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self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's seat of your own life and stop letting life pass you by, then you're in the right place. Hello, my loves, and welcome back to the potty. Okay, so I have a couple of questions for you guys. Are you currently stuck at a crossroads or are you trying to navigate whether it's time to let go and move on or push Because you might be on the edge of a breakthrough. If these are questions currently in your brain, then today's

episode is for you. We unpack the power of pivoting, how to know when it's time to make a change, and how to know when it's time to stick with it because you're almost there. If you struggle to allow yourself to change or navigate change in general, then you're going to love this episode. But before we get into it, a tear Weekly Recommendations. Mind's a bit of a hack

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And I think this is what's really fun about manifesting and self development work is you get to have a bit of fun with it and it can be this like almost like you're playing You're playing a bit of a game. Yeah, it is a bit of a game. And that's what I think of what we're doing about the pivoting concept. And basically, I think there is just so much power in the pivot. When I think of pivoting in a manifesting lens, pivoting is the universe redirecting you.

And I think society has really given us this warped view of things shouldn't change and you shouldn't pivot, Like even if you think about the concept. When I was in school, you know, about ten years ago. It really was like pick one job and that's your job for the rest of your life. Yeah, and then you retire and that's it. There was like I actually didn't know any adults who didn't do more than one job. Wow, Like if I think of every adult like to you know,

I'm talking when I'm like what sixteen. Yeah, Like my dad he picked plumbing. He was the plumber for this whole life. You know. My brothers were younger, but they had done the same thing. My mom picked typewriting, became a typewriter at court, but then had kids and every went back to work. And I just really didn't know any adults who had pivoted, who had done different things. And it's like it just wasn't normalized to me. And I really had this concept of like you peak one

thing and you don't pivot. And that's really why I finished and completed my law degree, even though I probably knew I didn't want to actually practice law, because I had this thing of like you have to you have to finish it. Yeah, you have to get it done. And don't get me wrong, I love that I finished my law degree and I got so many life skills, but I really wasn't well versed on this like being normalizing,

changing your mind and pivoting. And I feel like in the last couple of years, I've really leant into this vibe of not only being like a multifacet person where I'm able to change and evolve at a rapid rate that honestly, I probably contradict myself after twelve months, but

also I'm happy to contradict myself. I think I've said on the podcast before, I really hope that if you listen to an episode a couple of years ago on the podcast, I am contradicting myself and I'm saying something different because I truly believe it's like, as humans, we are meant to evolve, we are meant to change, and I think it's just it's not normalized. So it's like, let's start talking about how we should change and evolve and almost have a bit of fun with pivoting in

our lives in manifesting. And I think the concept of pivoting too is I love to think of quote unquote setbacks or things that happen that you're like, oh, I didn't like that, They're not bad things or things that shouldn't have happened. It's just showing me what I don't want in my life, what energy I don't want, what things that I would want differently, And it's like these really amazing lessons and things that are happening for me to show me the life I do want, to show

me the person I do want. And I get to make mistakes and I get to pivot, and I think there's so much you know, power in the pivot on your school example as well, don't you think that like in school, pivoting is also frowned upon a little bit, yes, or even like I've got this like thing in my head of I remember my dad saying, you know, his friend's daughter changed her degree like five times, and like how disappointing it was. Yeah, and like what a mess

of a human you must be if you change your mind. Yeah, like hot mess, Yeah, hot mess vibes. And even every time I think about pivoting, I think about high school musical and that song they sing. I think I've said this on the podcast before this, the song they sing where they like stick to the status quo, like if you're the basketball boy, you're only the basketball boy. If you're the no girl, you're the nerd girl. You cannot sing together, yeah, which is like the whole plot of

the first movie. But that's like reinforced within us from such a young age because thinking back to school, like people didn't really change their mind much like the kids winning cross country in grade seven were kind of the same as the kids winning cross country in grade twelve. I don't know if it's just my school such a great example, yeah, but like people didn't change and it was frowned upon if you almost tried something new, because that's what's ingrained in us from like such a young age.

And it's so funny because it really could be as simple as if something's not working, pivot yeah, or change if you're bought yeah, change change it up. Yeah. And it's so many of us are like almost scared. And I think even now thinking about it, it's like how people say you need to pick a niche, you need to have a niche, Like what do you enjoy? What's your one thing? But it's like learning, like how you said you started to embrace it. You're a multifaceted person.

It's learning that you're not just gonna have one thing and that's okay, and also there's allowed to be stepping stone things. Yeah. I think, like I even talk about in my Journey of when I left Laura and I didn't know what I wanted to do. I had this like twelve month period before me and Cooper started Naked Harvest where I try a whole bunch of things, like I released a cooking ebook just honestly, I was obviously really into it at the moment. It's like so random

of me. I did presets like I just like dabbled and was like, hm, what feels good to me? And all those things were very successful because they were very like authentically me in that moment. But they were like these beautiful moments of just like leaning into what felt good and they led to really amazing things. Yeah, And I think sometimes people can be scared that it's like, well, I've got to do this thing. It's got to be like the thing, yes, and it's got to work, and

I can't do anything other than this single option. And the only person you're hurting when you decide that is yourself. And it's interesting too, because I think when things don't go our way, we think it's like this really bad thing but really it's like you're not blocked, you're just being asked to pivot. So it's like where do I need to go next? Where do I need to pivot? And seeing that as a really really positive thing rather

than negative. Yeah, all right, guys. So if something's not going your way, or if you're getting weird like feelings about doing something different, I want you to ask yourself, what is this showing me? Is this an invitation to Because another thing with a pivot that I want you guys to think about that I like to do is if things aren't going my way, I really do see this as an invitation to go deeper. As you know, if something's triggering me, it's like, oh, what part of

me needs to heal? What part of me? Is this showing that I get to work on. There is a bit of a moment though, where you don't want to just constantly pivot so you're never learning the lesson yeah, and just constantly oh it's not working, change, Oh it's not working. Change. So there's so much power in the pivot, but also make sure you're taking into consideration what's the lesson here? Yeah? Is there a moment I can go deeper?

And figure out, Like, if something doesn't work, I always love to like reflect and figure it out, because if you don't, it's usually going to come back again again in some other way. And so it's really important to do the work on that. For example, if you find someone and you see someone and they just like jump from job to job to job to job to job very quickly, and when you ask them about it, they're like, Oh, it just wasn't the right vibe. It just wasn't this,

It just wasn't that. But when you look at the timing, it's almost that like every time there was a potential challenge or something that was uncomfortable or something that would have put them out of their comfort zone, instead of doing the thing, they just went and got a different job. Yes, totally.

And it's about navigating that like, oh, is this just a lesson I need to learn, or like is this just an uncomfortable conversation I need to have to then grow and then continue in this job, or is it actually a bad environment for me and is it actually not serving me? And navigating that decision, because if you just jump from job to job to job to job every time, you have to have an uncomfortable conversation. It's inevitable that you're just going to keep changing because workplaces

come with conversations that aren't the most comfortable all the time. Yeah, totally. That's such a great point. And I think again, it's like noticing the patterns. If something is popping up more

than once, it's not a coincidence. That's what I like to think, And it's like, Okay, what's the lesson here, what's the thing that I need to learn and work through and makes you do that and then pivot and then change, And like, obviously it's going to depend on the circumstance, but being consciously aware of that, I do

think like there's so much too like seasons. So I've talked about this concept on the podcast for a very long time of like understanding what season you are in and this month and rise we are talking about alignment, and it's really about understanding that just because something served you at a certain time doesn't mean it's going to

serve you in the future. So maybe it's a friendship, maybe it's a job, maybe it's a hobby you do, you know whatever, It's like, it's okay for that to be a season where that is perfect for you and it serves you. But then it is okay to pivot and change. But only you are going to know if that is the right time, if that thing is not serving you anymore. And that's a big thing. Is like you need to lock into your intuition because only you will know. And obviously we teach you the realignment formula

in the Rise at this month. It's called the Rose effect, and I really bring you through this formula of like when you need to realign because things aren't feeling right, so it's like it's time to pivot, it's time to change. But really leaning into I guess normalizing that because this is I'm someone who's very disciplined where if something worked for a certain amount of time, I even if it's uncomfortable, I will continue to act and do that thing because

it worked at a certain time. Yeah, it's like logic, It's like, yeah, logically, I'm like, I don't mind delayed gratification, don't mind being a bit like not in the right vibe because it's like it works, so I'm just going to do it. Yeah, But what's really important is understanding that if it doesn't feel good, it totally means it's time to change, because when you realign, it should feel

easy and it should feel flowy. But we are totally creatures of comfort and we like to stick to what we know, and so that new like period of figuring out what is the new? You know, comfortable, it's uncomfortable. So you can understand why we don't always like to pivot. We don't always like to realign. And would you say that fear of pivoting also has a lot to do with fear of judgment from others, Yeah, and also like

judgment or yourself. Yeah, because I think that, like when I think back to times when I've decided to pivot or not or like I have pivoted, the main I guess limiting belief for me has always been but what are people going to think when they see that I've done this? And I think that that's probably a really common one, hugely, Yeah, I think, yeah, I think majority

of people for sure. Yeah, So how would you suggest people sort of navigate that exact sort of belief when it comes up in relation to pivoting, because I know it comes up a lot in a lot of different scenarios, but pivoting specifically, Yeah, that's a really great question, Tia. Well, I think it's like judgment of others is because if we're looking at this from like a shadow work lens, you thinking others are judging you, is really you just judging yourself. Yeah, that's like it's like no one can

make you feel certain way, only you can. So if we bring it into that concept, it's really the work of what's the belief behind you not wanting to make the pivot and what's the belief behind the judgment. So bringing it back to the example of like me having that memory of dad saying that girl who changes her degree five times is a hot mess. There there's the judgment. Yeah, so it's like I'm going to project, well, people are going to judge me that I'm a hot mess, that

I'm not I haven't got my shit sorted. But really it's an internal judgment to myself from a belief from childhood through my dad. Yeah. And I could simply do the limiting belief blasting formula that we teach you in Rise last month, and so I would go through that belief and rewrite it, rewire my subconscious and then what would happen is I wouldn't have that judgment anymore, because that wouldn't be a belief anymore, right, and you could

put a new belief on top. You could create a new belief that it's like the person who is listening to that intuition, the person who is following their heart, always has their dream reality, and you would replace it with a new belief that feels better, that honors how you want to feel. I love that. Yeah, that's what I do. And that's even something I've been leaning into recently. Is any time you think like you have a projection that someone is judging you or you shouldn't do something

for judgment reasons. Yeah, really bringing it back to how am I judging myself here? Because it's so easy to put the blame on other people and society, and of course it like it is, it's it's not actually us. But if this was a judge on myself, like bringing it back to their because I do find it's easier to work through rewiring like my subconscious and my beliefs when I do it that way. I love that. And just asking yourself the question, because as long as you're

okay with what you're doing, it shouldn't matter. And this is A really good thing to start is I guarantee you if you judge yourself. Let's go back to my example of being that person who's like a hot mess because they change their mind, I catch yourself. I guarantee you judge others. You would not judge yourself if you weren't judging others for the same thing, If you weren't

judging others for the same thing. So the next time that that comes up and your reality, catch yourself and go, oh, I was just about to judge that person and project that they didn't have their shit together because they changed their mind. Can I have a new belief on this? Can I decide differently because you not putting judgment on someone else will then reflect and you not judging yourself.

I love that because it's almost that thing of like, the people who have succeeded at doing what you want to do will never judge you because they've been there totally. And it's that thing like when it comes to pivoting. I guess when I look at like people's stories, because I love looking at people who've had insane amounts of success,

like their journey. There's always heaps of decisions that just don't make sense until you look at the entire journey as a whole and you're like, oh, I can kind of see how they were feeling like that would have been the right thing, but in the moment, there's no way anyone ever thought that that was the right decision. But then it falls into place and they're like, oh, of course that made sense. But it's reinforcing that within yourself.

Of like, if I trust my gut and my intuition and being in tune with yourself and trusting yourself, I guess then you can't go wrong, and that maybe in ten years time, with hindsight, everyone will go I get

why she did what she did totally. And it's it's also just would you rather live a life making decisions from other people's projections and point of view, or would you rather make a life where you get to decide because it feels good for you and decide like you know, getting into that because it's like I remember making decisions, you know, like doing my law degree, which is very much I was trying to please other people, and I felt so scat, I felt so like empty, whereas now

I make decisions from my heart and my intuition, and they absolutely don't make sense to other people sometimes, but it's like I can live with myself because they're mine exactly, and you're the only person you have to answer to at the end of the day. Yes, yeah, all right, my loves. I hope you loved this episode. If you want to chat about the episode, we have a community Aspect and the Rise app where we're all chatting away in there, so come in there if you would like.

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