Instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing myself to, I compare myself to who I am today to who I was yesterday or in the past.
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So I just wanted to go through some of the tools I use when I'm feeling that self comparison creeping in, because I know you guys may feel this feeling too. And yeah, so I just wanted to go through some stuff that I went through to make myself feel better. I know that self comparison it can just sort of creep in even if you are a very confident and self aware person. I did want to say that don't be upset or annoyed if you are comparing yourself to others.
I think it's great to sort of be self aware and apply these tools that I'm about to tell you. But something you do need to realize is comparing ourselves to others is a natural instinct. If you think about it, back in prehistoric times, it would be our natural instinct to analyze others and identify possible threats and that sort of thing. So we would be constantly compared ourselves to
others back in prehistoric times. But I guess it's super hard in this day and time because we do have things like social media and these highlight reels, and it's very easy to fall in the self comparison trap. Okay, So one of the first tools I use, I think about, instead of comparing myself to this person that I'm comparing myself to, I compare myself to who I am today
to who I was yesterday or in the past. And I think this is a really great mind shift because if you think about it, we are forever growing, forever learning, and forever achieving different things. So instead of focusing on something that we are not because we're comparing ourself to someone else, I try and shift the mindset and I think to myself, am I the same person that I was a year ago or even a week ago? And the answer is no, because I constantly and growing and
learning and achieving and we all are. And I think it's very easy to fall into this track where we think we're moving too slow or we're not achieving enough because we're surrounded by a social media and these highlight reels where everyone seems like they're just killing it life. The next thing I love to use, and this is realizing that the people that you're comparing yourself are not flawless.
So I have this rule where on social media I actually unfollow anyone who if their life looks like too perfect and they don't show anything real, I will literally unfollow that person because to me, I'm like, I don't need that shit in my life. I don't need that fakeness basically because to me, I want to be surrounded by real, inspiring people. And don't get me wrong, I think it's amazing that, you know, people celebrate their achievements and they put it there highlight reel and their best
movements and all that sort of thing. I think that's perfectly okay, But also make sure you're following accounts where they are also showing you their challenges, showing you the not so glamorous life. And so basically I will literally unfollow or just not associate myself with anyone else who just doesn't show that sort of thing, because I did find at one stage that was really something that would get to me personally. Okay, this is the last little tool I'm going to give you, guys, and this is
probably my favorite. So I probably listened to it on a podcast or I've read it somewhere, and it said when you have a feeling, you only actually feel it for ninety seconds and then it passes. And I just remember being like mind blown by that. But then since I've been aware of it, I could not agree more. And I really loved the practice of affirmations. So affirmation
are basically just like sentences and words you say. I personally say them out loud and you just repeat and you probably don't believe them at the start, but you honestly just repeat them enough until you almost believe them. And basically, an affirmation is just like the action or the process of affirming something. So you are affirming something to yourself. So basically what I do, and we'll call this tool, like, basically you are loving and you're accepting
yourself as you are right now. And if you think about it, this little voice in your head that tells you that you're not good enough to this person or anything like that, it's a natural instinct and it's basically yourself identifying areas where you think you may be falling behind and it can be really cruel to yourself. So basically what I do is I just accept myself for who I am, and I do this amazing practice of affirmations. Something that I did at the start of the week
is when I got back to my room. This is actually an affirmation that I say all the time, and I'm just in love with it. I think you need to find affirmations and words that really speak to you and you feel a motive when you say them or hear them, Otherwise it's not really going to work personally. This sentence really speaks to me, and so I've always used it, and so I use the affirmation no one
is me and that is my power. So I will sit there, I make sure it's silent, I turn my phone on airplane mode, and I sit there kind of like I'm meditating, and I will say to myself, no one is me and that is my power. And I will say it for around two minutes. I go off that ninety second and it's basically until I feel the feeling of comparing myself and jealousy and not feeling good enough to pass through me, and then I stop saying it.
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