Whenever I discuss what I do as a job there is much curiosity about what happens behind the door of the therapy room. This is why I really wanted to host a conversation with someone who knows what that's like from the other perspective, as the client. This is because as much as I can talk about therapy from the position of the therapist, it will never give a full view of what the experience of psychosexual therapy is really like. So my guest for this episode is author of the column Conversations...
Jun 10, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 6
The idea of 'the talk' is something that fills many parents and caregivers with anxiety. The worry about what to say, how to answer questions and getting it right can feel pretty daunting. Paired with the fact that many of us didn't have a perfect version of 'the birds and the bees' chat ourselves means that we don't feel set up to know how to talk to our kids about sex and relationships. This is why my guest today is the brilliant sex educator Sarah Sproule, who makes it her mission to ensure e...
Jun 03, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 3Ep. 5
Shame is a feeling that often comes paired with sex, and is an emotion that as a therapist I regularly hear people describe that sex makes them feel. This is why I really wanted to host a conversation around the relationship between sex and shame, where we think it comes from and what we think is maintaining it. Sex is so much more than just the act of what we are doing, and it holds meaning for us which is why when we view what we are doing sexually as shameful, or feel shame around our sexual ...
May 27, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Our sex lives are subject to many gendered messages and narratives which shape how we think that our sex lives 'should' look. Engrained messages about masculinity, manhood and how men should act in sexual situations can influence sex lives both consciously and unconsciously, in what today's guest Cam Fraser describes as the idea of 'Man Box Culture'. Cam and I unpack some of the myths of masculinity and sex that are impacting men. We also talk about how the language that we use can be influentia...
May 20, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Induced menopause refers to when menopause happens after surgical removal of the ovaries, radiation or chemotherapy damage to the ovaries, or from the use of other medications to intentionally induce menopause as part of the treatment of certain diseases. The main difference to the process of natural menopause is that there is a rapid onset of symptoms rather than the gradual onset that occurs with natural menopause. It’s also often happening at the same time as diagnosis, treatment or managemen...
May 13, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Kicking off series three is a conversation with the absolutely brilliant Eleanor Tattersfield @marbyandelm who has been collecting the UK’s sex secrets. Anonymously sent to her on postcards this collection of cards are absolutely stunning, and they really do have a story to tell in terms of what’s going on in our sex lives and how we think and feel about sex. I talk to Eleanor about how I think the postcards are a form of sex education; and are opening up our narratives about what we find erotic...
May 06, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 3Ep. 1
In this final episode of the second series of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the future of sex. My guest Bryony Cole and I talk about the biggest changes and trends that we have seen impacting our sex lives recently, and where we think the future of sex is heading. Undoubtably there has been an enormous shift in our sex lives and accessibility to information since the dawn of the internet; and we see that smart phones...
Aug 06, 2021•50 min•Season 2Ep. 13
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the topic of sexual trauma and the impact that it can have on someone's life. My guest Silva Neves is a Psychotherapist specialising in Trauma, EMDR, and Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy; and he has an enormous amount of experience working with those who have been through trauma and sexual trauma experiences. In our discussion we talk through how trauma and sexual...
Jul 30, 2021•55 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about motherhood, and how being a mother can create impact and change in our sex lives. We discuss all of the factors that are influencing the lives of modern mothers, and how a snowballing of social factors are directly impacting mothers and their relationships with self and partners. In our conversation Sarah and I cover how mothers go through stages and changes physica...
Jul 23, 2021•49 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about Chemsex with a particular focus on the gay, bisexual and men-having-sex-with-men community where chemsex is most common. My guest for this conversation is David Stuart who was the first person to name and identify Chemsex as an emerging gay cultural phenomenon. He's a support worker, public servant and a drug use counsellor, specialising in chems and chemsex. He is ...
Jul 16, 2021•48 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the experience of menopause with icon of the nineties Brit Pop scene, and now menopause campaigner, author and columnist and founder of Women's Health Platform Meg's Menopause @megsmenopause Meg Mathews. Whilst the menopause is a natural part of ageing which occurs when oestrogen levels decline, normally between the ages of about 45 and 55 years of age; there are still...
Jul 09, 2021•54 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about the topic of consent. Justin Hancock @bishsexed and I talk about why more conversations about consent are needed, why we think that they aren't happening and how we can all better understand consent, what it means, and what it looks like. Consent is a powerful word, but not everyone understands exactly what it means. It is an essential component of not just our sex ...
Jul 02, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing how the process of grieving and loss can impact sex lives and relationships. I'll be having this conversation with the world leading expert, psychotherapist, and author Julia Samuel MBE; who in her book Grief Works said “We seem happy to talk about sex or failure, or to expose our deepest vulnerabilities, but on death we are silent. It is so frightening, even alien, fo...
Jun 25, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 7
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the huge topic of relationships. We cover how sex can change in relationships and how one of the biggest challenges to our relationships can be our narratives and expectations of them. My guest for this conversation is the brilliant Andrew G Marshall; marital therapist, podcast host and author of twenty books on sex and relationships; including the international best s...
Jun 18, 2021•48 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about the topic of sexual diversity and why it's important that we have more understanding around the subject. My guest for this conversation is a world-recognised expert in this space and founder of the organisation Pink Therapy, Dominic Davies. Gender and sexual diversity is about moving beyond the binary, and explaining how gender and sexuality can be understood along ...
Jun 11, 2021•35 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the sexual relationships that we have with ourselves, and the topic of self-pleasure. My guest for this conversation is the fabulous Daisy Buchanan, who is an award winning journalist, author and broadcaster who's new book Insatiable: A Love Story For Greedy Girls, frankly and openly discusses the sexual relationship that Violet, the key character has with herself. Man...
Jun 04, 2021•56 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing the impact of cancer and cancer treatment on sex lives and relationships. My guests for this conversation are the amazing Brian Lobel and Beth McCann from the organisation Sex With Cancer; which is an art project and community enterprise that looks at innovative solutions to the often-ignored problem of illness, intimacy, sexual function and pleasure. Brian Lobel is an...
May 28, 2021•50 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking all about the sex that we see on stage and screen. My guest for this episode is the brilliant Intimacy Coordinator and Movement Director Ita O'Brien; who has worked on many hit shows, including Sex Education, Normal People, I May Destroy You and It's A Sin. The ideas and narratives that we pick up about sex and relationships come from multiple sources; but one of the big ...
May 21, 2021•54 min•Season 2Ep. 2
To kick off the second series of The Sexual Wellness Sessions, we are tackling the topic of stress with the brilliant author of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski. When it comes to our sex lives, we see that stress can impact sex, and sex can both cause and relieve stress. It's both a simple and a complicated relationship that is full of many contradictions. As a Psychosexual Therapist stress and anxiety are in some way woven into all the conversations that I have; ...
May 14, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 1
In this final episode of Series One of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking all about sex positivity. There was nobody better to unpack this conversation with than the queen of the sex positive space; sex educator and author of Sex Ed : A Guide for Adults, Ruby Rare . We discuss what it means to be sex positive, how to practice sex positivity both emotionally and practically; and we talk about how far we've come, and where we ...
Oct 30, 2020•56 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about post natal sex lives with pelvic health physiotherapist Clare Bourne. Trying to conceive, pregnancy and childbirth can completely change our sex lives, not just from a physical but also a psychological perspective; and many of us have questions about what post natal sex lives should be like, what's 'normal' and what to expect; and this episode aims to answer some of...
Oct 23, 2020•47 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about asexuality and aromanticism with model, writer and activist Yasmin Benoit. We cover the language we use around sexuality, common assumptions, and why Yasmin felt that it was important to open up the conversation and highlight diversity within the asexual community by creating the hashtag #thisiswhatasexuallookslike According to AVEN ( The Asexual Visibility And Educ...
Oct 16, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're opening up the conversation around disability and sex lives; and what the Undressing Disability campaign by charity Enhance The UK is doing to promote the sexual wellbeing of disabled people. Enhance The UK, are a user-led charity, meaning that all of their trainers have impairments themselves. As well as training, they focus on the sexual rights and responsibilities of disabled ...
Oct 09, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Defining Mindful Sex With Dr Lori Brotto In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, the topic of conversation is mindfulness and how it can be helpful for our sex lives. I'm talking to one of the leading experts in this area of research, Dr Lori Brotto who is the director of the UBC Sexual Health Laboratory, and author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. Mindfulness techniques are a common compone...
Oct 02, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 8
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, I'm talking to Franki Cookney about ways of being in relationships, relationship models and non-monogamy. Franki is in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, and also regularly writes about the topic as a freelance journalist who specialises in sex, relationships and social development. This conversation is not about advocating or criticising a particular model of relationships, b...
Sep 25, 2020•46 min•Season 1Ep. 7
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about erectile dysfunction, why and how it happens and the impact that it can have on men's mental health, sex lives, relationships and wellbeing. My guests, Xander and Angus are cousins who started Mojo Men after a fortuitously long car journey where they opened up to each other about their personal struggles with sex, even though it was something that they had never tal...
Sep 18, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, I’m talking to Emma and Gabby from Big Fat Negative Podcast about how trying to conceive, IVF, infertility and miscarriage can impact sex lives and relationships. After both experiencing their own struggles with infertility Emma and Gabby set up Big Fat Negative to break down the stigma, silence, and taboo around the subject of infertility; and to host conversations and offer advice an...
Sep 11, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing changing our sexual mindset. For my guest this week Ben Bidwell, this change in thinking about sex came from his own experience of struggling with aspects of sex. Through his difficulties with orgasm, Ben has been through a shift in the way that he thinks about sex, breaking away from the linear model of sex that we all so often assume; and challenging how he used to t...
Sep 04, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing sexual health with Dr Naomi Sutton, Consultant Physician working at the Integrated Sexual Health Service at The Rotherham NHS Foundation Trust, and Doctor on E4's series 'The Sex Clinic'. This conversation is about how safe sex is great sex, myth-busting, sex education, and helping people to make informed decisions about their sexual health. We talk about sexual health...
Aug 28, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're exploring the theme of sexual fantasies and our erotic imagination with Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, The Science Of Sexual Desire And How It Can Help You To Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. ...
Aug 21, 2020•38 min•Season 1Ep. 2
