Spice alone tastes terrible, add it to something fundamentally good and it takes it to new realms of experience... Broadening your sexual repertoire and opening up to the amazing life-enhancing potential of a fulfilled sexuality requires a strong basis. If we divide our sexuality into physical, mental, emotional and spiritual sexuality, it’s vital that our emotional sexuality and our spiritual sexuality are developed so that we have the safety and therefore the freedom to explore the physical an...
Oct 02, 2014
Jacqueline calls it the Third Wave of Sexuality, today’s guest Sex Geek calls it the New Sexual Revolution. Alison Petrie is a Tantric Practitioner, Healer and Workshop Facilitator. Today we talk with her about this new revolution, what is it, why is Tantra such a big part of it, and what does women’s orgasmicness have to do with it? What is orgasmicness anyway? Find out here, on The Tantric Lounge! About Today’s Sex Geek: Alison Petrie Alison began her working life as an IT professional in a bu...
Sep 26, 2014
Shibari - the Art of Japanese Bondage has a long history. What is it exactly, what is its appeal to modern Westerners, why are we discussing it on the Tantric Lounge, why are there photos of Jacqueline being tied up and why is she having trouble speaking? Shibari is Tantric in essence - it’s about deep connection, sensuality, beauty and poetry. Today we talk to Hebari, head teacher at the Rope Dojo in Sydney’s inner suburbs and curator of the Sydney Rope Festival. Listen and look at photos as he...
Sep 19, 2014
On today’s show we’re not interviewing a Sex Geek, we’re talking to Seven Sex Goddesses! Or at least, Jacqueline is introducing us to the concept of the Seven Goddesses of Sex and how accessing their energies can help modern women come into the fullness of their gorgeous sexuality, with stronger self-image, more desire and greater sexual response! I've been working on this concept for over six years and I've just released the book. Each Goddess is accompanied by a fictional, historical erotic st...
Sep 12, 2014
Menopause affects 100% of women who live long enough to experience it. But what exactly is menopause and how does it affect a woman’s sex life and the sex lives of her partners? In this show we’ll be talking to Heather Cameron, Director and CEO of the Menopause Resource Centre, a not-for-profit humanitarian venture dedicated to increasing awareness about menopause and to empowering women about their choices during what can be a challenging time of life and sexual life. Guest info After having ma...
Sep 04, 2014
Today Xavier and I are chatting with two guest Sex Geeks - Deej Juventin and Uma Furman, two of Australia’s top somatic sex educators and practitioners. They practice and teach Sexological Bodywork, supporting individuals, couples and groups to learn to direct their own erotic development, learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, or work through sexual issues or concerns. It’s a fabulous modality for healing which includes breath work, touch, Taoist Bodywork, mapping, scar tissue remediation...
Aug 28, 2014
A great and often under appreciated aspect of sexuality is that of harmony, and one of our most easily accessed paths to harmony is through sound. In this Tantric Lounge episode sound therapist Lia Smith talks to Xavier and I about how she uses sound to evoke both harmony within ourselves and with our partners. We also explore the issue of intimacy and how we align ourselves through sound and vibration. Guest Sex Geek Info Lia is an artist, bio-energetic medicine practitioner and birth Doula. He...
Aug 21, 2014
Our guest on The Tantric Lounge this week has a fascinating story. A good country Catholic wife, mother of seven, Trish Lehman left all that behind in her 50s to pursue her sexual awakening. Moving to the big city she became a, well, she’s not quite sure what to call herself, a sex worker, a surrogate, a bodyworker. Essentially she provides loving touch to those in need, often older men or disabled men, but she’s also amazed at the younger men who seek her services. She’s an amazing woman, come ...
Aug 14, 2014
What is the future of sex? Join me and co-presenter Xavier as we talk with futurist, Ross Dawson. Teledildonics, Virtual Sex, Quasi-holographics, are just a few of the technological innovations that could transform our sex lives. Fascinating stuff, but where does love, connection, spirituality fit in with all this techno-sex. Tune in for what is bound to be a fascinating conversation with a Futurist Sex Geek! Guest Sex Geek Info Ross Dawson is globally recognised as a leading futurist, keynote s...
Aug 07, 2014
The human body is an incredible pleasure machine, the sensations and experiences we can potentially experience are incredible. Until recently though, it wasn’t really an aspect of science that was studied particularly thoroughly. Even today there is a lot that is unknown or unconfirmed. There’s a lot that is though, and it’s a lot more than you would have learned in school sex ed classes (if you were even lucky enough to get sex ed.) That was more about reproduction than sex, more about how to h...
Jul 30, 2014
The urge to merge is a natural desire. We crave bliss and connection and fear isolation. Yet to merge requires letting go, and that requires trust and vulnerability. These qualities are often considered ‘weak’, but in fact they require great strength. Find that inner strength to be vulnerable and then you can actually fulfil your urge to merge... Download Audio: The Urge to Merge...
Jul 23, 2014
Imagine letting go and simply allowing what will be to be, without fighting or striving, with a sense of ease and flow. Surrendering... There isn’t really a word in the English language that has a positive sense to letting go of control, just allowing. Which might be one of the reasons why so many people find it hard to do. We spend our lives trying hard, working at things, wanting to achieve goals and success. And then in the down-time doing the opposite, zombying out in front of the television...
Jul 16, 2014
What is the correct etiquette for sexual interactions? How do you approach an existing or prospective partner? How do you deal with response, positive or negative? How do you conduct the interaction? What do you do if it’s not going the way you’d like? Or if something horribly embarrassing happens?! Find out this week, down, on The Tantric Lounge.... Download Audio: Sexual Etiquette...
May 14, 2014
Would you like to be a fly on the wall at one of my women’s retreats? In this episode I go through what happened at a recent retreat, sharing the activities and the insights of the participants. Get a taste of womanly lusciousness, down, on The Tantric Lounge... Would you like to be a fly on the wall at one of my women’s retreats? In this episode I go through what happened at a recent retreat, sharing the activities and the insights of the participants. Get a taste of womanly lusciousness, down,...
May 07, 2014
We’re getting kinky down on the Lounge this week, talking about the Tantric approach to dominance and submission, pleasure and pain and all those delicious delights on the ‘darker’ side… Is this compatible with spirituality? Absolutely! Find out more on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: Tantric Dominance and Submission
Apr 30, 2014
Letting go through Tantra and opening up to sexual possibilities can take you to beautiful states of altered consciousness. It can also take you to wild states of primal consciousness - a place where the primitive is unleashed and the wild one enters. This is not civilization, it’s the wilderness - wild and ravishing, a beauty that is savage not tamed. Find out more this week on The Tantric Lounge…. Download Audio: Unleashing the Primitive...
Apr 23, 2014
What’s your greatest erogenous zone? Your skin! So any part of your body can be an erogenous zone. We tend to limit sexual attention to only those parts of the body which we believe are ‘erogenous’, and limit is the word because there aren’t too many of them. When you explore ways to turn your whole body into an erogenous zone you open yourself up to a whole swathe of sensual pleasures…. Download Audio: Turn Your Whole Body Into An Erogenous Zone...
Apr 16, 2014
What is a hobby? According to the dictionary it’s “an activity done regularly in one’s leisure time for pleasure.” That sounds like sex to me! We all know that it’s good for couples to have a mutual hobby - cooking, gardening, sport, travel, outdoor recreation, decorating, traveling, study. It gives them something to talk about together, to experiment with and to enjoy together. You’re having sex anyway, so why not give it the same focus and attention that you give any hobby? Join me and my co-h...
Apr 09, 2014
So much of sex these days is blatant. There’s no mystery, no mystique. What happens when couples share too much? There’s no room for desire, there’s no wanting to move toward, to discover more. Instead it’s dullness or moving away. How do you maintain the interest, through mystique, in a relationship? How do you ensure there is always more to discover? Find out this week on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: The Magic of Mystique...
Apr 02, 2014
So much of my work is men is about how they can develop themselves sexually and spiritually. As one young man said to me recently, sex without the spiritually is empty. I love it when men come to me to grow in this way. There’s often a feeling that spirituality is somehow soft and unmanly - far from it! The young man just mentioned is a war vet who fought in Afghanistan, there’s nothing unmanly about him. Just as there is nothing unmanly about the tradesmen, truck-drivers, CEOs, doctors, lawyers...
Mar 26, 2014
An element of Tantra is cathecting (or plugging into) the divine in yourself and your partner. In this episode of The Tantric Lounge we’re going to look at the divine feminine and the divine masculine and consider why it’s important for modern day people to tap into this aspect of themselves and of reality in general. It’s the Bhakti-yoga part of Tantra, the devotional, heart-centred part of spiritual growth - which all leads to more blissful states of being. Download Audio: Cathecting the Divin...
Mar 19, 2014
Tantra is all about developing spiritually, moving towards transcendence, a state of bliss. As you advance in sexual Tantra love-making feels like a wave of bliss. It feels like you're surfing through the waves of bliss. It’s very different to the standard of bigger-harder-faster sex of the West. In this episode we’re going to be looking at what it takes to be able to do this. How do you discipline your body, mind and emotions to be able to become so unattached to outcome that you have such an o...
Mar 12, 2014
More than ever, children and adolescents need to be well educated about sex. If young people are well informed, if they know that their sexuality is a good and powerful thing, they will use it in a positive way to enhance their lives, however that may manifest for them as individuals with their own unique sexuality. Given the current ‘porn star VS prude’ approach to sex in our society - where you’re either supposed to be out there having crazy sex or you’re the prude who thinks sex is somehow ‘w...
Mar 05, 2014
We Westerners love to put things in boxes, especially sex. Sex is something different from life, something ‘other’. So people tend to think that Tantric Sex is replacing the ‘sex’ box with the ‘Tantric sex’ box. If Tantra is more about life than just about sex, then what is a Tantric Life? How do you live La Vida Tantrica? In this episode Xavier and I look at how you live outside the ‘automaton’ life so many people lead these days and start ‘Tantracizing’ life so that you experience the profound...
Feb 26, 2014
The Tantric Lounge is back for its second season, sponsored by the fabulous folk at Lelo, the world’s leading designer brand for intimate products. The Tantric Lounge remains a sleaze-free zone, devoted to beauty and meaning in sex, love and intimacy - this is where sex is an art and sex is a science. But it’s not just about sex, at least, not just about what so many people think Tantric sex is about. So in this episode my co-host Xavier and I are doing some Tantric myth-busting! Is Tantra some ...
Feb 19, 2014
Over the past few episodes we’ve been looking at women and looking at men, now we’re going to look at them both together and talk about couples and sex. But there’s no use talking about sex before we talk about getting to sex. It’s where modern couples fall down and in this show we’re going to look at why this happens and what to do about. When you get the ‘getting to sex’ part right, you get the sex right. I call it the Beforeplay… Download Audio: Beforeplay...
Dec 04, 2013
In this program Xavier and I will be talking with Grant Soosalu about the Sex Brain. Grant and his colleague Marvin Oka have developed the concept of mbraining, based on our multiple brains. The head, heart and gut brains are well known in science, and reflect ancient tantric and Taoist knowledge. Based on this ancient wisdom, Grant and I suspect there is also a Sex Brain, based around the genitals. Each of the other brains has it’s primary function, so what could be the prime function of the se...
Nov 20, 2013
What does a Sex Therapist do, and how does Tantra fit into contemporary sex therapy? Find out in this program! Xavier quizzes me in depth on the kind of cases I have and how I deal with them. With lots of case studies of real life clients this is a fascinating peek into what goes on in my consulting rooms. You might even find quite a bit of yourself in there.... Download Audio: Therapy With A Twist of Tantra...
Nov 13, 2013
Last week we talked about woman - stuff you need to know as a woman to feel good about your womanliness and your sexuality. This week we’re going to look at how you take that empowered sense of female sexuality into partnered sex, for fabulous results. I’lll be showing you how to release the goddess within! In fact, I'll talk about all seven sex goddesses within! So please join me and my co-host Xavier down on The Tantric Lounge to discover so much more about female sexuality than you might ever...
Nov 06, 2013
This week’s program is all about women! We’ll be talking about what every woman (and her partner!) needs to know about her biology, her psychology and her energy to be able to feel luscious and sexual. We won’t say too much more here, as this is secret women’s business. So join me and my co-host Xavier down on The Tantric Lounge to discover the secrets… Download Audio: Secret Women’s Business...
Oct 30, 2013
