This episode is for every human who’s ever thought: “Am I actually into men… or am I just addicted to their validation?” 😳 …or “I think I might be queer, but I’m terrified of what that means.” Today I’m joined by the brilliant Inez Bye - queer content creator, business coach, and one of my real-life besties, for a no-holds-barred convo on coming out later in life, dating women for the first time, and how anxious attachment still finds a way to sneak in… even when you finally feel like you’ve me...
Jun 30, 2025•1 hr 3 min
Today’s episode is a full-on DATING DEBRIEF. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in dating burnout 🙃, ghosted someone because you weren’t sure how to say “I’m not feeling it,” got ghosted and spiraled hard, or stared at your phone thinking “Do I even want to be dating right now??” 😒 This episode is for you. We’re talking: Why online dating feels so bloody different to meeting someone IRL How to tell if you actually want to date or if you’re just “should-ing” yourself into it First date nerves ...
Jun 23, 2025•40 min
If your dating life feels like a never-ending loop of ghosting, confusion, and anxiety… you need this episode. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m breaking down the subtle, yet game-changing, difference between dating from scarcity vs. abundance. This conversation was sparked by a real-life moment from a 1:1 client session that I knew I had to share with you. If you’re sick of overthinking every text, afraid to speak your truth, or constantly worried you’re “too much”… then my l...
Jun 16, 2025•34 min
Ever caught yourself planning your wedding playlist after one flirty date? 👀 Already imagining what your couple selfies will look like before you even know their last name? You’re not alone, my love—and you’re not crazy. In today’s juicy episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m answering a question I get all the time: “How do I stop myself from spiraling into fantasy land and imagining my whole life with someone I barely know?!” If dating has you exhausted from mentally fast-forwarding ever...
Jun 09, 2025•24 min
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — when I find my person, when I make more money, when I finally feel chosen — this episode is your wake-up call. Fresh from my Europe trip, I’m sharing the biggest shift I had around what it actually means to live fully — without waiting for the relationship, the job, or the external milestone to give you permission to enjoy your life. We dive into why so many women (especially those with anxious attachment) press pause on their joy, an...
Jun 02, 2025•36 min
You think you’re searching for a relationship, but what you’re really craving is relief. A break from the spiral of overthinking and the constant need to feel “enough.” In this episode, I’m sharing a truth I learned the hard way: When you haven’t learned how to regulate your own emotions, you’ll unconsciously make your partner responsible for doing it for you. And that, my love, is where anxious dating patterns are born. We’re diving deep into why love isn’t the fix you think it is—and how chasi...
May 26, 2025•32 min
In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, I welcome special guest and Human Design expert, Hilary McVeigh. Hilary shares her journey from being a burnt-out lawyer to a guide helping people reconnect with their authentic selves through human design. We dive into what human design is, how it can help you understand yourself better, and how you can align your life and relationships with your true energy. Hilary opens up about her personal experiences with hitting rock bottom and the transfor...
May 19, 2025•1 hr 20 min
Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating — like chasing emotionally unavailable people, feeling like you’re “too much,” or constantly questioning your worth? In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re going deeper than surface-level dating advice. Because often, what you’re experiencing in love today has everything to do with the environment you grew up in. You’ll learn: • How your nervous system was shaped by early attachment experiences • The link between chil...
May 12, 2025•27 min
Have you ever met someone new and immediately felt hooked? Like one great date has your brain spiraling with “What if they’re the one?!” and then panicking when they take hours to reply? In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re unpacking one of the most common (and confusing) experiences for anxiously attached daters: the difference between genuine excitement… and anxious attachment. You’ll learn: • How to tell the difference between real connection and nervous system activation • ...
May 05, 2025•36 min
My friends… this one is a soul shaker. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop tolerating the bare minimum — from yourself, your life, your relationships — and finally take radical ownership, this is it. Today I sat down with the powerhouse that is Dijana Djukicc, and you’re about to get your entire mindset rearranged in the best way. Dijana is a coach, personal trainer, nutrition practitioner, and the woman behind a multiple seven-figure business that helps women become hot, healed, and high-...
Apr 28, 2025•1 hr 27 min
Ever feel like you always fall for the person who sends mixed signals, keeps you guessing, and never fully commits? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, we’re diving deep into why emotionally unavailable people feel so magnetic—and why breaking this cycle feels nearly impossible. I’m sharing my own journey from anxious attachment to security, unpacking the real reasons you keep getting stuck in this pattern (spoiler: it’s not your fault!). We’ll talk about: how chil...
Apr 21, 2025•28 min
In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m sharing something really close to my heart—a live talk I gave recently at the On Purpose event in Melbourne. This one’s personal. I open up about parts of my journey I’ve never shared online—times where I lost myself, felt disconnected, and how the friendships I built (and let go of) played a huge role in coming back home to me. If you’ve ever questioned your place in a friendship, felt like you were too much (or not enough), or struggled to s...
Apr 14, 2025•22 min
Flirting isn’t just about romance—it’s about confidence , connection , and having fun in your own skin. In this episode of The Secure Love Club podcast, I sit down with Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach , to break down how flirting can feel natural , effortless , and fun (yes, even if you’re shy or overthink every interaction). Benjamin shares his journey from socially anxious introvert to flirt expert and spills his best tips on building confidence, handling rejection without spiraling, and ...
Apr 07, 2025•59 min
If you’ve ever felt like your heart and your head are at war when it comes to dating - this episode is for you. In this juicy deep dive, I’m breaking down the tension between desire and discipline, especially for those of us with anxious attachment. Because let’s be real… when we want someone, it can feel impossible to slow down, stay grounded, and make choices that actually serve us. I’m sharing my own journey (yes, the messy bits too) and giving you real, actionable strategies to help you buil...
Mar 31, 2025•31 min
In episode nine of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re discussing the sensitive topic of jealousy in relationships and the anxiety and insecurity stirred up when your partner finds other people attractive. I cover why attraction outside of your relationship is normal, what is and isn’t okay, and the important red flags to look out for that may indicate your partner is overstepping a boundary. We explore where this insecurity stems from and how it can be projected unnecessarily (hear a personal s...
Mar 24, 2025•37 min
In episode eight of the Secure Love Club podcast, I address the painful and often isolating experience of going through a breakup and offer a compassionate space for discussing heartbreak. I acknowledge the pain you're going through, share how breakups can lead to powerful transformations, and provide personal anecdotes from my own significant breakups. Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or still struggling to move on, I offer practical tips for processing pain, embracing dissonance, forgi...
Mar 17, 2025•40 min
Get ready for a deep dive into the juiciest episode of the Secure Love Club podcast yet! Join me as I chat with the incredible Eliza Wilson, a therapeutic coach & clinical sexologist with over a decade of experience in helping individuals master self-love and create fulfilling relationships. We explore how anxious and avoidant attachment styles shake up your love life, the seductive yet dangerous role of sex as a form of reassurance, and the magic of building a deeper emotional connection th...
Mar 10, 2025•1 hr 12 min
In episode six of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share a personal BTS life update on the challenges I’m facing right now as a single woman in my 30s and how I feel about dating. I discuss missing my community in Sydney, craving independence while living with family in Melbourne, and taking a break from dating due to a lack of emotional availability. We dive into the importance of accepting the current season of life you’re in and letting go of unmet expectations from our 20s in order to make th...
Mar 03, 2025•34 min
In episode five of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share personal stories where trusting my intuition led to life-changing outcomes, such as changing career paths, ending a significant relationship, and even moving to Bali. By reflecting on these experiences, I aim to show how reconnecting with and trusting your inner voice can positively transform your life. Additionally, I provide actionable steps to help you strengthen your connection with your intuition, avoid common mistakes, and better nav...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 2 min
In today's episode, I sit down for an inspiring conversation with my client Maria, who shares her transformative journey from being in a toxic relationship to finding a secure and loving partnership. Maria opens up about her struggles with anxiety, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing tendencies, and the tangible and emotional shifts she made to gain confidence, set boundaries, and become her authentic self. She talks about her new, healthy relationship and what’s really like being with a secure...
Feb 17, 2025•1 hr 1 min
In episode three of the Secure Love Club podcast, we dive into how to identify avoidant behaviour early on and what secure signs to look for in dating. I break down the top five OBVIOUS and SUBTLE red flags you need to know. We also discuss the role of intuition and unpack common dating patterns to look out for to ensure more secure and fulfilling relationships. Join my upcoming FREE masterclass - Secure Dating 101, Your Guide To Becoming A Secure Dater in 2025. You’ll leave this masterclass kno...
Feb 10, 2025•44 min•Ep. 3
In episode two of the Secure Love Club podcast, I discuss the benefits of dating multiple people in the early stages to manage anxious attachment tendencies, protect emotional well-being, and ultimately gain clarity on what you're looking for in a partner. I share practical tips such as setting clear intentions, maintaining honesty on dating profiles, understanding when to disclose you're seeing other people, and the importance of not taking rejection personally. Listen in to learn how to date w...
Feb 03, 2025•31 min•Ep. 2
Welcome to the debut episode of the Secure Love Club podcast! In this first episode, I share my personal journey from dealing with anxious attachment to becoming a confident and secure woman and dating and relationship coach. Drawing from real-life experiences and struggles, I recount my childhood in a blended family, the development of my anxious attachment style, and the transformative process of discovering attachment theory. Delve into the highs and lows of my past romantic relationships, an...
Jan 27, 2025•44 min•Ep. 1
