If the dating game has left you feeling angry, you're not alone--we're pretty upset about the state of things in our dating culture, too. In this not-so-feel-good episode, Megan and Steven grapple with their own feelings of frustration at all of the challenges of the dating landscape and offer some suggestions on what we should do about it. Singles at SEA 2026: We'll be setting sail February 6-9, 2026 out of Miami, Florida on Wonder of the Seas and visiting The Bahamas! Prices subject to change,...
Jun 30, 2025•50 min
We're matchmakers, so you might think that we think marriage is for everyone. That's not the case. In this episode, Megan and Steven dive into the value proposition of marriage and why, for some, it may not be worth the investment. Singles at SEA 2026: We'll be setting sail February 6-9, 2026 out of Miami, Florida on Wonder of the Seas and visiting The Bahamas! Prices subject to change, but you only need $200 to book a cabin/$100 per person if you book with a friend. Call Chelsea Fennell at 864-...
Jun 23, 2025•55 min
There are issues in our lives that we expect to vanish the moment we say "I do," but do they actually go away? Will marriage be the thing that makes you the person you want to be, or is it something else? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss the transformative power of marriage and its limits to change who you are. Singles at SEA 2026: We'll be setting sail February 6-9, 2026 out of Miami, Florida on Wonder of the Seas and visiting The Bahamas! Prices subject to change, but you only need $2...
Jun 09, 2025•57 min
We're generally not big fans of focusing on aesthetics or using photos to identify partners, but we have to acknowledge that most people are utilizing photos to make judgments about dating prospects. So what are your photos saying, and how can you optimize them to create a message that will be well-received? In this episode, Steven and Megan dig into some of the highs and oh-so-lows of dating profile photos and how you can implement a few strategies to make your photos more appealing and more au...
Jun 02, 2025•53 min
"You're either with us, or you're against us." False binaries tell us that there are only two possible outcomes when many different outcomes may be available to us, and we use them all the time to structure how we understand our world. Is this hurting our dating culture? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss what false binaries are, how they show up in dating conversations, and how to interrogate your own to get to the root of what you actually want. Our 40% off matchmaking sale ends MONDAY ...
May 26, 2025•1 hr 1 min
She's familiar, approachable, and as comforting as she is beautiful-- 'the girl next door' is a staple of American dating culture, and an archetype that many men seek out. But where did that archetype come from, and just how firmly rooted in reality is it? In this episode, Steven and Megan trace this idea back to some of its origins and unpack just what it says about how men's perspectives on relationships are shaped. Comic book fans, this one is for you! Our first summer flash sale starts Memor...
May 19, 2025•55 min
In the world of "appropriate" romance, period dramas and regency literature have a corner on the market among Apostolic women who want to enjoy a romantic story free of innuendo. But are these books and movies helping us build a healthy dating culture, or hurting us? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss one of the most well-known works of literature (and its movie adaptations) and the impact of the plot and characters on dating culture for Christians. Our first summer flash sale starts Memo...
May 12, 2025•1 hr 8 min
When the societal and cultural pressures on young, Single Apostolic men are unrealistically high, the risk of them fading from the Church increases. Is the number of single 35-50 year-old women disproportionately higher than the number of available men in that range, and if so, what is causing us to lose our young men on the cusp of starting Apostolic families? In this episode, Megan and Steven scratch the surface of a big question: what is happening to our men, and how to we help? 2024 UPCI Sta...
May 05, 2025•1 hr
We make no bones about it: we view excessive consumer debt as a huge risk factor in dating relationships, to the point where we turn away clients who carry consumer debt in excess of their annual income. Why do we feel so strongly about something that (in today's economy) seems so normal, even expected? In this episode, Megan and Steven unpack their feelings about debt and why it's a massive red flag in dating relationships. If you need help getting out of debt, we encourage you to check out the...
Apr 21, 2025•1 hr 18 min
Loneliness is a slow killer in both the physical and spiritual body. What would it look like for the church to cure it? This week, Megan dives into that question with Synchrony client and healthcare provider Beth Cleavenger, who shares some insights from her own deep dive on the physical impacts of loneliness. Read the 2023 report from the Surgeon General of the United States on the health impacts of loneliness here: https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advis...
Apr 14, 2025•1 hr 4 min
All of us come into our marriages with assumptions and expectations for what it will be like, and only some of those expectations end up matching the reality of what couples build together. In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss some of the expectations they brought into their marriage that ended up crumbling in the early years, and what that taught them about their shared values and priorities. Last day for earlybird pricing: Singles at SEA 2026! We'll be setting sail February 6-9, 2026 out ...
Mar 30, 2025•1 hr 5 min
If God knew that Adam needed a helpmeet, why was he created alone? What is the biggest personality killer that limits relationships, and why is love the opposite of fear? In this week's podcast, Megan and Steven dive into these questions and many more with Dr. Joshua Abrego, Assistant Professor at Christian Life College and the host of The Certain Sound podcast. Thank you Dr. Abrego for joining us and sharing your wisdom! Check out The Certain Sound podcast on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotif...
Mar 21, 2025•1 hr 14 min
We've heard about why Singles conferences aren't great for dating, but what would an Apostolic event look like that WAS a great dating opportunity? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss some exciting events on the horizon and why Singles Ministries and churches should consider offering more that are like them. Singles Chat, West Palm Beach, FL Join us on Saturday, April 5th 2025 for a singles workshop and fellowship at 2501 Bristol Drive, West Palm Beach, FL 33409. This event is titled "Lone...
Mar 10, 2025•44 min
We've covered the pros and cons of matchmaking before, but not in light of the patterns we've seen after analyzing hundreds of surveys and interviews with Apostolic Singles. In this episode, Megan and Steven break down matchmaking in comparison to the other options available to Apostolic Singles and reiterate why doing things differently may be the right choice. Want to Come Chat in Person? Join us on Saturday, April 5th 2025 for a singles workshop and fellowship at 2501 Bristol Drive, West Palm...
Mar 03, 2025•58 min
What if we told you that mastering three very learnable skills could make you more attractive as a dating partner, more successful in your career, and more dynamic in your ministry? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss three skills that almost every Apostolic woman has mentioned in her Synchrony interview as key aspects of what she's seeking in a partner. They also give some recommendations for how you can start building these skills today. Want to Come Chat in Person? Join us on Saturday, ...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 11 min
Steven and Megan went to a conference just for Apostolic Singles! What they found there surprised them. Check out the Texas District Singles Conference pages on Facebook for sermon clips and resources! Get the From Singles, to Shepherds Info Guide Here! https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/from-singles-to-shepherds #Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration These pins are exclusively for Apostolic Singles to use to recognize other singles in pu...
Feb 17, 2025•53 min
At the beginning of 2025, Megan and Steven launched a survey to gather data about singles' experiences with loneliness to help give Pastors and church leaders insight into its impact on the Church. In this episode, the unpack some of the data from the 500+ survey responses. Pastors--please take time to listen to this, and reach out to us with questions! Get the From Singles, to Shepherds Info Guide Here! https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/from-singles-to-shepherds Still want to take the ...
Feb 10, 2025•41 min
How do I get out of the dreaded "friendzone?" Why is the woman I'm interested in sending me mixed signals? Why are the expectations for men so astronomically high? In this episode, Megan and Steven chat about these questions and other FAQ's they've heard from Apostolic guys who are doing their best to navigate a wild dating culture. Send us more questions on Instagram or through the email below! Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now! https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8i...
Feb 03, 2025•58 min
What makes Apostolic dating truly different from Worldly dating? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down the 10 Principles of Apostolic Dating that they wished everyone understood before they launched into a dating relationship. Send this to your youth leaders and teenage loved ones! Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now! https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA #Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin-registration These pins ar...
Jan 20, 2025•1 hr 7 min
Trigger Warning: diet culture, disordered eating, body image. Dating in a fat body is different than dating in a thin body, and is in some ways much more difficult. Our dating culture has internalized the thin preference that is deeply rooted in Western culture, and that preference leaves many people struggling to find someone who appreciates their body and sees them as an attractive potential partner. In this episode, Megan and Steven grapple with this difficult topic and provide data to illust...
Jan 13, 2025•1 hr 5 min
We've collected survey data from 427 Apostolic singles so far, and the data is starting to show us some interesting trends. In this episode, Steven and Megan answer questions like: where do most Synchrony respondents come from? What is the racial and ethnic breakdown of the respondent pool? How many respondents are in each age group, and how many are male/female? We're also giving away something pretty big! If you are a Single Apostolic male between the ages of 40 and 55, you can email us at que...
Jan 06, 2025•53 min
In the final episode of 2025, Megan and Steven discuss the surprising reasons why it may or may not be a good idea for you to consider dating a single parent. Spoiler: if you're avoiding it entirely, you could be missing out! Thanks to everyone for listening this year. 2024 End-of-Year Sale : You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/offers/ppk4uQTu?coupon_cod...
Dec 31, 2024•57 min
Apostolic and Single? Take the "From Singles, to Shepherds" survey now! https://forms.gle/KTt8UZEMA8ipHreTA In this episode, Megan and Steven introduce what may be the largest initiative they've undertaken to understand the Apostolic single experience. We'll be using the survey above to gather as much data as we can about the impact of Loneliness on our Singles, and the consequent impact on the Church as a whole. Please copy the link and share it with anyone in your network who is also Apostolic...
Dec 23, 2024•41 min
The holidays are rough if you're a Single Apostolic person OR a feral South Florida iguana, and we're here to support you in either case. In this short and sweet episode, Megan and Steven talk some tips for making it through the holidays without falling into temptation or angering the wildlife. 2024 End-of-Year Sale: You can get 40% of your Apostolic Matchmaking Consultation by applying the code: LONELY_SNOW_MORE at checkout, or by clicking this link: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/o...
Dec 16, 2024•33 min
How easy is it to meet someone at Bible College? How does it feel to date as an Apostolic after dating in the World? How likely are you to meet someone at your national youth events? Are there any great singles left in the Church? These are just a few of the questions we cover with the five young Singles we chatted with at ALJC National Youth Convention. Special thanks to Connor, Sarah, Emmanuel, Logan, and Brandon for spending time with us! 2024 End-of-Year Sale: You can get 40% of your Apostol...
Dec 09, 2024•55 min
Our end of year sale launches FRIDAY, 11/29! Scroll for details. Does using a matchmaker subvert the will of God? In this special interview, Megan and Steven sit down with Pastor and Apostolic thought-leader Rev. Jimmy Toney, who happens to also be their shepherd. Get ready for lots of laughs, some unfiltered opinions, and a wealth of wisdom on how the Church can address loneliness and build Kingdom families for His glory. Special thanks to Pastor Toney for his time! If you are a pastor or Singl...
Nov 24, 2024•1 hr 3 min
So you've been "talking" for weeks now, and all signs seem to point to the fact that both of you want more. How do you take this new relationship into "official" territory? In this episode, Steven and Megan break down the healthy, adult conversation that can propel your connection into a dating relationship. Interested in working with an Apostolic Matchmaker? Sign Up for Matchmaking @ https://synchronyproject.com Resources and Sales: #Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi...
Nov 18, 2024•46 min
We've romanticized the idea of being swept off our feet by one look across a crowded room, but sometimes love blossoms more slowly, with better results. In this episode, Megan and Steven are joined by their dear friends Rev. Jennifer Peyton and Rev. Johnnie Peyton (EdD), whose commitment to their values of ministry and spiritual education drew them together gradually. Their story bucks all of the trends and is a great example of how values-driven dating can equip you for a marriage capable of gr...
Nov 11, 2024•1 hr 21 min
What if the way you're choosing potential dates is actually what's keeping you from finding someone? You could be prioritizing something that scripture warns us not to care too much about, and it could keep you from the spouse that you need. In this episode, Megan and Steven launch into a spirited, unfiltered conversation about the idol that most singles are secretly worshipping--even if they don't realize it themselves. Interested in working with an Apostolic Matchmaker? Sign Up for Matchmaking...
Nov 04, 2024•1 hr 1 min
This is the second in a two-part series about identifying values, and this time Megan and Steven are talking all about how you can ascertain what someone else's values are early on in a dating relationship. They'd like to make a special shoutout to Killer Whales for making this episode possible. Interested in working with an Apostolic Matchmaker? Sign Up for Matchmaking @ https://synchronyproject.com Resources and Sales: #Synchpin Registration: https://the-synchrony-project.mykajabi.com/synchpin...
Oct 28, 2024•1 hr 1 min
