How to step out of fear when chasing your goals

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are chatting fear. We are rising and conquering fear. So this has been coming up a lot lately, whether it's for myself or in my DMS or I even remember I got a question about this at the live podcast events and so a big reason why we don't chase out of dreams. We don't do you know, the thing we want? We don't take the bold action is because we're fearful. We're fearful of what others will think. We're fearful that we won't make money, that it will air

quotes fail. So this can relate to a lot of things, like, you know, wanting to leave your job and pursue your side hustle, or even starting a side hustle, or this might be a toxic relationship that you want to leave, or just starting something new. And a big thing that I've been thinking about lately is realizing that we very much have a choice with most of our actions in life. And I'm not going to sit here and try and say, you know, I understand everyone has fear, and I understand

all the concepts around it, because I just don't. I know, everyone has so many different circumstances, but at the end of the day, we all do have a choice in taking that next step leaving the job, you know, leaving a relationship, starting something new. And I read a quote the other day and it said you are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be, And so I really resonated with this. And in regards to fear, we may feel fear, but we can choose if it

consumes us or if it doesn't. So something I constantly have to remind myself is, like I said, like we have a choice, and we get to decide who we show up, who we want to be, and what we want to do. So a lot of you would know my story with leaving my corporate career and starting something new, but I'm just going to go into a little bit. So I did my law degree, I finished that. I then while I was doing my law degree, I got this amazing job at a good mid tier firm in

the city. I worked there and I was starting out as a law clerk, and then I end up getting a graduate position and I did my pot through them. It was amazing. They paid for it like a really amazing opportunity, and basically at the end of it, you get a job in the firm. And I was doing family law and I would had to transfer into a different sort of law, which was fine. But also while I was studying law and working corporate, I was doing this side hustle of my Instagram and YouTube where I

was blogging and vlogging about what I loved doing. And so a lot of that was health and fitness, and a lot of it was mindset too, and so I was doing the side hustle thing and the corporate thing, and it kind of just got to the point where I knew I couldn't do both. And so I was at this crossroads where I either stayed in corporate, took the job, did the job, and let go with my side hustle. And that was obviously it's a very safe option.

And in regards to you can imagine what you know, my parents or older people would have thought, is like, of course, you're staying in corporate, You're staying in the safe job. You're staying in the law job. But I did have sparkly eyes for this side hustle, and I didn't know where it would leave. Like what I was doing in that moment wasn't what I wanted to do

for the rest of my life. But I just had this really intuitive feeling that it's almost like niggling feeling that I was supposed to do this, This was like my right path. So I came to these crossroads, and I had such fear around this decision because I'm very logical absos he did a law degree, Like I love structure, I love black and white, so logically I knew the you know, air quotes right decision was the law job.

But then intuitively, I had this really strong feeling towards this other thing, this side hustle, which was very murky and I didn't really know what was happening with it, but I just had this really strong feeling. And the only reason for not doing the second option was because I had fear around what would others think of me? I had fear around like, you know, where can this

even lead? What even happens here? I should take the safe option, you know, the option where I'll know I'll be able to provide for my family that's you know, recognized by social standards as a real job, and just the fear of the unknown, like what's going to happen? And so that was the biggest crossroads and the biggest

fear choice and decision in my life. And looking back, I'm just so glad the decision I made because of what has followed by following my intuition, really not letting that fear consume me and having faith that, you know, things were going to work out. And if I really followed my true authentic self and really what felt aligned, then everything was going to be okay, and so I just wanted to go through some stuff kind of some

like tools. You guys know, I love my tools and my practices that I do when there is this big decision and I am facing a lot of fear and how I sort of work through it because I know firsthand how difficult it can be. So the first thing I want to chat about and all these exercises I

will usually do in a journal. I'm really into like writing things down and getting them out on paper, because often when thoughts are just swirling up in your head, they feel a lot bigger, and they feel just like kind of harder, and I find like putting things on paper and then rereading them, they can become a lot easier or clearer, or you read it and you're like, oh, it's actually not that bad, or I shouldn't be so fearful.

So highly recommend getting out a notepad and pen and maybe just write down these questions and then you can journal later or whatever you want to do. So Number one tool is I asked myself, like, how will I feel if I don't make this step, if I don't make this choice, how will I feel? This is a lot to do with the feeling of regret, because even though fear is a really big feeling that can keep us stuck, for me, especially with my decision to leave

corporate life, was around the feeling of regret. And it's funny I actually read it. I think I heard it in a podcast about this study where they interviewed all these people who were on their deathbed quite literally, and they asked them what is like one thing they wish they had done or what would they change in their life? And most of the people talked about things they wish they would have done, So they didn't talk about, oh, it was so great I stayed in my corporate job

and did the safe option. They really talked about the things that they wish they had done. And that's what I mean in regards to I think regret is this really big feeling, and so you kind of need to sit in the feeling of Okay, here are the options. How will I feel if I don't take option A? And how will I feel if I don't take Option B? And personally, for me, I knew, you know, I had finished my law degree. I knew I could always go back, you know, I might not have that job waiting for me.

But it was still an entry level job. And you know, I knew I had the wits about me that I could find another Whereas if I didn't do this other thing, the side hustle thing, which I didn't really know where it would lead, That's the thing. I didn't know where it would leave. I didn't know what would happen, and I just knew that I would have so much regret around that. So for me, the regret was a lot stronger than the fear, and that's the reason why I

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straight back into the episode. So another tool or practice you can do is think about the worst case scenario. So with me, I had this second option, the side hustle. I didn't know what was going to happen, where it would lead, and that's how I guess a lot of you would feel in regards to your next steps. And so I put myself in the worst case scenario of what would happen if I did this side hushole thing, if I took the leap, what would happen? And the worst case scenario for me was I would go back

to law, I'd go back to a corporate job. And then it kind of struck me that I was already in my worst case scenario. So I was already in that corporate law job, which if I didn't take the second option, I would be in. But basically, think of the worst case scenario if you don't take this next step, if you don't chase this dream, and if you're like already in it, then what have you got to lose? And that's what I realized. I thought, what if I

got to lose? Like, and I know in some circumstances you may have a lot to lose, but really thinking about what is the worst case scenario? And also I kind of got okay with the worst case scenario, so I was like, look, I can leave this really safe, amazing job and I can do this side hustle and really just find out what's happened. If I fail, I come back to this current position. And I was okay

with that. So I think, once you get okay with a worst case scenario, you almost like the fear disappears, and that kind of happened. I'm going to tell you a story when we started Naked Harvest, me and my brother Cooper, So we were talking about this worst case scenario of starting Naked Harvest, and we did both have to put in a lot of money at the start because Naked Harvest is completely funded and built by ourselves. We didn't get any loans or any people supporting us.

And so me and Cooper spoke about this and he was like, worst case scenario is I have to sell my house and he was like, I'm okay with that, and it's it's so true, Like he was like, look, if I have to do that, you know to do this company because he believed in it so much. He's like, I'm happy to do that, and I love that. I'm just thinking back and having a laugh. Sorry, getting back to it. So really like, sit in what is the worst case scenario? And then another thing to do And

this is a really cool thing to do. And I love sitting in feelings. So sit in the feeling of what happens if you take this next step, if you chase the dream, and if you succeed, sit in that feeling right now, and then ask yourself if it is worth foregoing that feeling. You know, if you're going to have regret if you don't get to that feeling. And it's not necessarily about being successful, but it's about having

the knowledge that you tried. So for me, it was really important that I didn't care too much about being unsuccessful, but I did really care about if I didn't even try in the first place. So they are two really easy tools you can use. And then another thing I just wanted to touch on is you know, if you are currently chasing this dream or there is this big next step, be prepared, don't overdo it. So personally, before I went off by myself, did my side hustle, started this podcast,

started Naked Harvest. I definitely tried to prepare myself in ways like I actually got a business coach. I've taken courses in the past, like I took like an online course of how to start a podcast to start my podcast. I have had mentors, I've read so much books. You

guys know I love my books. I actually was wondering if you guys want me to do a segment on here where I literally just go through you know, like my five favorite books, my five favorite podcasts, my five favorite like resources that have got me to where I am today that I have found really impactful. If you guys want that, definitely let me know. And so I've listened obviously to a lot of podcasts, and so it's

great to be prepared. But something that I do often find is people, and I've done this myself, guys, is people will constantly like consume this knowledge of what to do, but to the point where they won't actually take the first step. So they'll just constantly think, oh, I just need a bit more knowledge about podcasts before I start a podcast, and they'll go listen to, you know, eight more podcasts on how to start a podcast or buy

the next course. So it's important to be prepared in this next step, but I think you need to realize that honestly, like no one really knows what they're doing, and it's more important to actually take the small action. And something that I've realized in regards to consuming resources, podcast books, when you start to hear the same things over and over again, this is a sign that you need to stop consuming. You need to stop listening to

the podcast. Stop you know, reading the books, and you need to take action because you're never going to feel ready. Even now, when I look back at all the big things that I've done or accomplished when I started them, I did not feel ready for one thing, Like, not one thing. When I started this podcast, I literally was like, oh my god, this is so amata, Like I just like I was not ready at all. And even with

Naked Harvest, I thought what am I doing? Or like leaving my corporate job like it, it never feels like, oh my god, I'm ready to leave. Now I'm going to leave. Everything's going to work out. It doesn't feel

like that. It feels fearful. But I've really learned to lean into the discomfort, like lean into the fear, because the reality is, you know, when you think of your mentors or the people that you love and adore or look up to who have done things that you want to do or you know, like accomplish things that you want to do, I guarantee you they did not feel ready before they took that first small step towards that goal.

Like it's really funny because it's like you want clarity, you want to feel like, Okay, it's ready and then I'll take the step. But clarity doesn't really come until you take the step. And also you'll find that the first step will be very messy and you will tweak things and perfect things along the way. And so that's why I always tell you guys, like, take messy, bold action, because that's how you get somewhere. That's how you do something. And also a big thing you need to realize is

no one is going to do this for you. No one is going to be brave for you. When you are facing fear around taking this next step or chasing your dreams. You are the only person that has the ability to take the next step to be brave. And trust me when I say no one knows what they are doing, like no one has all the answers, but they throw themselves into it and they just yeah, they

get into it. And I think that's really what sets people apart, and really sets the people doing pretty epic stuff is they will take bold, messy action and they'll feel uncomfortable, they'll be consistent, and they'll just kind of figure it out. And I think you need to realize that your journey is exactly that it is your journey, so how you get to your next step, how you see yourself in the future, Like, it's all up to you and it is going to be so different to

everyone else. So don't get too called up in you know, your first step looking like mine or looking like someone else. Really lean into listening to your intuition, listening to yourself and going from there. At the live podcast event, we interviewed this amazing woman called Angela Carmen and she is a consciousness coach. She has a real key healing too, and we asked her, you know, how does someone know how to listen to their intuition? And she said, your

intuition comes from your heart and your gut. So she said, ask yourself the question and hold your heart and see what the answer is from and really try and get the answer from your heart, and then hold your gut and ask the question again and really feel it in your gut and heart, and you will either like she was explaining that your body will really like feel into it or reject it and listen to that instead of

listening to like the logical thoughts. And that's something I constantly have to work on because I'm such a logical person. And I'm really trying to get into my other side of the brain. But yeah, and also relayze guys that everything really takes time, and I know it kind of it looks like there's these overnight success but you know, like just to let you guys know. For example, I obviously do sponsorships on Instagram, but I was blogging and posting on Instagram and my blog for five years before

I even started to get paid. Same with YouTube, and it was like a very small amount. So I don't want to scare you or anything, but I'm just saying things really do take time. But in the end, if you are being intuitive and you are taking bold, aligned action,

that's when the goodness happens. But that is it. I just really felt cooled to speak about this because I know it is such a huge thing and fear can really consume you, and it really upsets me because I know that you guys have so much potential to really chase after your dreams and like do the epic things and really chase your goals. So I hope this helped and I will see you in my next podcast. Thanks

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