What are your values? ft. Coopa (The Magic of Discovering Yourself Part 2)

I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboom Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,

It's amazing, and I feel like you always will go on a tangent, but in the best way. I've also used them on my own for journaling, which I've loved as well. They're very very good prompts to just unpack by yourself if you want to.

Yes, I love that. Yeah, So they're available next Tuesday. But I hope you enjoy this episode and will have all the details on socials or will have links in the show notes if you want to check out the cards. But before we get into it, I tear a quick weekly update.

G Do you want to go first?

Oh?

Yay, it's been busy.

She's had a couple of big weeks. So last week we had our Busygal event. It looks so cute, so we called it the Busygal Wellness Summit, And this was in celebration of our brand new product, the Busygal, which is an all in one shake for those times when you're on the go and you don't have access to like, you know, whole food, or you're going to skip a

It looked incredible and the panelists also looked amazing.

Oh my god. Yeah. So we had an incredible panel of a whole like all different work walks of life, just talking about how they prioritize their health and wellness during those busy times. And what I loved is like everyone looked so different and that was the whole point of the summit is to be like, guys, health doesn't look one way. I know, in like the health industry, it can seem like there are a lot of right and wrongs. And something we said is like there's no

Yeah.

I love that. So, yeah, that was incredible. It was. I then spoke at a conference that friday, Oh my gosh.

And then this.

Weekend I have a wedding in Adelaide, So big week, lot's happening. I do feel like I'm getting a little bit sick, but I'm like determined not to be sick. I have just been keeping on too all the things. But yeah, it has been in incredible a couple of weeks. What about you, titty, Oh, this week's been pretty chill. But tomorrow I have signed up for a nine kilometer obstacle course. Why you are so rogue on it?

I am. It's I signed up with my friend thinking, oh, silly little obstacle course, it'll be a bit fun, paid for the ticket and then she said, I'm so glad you're doing it. I don't think anyone else is going to do it with me. And I was like why, Like it's just a.

Bit of fun.

And then I looked at the course map and it's nine kilometers and sixty obstacles, and like a tough mother, I was.

About to say, is it tough mother vibes? Oh my god, I'm so exciting. I'm excited. I'm actually really excited for you.

I cannot wear It'll be out of my comfort zone because I also haven't trained for it.

But I love that.

Yeah, is it with Christina no Kara, Okay, she's asthmatic, so I'll be fine.

I will walk the whole thing because I was like, shit, that ain't gonna be that's fun. Yeah, I love that it ta. Should we get into the upside? Yes, let's do it, all right, Cooper, the magic of discovering yourself. Let's do it. Thank you so much for joining us.

So happy to be here again. It's my favorite place.

I got to say it. Well, I haven't been on the podcast with you in a long time, but you've been on the podcast a lot, so I didn't even need to intro yet.

Yeah, all right.

Should we get straight into it? Yea, let's have some connection time with our conversation cards and discover ourselves. Cooper, what is your least desirable trait and why is it not desirable?

My least desirable? We're going straight in desirable pretty hard because I've got so many good ones. It's probably that I can be a bit impatient, and I have been working on that a fair bit.

And it's you.

You have to You have to kind of be patient if you've got three kids.

So I'm a lot.

Better than when I had one kid. But it is something that I want to work on a bit more because I was just driving in the car to come here with my wife and our newborn, and yeah, she was crying pretty hard and I was not talking, and it was I just get really distressed and impatient that I can't talk to her.

And yeah, so that was a well.

It's it's like discomfort. Like anytime you have discomfort, you want to like move through it fastly, and that's like a very normal human thing.

Yeah, like in that scenario, I was distressed and because my sweet little girl is crying and not I wanted to cry. So I'm just being impatient of like not just taking a deep breath and thing and it's all good. She's just crying because she's got a bit of pain and she's in the car and we're going to stop soon and it's all good. But I'm like, no one can in the back of my head now one can see that, like freaking out. But yeah, just admit impatient.

And so why do you think it's not desirable to be impatient?

I think that if you're fully patient, you're at peace in my head and you're just in zen and you're just nothing's going to bother you, and yeah, you're in a peaceful state.

And it's almost like a state of surrender, like a state of like whatever will be will be. And how yeah, like how freeing that is to be in that state rather than needs to be this way.

Oh, you know a lot about this, Jorde.

I don't know what I'm talking about.

I've never experienced it is exactly.

Yeah. I wonder where we get it from.

I wonder what about you, George. It's your least desirable trait? Why is this not desirable?

I don't think of any.

You can't covy me. You want me to tell you.

I am. I would love for you to talk to me about it, but I'm going to go first and then you can and then we'll discuss this after. I think mine would be that I am. I can be a control freak, so I can be very you know, it is the It's like, on one side, it has made me a very driven person and a very successful person because I am like so driven and laser focus.

I don't know what you're talking about.

Which obviously is not a nice feeling. Yeah, I think that's probably probably my most yet undesirable What would you what would you say?

Well, why is it not desirable?

Well?

I think yeah, like if others around you always feel controlled, you know, they don't feel supported or seen.

Mmmmm, yeah, they don't feel like they have the control and they can do what they want and express their feelings because they just want to please you.

Yeah, anyway, doesn't sound like experienced.

You were very strong when we first started, but I feel like you have worked on that a lot and where you are right now, which it's yeah, taking you a bit, you.

Are actually really good. I must say. I think you're a lot better.

I've been trying. I've been really trying to work on.

This, Like it's not that bad, but yeah, you just kind of get over stuff eventually with experience, but then now it's very good.

Thank you. Any other undesirable traits I have that you can think of.

Impatient one another one the same as me.

I am pretty much. We had that conversation this morning.

I don't know the controlling you're very controlling. Yeah it's a good one, but like, yeah, it's benefited you massively, so I would.

Say it's a blessing and a curse.

Yea.

All right? Go next? What are your values as.

A human as opposed to an animal?

Who wrote these? Jamie?

I actually did my values the other day, so let's go through them. So my values.

From the start your most important down to your least important.

So you want me to rank them?

They should be ranked here? I reckon, Okay.

I think something that has always taken precedent in my life or like just always been the highest is my value of my purpose that like my purpose all also happens to be my career.

Fancy that which is quinit eazy.

So that I'm not gonna lie. That's always kind of been my first And it's like, what is it my purpose to help women see like to help women be authentically themselves and to see like what they can truly have to really see themselves?

Which would do want for a woman? Empower them?

That's like what you preach it always where are you going with this?

A women to stand up and yes.

Yes, empowering women to like be their authentic self to go after what they want. But that's also my career, so that's kind of like my first value. My second value is family like Tim and ivy yep. My third value is self care time like me time where I'm filling up my cup, and then it goes to wellness. Wellness is such a huge value for me. And then my last value is integrity. Integrity, Yeah, it's always been

Nice, I like it. There's some good values.

But in saying that, like since actually doing the exercise of doing values, and we could even do a podcast at some point going through like how you come up with your values, you'd probably be really great to do that podcast giver. Yeah, like I did, And it was just like I'm being very transparent and like vulnerable with you guys, of like I do want family to be my first one, not my second one. And that's just me being really honest of like where I am at

That's cool.

I do like to say your values can change, even your purpose can change. Like everything evolves and changes, and it's it's okay to change them. Yeah, So I think it's a big thing to know that, And yeah, you're on a cool journey.

And she goes changes.

Shit changes, last words, shit happens. Guys. What about you? What are your values as a human.

Well as a human. Glad we clarified that, all right. So I go from the top, and my top is my wife. My wife is everything to me. She's my best friend. We do everything together. She is my biggest support person. She we just have too much fun together and we always laugh and us whenever I have something, I got to talk to her, and yeah, and I do have a few of those people, but yeah, so she's number one. My next and the next one is my kids. And I did have my kids at number one,

And then happy wife, happy life.

No, we're egal.

Definitely has a lot of power in some most areas, but I got a few. But yeah, So then the second one is my kids. So I like to I think I have spoken on the podcast about this, which you probably haven't listened to my podcast, but anyway.

Do you listen to all my.

Yes, so my kids.

So I like to work whenever I got a big decision in my life, I like to work down through my values and make sure each one's ticked off in that manner. And that's just kind of how I work in my head logically. So then yeah, it goes my kids, all three of them, they're all equal. And then after that is at the moment helping people in a way

I don't even know what.

Glim, so yeah, I like what he does and it's really cool. So after that is like you said, well, like boldness, health and challenging my body, like always looking to have nice foods and we all have splurges, and I think that's very good to have those things.

And it's I'm at a good point.

Where I'm having more healthy foods that if I have something bad, oh my god, it gets me so good.

I just feels.

I'm going to give a very sensitive system. Though.

Yeah, it's getting more sensitive because I'm going more healthy because I'm not used to it.

So that's like it's good.

And then yeah, always exercising and challenging my body, so doing ice baths, acupuncture mats and doing hot yogurt gym and sports stuff and I don't know, it's always challenging my body and my mind. Yeah, and then there's one more, but I always forget it for some reason my businesses and Georgia is a big value, so that hand in hand.

I love that my career was first and yours is last.

Well, I'm in a different journey, the very interesting like you might get there if you had more kids and you get to that point, but you might not.

Who knows, who knows, she changes, she changes. That was a very long answer.

Sorry, next card, I'm going to ask you this in two separate questions, so you've got to answer the first one and the I'm going to ask you a lead up question. Okay, name someone else who inspires you?

How many people?

One person?

My life coach? My coach at the moment?

Why does he inspire you with.

His knowledge and what he's doing to help people has changed my life but also change my perspective on the world.

And it's really cool.

And what makes you different from him?

Probably like a foot, he's really too bluddy jokes do comedian?

Truthfully is knowledge?

So I would like to gain his knowledge for sure, Like that's what really inspires me of what he's got. Love that, Georgia, Name someone else who inspires you?

Two part question, like I don't.

Know what's coming that I've got another sneaky question who inspires me? I honestly would have to say you right now.

Correct. Thanks, I did not expect that.

My heart was kind of racing it really, like what is she gonna say?

Well?

I was thinking who you would inspire At the moment, I was just trying to think.

Yeah, that's what I can think of.

It's beautiful. Thanks.

What's of all?

Because when I said it, I had my coach, but it was two people.

It was you as well.

Guys.

I wanted to say to people, well you didn't.

I know, I'll remember that.

What makes you different from your brother?

Your brother that inspires me? Well, I guess it's like I do tend to. It's really interesting because I'm a bit contradicting of like, you know, I preach a lot about you know, draw outside the lines, you don't have to fit yourself in a box. And I have done that in a lot of ways, you know, in my career and what I believe. But then in other ways

Yeah really cool, Like you want to do that, but you're doing it. Yeah, but it's really cool to see and watch and it's yeah, but it's good that you.

Yeah, I keep going.

But I love how you're just like you just do life on your own terms, and you're just like I don't, I just focus on me. I do me, and you're just like not too worried, and you're like I just know it will work out. I'm like, whoa, whah, whoa, whoa, whoa.

You need a plan.

We need a plan, and we need lots of control, and we can't trust anyone.

I know. Another one of mine is I trust people too much. You are very too easily, and I like, yeah, you are.

But it's it works both ways because if you're trusting, you gain really trusting relationships. But if you're not trusting, then you don't gain it. But then you don't get hurt as much I would get hurt. So there's zoea yeah too, sweets.

But isn't that interesting how we are very opposite with that, Like you are very trusting and you do you're able to like open your herd and be you know fully, like really be in your emotions and all the things. And then like I'm actually quite closed off and like not that I'm not trusting, but I'm very guarded. Like I'm very like now you have to like prove to me you'll die for me before I trust you kind of thing. But you know, like there is, Yeah, we are a little bit opposite with that.

Yeah, I think that works very well in business.

Yeah, which is it's interesting, all.

Right, so the last question, what's keeping you from living your dream life?

I really feel like I am living my dream life. There is so many aspects that of one hundred percent I'm living my dream life. The thing that sparked up when you said that was almost it's probably because we're just talking about it, but it is how guarded I can be, how I don't let myself sometimes feel full emotions and be fully like in emotions and fully like open my heart. And it's and that's obviously you know,

Do do do?

I've like got such a disciplined nature. But then it does have the full back of like not feeling into things fully, not being able to be present, not being able to like fully just be like embodied in the moment and satisfied with the moment and who I am in the moment. I do have this like absolutely driving nature.

Yeah, very cool.

Yeah, So like I guess, like being less guarded, being more in my emotions.

Yeah, I feel like we kind of we are the same with that, and we don't stop to celebrate stuff, and once we tick off a milestone or something, it's like, all right, we'll snacks. Like I always find it. I don't know if you, I know you kind of do a bit. But I always think when I hit a big milestone, it's like, how it's pretty good.

I guess, yeah, it's well, I think.

Don't sit it and be like, oh my god, but.

I'm gonna I'm gonna bring something in Cooper. It's like, are you supposed to get this big overwhelming feeling? For me, I way prefer the journey of achieving something Like I love like not the hustle, because it doesn't always have to be a hustle, but I love like the challenges me, you know, going through the challenges and like finding a new me in them and finding these reasons and developing

I never thought of it in that way.

That's why we don't just think I want another goal, because the journey is the best part.

I used to kind of put myself down for that also because I was like, why can't I just fucking be happy and celebrate myself because people always like, could do you celebrate yourself? Blah blah blah, And I think one hundred percent you should. But that's what I came to terms was of like, well, I actually just really love the feelings when I'm in it, and I enjoyed

It's definitely myself.

I do think to myself that I if I have enough money, I would be happy and I have gained like I picked that up from my childhood and just where we've come from. And if you have money, you'll be happy. And it's I feel like that, but you're just.

Using this as an example of like people think I need this and then I'll feel this way.

Yeah, but like now I'm discovering, Yeah, like it's money really doesn't give you happiness.

It's it's fun and it's.

Enjoyable, but you're still left with.

Like not true happiness.

And then that's why I have gone deeper with the knowledge I want to gain and doing this stuff of my coach and going that to that next level. And yeah, very similar to you of finding myself more and yeah, like I'm a lot more present with my kids at the moment and I can I can just sit there and be in the moment and I just like, I just feel so happy in abundance that I'm just there watching them and I'm enjoying it because I struggle to

Not the material things and that sort of thing.

So I have been challenging myself with that at the moment, like with my current stuff, I just I want to enjoy life more.

And yeah, I love that because I think what I kind of pulled from that is, you know, sometimes, like you said, it's like we are the person. We are the person, we are the thing that is stopping us from living our dream life because of the beliefs we have, because of we think it needs to be this way. And then I'll be happy, you know, and unpacking and exploring that and again like you said, this is like a life journey, so you will absolutely go to explore it.

Love it? Yeah, yep, exactly. We have some fun we can talk.

I know, Cooper, that was so much fun.

Thank you so much. Jod always says.

I never know if you like being psychastic or not.

You ways, just make me answer like this one. Yeah, and you're expecting a big line.

I'm not a expect to anything good.

How was that just your protection? Pretty good? Good?

All right, guys. Just a taste of the deep conversations and connections you can have with the Magic of Discovering your Self Connection cards. If you want to have this conversation, you know, with your partner, your sibling, your friend's family, or even journal yourself, grab the cards. It's honestly, like, how feel the magic?

Like when you get into a deep conversation, that's when stuff happens, that's when energy flows and you feel a lot more than surface level questions.

And I do love Jorda for.

That deep questions really, I love it in our family as well.

It's awesome.

But yeah, gets some gets the blood flowing, and yeah, it's awesome.

I love it.

I think like connection really is what we're all chasing, like love and connection, and these cards are such a beautiful way to like bring that with people you love. And it's just really funny.

It's interesting even if it's usually awkward, but stuff comes up. You say the awkward questions and even to someone that's really surface level and it stumps them, but then you keep asking and yeah, and A good thing I always like to say, and I have said this on here as well, is always ask why at the end when they say something, to say, oh.

Why why do you feel like that? Why do you do that?

Because everyone has a different perspective on everything, so it's always good to learn from other people's stuff, not put your judgment on them and what you think of stuff, because yeah, why not learn?

Like it's always all these books.

I listen to is always they're always saying just sit there and listen and you'll gain so much more knowledge because why would you want to tell everyone what you know, because you're not going to gain anything. Appointments remembered on but yeah.

I digress. See this is what happens.

Guys.

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