I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the
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pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's seat of your own life and stop letting life cast you by, then you're in the right place. Hi everybody, and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. A tear welcome back to the show.
Thanks, thanks for having me, thanks for letting me stay.
I feel like I should intro you because it's so weird I'm sitting across here from me. Guys, Today we have a fun episode for you. So a few weeks ago on the Potty, we had a listener right in and she was so beautiful and vulnerable about what was triggering her via me, and we unpacked her triggers and we spoke about it and it was the coolest thing.
She actually messaged back and she was like, oh my god, I listened to the episode and I loved what you guys said, and then she unpacked it even more herself and it was such a beautiful full circle moment.
Wasn't it amazing? And I loved it.
Our community is incredible, and it's like, what a beautiful thing that we can have an open conversation about something that is like triggering us and bothering us, and we can do it in such a like non judgmental and self awareness. I just want to be more conscious sort of way. And yeah, so anyway, then we kind of just go off on a riff about.
It the whole episode.
This is one of those kind of like rogue pep talk episodes. I know a lot of you love them, but it is quite rogue, is kind I think I try and bring it back in the end. I even said to a Tia, I was like, can you just really listen and make sure this makes sense? Because I was just in the moment and I was having I was like.
Oh, I think it is a bit like all over the place, but in the best way possible, like you're gonna get a lot out of it.
You can tell there was no notes even though there was no just ta had no that I just didn't but also the best episode, So yes, enjoy that. But guys, an exciting announcement you may have already seen on socials. If not, go check it out because it's like Cutos branding. Ever, we just launched a brand new course. It is a live course and it is called Rebirth Rebirth, So guys, this is a course that is all about doing motherhood
on your own terms. Obviously she is quite niched, but this has come from my own experience of entering motherhood and everyone telling me, oh, you enter motherhood and you just figure out what to do, and you know, you figure it out. And I have been very open and honest about my experience and really struggling with the start of mother hood and it really taking me a long
time to figure out this whole thing. And it wasn't until I really got to the identity piece, really doing the self development work on this new identity, on this new season of me being a mother, and then me finally feeling like almost the way to describe it is like an excel like, oh my gosh, I'm here. I finally feel confident in who I am on my purpose. I finally have like suureness of I'm here for a reason. I know you know how to navigate this new season.
And the reason why I created into a course is because I felt really disconnected and really lost for almost, you know, twelve months there, and I thought if I kind of had this you know, system or blueprint, blueprint or process, whatever you want to call it, sooner, I just I felt like I could have been I don't want to say better for my family, because I don't you know, we don't like to shame our previous self.
But I just felt like I could have come back to myself and not come back to myself, come come into my new self a lot sooner. But it felt
all over the place. And that's why I felt really called to do this course because it's really about giving you guys, if giving you guys a process of if you're a new mother, or if you're about to be a new mum, or maybe you're not even new mom, but you literally are down the track and you still feel like I don't know who I am without my children, or I still feel lost, I still feel disconnected, I don't feel strong in my relationships, and you're really looking
for that like identity piece of I want to feel solid and I want to feel really good within myself. This is what we're doing. In the course. It is one hundred percent live, which just means that it starts in May. All the details are on the website and the calls will be live with me literally with me doing them live to you. Obviously they're saved and recorded
and you can watch them after. But I really want this to be a potent group of like minded moms or mums to be where we're all in the same spot of like, yeah, this new season is a struggle and it's different and it's feeling a certain way, but also I'm so open to it being the best thing that has ever happened to me and really, like, really, even if that is like, oh I not feeling that yet, we've all been there, but wanting that piece of things don't feel that great at the moment or things just
feel off, and I'm really I'm wanting to see this as the most expense of time in the most beautiful journey, and you're really seeking that self development piece that is so niched to being a new mum, or to being a mum or a soon to be mum. This is the course for you. I've literally never seen any course like this, and that's why I brought out because I was like, oh my god, if I had this within the first three to six months, like this would have been fucking great for my t wealth and just my
family and my team. Ha. Tea is nodding her head. So I'm really excited. Obviously, I'm going to tell you guys so much more about it. I don't go into this, I don't go into it in this episode, but we will chat about it a bit more. It's just, yeah, it's so bloody exciting. All the details on the website. It is a live course, so we start in May. There will be a live course sorry every week starting from the twenty fourth. All the content will be saved.
You have the content forever. But also it's like, I'm really looking here for a community who is ready to be with other like minded mums and also who are open minded and ready to hear something different and ready for that, like unlocking that next level self of them in the mum archetype, because that's really specifically what I'm speaking to, and it's going to be really fucking potent, and it's also might be really fucking triggering. So you've
got to be open and ready for it. But trust me, if you are ready for it and you do apply this, this will be life changing because you were about to see yourself in a whole new light, in a whole It's going to give you a whole blueprint of how to navigate this new season and really just feel fucking solid of who you are, because I guarantee you if you're listening and you don't, you're like, oh my god, I just I can't even remember feeling like that, and I resonate with that so much, which is why I
created this course. Anything else to add to that a tear, We'll pop the link to the website and yes, we'll do all that, and feel free to jump into the R and C DMS if you have any questions and the team can chat to you there. Don't pop into my dms just because they little bit full. They are chocker blockers and you're going to get your answer question answered in R and C dms. But in saying that, do you have a weekly recommendation? A tear I have to tell us.
So my first recommendation is a TV show called Jury Duty. It's on Amazon Prime and it's actually a reality TV show, but it is like one of the most wholesome reality TV shows I think I've ever watched. The concept is they have all these actors and it was also created by two of the writers of The US Office, So if you enjoy that show, you'll probably love this one.
But they have all these actors and one normal person and basically they've told him that they're documenting a trial and what it's like to be on judy duty, except they're filming a reality TV show and all these people are doing the most outrageous things to try and obviously trip him up. But he is just the most beautiful human being ever. Really, yeah, And it's just so funny watching all these people be completely ridiculous and him just
having the best reaction ever. Like there was this one guy that his whole character is sort of he does weird inventions, and instead of laughing at him, this guy shows him the movie A Bugs Life, because there's a bug in there that just keeps trying to innovate and all the other bugs don't like it. And he's like, I really thought that the movie would speak to him and help him understand that not everyone's always going to understand what he's doing, but he should just keep going.
It's just the best show ever.
It's just amazing.
I'm not selling it well, but you have the most random recommendations, but I love it. Thank you.
And my second recommendation is just look at everything from Sophia Rich's wedding.
I'm completely upset, you're so obsessed.
Watch the Vogue videos, watch her tiktoks, look at all the photos.
It just looks amazing. That's it. I follow a few influencers who went to that wedding, like the founders of Summer Fridays. Yes, I follow them too, And yeah, it did look like a beautiful just like wholesome day. But also like everyone who went is just like so elate. Yeah can I cry out? I'm like, imagine having all those as your friends, Like what literally so good?
What's your recommendation.
I don't, as you know, I'm consuming. I'm not consuming a lot at the moment. So my recommendation is just more something that I've linked into and I kind of spoke about this Friday, and I just want to reaffirm it because I followed that and I felt so much better.
And it's just when you know, when something happens and you want to have a reaction, ask yourself if that reaction is going to feed into the story and the reality that you want, or if it's going to feed into the story and the reality that you don't want. So my example was this week, I am going on holidays with Tim to celebrate our anniversary. And last week
I was feeling a bit stressed. So my usual reaction in stressed is like, well, I'm just going to work more hours and I'm going to feel more like, oh, well, I'll just do it. I'll just get it done. But then that feeds into the reality of I'm unsupported and I'm the one who has to do everything. So I was like, no, we're not doing that. That's not the reality I want. The really reality I want is like I'm supported, I care go on holidays. It's not a big deal and like, that's the vibe. So I just
reacted it in a different way. And I remember there was a specific time I didn't go on my laptop, I didn't overwork, and I actually, you know, communicated to key people of I am feeling overwhelmed. Let's sit down, I need to lean on you, I need support. And you might think that is so simple, but I've actually never done that. I always just go and figure it out myself. Yeah, And that has then fed into the reality of me being in these situations. So I was like, no,
we're not doing that. So that was really cool for me to be able to get that awareness and almost break that cycle and do like, no, I'm going to take a different action here.
And before you took the action too, not after yes, And so I love that.
That was just a really cool thing for me to be like, oh, wow, I'm having more awareness and I'm breaking habits that don't serve me. Yeah, And so that's what I want you guys to think of, Like, is what you're feeding into And it's always a reaction because it's like otherwise your plant and it's perfect, So it's like a reaction of like, then how you react, what reality is that feeding into have a thing? That's my recommendation. But let's get into this KO episode.
I love it so Georgie. I know our listeners would have heard this a few weeks ago. Now on the podcast, we read out a DM from a listener who was triggered by something you did, and then we unpacked the DM and gave her, or maybe reflected to her, some of the limiting beliefs and triggers. She listened to that episode and sent us such a lovely response, so I thought I would read it out to you.
Oh my god, yes I haven't. She was amazing. I love her.
If you guys haven't listened to that initial episode, go give that a listen. Now, we'll link it in the show notes, just so that you have the context of what her initial questions.
Well, I guess just quickly, because if you're just gonna listen to this, the context was me going to Morgan Wollen in Melbourne, and she kind of comes from a country background, and obviously country is very trendy at the moment, so it triggered her. Me flying all the way to Melbourne for a country music show wearing country boots, like
buying boots specifically for the show. She felt thought it was like disingenuous, and then also how I have talked about on here about my steps being conscious with my Tessa and my putting solar in my house. And then she was like, but you're flying all the way to Melbourne to blah blah blah. Anyway, so we fully unpacked it in a very kind of like neutral way. So go listen to that if you want to hear our response. But then this is her response back, Yes, Oh I gotta can't wait. Tell me so good.
So firstly I just went to say thank you for being so kind about addressing my question. I was so nervous about this being on the potty because I was so vulnerable sending this in to you guys. However, you did not disappoint. Can confirm I listened to this and though, oh, yeah,
that's totally it. After listening to the episode, I looked back at my life and recognize that I have always struggled with holding duality within myself, always questioning my identity and if I'm more country, vintage, a biker babe, Jim Gurley, etc. For some reason, I think it can only be one. I also hold other people to this same standard that
they aren't allowed to hold duality. I even catch myself looking at potential partners and the category their identity is in, because then I'll know what category to out my own identity in. This comes from growing up in a narcissistic household and being hyper aware of other people's moods. That way, I know who to be in order to keep myself safe. I absolutely try and put myself in a box. You're so right. I am totally lost with what my concept
of self is right now. The direction I thought I wanted in my life to go down and the career I'm currently pursuing, I am now questioning. I'm so strict on my identity and who I am. I'm so serious about it all, and I'm only twenty two. Oge. I need to relax and get out of my own head. I am definitely very attached to my identity. I think because I don't actually know who the heck I am at the moment, or what my identity is because I
keep trying to put myself in a box. I was low key, one hundred percent that kid in school who was like, you can't like that, because that's my thing. I know where my childhood this has come from, and it was a safety mechanism for me at the time. Also, after listening to this episode, I've realized another trigger that I have on the same theme is that people have started getting into romance reading and Colin Hoover being trending. I've been reading romance for years, so now it's trending.
I'm like, well, you're not even reading good romance books, and I know what those are because I've been reading romance for the past six years. My culture is not my identity, is my new affirmation. I need to let myself grow, change and evolve. I can't wait to unpack where these core beliefs are that no longer serve me. Thank you Gales so much for some much needed clarity. Keep up the fab work.
Oh my god, her response.
She's amazing.
She's such a self away human. And see, this is what this podcast is about, like I, and this is the thing is we are going to go through life and we are going to judge people. We are going to judge ourselves. We're going to have all these big feelings and emotions and it's not about making ourselves wrong for having them and this is what I've been saying for a while now. It's about, oh, what is this actually telling me about myself? And how can I change
or evolve in this area? And that's why I think just this whole conversation of you know, having with this listener and then responding back is it's honestly one of my favorite things ever. And it's like, let's have more conversations like this, Honestly, guys. If you're triggered by something,
let's unpack it on the podcast. And there's a couple of points that I just wrote down while you were saying that a tea, and I think like, let's in this episode really unpack and really chat about this whole concept of the standard that you judge others is really just the standard that you judge yourself. So if you can't deal with someone else stepping outside the quote unquote box, truly, this is just a reflection of your internal prison of you judging yourself, so then you will never like step
outside that box. You would never dare because of the judgments you hold within yourself. Interesting, did that make sense? Okay?
It definitely.
You looked shocked.
I was just like processing, It's so true and that's like, imagine how much you're missing out on correct And that's like, let's let's chat about in this episode, it's here basically of like when you realize and I'm gonna be a bit crazy here there's actually no like right or wrong.
There's actually no rules. There's laws, yes, and we want to abide by the laws, but when it comes to ourselves or the identity with what we want to do, with what we could do, there are actually no rules. There is only the rules that have been conditioned and
taught to us that we put on ourselves. I love that, and I think the biggest thing that I want you guys to think about in this episode is like really start having a think of where like question get back into that as long as you can be curious in question of like where in my life have I put a condition on myself that is not actually mine. It's it's you know, your parents, it's the way you were brought up.
It's society, it's it's a patriarchy, Jackie.
It's something you've seen on social media. And see this is even interesting because if if you even look at what's happening on social media right now, it's you know, it's the Jim Girl era. It's we literally in this thing where it's like I'm in my just laughing because it's like just such a cool reflection of like people's minds and stuff. And I think it's really interesting how we go through these things where we put ourselves in a box and we even say the words of like
this is my whole personality right now. Yeah, and it's like, well, yes, that's what happened. And that's why the listener who was triggered by me going to country music because she's like, but I'm a country girl. You can't be a country girl because I'm a country girl and that was like her box. Yeah, and because I didn't fit the what she thought is a real country girl. It's like I
couldn't be one. Like it's kind of bunny. I'm just like thinking about as we're saying this, when you put yourself into the box and you really try to identify, and we love identifying because when you identify, you feel a belonging. Yeah, you feel like, oh, I'm clear, I have structure, I know who I am, and i'm stable.
Yeah.
It feels really good. But then, like you know the quote unquote shadow side of that is you have just limited yourself to that box.
Yeah, and to the the steps that come with that box. Like, if you're a country girl, then maybe your goal is to, I don't know, ride lots of horses. This is probably like the worst thing ever. I apologize, but yeah, again, what if you're being intuitively pulled to go travel, but you don't let yourself because that doesn't fit in the country girl box. Country girls don't go travel or things like that. They buy a house first. They buy a house first, or the first yeah, they get married first,
or like whatever it is. You just limit yourself so much when you put yourself in a box.
Well, that's what, like, that's the whole thing what my new course is about of how much I limited myself at the start of motherhood because I had never experienced it, and I had only seen the conditioning of what motherhood should be. I very much was trying to fit my old self who you know, she's gone. She did my
old self into this new concept in this box of motherhood. Yeah, and I felt so lost and so disconnected because I was trying to It was like trying to fit you know, a square inside a triangle.
I was literally gonna say that, really, yeah, are we so conaracter right now? Think we are?
And it just it wasn't working, and I think, like it's quite fringing once you realize there are no rules and how much we are conditioned. I'm gonna actually just put something in your mind and going to be a bit like crazy, it tire. But it's like, if you think about it, none of your thoughts are original. I know all of your thoughts are conditioned.
That's not even the way I thought about it.
But yeah, it's so true. And so when you can really hack this and be like, holy fuck, we're just like a bunch of like programmers, Like yeah, do you mean like we've just been programmed by society, by conditioning, by whatever says we abdure And how you can hack that and find like true freedom is when you don't have the rules and when you don't have the box. But I'm going to give you a big butt here in order to then feel because there is like as humans,
we need to feel belonging. We need to feel that structure and clarity. We need to know who we are. We need to know what we stand for, we need to know our morals, We need to know, you know almost like let's call it the code, the code we
live by. Yeah, but what's going to happen is if you don't figure out how to do that quote unquote code to your true, authentic self, you're always going to feel disconnected, yes, or you're going to feel you know, connected, But then you're going to be like that girl who's like anyone who is different to her, it's like triggers her. Yeah, and that's like, that's truly means you're not actually that connected sort of thing.
Yeah.
So it's about like realizing there's no actual rules, there's no actual what you think in your mind is what you have to be, but you still do need to hold an identity and have some sort of code. The big thing is figuring it out for yourself, because as long as you apply conditioning from other people, you're not going to feel happy because it's not yours, it's someone else's.
And do you think it's also almost allowing yourself to do that box list for lack of a better explanation, in that your hobby might be, I don't know, something like golf, but you work in a creative industry. So even though that doesn't necessarily fit in the same quote
unquote box that society gives you. It's fine, and like allowing yourself to have the freedom to try all these little different things when people will probably because everyone puts themself in a box going, oh, that's so weird, you can't do that you work here, or like for moms, for example, that's probably a really easy one is oh, you're a mom, so why are you working full time? Or oh your a mom, so why are you're going
out with your friends on the weekend. You should be with your baby, and such like moving past that judgment so that you can actually find your true authentic self.
Yeah, do you mean like almost trying things on?
Yeah?
Yeah, well I think also the first part is just being aware of like I said, if you judge other people for just doing things that are different to you, like that's the first issue, because you cannot hold duality that people are different and they're leading different lives and they can do two contradicting things but still be right. Yeah, because like I said, and this is getting so deep, I feel like this is gonna be way too deep
for this episode. But really, your external world is just a reflection of your internal world.
World.
So if you are judging someone for expressing their true authentic self or expressing a decision that feels truly authentic to them, there is no way that you could fully express your true authentic self because you're judging them and everything's just a mirror.
Wow.
So that's what I mean, Like, I think that's the first thing of being like, oh fuck, I actually pretty judge. Yeah, And I think that's okay, and we have to be judging. That's how we establish ourselves in the world. But just watch where you can't hold duality and you think things have to be a certain way, and you can't hold people being multifacet because that's going to show you the level in which you're currently at with I guess your internal prison.
Yeah, wow, did I just get really fucking fly.
A tears? Like this is a quick twenty minute episode, Like we have three minutes left, How we're gonna wrap it up? How are we gonna get you? No?
I totally get what you mean. And I think something that I realized recently is like I do I genuinely know, is when people have different priorities to you and it triggers you because you don't allow yourself to do that.
Yeah, oh my god, that is literally something I'm working through right now. So it's so funny. I'm working through my coach. How Cooper and him trigger me with like how fucking chill they are interesting, how chill they are, and also how abundant they are.
Wow, triggers the fuck out of me, and I'm like.
It's like, why God, I hold this? How cool is that? Because, like I said, if you can go through life just being like that really fucked. It's like, literally Tim bought a car without asking me, his new fucking Mercedes. Anyway, that's a whole other story I'll tell you on the body.
And it triggered the fuck at me, Like, first of all, it was like he shouldn't have done it, but also that was how green amount before we had to consult each other on expecting Babe, big green amount was a thousand bucks.
Being like, yeah, God, for a thousand bucks, I.
Can see the bank account. It's a whole other story we don't have time for, and I will unpack it. I'm sure we should get him on the podcast and ask him. But it was more this thing of him like owning he wants something, he buys it. Yeah, and he doesn't worry about it. Me, I'm like, should I buy this? For months? I'm like, blah blah blah, I've got to save delayed gratification blah blah blah. Like and it triggered the fuck out at me because it mirrored to me the parts of myself that I don't give
permission to just do the thing. See how cool the now? And that's literally one of your rules. I know, I know it to you, I know this is what this is, what's traveling about the whole thing. But it's interesting because I had the conversation with him of like boundaries, we don't just go and buy past timathy. But then what the part was really making me angry was this beautiful mirror of like where I you know, because I was like,
you're so impulsive blah blah blah. But if you think about it, the highest frequency of impulsiveness is proactiveness.
And it's intuition toness.
Yeah, knowing exactly what you wanted, just having it. Yeah, Whereas like I don't have that. I question myself. I poll people, especially with expensive things. I have to like fucking sit in that shit for like months. Yeah, I thought about my Tesla for so long and had multiple conversations. He's just like, damn, I like it. I like it for Gazza, And so that's what I'm saying is like that was really off topic, but anyway, but it made it. It made sense. I want you to think of just question,
have a think. We're going to put a thread in the Facebook group. Where are you, from your conditioning doing things in a certain way because you think you have to, because you think it's the way you are, because you think it's your human design, whatever it is that is actually not serving you or holding you back. So this episode, guys, I really want you to think of, like, where are
you selling yourself short? Where are you just living your life because you think you have to or doing things a way that you think you have to, but it's like, oh, I actually just fucking want to do life a bit different.
Have a look at which boxes are triggering you or what people do that triggers you, and maybe even try and consume less content around that thing. Like if you're getting triggered about mums doing things differently, maybe just stop consuming motherhood content for a little bit. Have a look internally unless it's expanding, have a look internally at what you sort of want your motherhood identity to look like and then work it out.
Well, I'm going to challenge you on that idea. Yeah, that is good advice, but it's like a big thing. So anytime someone triggers you for doing something, yeah, you just think I'm just fucking angry. They're an idiot. Yeah, I want you to think about when you're not expressing that. So, for example, let's just go what you just said, Yeah, mum doing something differently. So where are you not doing things differently? Oh? Because otherwise why would you be triggered?
Yeah? So true, you just wouldn't care. Yeah.
So that's like Tim's example of like he was spending money and doing life a certain way and it's different to how I would do it. Yeah, so it triggered me. But when I really looked at it, like I was quite jealous the way he was doing it. I wished I could do it, But I made him wrong.
I had that with my sister book in a year.
You're so irresponsible, like fucking yeah, but actually yeah. So for example, even going back right to the side of this episode of the Beautiful R and C listener getting triggered of me flying to a music festival. Even you could pick out points of like that's spontaneous, Yeah, that's out of the box. And then she even told us I literally live inside a boxy and of course that triggered her. Yeah, because I was stepping outside of the box.
So truly consume all the content, let yourself get triggered.
Well, I think it's about because can you go through life just you know, you can't go through laughing like oh well I'm just not going to talk to that person or I'm just gonna you know, you can do it on social media of course, but it's like your people. Life is always going to reflect what you need to grow and learn and evolve. So it's like instead of just fucking being angry all the time or triggered or thinking you're right all the time, where can you actually
be like, oh, where can I learn something here? What could this actually be showing me?
So true?
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