In this solo episode, Sabrina dives into the psychology and personal journey of detaching and letting go, emphasizing that the process is deeply individual and often challenging. She explores how anxiety and fear manifest across various aspects of life, such as relationships, money, and family, highlighting that our brains are wired to resist change due to comfort zone traps and familiar dopamine patterns. Sabrina shares her personal experiences, illustrating how projections and unmet needs ofte...
Dec 27, 2024•43 min•Ep. 115
Dené Logan joins Sabrina in a thought-provoking conversation about what settling is and what it can look like in relationships. They talk about how important it is to understand ourselves as souls when choosing partners. Dené challenges the common belief that being uncoupled is the worst outcome, arguing instead that relationships should add to our lives and not be driven by societal conditioning. Sabrina and Dené delve into the energies of masculinity and femininity, emphasizing that these are ...
Dec 20, 2024•50 min•Ep. 114
Today Sabrina discusses the pivotal six-month mark in relationships, when things shift from the honeymoon phase into a deeper, more stable phase of connection. At this point, dopamine levels balance out, and oxytocin shifts, often turning spontaneity into predictability. This is when core values and life goals start to surface, and it’s important to recognize that a relationship might not work out if there’s a fundamental mismatch between you and your partner. By this stage, communication should...
Dec 13, 2024•39 min•Ep. 113
Sabrina, alongside her guest Vanessa Bennett , dives deep into the complexities of the “not enough” wound and its impact on attachment styles, hyper-independence, and relationships. Vanessa, a Holistic Psychotherapist, shares insights from her professional and personal journey, highlighting how societal conditioning often instills feelings of unworthiness. Sabrina and Vanessa explore how hyper-independence and codependency are two sides of the same coin, both rooted in attempts to soothe the wor...
Dec 10, 2024•59 min•Ep. 112
In a conversation with Sabrina, Mark Manson shares insights on navigating relationships from the perspective of an avoidantly attached individual. Drawing from his 12-year marriage, Mark emphasizes the importance of open communication and realistic expectations, especially in long-distance relationships. He advises having clear end goals and intentional conversations about logistics and contact frequency to maintain connection. Diving into Mark’s own avoidant tendencies, he and Sabrina explain h...
Dec 06, 2024•55 min•Ep. 111
Today Sabrina is talking about the 3-6 month mark in dating. This is an important time, and often the transition out of the honeymoon phase. This period reveals reality as dopamine-induced excitement fades, making it crucial to evaluate compatibility and address emerging dynamics. Sabrina encourages slowing down to regulate your nervous system and build trust gradually. This is the time to assess how your partner responds to your needs, communicate triggers, and explore values versus surface-lev...
Nov 29, 2024•37 min•Ep. 110
Whether single or in a relationship, healing is a deeply personal journey. Today, Sabrina and guest Samm Murphy emphasize the importance of curiosity, self-awareness, and connection throughout the process. Sabrina highlights how being single can create space for self-discovery, allowing individuals to break habitual patterns and focus on their inner child work. Samm shares that while healing in a relationship adds complexity, it also offers unique opportunities for growth through triggers and mu...
Nov 22, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 109
Welcome to part 2 of this series, in this episode, Sabrina dives into the 1-3 month stage of dating, where deeper emotions and unexpected triggers often emerge. She emphasizes the importance of self-trust and self-regulation, explaining that dating anxiety is natural but should be managed with tools like grounding exercises and clear communication. Sabrina advises acknowledging your triggers without projecting them onto your partner, instead taking the opportunity to explore them personally. Pra...
Nov 15, 2024•38 min•Ep. 108
Sabrina welcomes Joe Nucci to discuss dating and relationship dynamics, starting with the misconception that location is the root of dating struggles. Joe notes that while cities like New York and Colorado have distinct dating cultures, true obstacles often stem from avoidance and unresolved personal issues. They explore how self-acceptance bridges awareness and healing, stressing that dating is a skill, and choosing openness is key. They highlight the difference between connection and attachmen...
Nov 12, 2024•49 min•Ep. 107
Dating can be emotionally intense, even for those who've worked on themselves. Sabrina explains that dating triggers are normal, but trusting your instincts is crucial. Building a healthy relationship takes patience, self-awareness, and emotional regulation. Distinguish between anxiety (which spirals) and intuition (which feels calm). Set boundaries, stick to routines, and invest your emotions wisely. To manage overthinking, try journaling and mindfulness. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can h...
Nov 08, 2024•43 min•Ep. 106
In this episode, Masha joins Sabrina to dive into why so many struggle to see real progress in their healing journeys. They explore how lasting change starts with radical accountability and self-regulation—shifting away from seeking external validation and advice. Masha and Sabrina discuss how true growth means taking responsibility without self-blame, focusing on self-awareness and setting realistic expectations. They explain the importance of regulating the nervous system, responding mindfully...
Nov 01, 2024•56 min•Ep. 105
In this solo episode, Sabrina emphasizes the importance of communicating needs and navigating conflict in relationships. She wants individuals to trust themselves and be honest, even when difficult conversations feel uncomfortable. A challenge many face is overcoming core belief and facing fear of abandonment or rejection, which often leads people to avoid addressing their concerns. Sabrina explains that using your voice is crucial because your partner should want to hear your opinions and under...
Oct 25, 2024•42 min•Ep. 104
In today’s conversation, Quinlan and Sabrina talk about situationships, self-love, and self-trust. A situationship is defined in this conversation as an undefined, noncommittal relationship where one person desires more commitment than the other. Sabrina shares her personal experiences with situationships, highlighting the lessons she learned, such as the critical role of communication and how past emotional suppression from childhood influenced her approach to dating. Quinlan emphasizes the imp...
Oct 18, 2024•48 min•Ep. 103
Dr. Scott Lyons joins Sabrina to discuss the high highs and low lows of dating, focusing on the addiction to drama in relationships. He and Sabrina explore how unresolved trauma can lead to seeking emotionally unavailable partners or chaotic relationships, mirroring past experiences. They highlight how many people are drawn to emotional intensity, mistaking it for love, and how this creates a cycle of self-abandonment, as individuals chase someone else’s emotional rollercoaster instead of stayin...
Oct 15, 2024•49 min•Ep. 102
Sabrina and Silvy sit down to discuss what can cause the tendency to chase potential in relationships and put partners on pedestals. They offer practical tips for managing these patterns. Silvy, a relationship coach, reflects on her own journey with fearful-avoidant attachment after a long-term relationship, explaining how unresolved childhood trauma led her to project insecurities and set unrealistic standards. She and her husband learned to recognize their vulnerabilities and communicate bette...
Oct 11, 2024•54 min•Ep. 101
In a special 100th episode, Sabrina dives into imposter syndrome, surrendering to the process, and the importance of betting on yourself. She shares her personal journey of hitting rock bottom and realizing she wasn’t taking control of her life, focusing too much on external validation. Sabrina discusses how imposter syndrome, often rooted in perfectionism and fear of rejection, can hinder progress. She stresses the importance of self-compassion and setting personal goals. Sabrina emphasizes the...
Oct 04, 2024•41 min•Ep. 100
Shaun Galanos , a love coach, joins Sabrina to discuss the importance of authenticity, curiosity, and open communication in dating, especially regarding sexual health. He encourages people to stop playing games and be honest about their feelings. Shaun and Sabrina share their personal experiences and emphasize the importance of addressing STIs early in relationships, advocating for open conversations about testing, precautions, and boundaries. They aim to remove the stigma around STIs and encour...
Sep 27, 2024•49 min•Ep. 99
This week, Sabrina sits down with David Ghiyam to dive deep into the principles of Kabbalah and how it applies to personal growth and relationships. Both share personal insights, with Sabrina emphasizing that challenges are invitations to grow and expand her capacity to handle life’s difficulties. She reflects on how her own journey has pushed her to step into her power, even when it’s uncomfortable, and sees pain as a necessary part of becoming a vessel for greater things. David builds on this,...
Sep 20, 2024•49 min•Ep. 98
Liz Moody , a journalist turned podcaster and author, sits down with Sabrina to talk about how to grow into the person you want to be. Liz shares some of her personal journey and emphasizes saying yes to yourself. She and Sabrina encourage people to start by figuring out what they truly want, free from external pressures, and to identify their motivations. Liz suggests reflecting on life from the perspective of one's deathbed to prioritize what really matters. Both Liz and Sabrina talk about the...
Sep 17, 2024•48 min•Ep. 97
On today’s solo episode Sabrina delves into the often-overlooked concept of sitting with uncomfortable emotions. She shares personal stories to make the topic relatable, emphasizing that emotional discomfort is not something to resist but to explore. By understanding what’s happening in your body and identifying where the discomfort lies, you can regulate your emotions more effectively. Sabrina explains that managing emotions isn’t about eliminating discomfort but using tools like mindfulness, b...
Sep 13, 2024•43 min•Ep. 96
Joining Sabrina today is Kamie Crawford , diving deep into relationships, touching on dating dynamics, attachment styles, and red flags. Kamie reflects on her anxious attachment stemming from an absent parent and how therapy has helped her move towards a secure attachment. Sabrina and Kamie agree that while disagreements are natural, constant arguing in relationships isn't healthy. Kamie, who dates someone with a child, emphasizes respecting the child and communicating openly with both parents. ...
Sep 06, 2024•53 min•Ep. 95
Sitting down with Sabrina today is Thais Gibson , co-founder of The Personal Development School, which focuses on attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant (or disorganized). She and Sabrina talk about the different attachment styles to lay the groundwork for this conversation. Secure attachment develops when a caregiver is attuned, leading to fulfilling relationships. Anxious attachment often arises when parents are loving but absent, leading to fear of aband...
Aug 30, 2024•48 min•Ep. 94
In today’s solo episode, Sabrina dives into why people take things personally and how to stop doing so. She shares a personal story about being ghosted and the person later reaching out to apologize to emphasize that a lot of the time, it’s about the other person and not you. Sabrina talks about how taking things personally often stems from assuming something about the other person, which can trigger core wounds and childhood experiences where you might have blamed yourself. This reaction can se...
Aug 23, 2024•40 min•Ep. 93
Julie Menanno is on the show today, sitting down with Sabrina to talk about the interplay of attachment and relationships. Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing. She and Sabrina challenge the narrative that one must lower their expectations or avoid partners who trigger them. Instead, they advocate for using those triggers as opportunities for personal and relational gr...
Aug 16, 2024•56 min•Ep. 92
On this week’s episode, Sabrina chats with Vienna Pharaon , a licensed family and marital therapist. They delve into the concept of origin wounds and explore how childhood experiences shape our lives and influence our relationships. Vienna talks about how unresolved pain often manifests as patterns in our daily lives, and urges us not to get stuck in the past but to acknowledge and understand it. Origin wounds can stem from issues of worthiness, trust, belonging, prioritization, and safety, and ...
Aug 13, 2024•52 min•Ep. 91
Ginger Dean joins Sabrina to discuss toxic relationships, healing, and personal growth. Ginger, who experienced an abusive marriage, emphasizes the importance of understanding one’s role in recurring unhealthy relationships to reclaim power and avoid rationalizing red flags. Healing involves recognizing and changing dysfunctional behaviors learned in childhood which is crucial for addressing specific issues. Emotional awareness and open communication are fundamental, as is setting boundaries and...
Aug 09, 2024•57 min•Ep. 90
Sabrina shares her journey with overthinking, explaining that it often arises from the brain's attempt to protect us through fear and coping mechanisms learned in childhood. This process involves the amygdala's fear response, which can shut down the prefrontal cortex, causing further overthinking and misinterpreting neutral signals as negative in dating, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of rejection. To combat overthinking, Sabrina suggests identifying triggers and recognizing patterns, pra...
Aug 02, 2024•44 min•Ep. 89
In a discussion debunking dating myths, neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank and host Sabrina explore how the brain is involved with these false ideas. They challenge the myth that knowing why someone behaves a certain way will fix a relationship, emphasizing the importance of personal emotional responses over external explanations. They also address the misconception that triggers are others' responsibilities, suggesting that personal reactions need self-examination. The idea that being single will...
Jul 26, 2024•57 min•Ep. 88
Join Sabrina as she delves into a powerful conversation with Victoria Garrick Browne , a former college athlete turned mental health advocate and podcast host. Victoria shares her journey of struggling with mental health during her athletic career, including how she initially ignored her feelings and gaslit herself to push through. It wasn't until a teammate encouraged her to seek counseling that she began to understand and address her depression. They discuss the importance of authenticity and ...
Jul 19, 2024•55 min•Ep. 87
Jeff Gunther, known on social media as Therapy Jeff , joins Sabrina to discuss themes of jealousy in dating relationships, drawing from insights in his new book on how to show up authentically in relationships. They explore retroactive jealousy—obsessing over a partner's past relationships—and share personal experiences, highlighting that such jealousy often stems from personal insecurities and lack of self-worth. Jeff advises imagining trust in your partner and addressing insecurities openly ra...
Jul 16, 2024•55 min•Ep. 86