm like these people should be living like kings . They should be best of everything . They should just be taken care of and I support that .

Supporting Military Incursions and Intimacy

Do I support sending military incursions into whatever ? I don't want to put Americans or anybody else in harm's way . I don't want to put anybody in . I don't want Russians in harm's way , and we're in a proxy war with Russia right now . I don't want . Young Russians are the same as young Americans , young Chinese soldiers it's not there , it doesn't matter .

There are all human beings that are being led down a bad road by , you know , in the name of geopolitical events , and you just go . Oh , my god , the human element is excruciating . So I just want to make sure we're clear like no , thank you for that .

It's not like , yeah , you know what I mean , we're not yeah , we just our heart goes out to the end and it's like these are not throwaways , these are human beings , like . Treat them with respect . It makes me create , it makes me , you know , I can hear my voice wavering , but it makes me crazy . So , anyway , ok , this is it we're at the moment .

Yeah , that's nice . Where boss , what's the song that comes on now ? It is . She said what you think , and Sarge , and Sarge has second chances . And now we cut to like a pharmacy . God , it's God . Awful fluorescent Joe versus the volcano style lighting . It's just terrible , terrible fluorescent lighting . And what's the song that plays , boss ?

Speaker 2

It's called Changes by Langhorn Slim and the Law .

Speaker 3

Yeah , and then like just walk us through what happens in this scene .

Speaker 2

This scene I actually really love . So Della's walking . It's a slow motion shot . She has her pads and she's walking up to the counter . Before she gets there , wayne comes over with a shopping cart full of menstrual products Everything that you could find .

Speaker 3

I can't tell them .

Speaker 2

I will fully admit . I have a health savings account , so I will buy all of my products in bulk online . And then there is a period of time .

Speaker 1

Period was unintentional , apologies for that , but there is a point I was coming in on that .

Speaker 3

so God damn it .

Speaker 2

There is a point , once or twice a year , where the back of my closet will just be overfilled with tampons and pads , and this is what he has going here . He's going to get everything . He failed before to get her what she needed , and now he's going to make sure that she has literally everything she could possibly need .

Speaker 1

I would toss into that . Sorry , go ahead , coach , you got it .

Speaker 3

No , no , no , I was just saying this is his make . There's a point . Why is he doing this coach , Like what is the ?

Speaker 1

To me whatever embarrassment or shame or whatever went on before that made me go to three stores and where I wasn't fully just focused on the fact that you needed me . I'm letting you know that the number one thing in this life now is you needed me , and if I've got to have a whole cart full of menstrual products , then so goddamn be it and I just love .

I mean , what a specific and oddly heartwarming and I don't just say it because they're feminine products or whatever , like anything of this sort , but it's I don't know , it's like interestingly intimate , as I've found a lot of their relationship .

Speaker 3

Yeah , it's beautiful . And notice that he walks up and he just grabbed six of everything and he's like I am up for this , that's it . Those days are gone . This is what a brave new world looks like with me . I will never do that again . But she just wants one product that she wants . But instead of her handing it to the cashier , what is ?

This is a key element of the scene . What happens here , coach , walk us through that .

Speaker 1

He takes it from her , she starts to hand it to the cashier and he takes it from her and he hands it to the cashier and again , yes , yes , it's not like give her here a little lady . He's like no , no , no , no , no , no .

I'm making it clear , I'm going to do anything I can to take care of you and right now it's buying this for you and we'll take it from here and you can see on her face .

Speaker 3

The symbolism is important .

Speaker 1

And think about how we've seen her treated up to this point . She had to steal cookies just to have a couple of bucks on her , and her father fucking took that shit as he scolded her for how she made that money . It was like oh it's dirty , buddy , but not so dirty I'm not going to shove it in my pocket and go buy some scratches .

Speaker 3

Meanwhile , here's this kid , it's so fucked up , what the fuck .

Speaker 1

You know , so anyway you can see on her face that she is touched . I guess that's the word I'm looking for . She seems touched and the little look she gives him I mean , this whole thing they've got going on with the two of them is just cute beyond . I can't take it .

Speaker 2

Yes , I can't goddamn take it , yes , yes , and you know , at Castleton I feel like I routinely it just disagree with you out of spite and nature and just how it feels .

Speaker 3

good , yeah , that's on point .

Speaker 2

But I will say I feel like one of the things you said in one of the earlier episodes was she is not from the kind of family where she would be able to trust that Wayne would come back eventually . And what I argued at the time was number one Wayne didn't come back .

Wayne left her in that fucking bathroom for an hour , which would have made me lose my goddamn mind , oh yeah . But also he hadn't proven to her that he would be willing to show off . Now that he has done it a little bit , she is not backing away or pushing away Like she's into it . She's good . That's a good point .

He has actually stepped up to show that he will be there for her in the future . I think now she does trust him .

Speaker 1

Yeah , there's a . Depending on your life and your life's experiences , do you default to the beautiful world part or the dangerous part ? And she , for good reason , frankly defaults to the dangerous part . Oh , you are a potential problem . What do you call it ?

Speaker 3

You're referring , I mean Coach . Specifically , what's the quote you're referring to from Boss's friend , right ?

Speaker 1

Yeah , I'm trying to remember the exact quote , but it was basically that life is both beautiful and dangerous . The world is beautiful and not safe . The world is beautiful and not safe , and I just think yeah , that's one of the most like seriously , no kidding around Like one of the most profound things I've heard , and so on .

Point to my experience and so on . Point to work I've had to do . But can it be both ? Like I've literally been going through an EMDR session and having to sort out that ? Like I got to tell my little kid and me actually I can't really promise you everything's going to be all right .

Speaker 2

Yeah , yeah , it's not always going to be all right , but it's going to hopefully turn out more good than bad , that's true .

Speaker 3

Yeah , we're going to talk a lot about safety as we talk about this show , because when you see this look between Wayne and Dell and he is like I will provide you safety .

And she is smiling because she's like I am unfamiliar with this type of gesture and begrudgingly because she's a hard ass , she's a tough cookie and somehow this weird head banging music listening to like psycho that takes punches like she's never seen but bites her dad's nose , he's getting under her skin in a way nobody ever has and it's young and it's innocent

and it's earnest and also clouded with a lot of pain on both sides . So it's just a lot cooking here .

Speaker 1

One word I would toss in there is honest , and I think that's going to matter as we go . If it's one thing I find both these even as she steals which is interesting . If it's one thing I would say about both these characters is they are incredibly honest . That just stands out to me about both of them .

Speaker 3

That's interesting . Ok , good , that's going to be a through line we're going to talk about . So we cut from the scene right at the checkout and boss what happens . We're right outside the bathroom , in the back now of the store , and what's the instance ? Like sort of a real close up on what's happening at waist level , sort of .

Speaker 2

Yes , and I believe he is handing her a tampon . I'm not exactly sure . I don't know if this was a continuation of he is going to be responsible for the menstrual products or what , but if nothing else , he was actually just the little individual plastic wrapped tampon , handing it over to her .

Speaker 3

Right , and she takes it , and then Coach what does she ?

Speaker 1

do ? She punches him like on that chest , shoulder kind of area . I call that a Rebecca Sand Punch and yeah . Yes , but really it's just super sweet . Again , they're really becoming close Like it's not . Oh . What do people who are falling in love do ? Like this is what Del would do to Wayne to say you did good , be right back .

Yes , I do want to point out how monochromatic this whole is . I'm obsessed with color , apparently everywhere I go , but you'll see that when she comes back out of the bathroom she provides the only color in the shot and I do think that's intentional .

Speaker 3

Yeah , I mean , she punches him , he smiles and he turns away . Since Sergeant Geller said second chances , we have had no dialogue , but a tremendous amount is happening . Oh , wow , yeah , you're right , it's over top of music . You know what I mean . It's almost like a flex when you're this good at moving story along .

And I love one thing that you said I don't know which one of you said it , but when you're referring to this is this story , this is what she would do . You know what I mean and it's like I really appreciate .

Personal Growth and Emotional Connection Impact

You know , when we're talking about shows like this is when Sean Simmons creates this show and he writes this show , right , he's telling this particular story .

Maybe that story doesn't relate to you , but like he is telling the story of these people and it is unique and personal and like it's got so much honesty to it it just doesn't feel like the bullshit that you see elsewhere .

It has these sort of very , very key , personal like this guy couldn't buy a tampon in three different stores hours ago , right , and they've had this like near death experience and he's reevaluated and now he's not only handing them over like you know , trying to buy all of them , but handing them over , making this gesture and then and then like accompanying her to

the bathroom where he can like almost make good for that shit . This is the thing I should have done in the first six hours ago . Yeah , you know what I mean . Eight hours or whatever . However much time is transpired , we're still slow motion as he walks away . And now , boss , walk us through this next part , because we're now in the bathroom with Dell .

We sort of pivot down . This is a study cam shot . That sort of settles drops onto her and it's just her in frame . And what's going on here ?

Speaker 2

Oh , she's sitting on the toilet crying , which if you haven't done you should try . I think maybe it happens more for women , because more of our bathroom trips involve sitting down on a toilet . Go ahead and give it a try . So I think I read a lot in her face that this is not necessarily sadness .

Especially as I've gotten older , I have realized that the extent to which something could just be touching sometimes makes you cry when you don't quite understand it , like when I go to the national show and I have to cry , which I have to do every fucking time . It isn't that I'm sad , it is just a level of emotionality that causes a physical reaction .

A very American idea that crying is a bad thing is one I hate more than anything else . Like literally , it is a physical response to things happening . If somebody were like oh my God , you peed gross weird , you're like well . I drank water . What do you want me to do ? I experienced the world . Do you think I'm going to do that and not cry ?

Give me a fucking break . But as she is finishing her crying , she stands up and she starts unloading from the pockets of his jacket that she is still wearing all the stuff that she's apparently taken . And I didn't take that to mean that I don't think that she thought oh , I used to be bad and I used to steal , and now I'm not going to do that anymore .

It was . He doesn't want me to steal , he is trying , so I'm going to try also .

Speaker 1

I mean everything you just said and incredibly insightful . I think there's a brand of the crime you described that when you encounter a simple kind of beauty but you've not had a lot of that brand of beauty or not had a lot of beauty in your life , it can be overwhelming . And so to me , has anyone hurt her feelings Like seriously in her lifetime ?

Has anyone hurt her feelings and then done something to make it clear that they were sorry that they hurt her feelings and that they were going to try to do better going forward ? I feel like there's a non-zero chance that this is a wholly new experience for her , like a whole cloth .

So for me , when she put the stuff down with everything you just said , I wondered if , not consciously , but on some level , taking stuff was an attempt to fill a certain hole and that there's a little bit of hope now that there's another way to fill it .

Speaker 3

Yeah , for sure , yeah , go ahead boss .

Speaker 2

Well , I apparently am on a big . People who have suffered abuse are not inherently broken . Kicked today because I'm going to do this too . I think that there is an idea that part of getting therapy or getting help or going to counseling however , whichever ways that you work on yourself is changing you from a broken person into a fixed person or a good person .

I hate saying that , but that it changes who you are as a person . I don't think it does . I think that Dell has always had in her an ability to let people affect her when they don't seem like assholes . When Tracy did not seem like an asshole , dell was willing to get along with her .

When Wayne was able to show up for her , she was able to take that . It has not been that she doesn't have an understanding of how people are good and nice to each other . It's more so that that is not applicable to her in most of her life .

The idea that if a therapist told her before she'd met Wayne , before she ran away , you should just be more trusting of people , she'd be like the fuck are you talking about ? My dad is going to steal my money and he's going to call me names and my brothers are going to be assholes . I fucking can't trust them . I liked so much that they were showing us .

She is still entirely herself , but she has always been able to be open when it was safe and good for her . I think that this is just her becoming more of herself than anything .

Speaker 3

Yeah , I actually really love that . I want to push back very gently , or I want to clarify I don't want to push back hard , because you'll come back like a viper , like you usually do . Correct ? Your boss is nodding yes , I don't know . But no , you said something like oh , wayne doesn't want her to steal .

I'm like I don't know if Wayne plays into this , maybe as far as what he wants , I think would rub her the wrong way . She's like no , you don't get to fucking tell . That , I think is more actual , delt , but she is mindful that he's willing to change . It's like rising to the challenge to meet that effort .

Yes , she knows somewhere in there , exactly where you're saying , she knows who she is on the inside , she knows what this is , she wants to be , she wants to look at herself in a way that merits that sort of what she's seeing , the growth she's seeing in him .

In this short period of time , nobody changes for her , nobody , yes , and this is a person , for the first time in her life , that is changing independently of anything else , uniquely for her and to her , and making an effort to do that .

And she's like I think something inside of her is like I want to also do that , because she wasn't just crying , she also seemed relieved in a weird way . She had like just smiling and laughing and laughing , but like in a really pained way . It's like this poor girl my God , I love her so much .

It just the emotion that she and I'm like , oh God , like this bathroom is like ground zero for shit that good parents would have to work out .

Speaker 1

You gotta get out of that pause faster . Coach , you can't say a bathroom is ground zero for shit and then just let that hang . I'm just going to put that up . You gotta get out of that pause faster . You gotta go .

Speaker 3

Yeah , that's an excellent point , coach . That's an excellent point . My apologies , but it's all the things that she's now . You know these Wayne is clearly lacking a mother figure and Del is lacking both parents really . But you know , like some of the work you do with kids at a young age , you know where they learn certain things that has not been done .

These guys have had to just kind of fumble through the darkness and this feels like a quantum change for her to see somebody doing this with her in mind and so , yeah , it's amazing , it's powerful . Again , no dialogue , but she leaves it behind . It's even the symbolism of , like Wayne taking the tampons to hand them to he wants to be the one to hand them .

The symbolism of her taking the stuff out of the pockets to leave them to do , abandon that and move on from them . You know these are choices . People thought of this . This was not arbitrary . The writers thought about this . Sean Simmins thought about this . That she walks out again wearing the jacket that she mocked him for wearing .

What the fuck even are you ? No , she's , she's wearing it . She walks out . It's again slow motion . We stay with her . It's that exactly what coach says , monochromatic , except she's the only thing in green it is . So it's such a you know again what a trick to make this back aisle of a faceless , nameless pharmacy .

Hell , right , like hellscape , is actually this beautiful place where something special happened for these two and he's got , wow , like Jesus Christ , for me , I , you go as a filmmaker , you go like holy fuck man , like this is where you just go up to this the crew and the cast and you just like , um , you know , they spend millions of millions of dollars on TV

and film all the time with budgets that make this thing look like a shoebox joke , and they cannot give you even an iota , even a scratch of this type of chemistry and connectivity and and and the ability to move this plot along in a subtle way like this . So it is just like a slow clap kind of moment . We pivot .

It's not quite subjective camera , it's not quite from Dell's point of view , but it is from Dell's angle . As we see , wayne is is waiting for her . He's not outside the store , right , and this is a conscious choice , don't you guys ?

Speaker 1

Yeah , no , that's a good point .

Speaker 2

Yes absolutely . He was going to be in her eyesight once you got out of the bathroom .

Speaker 1

She would not have to wonder , right , yep .

Speaker 3

Yes , okay , right , because that is him . That's another example of like . Are you coming back Like a digi ? You know what I mean . He is there , and and we talk about showing up and being present , and he is there Now . Did anyone notice , by any chance , what he was reading as he waited for ? He's really engrossed in something . What is ?

Speaker 2

it . Conan comic . Yeah , famous late night host Conan O'Brien has his own comic where he does something with swords .

Speaker 3

That's not . That's not the remotely funny , that's terrible . No , no , I hate it . I hate everything you just said .

Speaker 2

Well , I don't know why you hate Conan O'Brien . But that's fine .

Speaker 3

That is so , so brutal . Why , why , what is it ?

Speaker 2

Well , it's one . Coaches laugh right there Almost a giggle . I almost said it , and then you being so angry , conan , it's the best combination the barbarians is not six foot seven . So you're not into Irish folks ? I guess You're calling them barbarians .

Speaker 1

Oh my God , Wild Wow I didn't see this going this way .

Speaker 3

But do we have HR ? No , this is awful . Conan O'Brien proud son of Massachusetts , by the way , and he knows , like you listen to him talk about it like yep , yep , he knows . So yeah , he is just casually , it's almost the most calm you'll ever see , wayne . You know , like , look at his shoulders are a little bit relaxed .

He's leaning on a shelf a little bit . You know he's , he's pensive , he's sort of sort of you know he's engrossed in this , but there's no threat about him . You know there's no like he's got that protector instinct , but like , for one brief moment it's almost like a little kid reading a , reading a book in bed , like it just has that vibe to it .

And the Dell walks out and sees him reading this and she approaches him , the camera . Well , the camera is pushing in on both of them independently to ramp up the tension and add to the music . And then we push in on Wayne , push in on Dell . They're looking at each other and there's this again , no words , like wordlessly , and for like two or three beats .

These are camera movements where they they maintain sort of this it's not , it's , it's definitely this . God , what's , what's the ? What's the look on their face , guys . It is , it is not . They're not committed in either way to an emotion .

Yeah in this moment you know what I'm saying Like there's this very middle ground sort of facial expression on both of them . She's she's clearly had a moment , he's clearly been engrossed in the thing . They look up at each other , there's eye contact , there's like a real connection between them , but like there's no , they're not smiling or anything like that .

There's not , you know , I mean for several beats .

Speaker 1

It's interesting , it's , I mean , whether or not the word is neutral . Maybe that too is part of why I experienced them as being honest , because I don't get the sense that either of them has felt the social pressure between them to be a certain way , like . I can't see her ever fake laughing at a joke he made . I can't see right .

I think he looks up and he doesn't have anything to react to right now . He's just looking at her and she's just looking at him and they're just being in that moment . We're usually accustomed to people doing shit , so I think , when we just watch people be together , that it feels like , oh , what's anybody going to do ? What's going to happen ?

It's like nothing's going to happen . They're just having this moment , each with their feelings about it .

Speaker 2

Yeah , and I wasn't even sure . I don't know if what we were supposed to be noticing in that is their feelings for each other or their awareness of each other .

This is like when you walk into a party and are able to spot your friend , the person who you were invited to this party because of , and then , once they know that you are there , your eyes meet across the room , even if it's not a romantic or a sexual thing . You find the person across the room and you're like , oh , there you are .

This is more what it felt like . Maybe he heard the door shut , but what he knew was she is now here and she was noticing he is here also .

Speaker 3

Yeah , no , that's a good , I like that Pasta , I like that a lot . That is true .

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I love those moments , by the way , where you're like , oh , there's my person across the room , or sometimes it's even like the walk by you and you'll do something like surreptitiously , like you'll just bump elbows or something . You know what I mean . It's just like some stupid little thing , where you're like , yep , I can't .

I can't even tell you how many times I've been to a place , especially when I lived in LA , where coach would be in the room and I'd say I would be like I walk by him and it's it , one bump , one little thing , and he'd be in the middle of one of his grand soliloquies , dying on the inside apparently now I know , but going like hey , blah , blah , blah ,

blah , and it seemed like there would be like the tiniest glimmer of recognition and , like you know , he's like , oh , there's my guy , like boom , then it's it , and it's a beautiful moment . And so , yeah , they're really in each other's space or just present with each other in this moment . And the camera is doing a lot of work . I'm not going to lie .

Oh , yeah , for sure it is . It is a choice camera wise , but it's beautiful and listen . I just want to . Sometimes we point out why things work . But I want to point out how this wouldn't work with a lesser director , with a lesser crew , with a lesser cast . What if he winked , or something ?

What if you see him say I know , I'm saying people would choose that Like , you know , like what if she , like , threw her head back and laughed , or something ? And you'd be like , wait what ? You see , it's so fragile , you know what I mean ?

It's so fragile to keep this amount of emotion in the scene and keep the air in it while you have all these camera moves and it's just masterful . I keep , I keep rewinding it and watching it here and I'm like , oh my God , it's so beautiful .

And then , finally , once we've had that connectivity , once we've had those moments together where they kind of they're just looking at each other , and then , finally , when we get just tight enough , you see that , oh my God , god , I'm just watching this Is the Glip Boss . Come look at this , the tiniest number .

Speaker 2

Oh , no yeah good yes . I just I need , I need very , very much to clarify that while he is playing a 17 year old , Mark McKenna , the actor was well into his 20s . So when I say I get where Dell is coming from in this shot , specifically like he was the weirdo that was listening to the death metal in his bedroom and he did bite her dad's nose off .

But when he is looking up over like that , look where it's you're almost looking up at the other person . Eyes are up at them . Whatever this is is fucking working . He is doing it well and a little smirk at the end not even a smirk , but just like a tiny little , tiny flick . Yes , the tiny twitch of a smile . Yeah , he is a .

Speaker 3

I got it . Handsome , handsome , handsome , dear God , and that like that is like that , that's that melts . What he just did , listen and I always like . My biggest concern about this show when I first started watching was like , can she hang with him ?

Because I had the sense , dear God , he is a beaut , he is a really good actor , he is , he is totally owning this part . And then she just keeps , keeps up with him the whole , like you just go , oh my gosh , she's . She's every bit as winning and charming and capable .

She's so competent , just the ability to to move mountains with tiny movements of your face . You go , jesus H Christ , she is a super . These two are unbelievable . So we have this moment . He starts it with a little smile , she responds and and that is that's it . We get it , we get a shot , we get the , the smash screen of Wayne and that is it .

That is , we are done with Wayne , episode two . No priests , holy , holy . I love it so much . I can't eat . I eat it's , it's just yeah , I get so excited about it . I'm so happy that you guys are watching this with me . One of the true joys of this is watching with coach .

He makes little noises and every time he does , you know , you'd say like it's not like a hamster making a noise or something , and it's not like he'll just be like you'll see something and he'll hear , like a little like .

Speaker 2

You guys have been friends long enough that , yes , you got that perfect . Just so , like he is deep in thought , it is , and it's yeah , yeah , no , I see what they were doing there . I got yeah .

Speaker 3

I could tell , I could write out what he's thinking , I could type it the coach is going to talk about this and say OK , this is why it's crazy , but you see , you know someone well enough and you see it , you just go . Oh my God . So that is Wayne episode Episode two . Holy shit , yeah , that that is . That is no priests . We will be back .

Our next episode of Wayne will be season one , episode three . Chapter three , which is entitled , is literally called chapter three the goddamn beacon of truth . Oh , that is the title of the episode , all right .

Speaker 1

So I guess that honesty , trying to think what that would be Sorry .

Speaker 2

I guess that's coming through . No , no , no , no , we're both just mulling out love oh yeah , the goddamn beacon of truth .

Speaker 3

Oh God , thank you . I'm such a good . My love watching the show . Coach , where do people find you if they want to find you ?

Speaker 1

The podcast unstuck af wherever you get your podcasts . We're just helping folks be their best selves and live their best lives , so check it out .

Speaker 3

And boss . What about you ?

Speaker 2

Still on Twitter arguing with people about economics and how , if a restaurant goes under because they are required to pay their servers a living wage , they're probably not a great business to begin with . But that's Twitter . And Blue Sky is both Dumbly underscore chambers and writing at the antagonist which is antagonist , blogcom .

Speaker 3

Perfect , thank you . Thank you both . Thanks everyone for joining us , thanks to our wonderful worldwide listening community , thanks to all of our Butter Cups and everyone who supports us . Please take time to , if you've enjoyed this episode , write us a review and recommend us to a friend .

Word of mouth is how we get almost all of our traffic , because we don't know shit about marketing . I mean , maybe you guys do , but I know nothing Less than nothing . I want to spend my time talking about these shows and not being out there . You know promoting things when I'm terrible at it , so really tell a friend if you think they would enjoy it .

We have a bunch of shows we're going to do together . Wayne , is this version right now ? There's only 10 episodes . We will blast through them , lickety split , and then we'll be on to the next one , and so with that we remain .

Speaker 1

Richmond , richmond .

Speaker 2

Till we die . Yeah , yeah , now fucked it up . Yeah , maybe we should have one where we just shout Northside when we're ending this episode Northside bitch , northside bitch .

Speaker 3

I love it . I love it . It's yeah , it's like a new mantra . It's so good , we're rich . What did you say Flatbush , flatbush . Oh yeah , flatbush . And then he got creamed by the wave right . It was amazing , it was so good . I love . It All right , everybody , thank you . See you next time .

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