In this episode, Ross Rosenberg breaks down the complex and often misunderstood concept of trauma bonding — the deep emotional ties that form between codependents (or those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder™) and pathological narcissists. Drawing from his Human Magnet Syndrome framework, Ross explains how early attachment trauma shapes our adult relationship patterns, why we stay in harmful relationships, and how trauma creates a powerful but toxic bond that feels like love. If you're stuck in pai...
Jul 22, 2025•29 min
Ross Rosenberg explains how pathological narcissism infects USA politics. NOW AVAILABLE: THE HUMAN MAGNET SYNDROME WORKBOOK. https://bit.ly/HMS_Workbook Consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription, where you can access exclusive content, insights, and services. https://www.patreon.com/RossRosenbergSLRIatreon Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated a...
Jul 06, 2025•23 min
In this episode I explain the term cognitive dissonance, and how it can be someone's friend, especially is they are suffering from codependency or what I call self-love deficit disorder. The basic definition: it is the uncomfortable mental feeling you get when your thoughts, beliefs, or actions don't match. Your brain doesn’t like contradictions, so it tries to resolve the tension. For example, if you believe eating healthy is important but eat junk food, you might feel guilty or uneasy. To feel...
Jul 03, 2025•27 min
Ross Rosenberg created the metaphor of “The Surgeon General’s Warning” to prepare and protect individuals struggling with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—also known as codependency—for the emotional costs of their healing journey. Much like the health warnings on cigarette packaging that alert users to the dangers of smoking, Rosenberg’s metaphor serves as a cautionary message to those embarking on Self-Love Recovery: profound and often painful losses may be part of the process. As Rosenberg e...
Jul 01, 2025•24 min
In this eye-opening episode, Ross Rosenberg introduces his groundbreaking Human Magnet Syndrome Workbook and unveils his powerful "Alpha Narcissist Theory." Drawing from decades of clinical experience and deep psychological insight, Rosenberg explores the rarely discussed dynamic that occurs when two narcissists enter a relationship—a battle of control, manipulation, and dominance. He explains how, in these high-conflict partnerships, one narcissist inevitably emerges as the more dominant figure...
May 23, 2025•26 min
Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions. Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV a...
May 14, 2025•50 min
Ross Rosenberg and Jerry Weiss discuss codependency and its effects on identity and family dynamics. Jerry, a recovering codependent, shares how codependency impacted his self-esteem and happiness. They introduce Murray Bowen's family systems theory, highlighting how interconnected family behaviors influence individual identities and can perpetuate issues like codependency and narcissism across generations, illustrated by the concept of "family system Wi-Fi." The hosts also explore self-differen...
Apr 28, 2025•23 min
In this video, Ross Rosenberg elaborates on his "Humanization Trick" concept, shifting the focus from the manipulative tactics of narcissists to the role of individuals with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLD) or codependency in this dynamic. He explains that codependents unconsciously engage in the "Humanization Trick" by convincing themselves that their narcissistic partners deserve sympathy, compassion, and empathy, even in the face of abusive behavior. This self-deception arises from deep fears...
Apr 24, 2025•20 min
Ross Rosenberg addresses a question from his Self-Love Mailbag: 1. What prevents individuals with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and borderline personality disorder (BPD) from understanding the emotional pain they cause to others? 2. What are the origins of the deep-seated shame experienced by people with NPD and BPD? 3. What are the reasons that individuals with these disorders often struggle to feel empathy for others? 4. What causes the intense fear of abandonment commonly seen in in...
Mar 26, 2025•26 min
Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, shares his wisdom and clinical experience on surviving and healing from narcissistic abuse. Self-Love Mailbag: leave questions for Ross to consider answering at the end of the next YouTube video. For more information about Brook: www.bit.ly/high-conflict-divorce Consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription, where you can access exclusive content, insights, and ...
Mar 19, 2025•38 min
Ross Rosenberg, a psychotherapist with 38 years of experience, discusses high-conflict divorces with Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. Although Ross and Brook have different backgrounds, their understanding and solutions for achieving positive results in high-conflict divorces with narcissists are similar and complementary. The Self-Love Recovery Institute's Self-Love Mailbag is mentioned in the podcast. T...
Feb 21, 2025•39 min
Ross Rosenberg introduces the term "Valentine's Day Narcissist, " describing it as an individual with one of three pathological narcissistic disorders—Borderline, Antisocial, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder—and their manipulative behaviors specifically exhibited on Valentine's Day. He explains that their primary tactic involves "love bombing," a form of gaslighting, to win over those with self-love deficit disorder, also known as codependency. Through this strategy, they craft an image of t...
Feb 11, 2025•25 min
Drawing from decades of experience as a therapist and his own personal journey, Ross breaks down the complexities of depression, why it’s so important to address openly, and how understanding it can lead to healing and self-love. Due to the widespread lack of understanding and the prevailing stigma surrounding depression, countless individuals find themselves compelled to endure their suffering in silence. Ross uses this presentation to illuminate a mental health condition that, while common, is...
Jan 20, 2025•29 min
Drawing on his concepts of the “Human Magnet Syndrome” and the “Codependency Revolution,” Ross Rosenberg presents a straightforward yet insightful definition of love. Patreon Exclusive Content: for exclusive content, insights, and services, consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription Program: https://www.patreon.com/RossRosenbergSLRI ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and cel...
Jan 16, 2025•19 min
Covert narcissists take full advantage of the winter holidays, especially Christmas. They get to show off while exploiting others. Patreon Exclusive Content: for exclusive content, insights, and services, consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription Program: https://www.patreon.com/RossRosenbergSLRI ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global ...
Dec 23, 2024•22 min
Ross Rosenberg succinctly reviews his Self-Love Recovery treatment program for codependency or what he calls "self-love deficit disorder." A six-hour thorough examination of this treatment program can be purchased as an audio or video download at tiny.cc/Codependency_Cure Patreon Exclusive Content: for exclusive content, insights, and services, consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription Program: https://www.patreon.com/RossRosenbergSLRI ABOUT...
Nov 29, 2024•34 min
In this touching episode, Ross Rosenberg delves into the essential principles of codependency recovery, which he calls "self-love recovery." With clarity, compassion, and empathy, he presents a compelling explanation for how individuals with self-love deficit disorder (codependency) can break free from their long-standing pattern of getting involved with destructive narcissists and instead embrace a life filled with abundant self-love. He emphasizes that while codependents, or Self-Love Deficien...
Nov 19, 2024•23 min
In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg delves into "emotional dysmorphia," a term he coined to describe the internalized, distorted self-perceptions often developed by those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. Much like body dysmorphia, emotional dysmorphia involves pervasive feelings of inadequacy or being unlovable, which persist despite contradictory evidence and affirmations from others. Ross explains how these beliefs are reinforced through abusive relationships, particularly ...
Nov 11, 2024•21 min
In this episode, Ross Rosenberg dives into the metaphor of a "parasite" to explain the toxic dynamic between codependents (Self-Love Deficients or SLDs) and pathological narcissists. Building on concepts from his books, The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, Ross explains how narcissists, much like parasites, rely on the life force of codependents to survive. Ross emphasizes that healing from this destructive relationship pattern requires addressing the deeper wounds of Self-...
Oct 27, 2024•14 min
Learn more in our latest blog post: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/blogs/blog/broken-from-the-start-co-dependents-anonymous-who-is-powerless-over-whom Full version of topic is included in ross's new book, The Codependency Revolution: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/products/the-codependency-revolution?variant=45089834762479 Just like other 12-step programs, CoDA’s first step pinpoints the out-of-control addiction or compulsive behavior that constantly creates disorder in their life. For most ...
Oct 24, 2024•31 min
Ross Rosenberg's emotionally evocative podcast captures the terror, fear, and anxiety of being an abuse victim by a loved one who has borderline personality disorder. He not only explains the experience but also offers life-saving advice on how to survive it. Similar to his previous videos on BPD (which have amassed 1.8 million views), he provides insights from his distinctive perspective as a mental health service provider with a one-of-a-kind intellect. A decade later, Rosenberg once again pre...
Oct 08, 2024•13 min
Learn more about Karen here: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jbdpodcast Find Ross's latest bestselling book here: https://a.co/d/fYuRNvE In this insightful discussion, Ross Rosenberg and Karen McMahon delve into the challenges of high-conflict divorces, especially with narcissistic partners. Karen, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, shares her expertise in guiding individuals through the emotional and legal hurdles of divorce, focusing on those affected by self-love deficit disorder (SLDD) and...
Sep 20, 2024•33 min
In this podcast, Ross interviews Alex Katehakis, a renowned marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction and healthy sexuality. Alex shares her journey, starting with an interest in human sexuality and later focusing on sex and love addiction, as well as sexual codependency. She explains the difference between healthy and problematic sexual behaviors, noting that it’s not the acts themselves but the misuse of sex that causes issues. Alex also highlights how childhood trauma and...
Sep 10, 2024•27 min
In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the hidden dangers of pursuing happiness for those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. He explains how codependents often mistake the absence of pain for true happiness due to their relationships with narcissists, who manipulate and gaslight them. Ross emphasizes the importance of addressing underlying issues like trauma, shame, and loneliness, and building self-love before seeking happiness. For more resources and...
Jul 31, 2024•13 min
With a new introduction, Ross re-shares the video that has changed thousands of lives. The most effective of all the narcissist's manipulative strategies is “Induced Conversation.” Especially when breaking down a no-contact initiative or when trying to hoover (suck back into the relationship) the codependent. For codependents to not get sucked back into the relationship that has nearly destroyed them, they must have potent countermeasures to survive the narcissist’s induced conversation strategi...
Jul 29, 2024•21 min
In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the concept of pathological loneliness, a profound existential pain that individuals with self-love deficit disorder (SLDD), or codependency, experience when they are not in a relationship. Rosenberg explores the roots of this condition, its connection to codependency, and how it manifests as a visceral, bone-aching pain driving individuals into unhealthy relationships to avoid loneliness. He likens SLDD to an addiction, where the "dru...
Jul 16, 2024•15 min
In this podcast, Ross joins Wendy Meyers to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21 Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psycho...
Jul 12, 2024•52 min
In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is joined with Psychotherapist and Reiki master Robert Jackman where they discuss the unresolved wounds one may acquire during childhood and the process for healing and embracing an authentic life. Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, nar...
Jun 27, 2024•39 min
In this podcast, Ross joins Terri Cole on the Terri Cole Show to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21 Support the show ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LC...
Jun 21, 2024•32 min
In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses Codependent Threshold Reactors as a type of codependent personality characterized by intense emotional reactions and a tendency to overreact to perceived threats or slights. They often have a hair-trigger temper, quickly becoming angry and defensive when their boundaries or needs are unmet. This can lead to explosive outbursts, hurtful words, and damaging behavior. In relationships, Threshold Reactors may become overly attached and cli...
Jun 13, 2024•22 min
